Those who thus appreciate true valour should, in their daily intercourse, set gentleness first and aim to win the esteem of others. If you affect valour and act with violence, the world will in the end detest you and look upon you as wild beasts. Of this you should take heed.
-Emperor Meiji

If nice guys are what women really want, then why is it that most nice guys are single? Why is it that we constantly hear stories about women dating big jerks that took them for a ride --literally?

The fact is that women generally don't want nice guys, or maybe they're too busy chasing after jerks to realize that they do. Why? Because women act on impulse and emotion rather than fact. Who do you suppose brings out these same irrepressible emotions in women? The jerks, of course.

Contrary to what most women think, men are interested in successful relationships. Most men will never pass up the chance to date the woman of their dreams. In fact, when a man does encounter this rarity of a woman, his passion gets the better of him. The thoughts that race through his mind are something along the lines of, "This woman is a keeper. I'm going to treat her right and do all I can to make her happy."

The only problem with being the nice guy is that you also become the boring, predictable guy. The excitement of the seduction process begins to fade for the woman because she has what she wants and doesn't have to do any chasing. Eventually the woman starts losing interest and before you know it, her eyes start to wander.


In the end, she'll look for a new man who will bring excitement back into her life by being the "new and improved" challenge. Pursuit and excitement usually stem from selfish attitudes, much like the bad boy who doesn't care about anyone but himself. The nice guy will be left heartbroken and will start wondering what in the world he did wrong. It's at this point that men begin to realize that most women generally don't know what they want from us.

but many times the player acts int he same manner

he pulls out the chair for you
he calls when he says he is going to call
he looks in your eyes when speaking to you
he truly listens
he apologizes when he has been wrong
he is a gentleman

a nice guy wouldnt judge u... so now where are all the nice guys

1. He's the one who goes home alone at the end of the evening.

2. He's the one who is told that 'I'm not ready to date anyone right now' only to see the same woman with some guy a month or 2 later.

3. He's the one who has a multitude of female friends, all of whom tell him how great he is, but none of whom would even come close to dating him lmao

4. He's the one who is available for those late night phone calls when the jerk off she is dating hurts her.

5. He's the one that doesn't get emails responded to when he sees a profile he thinks is cool and actually READS it instead of typing, "hey baby, you are hot."