| Doomed to be single forever.
Posted: 12/15/2006 9:00:52 PM | TTicker,
I completely understand where you are coming from. It is amazing how many girls I have ran into that just want a single guy and no kids. Maybe its just my generation?
I guarantee you ,if and when those women have kids, they will require a man to love their children or take a flying leap off into hell. And you should feel the same way about that child...Hell guy,no woman or man is worth dog chit that will call a child names...
If you think I'm Bsing you,check some profiles of women that have children and read what they tell men....If you don't have in your profile you have a daughter you should redo it and let the women know upfront you have a child.... | |
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Posted: 12/15/2006 9:04:00 PM | | I honestly would have been in complete shock if I was in that situation. Being a guy I probably would have thrown more than cuss words around. The emotion that resides inside me for my daughter is something special. I would not give her up for the world. | |
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Posted: 12/15/2006 9:09:41 PM | TTicker,
I know you aren't Bsing, because I will tell you from experience..Calling my daughter a black mark, or anything along those lines brings out a side of me that I don't like. | |
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Posted: 12/15/2006 10:37:27 PM | You know, everyday I come home from work to an empty apartment. The silence of it overwhelms me as I walk into the door. It hollows my heart with each passing day. People say that I should just be patient that there is someone out there for me but I am beginning to believe that they are only saying that to try and cheer me up. It gets particularly bad around the holidays.
David | |
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Posted: 12/15/2006 11:27:18 PM | | I sure feel like that. I got a divorce about a year ago and promised myself to never fall in love again but then i met HIM and thought all would be good again but then he broke up with me (after 4 months of living with me) 2 weeks ago and I found out he had been seeing someone else for a while. It is all messed up. I am so ****ing done with relationships cause it never fails I always fall flat on my face. | |
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Posted: 12/15/2006 11:30:40 PM |
You know, everyday I come home from work to an empty apartment. The silence of it overwhelms me as I walk into the door. It hollows my heart with each passing day. People say that I should just be patient that there is someone out there for me but I am beginning to believe that they are only saying that to try and cheer me up. It gets particularly bad around the holidays.
David,
I couldn't agree with you more, well said indeed, Sir. Everyone always says that "Oh you should just be PATIENT".....LOL..........what a cliche'..........I think that they are just saying it to cheer us up. After all, that is what friends are supposed to do, right? Of course, I get tired of hearing that, especially now that this will be my FOURTH Christmas ALONE......... | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 5:44:23 AM | Try having a room mate that has been in the
same relationship 20+ years..
I most times feel like the 3rd wheel..
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Posted: 12/16/2006 9:16:18 AM | Well I can relate to the empty apt angst. It can be deppressing if you let it get to you. But there are things you can do.
1) Get out as much as you can and do stuff. Might be hard if you have kids. But if you do, get them into activities you can be involved with.(little league, scouting, bowling). It'll keep you busy and you'd be surprised at the single parents you might meet.
2) Hang with freinds. I have a wide assortment of interesting freinds, aquaintances, and downright knuckleheads I hang with in my free time. I may be lonely, but I'm rarely bored.
3) Exercise. Jog, gym, biking. golf, something active. Gets you out and you will feel empowered abit more than just loaving on the couch in an empty apt. Plus if you start getting in shape it just makes you more attractive and less likeally to have an empty apt. :-)
4) Get involved in charity work or religious/spiritual stuff. If you help the worse off you'll feel better and count your blessings. And again, you'll meet tons of singles doing stuff like that.
5) Being single may be God's way of forcing you to deal with your own issues.
So deal with em.
I know my always optimistic posts are annoying as hell. But I refuse to say "poor me" or do commiseration. Instead of thinking about the misery of being single, when those thoughts come up I instead turn to the endless possibilities that being single gives me and the adventures I can get into. If I can't be happy alone, how can I make another happy? And if I look to another for happiness, am I really just seeking a distraction for my own issues?
