| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:30:51 PM | I totally agree with you Jeep...
People who seem too nice are too 'sappy' for me. I would rather be with someone who is totally honest with me and will be comfortable telling me something I don't necessarily want to hear before I would enjoy being with someone who is only and always 'nice' to me. Honesty and being up front is VERY important.. but ....
I will NEVER agree with you on LOOKS DO COUNT ....  
Looks DON'T count. There are some wonderful books to read that don't have fancy covers.. The problem is, not many people will take the chance to read them to find out ........I am right...  | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 5:02:08 PM | | I'm still not a nice guy!!!! All this talk about how to spot a nice guy or how not to spot a nice guy or if nice guys exist or if they don't ... they do exist. They are out there. The question for those who say they couldn't spot a nice guy is, are you actually seeking to meet a nice guy? | |
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Posted: 1/28/2007 5:09:47 PM | First off Dante ..I swear i'm not following you around the forum threads..lol
Huh..good question. Nice guys come in all different shapes, sizes, and backgrounds. It depends on what you classify a nice guy. Some of the sweetest men I have met are the ones you would walk down the street and think..um wow I wouldn't want to meet him in a dark ally.
I think there are more Nice Guys than not. We just become so jaded to the hidden married men/women (oh and they are in ABUNDANCE HERE).
Unfortunatley for men and women, we don't give people enough of a chance..if that initial "wham zinger, I feel the body heating up.." feeling doesn't occur in the first minute..then they pass someone bye. Same goes for pictures! I went to a party lastnight..and after seeing peoples pics and seeing them in person, pics do NO ONE justice....you can't go bye them at all. You use them as a very low tool in deciding whether to meet someone!
Thats my two cents.
See you at the next thread Dante..lol | |
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Posted: 1/28/2007 7:40:11 PM |
Unfortunatley for men and women, we don't give people enough of a chance..if that initial "wham zinger, I feel the body heating up.." feeling doesn't occur in the first minute..then they pass someone bye. Same goes for pictures! I went to a party lastnight..and after seeing peoples pics and seeing them in person, pics do NO ONE justice....you can't go bye them at all. You use them as a very low tool in deciding whether to meet someone!
Thats my two cents.
See you at the next thread Dante..lol
where'd you go? Ya disappeared already?
Nice guys allow women to forum stalk them as long as they want!!! hahahaha..
I agree with your point regarding making fast judgements on people. I think many of us, myself included, have done this and it is unfortunate. That wham zinger feeling seems to be a necessary element for most of us, yet when you talk to some elder folk who have been married for umteen years, they say that the love they have for their S/O grew over time, and some of them never had the wham zing of initial chemistry. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 7:43:39 PM |
There are some wonderful books to read that don't have fancy covers..
People aren't books. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:24:11 PM | | I've spotted a nice guy!! And he's right here on POF . . . . you don't have to look too far ladies. They are out there but like anything valuable in life, require time and attention. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 4:35:56 AM | Hey K MC,
Do you by chance have an older brother? You do all the right things, and are still singel!!!
Love your humorous side too, re chair that's bolted to the floor, etc.
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Posted: 1/29/2007 8:14:48 PM | you described a gentleman, not a nice guy.
A nice guy is more like this - a little shy, but easy to talk to, and he always has good advice for you about how to fix your current relationship, not to mention he would never dream of making an advance, because he respects your boundaries so much. He spends so much time getting to know you before he asks you out that you start a relationship with one of his friends (that he introduced you to). Most of all, he is the guy to whom you are never attracted.
I know "nice guys". I'd rather be defined as a "gentleman" | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 2/1/2007 12:25:56 AM | | As one of the last surviving members of this dying breed, all you need to do is click on my profile. | |
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| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 2/3/2007 11:48:44 AM | we all know how to spot a player but what about a nice guy?
a few traits I know of are:
he pulls out the chair for you
he calls when he says he is going to call
he looks in your eyes when speaking to you
he truly listens
he apologizes when he has been wrong
he is a gentleman
I know the saying "nice guys finish last" but I dont believe that for one minute....
how do you fellow fishies spot a nice guy!
u wanna know something real sad..........im still waiting to meet him, 
but when i do i'll let u know. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 11:55:14 AM | Yes monkey that is real sad but you know what it won't take long for you to meet a true gentleman just be patient and wait for what you want and deserve it will come ...... | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 12:06:23 PM | | The plainest truth is that you can't spot a nice guy unless you believe they exist. If you're that cynical about the possibility of any guys being nice, you'll never spot on. Nor will you ever spot one hiding behind a keyboard. Nobody can hold a chair or open a door for you sitting in from of a PC. | |
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Joined: 12/30/2006
Msg: 289 | |
| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 2/3/2007 1:48:51 PM | I'm not so nice, I'm a player. If we are playing ucher and your not my parter, I'm not so nice!
