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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 1/29/2008 5:09:46 AM | Well I am a disabled person who has never thought of myself as disabled. I therefore didn't think it important to put it on my profile, afterall it only means I can't walk as far as ordinary people.
However dating has been a real issue which to be honest has been a real eye opener to me. Ladies contact me, we get on great, they even say I look great when I send them a photo but as soon as I say I can't walk as far as other people they all disappear and I'll be lying if I said it doesn't hurt. Maybe I was naive but I thought everyone respected one another today. If a relative became ill would you run away and leave them even though they are the same person.
Hopefully one day I will meet someone who does understand but I feel it is going to be a very special person and they are going to be hard to find. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 1/29/2008 5:43:37 AM | I don't see why disabled people have to be treated differently from any one else.
I know a couple of people on here with different kinds of disabilities. One of them has taken off the fact he is disabled from his profile, as no one wanted to know. but now he has made friends on here, as they have seen he is a good guy depite his problem.
It can also depend on the type of disability, be it a mental or physical one.
I think with most people, like everything else, its the fear of the unknown, and the worry of coping with the other persons disability that is a problem.(I know, as I am the same, and I admit it.)
It can be a scary step, when one meets them, especially if you both get on enough to want to start a proper relationship.
Thelma | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:55:16 AM | I'm disabled and if there was a box to tic on the profile page then i would,im not ashamed and its nobody's fault its just my life and I'm living it to the best of my ability | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:03:41 AM | i have loads of mates on and off screen who have a disadvantage is some way .... i love them dearly and fortunately they are with people who saw past their various disabilties enough to marry them... i admire their courage and feel proud to know them and for them to call me their friend. i have more hangups about my self than any of them put together and im ashamed of that sometimes.. i think its time to be a little broader minded... real beauty is skin deep.. xxx( i should know ive been out with some right mingers lol ) | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:59:39 AM | | Define disabled! We all have a disability of one sort or another as none of us are perfect. Perhaps there are people on here that do have disabilities but choose not to mention it on their profiles but do mention it when they've began chatting with someone. Sadly there are a lot of cruel and shallow people out there so I can see why some may choose to do that. I see everyone for who they are...not what they can't do or what flaws they have. Integration all the way! | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:31:24 AM | reminds me, need to find time to go and see a friend, he spends his day in a wheelchair, crippled with MS, not fun....
tend to watch out for them, had one guy in a dark wheelchair zip across the road in an unlit car park the other day, looked like he had been having some time in the pub...
got no problems with "disabled" but do have problems with people who find it funny | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/9/2008 2:31:52 PM | As you have said everyone has a disability, & i am onw of the, you cant see most of them, but there,there. I have only met one person on the site that takes me for what i am, most people are to quick to judge, may be sometimes they shoud look at them selfs befour judgeing others. As for what I have read so far I'm not the only one who thinks like this. I live to the full, sometimes more the others. so next time you get a mail from someone who's disabled don't just delete it have a good read instead you never know. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/9/2008 3:08:44 PM | I think you have nailed it on the head metle-leg! Some peoples attitudes are more of a disability, stopping them getting on with their life, holding them back, stopping them from being able to make lasting relationships.
I'd rather have a good friend with a limb missing and a great attitde than one with a crap attitude and everything else in tact | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/9/2008 3:10:59 PM | "I think that life must be terrible for most disabled people because they lack independence. It is having independence that allows you to go out and find dates."
What a stupid thing to say. Im sure if Steven Hawkings could stand up, he would, and then walk over and bop you on the nose.
As these other people would too..
http://www.disabled-dating.com/famousdisabledpeople.html | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/9/2008 3:36:44 PM | Being disabled dose not stop you doing what you want in life, take me, I only have one leg but still ride a motorbke oh what fun that is, run a Beaver Scout Cononly, stewarding at football and other events, & go camping when ever I can, so disabled are far more than a wheelchair or walking stixs. so to any other diaabled people out there go for it live your life the way you want, don't take any C--P.
