| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 11:07:31 AM | Old topic but I feel compelled to add my thoughts.
Hell no.
She's either interested or she's not. If she doesn't seem interested I'll move on. Granted if she's calling me 2 or 3 times a day that'll get on my nerves. But if she never contacts me or just doesn't seem interested when I'm talking to her I'm not going to wait around. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 11:18:33 AM | I see all of these "if she's interested"...
What do mean by that? Interested in what?
Don't say you. She wouldn't give you a second look initially if she wasn't interested in you. Now that she has decided that you are worth a second look and a date...what is it that you want from her that you consider "interested"? | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:38:03 PM | Jeez...what exactly do you mean play hard to get?
I am getting two distinctly different interpretations here.
1. She is "stuck-up" initially and doesn't even look at you...and doesn't show interest in what you have to offer her.
2. She has shown you interest, given you a second look...and then...what?
What does she do that you will consider "hard to get?"
Get what? Interested in what?
I look at a man...if I look a second time, it is because he looks interesting to me. His eyes, his smile...So what must I do to show you that I am interested in you before you throw the "play hard to get" card at me?
Also, I'd like to see a thread that says.."Don't you hate it when guys play hard to get?"
I mean, if I think you are relationship/husband material why should you play hard to get? That's not fair. You should be roasted for that!!!! | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:14:21 PM |
Jeez...what exactly do you mean play hard to get?
When I think of the phrase playing hard to get, I have two ideas that come to mind. First, I picture a woman who isn't really looking hard for a serious relationship and because she is attractive, she has lots of guys pursuing her. In this case, she likes the guy, but, she has friends and lots of guys showering her with attention already and she doesn't perceive this guy as being enough better than the other men already in her life to overcome the inertia that keeps her from taking action. So, if you can get her on the phone, she's glad to talk to you and she does find you attractive, but, since you aren't part of her life, your awesomeness fades from her mind quickly. The other thought that comes to mind is a woman who is afraid that if she shows her true interest, she will find that she is the one who cares more and she will end up getting hurt again, so, she pretends that she is less interested.
Remember the operative term here, playing.
I really don't see how this can be in play unless there is a mutual attraction. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:54:12 PM | No, some men aren't more attracted to women who play hard to get, personally, I'm looking for the exact opposite.
For one thing, I like women who aren't ashamed of their bodies and understand that they have just as much the right to be promiscuous as any other man. If a man turns you down because you had sex with him on the first night, he is a sexist and you shouldn't put up with a double standard like that.
Another problem I have with women playing hard to get, is that if a woman tells me she isn't interested, I really don't feel I have the right to force myself on her life. Even if I know she is the closest thing to a soul mate that I could ever find and even if I am everything she says she is looking for... if she tells me she's not interested, I will not pursue further. Whether she actually does really like me or not won't matter at that point.
Most men don't really like playing games, they prefer straight-fowardness and honesty. The only type of men I can think of that would be into girls that play hard to get are the players looking for an extra challenge.
Anyway, as long as people use protection methods against STD's, unwanted pregnancies and don't take advantage of other people, I see no problem with free love.
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:06:53 PM | | I've never 'played' hard to get, at the same time I wasn't bombarding him with phonecalls and suffocating him with attention just to show him i was interested and sex never really came into the equation until we were exclusive.....just because someone moves at a slower pace does not mean they are playing hard to get, as long as you communicate that you are interested through words and body language.....it's more like sitting back and letting things unfold without being too 'aloof' or too 'aggressive'....finding that balance is the key imo ... | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:23:01 PM | Interesting!
More and more definitions of "playing hard to get" are coming out.
I guess it depends on your self-esteem, guys.
There are some that say that word "persue" until she says she's not interested. Then she gets the "playing hard to get" card.
There are some that look at a girl. If she doesn't respond back then she gets the "playing hard to get" card.
Soooooo...besides..the holding back sex until we are ready issue, we are thrown the "playing hard to get" at practically every step of the way....except for the women who just say "Let's get it on now. I am promiscuous like a man." If that happens, we can expect the guy to "play hard to get" when we want to see him again for a relationship.
Ohhhh...I forgot...we aren't supposed to say we want a relationship out loud.
Shhhhh...(whisper)...I would like a relationship to start to happen before sex...even if I find him (drooling) sexually attractive....shhhhh.... | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:36:11 PM | Bouda.... yeah pretty much. Damned if you do damned if you don't.
In many ways a woman is labeled "playing hard to get", if she does not show the interest in a guy that he is looking for at that moment. It is a way to bandage one's wounded pride, much as a person will say "well they don't know what they are missing out of." | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 2:44:57 PM | Bravissimo!!......