Everyone is nice and not nice in different degree's durring different situations. That about sums it up. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 2:21:56 PM | | First-off,don't "play" with a "nice" guy. Give him a chance to prove it. THe lebeel of niceness goes hand in hand with the level of the "relationship". If he's just a guy you know,saying hi is nice,if he's a "friend",wanna go for coffee is nice,If he's a "date",holding hands is nice,if he's a dance partner, slow-dancing is nice,if he's an S/0,buying suprises is nice. Nice guys get over-looked. You spot them by getting to know them. You might have to take the first step to meet him. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2007 5:08:50 PM | Nice guys finnish last!!! been there over and over, been told too many times what an excellent friend i am lol, i'm almost to the point of yelling at the next girl who tells me how great i am , BUT???????????? PMSL,
but when it's all said and done i suppose and i have to look in the mirror every day, i may not see the best looking dude out there but i know i'd sooner be alone than be an ass hole!!!
I'M A GOOD GUY DAMNIT AND I AINT GONNA CHANGE FOR ANYONE OR ANYTHING lol
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Joined: 7/31/2005
Msg: 292 | |
| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 2/3/2007 7:46:57 PM | | Sometimes even nice guys have difficult decisions to make; & then must hope, as they lay awake at night, that they won't live in regret. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 11:59:09 AM | Vidman: food for thought
Is it better to live to regret it.................or..............
Regret to live it?
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Posted: 3/11/2007 12:40:47 PM | | Bingo...Nice and.....don't work. Nice and Nice can,if you let them. If she insists you are nice,damn it.... let him prove it. If you are compatible and nice....best you do work with it. If you like hanging-out together say if you just wanna be Friends or see what you might like to see. Hanging-out,having fun is nice but the type of fun depends on how well you like each other. | |
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Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 295 | |
| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 3/11/2007 1:00:19 PM | | Sometimes nice guys are right in front of you and you don't even know it. Nice guys will actually try talking to you and listening to what you have to say. Nice guys are usually not a modern womans first pick though, they might not fit into that prescribed box that all women seem to be looking for now days. | |
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Enig
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Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 296 | |
| how to spot a nice guy!
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:49:42 PM | It's almost like Déjà Vu!  Some of us really do get your point LOL. ---Hey who fixed that mess..working OT tonight? Haha
OT: Ummm let's see ...when they tell u they went all out for u, and wants more of your time by wording it so poetically, it makes it really hard to say no. There's my tip of the day! Lmao | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:04:02 AM | nice guys are a dying breed, and its not by choice.
we as people in general label or tag people for their appearence right from the get go.
so is this question regarding , spotting as in appearance or is it a matter of character.
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:07:09 AM | boy this thread is still here?
my initial post was with reference to a matter of character......after seeing so many things about players I thought it was a good topic of discussion | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:15:15 AM | I totally agree! Pics are no way to judge people as some are simply not photogenic!
Cheers
Sue  | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 9:20:57 AM | It is a good topic for discussion Miragey but I think people keep getting confused about what is Behavior or Character and what is good manners. Most players? They have GREAT Manners. They say the right things, act the right way, smile and nod and are agreeable and likeable at first. They know all the strings to pull and all the right moves.
Pull out the chair? check.
Open the door for her? check.
Tell her what she wants to hear? check.
Agree with her about almost everything? check.
Do or say anything they have to so that the other person is hooked? check.
Do that with a bunch of different people without any one of them knowing? check.
Ya see, the nice guy does a few of those things because it is good etiquette. However a nice guy:
- Tells you the truth even when it hurts, but is there to help you sort through things.
- Doesn't just talk with you when it's convenient for them, but will call or sit there with you even at the worst times.
- Actually listens to you and interacts in conversation.
- Doesn't act or put up a front. Is himself for better or worse.
- Doesn't try to impress anyone. Just acts like himself.
- Is sensitive towards the feelings of everyone around him.
- Does not have hidden agendas.
- Does not lie. | |
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