Yes, it suks, no denying it. But (I hope) it toughens me up for the right lady, yet to be met. I do follow my own advice and have been meeting girls, getting out, dating, and such. Just haven't met someone who is a good fit. Having come home to bad fits, I'd much rather endure the misery of the empty apt and look forward to endless possibilites and adventures yet ahead..... | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 10:59:42 AM | | I am definately beginning to think I'm doomed to be single forever. It seems like lately all I meet are the ones that just want a sex partner. Actully I was just told today by someone that I had been talking to to go F*** myself because I stated that I want more out of life than just sex. Well, I would rather be single than be someones sex toy. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 11:20:51 AM | i am single an i come home every day take care of my 2 girls an take care of my home life go out havefun but it is lonsome not have some to hold an love in ur live to do things with i want a soulamate but the best thing in my lifer my 2 girls they come first at every thing i life i wouldnt give any thing in the world for them. but some day maybe some on who is honest loveing careing an who loves kids will come in to my life that wont hurt me control me play games with me r cheat my soulmate is out there an my love dont know were but it will happen in time. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 12:32:39 PM | | I agree with Summer, a man raising his child earns a lot of respect in my eyes. Likewise when a man actually "parents" his child, teaches them morals, respect and responsibility. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 2:15:15 PM | I agree unicorn, if I decide I want to have sex, I want to know the person, not someone that has sent me a message telling me how much he wants to do me!
No sex is better than bad sex and having sex with a man who does not know my body or my needs and I dont know his is my definition of bad sex!
Yes I get lonely, yes I want to find a man to spend my life with. I just moved here from Canada at the end of September. I didnt know anyone here when I got here.
I am slowly making friends, just not with any single men....dammit! LOL
The holidays are hard, talking to my family when they are so far away is hard as well, but I try to keep my spirits up and try to think positive.
I have great qualities and deserve a quality man.
Deb | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 3:36:25 PM | Wow Darlin that is horrible...
I fought hard for the custody of my only child, his dad left when I was pregnant he never wanted him..came back after he was born...we lived seperated for over 10yrs in the house.
All he ever did was pat him on the head & say how r ya son...never took him any where,or threw a ball with him...etc..So I wasnt giving up my son we are close, now hes a teenager and has other interests I can focus on giving attention to a man, that I couldnt do when he was younger.
Men always ask me what are we going to do about your KID when they meet me...
What if we want to be together\ translates to me ahemmmm what if I want to sleep over.
My son isnt disposable hes my family ~ besides when dating the relationship is with me not my son, he has a father , Im not looking for a daddy for him, people project to much about things that in the long run wont matter, gezzz no one hangs around that long any how before the next wiggle catched there eye and they chase the next one. .
No one is sincere or reliable.. I dont know how many times I moved heaven & earth to have child care for my son & plans were cancelled last minute,
What a Joke getting all ready for a date making arrangements and then sitting home alone after bringing your kid to a sitter to watch your him.awaitng some one that ditches you for a better prospect or because ..this tickles me Its Raining Out ! Geshhhhhh
You cant twist some ones arm after they call to bail
I wont bring people to my home or not introducing men to my son until the man is in my life for many months.
I can relate totally to the lack of noise..silence can be deafing sometimes.
Its so sad decent people are left alone.
Have great Holiday all.
Hugs Doll | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 5:54:55 PM | oOOooooooh yea....
I've been dissed by SO many men because of my kids...
The first they they usually ask is..."when is the next wknd the father takes them?
And...there is no father to take my 2 yr old...I have sole custody.
I get judged, slammed, tossed to the curb because i have a kid with no father...and here I paid a fortune in legal fees to get sole custody and KEEP him away.
Ive even had divorced fathers toss me aside with the "well...I have my freedom...i only get my kids every other wknd...I want someone who has more free time to run to my side when my snap my fingers" and then the wondrously popular "I already have kids...I don't want someone else's burden....."
if they dont have kids...then its the "i only want my OWN kids...not someone else's used kids..."
well duuuuuh....guess what honey, you USED to be a kid! sheesh....good thing these guys parents didnt think of THEM as "unwanted burdens"...or maybe they did....
