| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/22/2009 9:08:55 PM |
Why would a man wait three weeks to call you. Honestly. Is it because they get bored and can't find a date so they call you as the runner up of the night, are they purposely ignoring you to get you interested, which you were or you wouldn't be going out with them, or do they even have a clue??
Well, there could be any number of reasons I'm sure. I've been in that situation too. So, I can say from my own experience. I dated someone and they said to me I wasn't what they expected, but yet they still called me a few times, so to be polite I kept speaking with them. But, surely I wasn't going to chase them down. But, I would surely call every now and then to say hello or hang out.
But, in a case where I make it clear that I'm interested (which I've done before) the other person can do any number of things. My expectation is that they either reciprocate or they don't, if they don't, I have my answer(s) either they're on some high horse and jerking me around, or they aren't really that interested. In either case like I said before, you don't have to make me the #1 priority in your life, but I don't want to hear bullshit either every Saturday, at 8:00 PM, how friggin' busy your week was. I don't give a shit. F-off and don't call me anymore. It's that simple.
Just be honest, and don't jerk me around, that's all I ask. I think people should be respectful of others, and be straight up. If you want to take things slow or whatever cool, but, I want to know the deal so I can decide what I'm going to do about it. If you don't call me for 1 week, I've already made up my mind at that point. Ciao baby!!!! Asta, la vista. You know what I'm sayin'? | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:43:52 AM |
Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Not me. I lose interest after a couple of days with no contact. There are too many decent women out there wanting a man to play silly games like that.  | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/27/2009 2:52:58 AM | ^^^^
Agreed....
I lose interest very, VERY quickly, I don't like games (I'm a straight up guy) and lastly, I don't like to bug women.
If I feel they're not interested... Then they're not interested and so I move on.
Even if she dangles me the odd bone here and there, just to refresh my interest, it all soon becomes too mundane playing the hapless puppy.
Just like virtually all women I assume, a lot of men also like women that know what they want and don't **** foot around.
Time is too short man!
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/27/2009 9:25:25 AM | I look at it like this ...
If you ask for a glass of water and I give you a 2 gallon bucket. I then get mad when you don't finish the 2 gallons. How long are you going to stand around with my getting on your nerves. More isn't always better!
That is what happens so often when the sexes meet. The guy isn't looking for too much at first and he just feels overwhelmed with all the emotion and everything that she gives him. He feels it is too much and uncalled for so he runs. Leaving her crying because she gave all she had and he just left it.
When some woman play hard to get they are actually not flooding the guy. So things progress at a rate where he is comfortable. Glass for a Glass ... | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:35:04 AM | Yes... Glass for a Glass...
We give... You give... Seems fair aye?
But we're talking about women that give sweet FA and expect us to do all the chasing and giving. You know... The "playing hard to get" women.
It's almost like playing a game of tennis with yourself and we all know how crap that sounds.
So ladies... Play the game... But don't play hard to get because it's rarely fun... Even if you do, occasionally, bounce that ball right back at us. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 8:48:25 PM | Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
I can't speak for all men, but as to me, absolutely not.
Playing hard to get when there's interest feels like the woman is toying with me, or at the very least, being insincere. Besides, don't most women say that they "don't want a man who plays games"?
That sort of thing would irritate the crap out of me - I'm no good at interpreting what you mean when it doesn't coincide with what you say and do, and I don't like being pulled into that scenario. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 7/1/2009 8:31:19 PM | Well, Sheilarae, i think if a woman says no, regardless if they really want to say yes, i accept the no and move on, i would try to be friends if we have enough in common to enjoy the friendship, i am 27 years old and i am really grown out of the pointless emotional, childish games.
I don't mind taking it slow, i just get put off when a woman that is seriously interested, says no, its just so off-putting. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 7/2/2009 5:27:22 AM | | I been with women who play hard to get and from what I seen on this site those who put on this site that are looking for a great men to me are not really looking for a great man because when you contact them they are like suprise you are interested in them. I know me I dont have time to play games. I mean if we want to play games we can go on the game sites and play all the games a person wants to play. I thought the whole point on this site is to get to know someone and not be suprise when someone contacts you. In my lifetime I met alot of women who have been suprise that I was interested them and it kind of overwhelm then and so lately I just sit back and relax and see who is really interested in me. I had a date Monday night and was impressed with the Lady I spend time with and yes she was older than me. The main thing that really impressed me that she was just thankful for the time being spent. Take care now. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 7/2/2009 7:29:35 AM |
I'm going to start having weird thoughts, and will get quite frustrated after a while when all I'm hearing is the "how busy my week was, bullshit". So, what? My week is busy too, and I can find a few moments to make a quick phone call.
