| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 7/8/2007 5:35:50 PM | OP I think this part of your world and part of your lifestyle to keep you alive. Any fool who does not accept your buddy as part of your life has to be not worth it. It is no different to a guide dog or a companion helper for people in wheelchairs (ex blind dog drop outs are good for this).
I think these animals are amazing and have visited hundreds of nursing homes through my work and seen the faces of the oldies and the special needs residents when they light up after seeing these animals come past them. Some even knit them clothes for winter (no hats please) but a dog is a very loving and loyal companion.
Congrats and please keep safe and all best for the future with your buddy. | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 7/10/2007 12:08:30 AM | Ladydi8,
You are so lucky to have a dog! I have seizures too, but they won't allow dogs in the building. Just small caged creatures. But here's a question for you... would you go out with a guy who can't drive?
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 7/12/2007 9:22:32 PM | ha mathew! i cant drive either! at least for another year...i had my colonoscopy done today and i siezed on tha recovery table....thank goodness my gastrologist knows my complete medical history because he immediately told tha nurse to turn out tha light and cover my eyes...whether or not a person can drive or not has nothing to do with dating someone...you can always catch a city bus or meet somewhere......i dont date much anwya.....i would like too.....but dates are usually in tha evening and i have problems with lights.......carlights coming towards me, flashing neon signs, florescent lights .....most lights are hard for me to handle but i dont feel i'm un-dateable because of that.....its something i tell a prospective date about just like i tell them about my service animal.......
by tha way...i am so glad for all tha input on this thread....you guys have taught me alot, and showed me tha flip side of tha coin when i couldnt see it myself...thanks to all of you............and i have also learned that there are more pofish like me out there...its like tha first time i walked into a support group for epileptics....tha first time i sat there and cried because i was so happy to be among ppl like me, who REALLY understood just how a siezure can make you feel...i strongly recommend siezure support groups out there.........God bless you all. | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:14:30 PM |
You are so lucky to have a dog! I have seizures too, but they won't allow dogs in the building.
Matthew, it is against State laws, (most of the states), to discriminate against a Service Dog. (I didn't check to see if you were in USA, though).
Only if you are renting an apartment that is a part of a private home, i.e. their basement apartment, can a service dog be denied living quarters with their owner.
Where I live, the rules of the apartments state, "only one small pet allowed".
I have my cat.
I also have my dog!! (see profile for picture)
She's a certified service dog and does NOT count, against the law to count.
Look into it 
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 7/12/2007 10:49:53 PM | honey i'd rather have my dog then a man if he can't accept my disability and the way i am then he's not worth my time lady di don't worry about it hon i ' m sure you will find someone. i'm new to this and i haven't found anyone yet. but you know what i just got out of arelationship so al l i'm looking for is friends for now, i've been hurt too much due to my disability that is thanx sallya  | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 7/27/2007 10:17:49 AM | well, nemchucks, there are those ppl out there who dont like dogs....it takes all kinds to make up this world....and with my dog being medically necessary those ppl dont belong in my lil world...hahahha....i just hadta say that cause i once had an ex tell me i lived in my own lil world...... hes right, i do, and in my world ...DOGS RULE!
your right about not choosin a feller who cant accept me tha way i am sally....but ya know what? it took me a while to learn its his loss, not mine....i used to want to fit in and be what was required to "get" someoen.........not anymore! ...it took awhile to grow up but its been worth tha trip and it aint over yet....sides i always liked playing with tha dogs when i was a kid, and fishbait keeps my young again | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/26/2007 8:21:01 AM | well, one thing i have discovered is that having a service dog doesnt really affect relationships at all.......but it does affect your life and you have to really learn to control your emotions and your attitude.
...due to the ignorance of society about these fine animals, i have decided to do my part in educating my community by conducting a series of presentations to local clubs and organizations called SERVICE DOGS AND THIER ROLE IN SOCIETY.
..i have been studying hard folks and am already booked up thru Feb of next year...wow! i never realized it would take off like that when i started this project...wish me luck, keep me in your prayers, and email me anything you might find helpful... | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/26/2007 10:02:58 AM |
so....alotta you folks have known me fer a while now...i just got fishbait certified as a seizure alert/response dog...how do you think its gonna be for me when i am asked out on a date...and i show up with my dog...and what problems might arise from this?....on one hand, i will feel alot more secure having him there in case of a siezure, but hows a guy liable to feel about it?
Just be upfront about it and it shouldn't be a problem whatsoever. Don't just "show up" with the dog, make sure the guy knows about it. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2007 10:48:24 AM | ...ha! i have found that its a dead giveaway that a feller aint read all of my profile when he wants to meet me and doesnt know about fishbait....i always ask them beforehand how are they around dogs and i explain i have a service dog who goes where i go.......you'd be surprised at tha disappearing act that often follows this statement...suddenly i get no answer back and tha guy is no longer online or suspiciously busy with something that just came up
tha ones that are just trying to get booty are afraid a 60 pound dog might crimp their style | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/27/2007 1:03:54 PM | you got me pegged there neysha! usually when i see somethings belly, i am reachin fer a skinnin knife an thats a fact!
my beloved fishbait knows i dote on him and he aint got a thing to worry about | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:18:29 AM | aw, db i aint got THAT hungry yet....menfolk are still safe from my cast iron skillet!
btw....my service dog presentations are coming along just fine...i am booked thru feb of next year and i have found some really interesting facts in my studies. None that relate to relationships though.
