| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/14/2006 3:59:52 PM | Seems like she snapped out of her romantic fit and had maybe regrets and shame ?
She maybe doesn't know how to tell you she lost her mind ....or maybe she thinks she can't keep up the pace?
Or maybe she had a fantasy and she let it out and now it's over...that's why commitment is so much better...knowing what you have BEFORE you give the best part of you away, (to what it seems like a running vehicle...one that mowed you over), or maybe her friends bet her to do it .
The bigger question is what have you learned from this experience?  | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/14/2006 4:50:10 PM | dude just be happy that u got laid. It is another one in your boooks and many more to come!!!!!!!!!! It sounds like this was your first dude just shut up about and walk away, like the saying goes there many fish out in the ocean. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/14/2006 7:35:59 PM | This post reminds me of that movie with Eddie Murphy.
The woman uses him for sex, and at the end of the scene Eddie is in bed, and the girl is about to leave.
Eddie pulls the covers up over his body, and screams out in a timid little high pitch voice, "Call Me" as the girl walks out and doesnt say a word.
Dude, screw it!
You got ass!
You got laid like a chicken bro!
You banged for 4 unbelievable hours!!!!
You got more ass than a toilet seat that day!
You came, you saw, you conquered!!!!
Cherish the moment!
At least you have some good wack off memories!!
Remember!
Some will!
Some wont!
So What!
Next!!!!
L. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/14/2006 8:47:55 PM | I don't see the problem with just sex.
Everyone needs the physical stuff, doesnt mean you should have to be in a relationship to get that.
Does no one believe in friends with benefits anymore? | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/14/2006 9:19:59 PM | you said you never wanted to have sex without love because you didn't want to hurt a woman. Now someone had sex with you that didn't love you and you are hurt.
Someone who didn't love you after they only met you in person one day? I would think by the time you're my age you would know better than that. And I'm a little younger than you. I mean, I can understand getting to know each other online, but reality is so much more than writing letters. If you're that sensitive you need to learn to protect your heart a little more.
Anyway, you're afraid that "women" are going to confuse sex with love or perhaps confuse the swooning lies you whisper in their ears to get laid for love, but this is what happened to you? Sex isn't love man. Get out there and start catching up! | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/14/2006 9:23:04 PM | | well, bro, maybe the chick was just horny and wanted a lay, man, and doesnt wanna do some long bus ride to get it, sheet, it happens to me all the time, so get over it, dude. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/15/2006 1:25:28 AM | | That's what can happen when you have sex with somebody you don't know very well and just met. You probably shouldn't have done it if you expected more, consider it a lesson and I'm sorry but you can't possibily be in love or anything, don't know her enough, it was just good sex with a hotty. You got lucky, congrats. Sorry you feel used, sounds like you were. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:24:30 AM | | If this is a big concern in life...you have almost the entire planet beat. some people have no food, little shelter and live in places where they have to dodge bullets and watch for land mines. A beautiful woman had sex with you...enjoy your day you lucky dog!!!!!! | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/15/2006 7:42:20 AM | I myself am going through a simular situation. I met him on here..we talked..ended up meeting and from the moment he gave me a hug it was like I had been hit in the stomach. We continued to talk and even saw each other again...I sent emails, IM's, nothing. Now, I know that I was used for sex. I don't know why people can't be honest. If you say "long term" on your profile and that "you know what you want and you're not into games" then mean it! Say what you mean and mean what you say. If all you want is sex then put "intimate encounter" on your profile. I mean, it's not hard to do. I really liked this man and he sh*t me. Not into games my a**.
The sad thing is, if he were to contact me...I would probably write or call him back.
Sorry you're going through this. I'll be thinking of you. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/15/2006 8:09:57 AM | | She had sex with you the first time you met and you have a problem with the fact that she no longer wants to contact you? All I can say is to accept it for what it was and move on. I just hope you were smart enough to use a condom because she may be back in your life BIG TIME in about 9 months. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/15/2006 10:31:35 AM | On a more serious note, it sounds like you wanted more than just sex with this lady, and there is nothing wrong with that. Some people have yet to realize that other's have feelings,just as well as they do, these type of people suck.