There is truley a difference between playing hard to get just for the love of the chase and being hard to get. And with that I don't mean not reciprocating or showing interest. I simply mean don't give it away. Don't sell yourself short. "If the milk's for free, why buy the cow?" | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/18/2009 3:08:12 PM | I'm sorry but that analogy really doesn't apply in this context. If you feel that the only value a woman has to a man is her "milk", then I feel sorry for you. It's not giving it away for free, sex is a mutual exchange; it's a trade, not a gift.
In any case, yes, you can make the difference between a woman who "doesn't give it up to one man that she cares for" and a women who "doesn't give it up to any men period" but I think the base principle is the same. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:12:58 PM | | when did sex become just such a casual "exchange" ?? Does it mean that i'm not interested because i won't sleep with you??? I don't completely agree with you. If a man leaves a woman because she will not sleep with him, apparently he was looking for something a little easy and has created his own game. Soooo sorry I haven't placed myself on the latest stock market to be exchanged. =) Just not into the drama. And the analogy... is just what it is. (whether or not you agree with me) | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:16:05 PM |
Hell no! If a woman plays hard to get with me, she'll find herself out of luck reallllll fast! I have no time for stupid games.
Curious....on your profile you say you want to be best friend...????
Also, what do you think playing hard to get is?
I'd like to see all versions of "playing hard to get" because I think this is the biggest card being played on females to guilt and manipulate them into giving over.
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:40:54 PM | Playing hard to get is in itself the biggest card being played by women who want to manipulate men. Basically lowering the supply to increase demand in hopes of gaining a greater value for their body. If you see yourself as an independent and confident woman, than you should value yourself for more than just "giving it over".
You are also expressing a false sense of entitlement which is that just because you are a woman, you feel that your time and affection is worth more than a mans. Sex should be free and given abundantly, always. It's a positive and natural exchange, it's both physically and mentally therapeutic and creates a bond between individuals.
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:45:37 PM | | when i posted my first response it was supposed to be attatched to a prior comment made...somehow it didn't get there. Anyhow, Believe i'll be in Miss B's amen corner because she definately seems to be tackling the double standard on the game playing and manipulation. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:47:50 PM |
Playing hard to get is in itself the biggest card being played by women who want to manipulate men
Hate to disagree...what I have read here is lumping all women who don't give a guy what he feels he's entitled to as "playing hard to get".
Not very nice at all...
We women, by nature are pleasers and nurturers. We love relationships and feeling safe and secure.
Why do you guys "play hard to get" in that respect?????
I see more threads where the woman puts out and then is crying because he "used" her.
He's MIA.
So...you quit playing hard to get, too. | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 1:56:57 PM | Ummmm... wellllll... i'm definatley not gonna let a man think he's entitled to my body just because he wants to try me out. Nor do I perieeve my time more valuable than a man's. But what you seem to be telling me in not so may words is....
I'll tell you i love you..... but only if you're willing to sleep with me. that's insane!
That is manipulation and really doesn't show any true affection or concern toward any woman. Which really is all we're looking for.
As far as the bond goes.... it should run a little deeper than the sheets =) | |
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:08:20 PM | Sorry B, but going MIA isn't even an option for me. Personally, I think ignoring/dodging others is not only cowardly but also completely disrespecful. I also want to point out that a lot of them ended up getting hurt as a result of their own poor choices. It really isn't that hard to tell the players from the genuine guys. (see the multiple nice guys threads)
The main issue though is that those women feel used because they feel they gave away something they feel has value for free. Instead of seeing it as a mutual exchange, they see it as getting robbed.
I feel bad for those women, I really do; they are taught from a very young age that their worth comes from their sexuality instead of their individuality, that is unfair and really not their fault.
Christy, that's not what I am saying at all either. I'm not saying, have sex with me and I will love you... that's not even love. I have as much disrespect for those who use love as a currency as I do for those who use their bodies as currency. And while, yes, the bond does need to be deeper than the sheets, sex is a big part of it.
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| Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get?
Posted: 6/19/2009 2:20:46 PM | | I dont mind a woman that I like online and we chat/text/phone each other often, if it appears there isnt enough contact at times. It shows she is busy and has a life. That may appear to some she is playing hard to get and maybe not interested or she is interested but keeps busy in her life which helps from her being insecure, clingy, waiting by thephone, replies to phone msgs, texts, im right away. If a woman is busy in her life, but has shown me interest and wants to meet i wouldnt worry too much. she will get back 2 you. SHe may appear to be playing the hard to get game. if it looks like she is playing hard to get that could mean she still likes you but has her own life and she cant always be there when we want her to be there to chat/talk/txt, whatever. | |
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