...some of yall pointed out that there would be fellers that paid more attention to my dog than me and that has turned out to be true, there have been fellers who tried to get me to leave my dog behind, and there have been fellers who accepted my dog on a date with no problem and tha right amount of attention given to my dog as well. and having fishbait has proved to be a great icebreaker as well, at this point i have found that fishbait is not a detriment to a relationship, and in some cases i actually meet people i wouldn't have met otherwise.
some of my family members think its great that me and tha baitster are doing our part in public awareness of service dogs, some think it a lil on tha crazy side. thats families for ya
i thank you all for your responses on this thread, and i hope that if there's anybody else out there who has one of these wonderful animals this thread can be enlightening as well. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2007 3:33:59 AM | If he can not understand the reason and need of your service dog then he is not worthy enough to go out with!!! I breed and raise standard poodles and my female is also my service dog. I was in a car wreck 6 yrs ago and due to the wreck I now have panic attacks that easily can go into a stress seizure if I am unable to calm back down quick enough. I also just sold one of my pupps that I trained to be a service dog for a young mother of a 3 yr old. The mother has narcolepsy really bad. Narcolepsy is a sleeping disorder where one fall into a deep sleep while they are walking or doing other activities. Not olny was the dog trained to alert and protect the mother but also to protect the child also if they where to be out and the mother were to go into a narc spell.
Good luck with your new friend and God bless you both!
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/29/2007 3:44:43 AM | You are so lucky to have a dog! I have seizures too, but they won't allow dogs in the building. Just small caged creatures. But here's a question for you... would you go out with a guy who can't drive?
Matthew
Matthew, I have a friend who lives in Canada and I know from talking with her that you can not be told you can have a service dog even in Canada. If your apt. manager says "no" you have the right to take legal action because they (apt. owners and manager) is putting you at a health risk which is against the law. You really do need to check into this...consult a lawyer about your right and get to work on getting the dog you need. Take care and God be with you!!
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/29/2007 7:45:28 AM | | I am a big dog lover and always plan have having one. I might not bring them on dates but if I did and there was a problem I think I would continue on looking. I do have to say that most guys do indeed love dogs and would not have issues with it. | |
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/29/2007 7:49:56 AM | if you have been chatting to your date for a while you would have told him of your need for a service dog before you both acctually go out on your date!
if he has never encountered a service dog before you might want to cut him a little slack not everybody knows you arent supposedto pet a service dog in harness!other than that just go and have a good time if you dont make a big deal out of it he wont either and if he does throw the carp back you can do better!
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| how would a service dog affect a new relationship?
Posted: 8/29/2007 8:30:20 AM | The dog is there because your health/physical conditions call for the animal's services...Just as the title implies...
If they can't accept that...Advise the fact that for them... all the world's an exit!!! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2007 1:13:21 PM | .
Well . . . I kinda like dogs some. LOL
Actually, the back of my vehicle still has the seat folded up so there’s plenty of room for a big dog. When a friend had a heart attack, her grouchy Rottweiler wouldn’t allow police or firemen in the home and I had to come over so they would not shoot the dog so they could get to her. Problem was, I didn’t know the beast that well, either, but he realized that mama was in trouble and I was there to help. Kind of disconcerting, though, when you're bending down to examine the gal and there is a guard dog face within a foot of yours, watching every movement lest you hurt his mistress. Later, when she was in the hospital, the damn dog wouldn’t allow anyone in her house except me, so I became a dog sitter.
Well, she lived and the dog is still a grouchy guard dog. But, all I have to say is “ride” and he’s the first one in my vehicle. He still remembers those days we walked the woods when she was in the hospital. If I mention “park” the mean old dog reverts to puppy mode and gets so damn excited I have to let him out before he pees on the floor.
There’s a photo on my profile taken from where I sit to read out back. A younger local gal walks there most afternoons with a guide dog, a large black lab. Dog knows that I often have liver treats and started guiding her right over to me. Of course, part of it is that we have gotten to know each other some and she sits and talks for a while. But, it’s her dog that tells her I’m there. She cannot see well enough to recognize me when I’m a few feet off the path.
She sometimes takes the dog when she goes to the grocery store. So, that’s yet another big dog that responds instantly when I say “ride” and knows exactly where he belongs in my vehicle.
Dogs are interesting that way. All you really need to do is take a moment or two to show them what you expect of them and they are usually very happy to comply. Of course, the occasional liver treat reward helps a bit, too. LOL
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