I feel your pain, but I do hope you have moved on. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/15/2006 11:25:37 AM | Hey Dude
let's hope she don't have aids or anything like that, jumping in the sack so fast makes me wonder how many men she did this too. if this is a common thing for her that would be scary, Myself I want to get to know who I am fixing to sleep with. there are too many diseases out there now and to easy to get, I hope you are ok after that episode. Good Luck.
Jerri | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/16/2006 12:35:08 PM | Just want to say to all thanks so much for the comments, it's really helped me to get through this.
I think i understand a bit better now.
Yes the sex was like something out of my hottest fantasies. I felt the need to give her what she agressively went after because in the past, i've decided to wait and most girls would never give me a second chance. once i said no once, i got put into the friends only category and was never allowed back into the partner category.
She did want something from me i was unwilling to give. unprotected sex. internal ejaculation is "sooo hot" in her words. Well she said it in a much dirtier way. I'm not a complete idiot though. Thank god.
It's a life experience.
And i had been talking to her for quite a while online before we met. We talked every day for some time, all my free time was devoted to talking with her.
I thought i knew her. lol yeah i know, famous last words.
Anyhow you all have my gratitude for allowing me to share this and for sharing your thoughts, even when you are giving me sh*t. I appreciate the honesty.
Merry Christmas, especially to those of kind words.
Lance
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 9:31:50 AM | well now that you have had enough time to get over it, write her a letter. Tell her
that you understand that you were used and that that is fine with you. Tell her she
is a wonderful person and that thanks to her you have grown. Tell her that you want her
to be happy too, that she is unique in knowing that she wants sex, and can do
it without the ties. Tell her that you are there for her whenever she needs you. Maybe you will get lucky again. Some men like the chase. I do. Good luck. If it was that
good, and that long of a duration of sex, she's not forgot it. Get her off like no one
ever has. AND..like others have said, be happy and feel fortunate that you were able to
be part of the game. "GOOD THING" baby..gonna make you remember for the rest of
your life..hahaha | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 9:48:45 AM | I'm so sorry that happened to you....
For some reason when it happens to fast it crashes and burns really fast too!
I know it was really exciting..... but that was WAY to fast!
Maybe you both used eachother? Usually it is the other way around... the woman is feeling used..... unfortunately, you were more emotionally involved then she was. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:00:58 AM | | The feeling does suck. I lost my virginity to a freak who was interested in being a friend with benefits because all she wanted was sex. I was a 24yr old virgin, with plenty of sexual frustration and ignorance built up inside me, and I was a horny little **stard. lol The guy part of me was like: "Yess!!! I'm being used for sex!! awesome!!!". It's every guys dream right? .... well not really. I wanted to bear more meaning in her life, but she just wanted sex. My advice: you gained something to brag about. What you didnt' gain was a woman who doesnt appreciate you and would probably have made your life miserable if you got involved long-term with her. So, move on and just have fun with your life until you find someone who will appreciate you. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:10:34 AM | The message you are replying to:
Posted By: wykkid on 12/14/2006 2 00 PM
Subject: Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Message: Its unfortunate...but it happens....and btw...welcome to "our" world...
Oh I so do love it, as in the words of Wykkid yep welcome!!! Hope you enjoy your stay. And I do not mean it nastily, but I have to ask this ever met a girl who you did exactly the same thing too? And be honest. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:21:02 AM | Awwwww lol sorry to hear that but this shyt happens to woman all the time. What is the age gap? If she is younger then you then you might want to move on anyways, trust me. She'll just drive you crazy in the future OR she will cheat on you with someone else. Your asking too much of her I think.
Its pretty clear she only wanted one thing and she got it. If I were you I wouldn't talk to her the next time she messages you. | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:23:24 AM | | Ummmmm didn't you read his post? Its pretty clear that HE wanted more. Some guys are more about the affection then the sex. Its nice to see he wanted her for more then what she gave him. Ever hear of anything more then JUST sex? | |
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| Used for sex and not exactly loving it
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:39:37 AM | OP: Been there done that (was actually two girls at a party). Got used for sex.
Might have been OK with that had they been up-front about it, but they had been talking future plans and I thought dating was to ensue.
It does suck when anyone is dishonest like that. You have my sympathy. | |
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