Also, if I'm making attempts to contact that person during the week to say sweet nothings or schedule some time to hang out with them, I would say I'm prioritizing them in my life.
However, if that person, isn't reciprocating by responding to email, text messages, or picking up the phone, to make arrangements on that 1 available day, or to say a few words to me I would have to think I was not a priority in their lives "at all". And to be quite honest, I've given up on that person after a few days.
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 7/2/2009 4:42:21 PM | | no one likes to be smothered....men like to know that you have a life and that you arent so needy and clingy...why would u need to call a man 10 times a day? leave your phone conversations short and to the point...you dont always have to make yourself available...men will chase you more and appreciate the fact that you dont need him to be happy. when youre overly aggressive it comes across as being a bother and a nuisance and desperate but if you give him time to call you, and to chase you then you will know that he wants to talk to you......always remember that men do like a challenge sometimes....dont make it so easy for them...give them time to miss you... | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 9/3/2009 2:46:08 PM | I hate games.
A while back a woman gave me her number, seemed to be sincerely interested....
I called, she didn't return the call.
That's it for me. I'm not going to call and bug her for two weeks.
Maybe she was not interested, but maybe she expected me to jump through hoops. I don't do that. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 9/3/2009 4:28:52 PM | I don't know what's attractive about someone who's non responsive.
There's no shortage of women who are responsive, who are plenty attractive, so I don't really understamd anyone who would pursue someone making things anymore difficult than they have to be. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 9/3/2009 8:03:39 PM | | If a woman play hard to get, It does get me intrested in going after another women.. Its nothing more then a woman player. Before she knows it there comes her copy in the male version of a player. Who would be willing to play her same way she wants to play him.. What a waste of time... | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:20:37 PM | Not everyone who goes on several dates have intimacy, however, should the opportune of both adults wanting such closeness and find themselves to be attracted to each other, and it's just feels right why on earth would you put it off (because of your values? You set them for yourself and everyone has differing values and so differing lifestyle and goals, it is not to be based on what others may think of you, who gives a crap ass what you or anyone thinks). As long as two adults agree, but yes you do take the risk associated with this, but even if you were to wait it out to 'show' or 'play that you are a good girl who can come to meet his friends and family" does not guarantee a relationship either. Everything you do, you risk.....risk in dating, in relationship, in career, in business. Just be safe, out of trouble, and decide if it's really right for you, in whatever you want to do and do not go in with expectations, but remain aloof (don't wait for phonecalls, or do initiate a call instead of waiting for his but if he is busy move on).
Even if you were to suggestively put your value ahead of you, it does not guarantee the man will lose interest because I have found that if I man truely wants to have a relationship with you he isn't going to run away.
It's the older generation who prefers their woman like this. These men are truely old fashioned.
It's men who has stingent values that diminishes a woman's capacity to exert her freedom to be out there as much as a man, and it's these types of man which lowers a woman's self-esteem because in their mind they have attached this hidden image of these women as whores, easy or sluts. It's men who preaches that keep women from expressing her full sexuality and her equality as what a man can do.
These men should be thankful and greatful for the efforts we put in, and if the man you are dating is not, then he obviously does not appreciate you. One thing I do agree, however with delivered1, if you are afraid to give and not get in return, do not put all effort, because for a woman to do so and has had sex, it is harder to separate your emotion from sex because most has been brought up to believe "You don't have sex right away and it's bad and dirty" (immoral). It's women who does not equate sex with love that has the upper hand, can power play a man and makes him weak because they do not attach, and it's for those with strong confidence and holds their own high self-esteem, and not based on any man's perception of her.
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:33:52 PM | it's funny cause I talked to my ex after we broke up and she was complaining that even though she was saying No to practically everything I should've been persistent cause she actually wanted to go but just wanted a push.
I basically said "No, it shouldn't take me three times to get you to go out, it's your loss you pushed me too far back." | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:15:57 AM | ^I'd have to agree there jacob, talk about a double standard.
I lose interest if the lady is playing "hard to get", if she says "no", make sure you mean "no" and not yes. I don't have time for such games either as there are quality women who will give you the time of day if they are genuinely interested.
It shouldn't have to be a chore to meet someone. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 11:12:04 AM | ProdigalSon81.....Exactly, and I don't have time for games either. In todays world people are to busy with little free time on the side. Im not gonna waste days or weeks on end chasing after some tail just because she gets off on the thrill and attention.
Of course there are some guys that enjoy the chase, but that sure aint my cup of tea. | |
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