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/23/2008 1:13:01 AM | | So many people with disabilities,they are no differant from us just as long as they are of sound mind,also able to hold down some kind of coversation.I care for a disabled guy,who broke his neck though a diving accident,yet still he as a very active mind,hes got a girlfriend too.Unfortunatally he as to suffer a few thing such as me washing n changing him,lifting him him into his wheel chair,hes still a person.I have dated disabled too a blind guy also one in a chair and the only reason they broke up is not because of disability we just did not have a connection.Iv found alot of narrow minded people along the way but i believe there is a problem for those less fortunate,that being other people.POF does have disabled people on here i hope they all find just what they are looking for,same as all the able bodied. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/23/2008 1:43:23 AM | Some interesting points made here and some not so interesting.
I am disabled and have been since being wounded in Northern Ireland years ago, I can walk (with a walking stick and slowly) I am a single dad to 5 children and have been for the last 10 years, only have the 2 youngest at home now.
I met a lady 5 years ago online and after getting to know each other for some time we felt the time was right to meet, and so we did.
Problem was the weekend went very well but once we parted and went back to our own homes she stopped contacting me.
When I finally got a reply to the many emails I sent asking what was wrong, she told me that she did not feel that she could care for a disabled person.
Now this is what really hurt, ok I am diasbled, but I can still walk, I do all the cooking, as I love to cook, I can still do most things that an abled bodied man can do, alright not as effectively but I try.
I was not and am not looking for a carer, I am looking for someone to share lifes winding road with me and see where it takes us,.
I do get fed up with some of the looks I get from people in the street and especially if I am out of breath and someone wants to get past, instead of standing behind me huffing and puffing why not just say "excuse me please" so simple and so easy.
I have not bothered to meet or even try to meet someone since that weekend and have only been on this site for about 2 months and only because my 2 kids threatened me with physical harm if I did not get up and try again 
So here I am take me as you see me. | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/23/2008 5:05:40 AM |
she told me that she did not feel that she could care for a disabled person OMG What an ignorant woman she was! She was far more unable of a person than you will ever be, as she has a far more damaged attitude than you have a damaged body!
Couldn't the woman see that raising 5 children proves you are more than capable of looking after yourself, that if you needed help in the future your children would be there like a shot, and that if you needed a carer you wouldn't be on a dating site ....you'd be on carersrus.com
What the hell would this woman do should a member of her family develop an illness or has an accident resulting in a disability (scary thought)
Some time go I dated a gorgeous man who'd had a horriffic motorbike accident that left him wth both lungs puntcured, his heart ripped out of it's place, crushed kidneys, 82 broken bones, needing a tracheoctomy and heart surgery in the ambulance before it even moved. As a result of this accident he'd been left with limited movement in his back, right arm and left leg, titanium plated leg, wrist, forearm, toes,pelvis and shin bones. His leg and elbow held together with screws, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ..... BUT his attitude was fooking amazing to say the least !... Oh! and he rides a 1000cc fireblade like no other biker would have the balls to
So suffolkboi ...I can't believe how angry her attitude has made me! Hope she's reading this! you re so lucky she left .....she was the one not worthy of you
ah! steps down from the centre stage feeling a tad calmer now | |
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 3/23/2008 6:01:14 AM | Clockwork monkey I am with you all the way.
It is a good thing neither of us two was standing next to her when she came out with that rubbish.
(somebody should give her a smack in the back of the head to get her brain cells back in the right order)
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| Dating for disabled people
Posted: 9/4/2009 7:33:41 PM | Never assume is right.
When people meet me am asked what happened and sometimes dumb questions.
I have never married,dont drink or smoke.
Not short of money and not on welfare as some would think.
Belong to clubs for disabled.
Its true most of my friends are disabled,and some have their own websites.
Most of us live almost normal lives.
Some have Devs as partners while others team up with like persons.
We dont all wear prosthesis as some would think.
Keeping life simple is the better option.
Many of us have shoulder,wrist & hip problems.
We know some prefer us which is fine,I dont mind Devs.
I say check out a few websites EG:Ascot World,Alldisabled,Dating4Disabled.
There are a lot like me looking.
Hope this gives you a better understanding. | |
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