So yes......been there with the whole babysitter and no date thing...
been there with the guy wanting to "spend the night" and yes....most just want sex anyways and could care less about my family responsibilities.
aaaaaah....i'm used to being single and would rather be single than in a bad relationship again....i'm not desperate. i can wait for someone worthwhile.....
i just....dont care anymore | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 10:14:11 PM | Ive even had divorced fathers toss me aside with the "well...I have my freedom...i only get my kids every other wknd...I want someone who has more free time to run to my side when my snap my fingers" and then the wondrously popular "I already have kids...I don't want someone else's burden....."
if they dont have kids...then its the "i only want my OWN kids...not someone else's used kids..."
well duuuuuh....guess what honey, you USED to be a kid! sheesh....good thing these guys parents didnt think of THEM as "unwanted burdens"...or maybe they did....
Cookies, I think your taking your frustration too far. I check women's profile often searching for a compatible and reliable lady. I find as many women saying exactly what your saying men say to you. Women say things in their profiles that actually run men away because they stress their children over and above their own happiness.
I'm well aware humans don't throw children out,however if two people are to have a relationship something has to give and compromise for both men and women has to be implemented.
If one guy doesn't want you and your children,don't worry,someone will come along that will accept them...
If both men and women would realize children are part of any relationship and plan dates or whatever the man and woman enjoys, the whole issue could be solved without putting pressure on both the guy and the woman.
There are no reasons or excuses for men and women that seriously are wanting a relationship not to have a relationship.
Why can't planning be the common ground rather than losing out and living alone the rest of your life. Plan your dates far enough a head so you can get a sitter if need be,don't wait until two days before the date ,plan a head...
What most people do not think about,children cannot take the place of a companion ,neither can the companion take the children's place.
I believe any two people that are wanting a serious relationship can make it work no matter who has the children or who doesn't have children.
Bottom line....All of us have to be aware we must find the right person that fits and is compatible. Compatiabilty reaches far beyond the woman and man,it also includes the children. If a man is not willing to adjust don't complain,just be thankful he moved on or, Same with women. If they can't adjust,let them move on... Each one has his or her place and each has to fit or nothing fits. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:19:38 PM | Thanks Scorpia!!
And I like your very cool profile.
So don't be a stranger babe.
I'd love to discuss the crusades with you under the moonlight sometime.
A subject I've long been fascinated with. but I have yet to find a girl interested
in that stuff to to chat with.
Mon cheri, Mon cuer.
:-)
Stray | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:08:14 PM | maybe I am doomed!
This may be off topic a little. But I was instant messaged he other day. It was a 21 year old that said he he wanted to talk to me and he deserved a reply. I wrote him back asking him why he thought he deserved a reply from me. I told him I have a son his age. Well,, he then blocked me from further communication. I thought it was hilarious. Then I wondered if there are any people here that really want to meet somebody, or is it just a big game. Everyone looking for a little nibble on their hook. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 9:36:28 AM | I get messaged by the youngsters all the time. I hope there are people on here that want to meet.
I get lonely here, away from all my friends and family.
Here's to the new year!  | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 11:02:13 AM | | I think some of us were born to be foot lose and fancy free. Everytime I have tried to settle down with one person, I seem to grow to resent them takin my "Freedom" I know they do add something, but my Freedom is most important to me, (Next to My two Fine Sons of course) I love to see Ladies and spend quaility time with them.. But I always say" once the Honey moon is over, don't bother to unpack" it is all down hill from there.---sounds kinda cold when I read it, but yep, that's how it is at my house. Merry X-Mas. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 12:01:41 PM | | I won't say I am doomed to be single forever because I am talking to people. That produces no guarantee though. Everytime I have been single it has been for so long. I have been unmarried since 2003 and no girlfriends since. It does hurt. All of the little things like enjoying the country, going out, possessions, laughter, affection, etc. None of that means near as much unless you have someone to share it with. I know that feelings exist where everytime you're with that person it feels almost like a dream. I've felt that before so I know it exists. That is what fuels the fire when I daydream. Being able to just look someone in the eye and not having to say a word. A slow dance that you never want to end.... I've babbled like this before so I better stop before I depress myself. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 12:49:40 PM | Someone should call the waaaaambulance, really...or a hitman to put this sad pathetic thread out of its collective misery.
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