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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 2/14/2008 9:26:11 AM |
Do you have to look GREAT in order to be loved?
Of course not. That's ridiculous. You just have to be willing to love another who is not GREAT looking. The beautiful people are in the minority. There are far more average and below average looking people around. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/3/2008 7:38:29 PM | i really liked this answer because it addresses the issue in a positive way rather than negative. however you missed two vital points, if you don't mind my saying:
(6) always go out of the house looking your best - never just throw yourself together
(7) go to the gym 4 - 5 times a week - if you can't be bothered to keep your bod in shape why should he/she want to check it out?  | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/3/2008 10:45:47 PM | [The question becomes can they accept me for who I am as much as I can them? If they can, then I'd say we have a match!Forget looks. It is the ability to accept others for who they are, and you can have anyone you want.]
Cartographer - i totally agree w/ you, Im a good hearted person, but chubby and short, so i can only hope that man would like me for who i am. But i must add,i have lost 10 pounds since my pic on profile...
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:22:50 PM | hey it is trust me thanks to hollywood and multimedia and the popculture, if you don't look like those baby faced musculer bodied men with purfect flawless skin and hair as well as being a certein height and as for womenwell the same applies trust me i found out the hard way that the world is a sick place i haven't dated for over seven years and for my own safetey and sanity do not plan on dateing personaly i find that a date is like stepping on a landmine you never know weather it will be a dud or blow up in your face killing from the inside out that's what dating was like for me seven years ago,
i would rather retreat then accept my fate, i can no longer date because of flash backs | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:45:09 PM | With honesty, is it the end of the line for you if you are not what society considers "good-looking"?
YES!
do you HAVE TO be a knock out for someone to accept you for who you are and love you for who you are.?
Again, yes. If you do not fit either catagory above, it appears hopeless. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:17:47 PM | Hell No!
I'm no beauty and overweight! But I enjoy life, am intelligent, interesting, and appreciate a good lover.!
So people enjoy being with me.
In regards to Men I look for, yes it's nice to look at beautiful people,
but if they are not intelligent, trustworthy, unassuming, likes animals and children, and fun I don't want them anyways. Truly intelligent men are not jerks with women.
It defeats their ultimate goal of finding a good woman in the end. Same for intelligent women.
Haven't you ever met someone that made you want to melt that wasn't "Beautiful"
you just loved who they were and wished you were with them?
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:44:29 PM | | I understand COMPLETELY what you are saying! I was on here for weeks without my pic on my profile..... very few people would talk to me. Then I put my pic on, and I am normally flooded with emails. (That does not necessarily mean that I am "HOT") Deal is, I think that everybody has their standards. I personally will not date someone that looks "beautiful" to me, simply because it has been my experience that an overly goodlooking man, is usually to stuck on himself for me. Of course, I also will not date somebody that I feel is overweight..... I don't think there is any excuse for letting yourself go. If you cant take care of you~ how are you going to take care of me? All-in-all there has to be some kind of attraction, but it is usually personality for me. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 2:57:34 PM | | OP, my answer is YES-all us ugly people are doomed to a life of utter despair! the world sucks! come with me and the rest of the rotten tomatoes and we'll all just jump into a big mass grave and have FABIO bulldoze the dirt in on top of us!-oh,wait,can we do it saturday? i don't want to miss my friday nite dungeons and dragons meeting... | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 3:04:38 PM | If you are very focused on appearance and you are looking for a person who looks a certain way, you can expect to be treated the same way.
If you are open to love that transcends some of the apparent barriers in life, you may be surprised at what you find. It takes time to find something genuine and you'll have to be genuine yourself and not locked in your own fear or self doubt in order to find it. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 5:39:44 PM | I don't believe it's over just because you're not "hot". I'm certainly not "hot". Never have been, never will be. But I can look attractive with some effort, and don't let myself wander around looking like a slob. I always make sure I look like I care about my appearance. I do the best I can, with what I've been given.
I've been married, and have dated several men in my adult life, so it follows that you don't have to be hot to be found interesting and appealing. However, I also have been intensely attracted to these men, and I doubt any of them would be considered classically good - looking. I found each of them very attractive in their own way, but another woman may not see what I see in them.
I've never been interested in the "tall, dark, & handsome" image. I want a man with a face with personality, character, something that sets him apart from the male version of the barbie doll face. I also don't have any preconcieved ideas about exactly what his physique needs to be. I'm interested in who they are, how their eyes sparkle when they look at me, and how I feel when I'm with them. Those things make them attractive to me, and I hope those same things are what makes me attractive to them.
It's not about looks. It's about energy/aura/intelligence/character/personality/ charm. The more you get to know someone, and like them, the more attractive they become.
One day I hope to be considered lovably attractive again. I doubt it will be because of my looks. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 5:42:14 PM | If we all looked the same, wouldn't it be boring? Every person has unique talents, abilities and can succeed in anything they put their mind to, if they work at it.
This dating thing is not the end all, be all of the world. Go check out everyone at the local shopping mall and most of the folks there are average looking, very few will stand out in the crowd as being 'beautiful'. It's the well dressed, confident people that will catch your eye by the way they walk and present themselves. Fleeting looks are only skin deep, it's the folks that engage in interesting conversation that will keep your attention. 
PS* I've met some attractive people that were as dumb as a sack of rocks!
Pink | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 5:48:48 PM | When I was younger, I knew of a man and woman, both with Down's Syndrome, and they were so in love...they could see no one else in the world, and no one else mattered. Watching how they took care of each other was ...the paradigm of the form for relationships to me. It still inspires me that it CAN exist in that way.
There's a song I know of from Todd Rundgren that has a line in it;
"You're so lovely, so wise
You could make Venus crawl
But love between the ugly is the most beautiful love of all..."
There really IS someone for everyone, no matter what we look like...
~Never underestimate the impossible~ | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/4/2008 8:09:06 PM | for someone that has good looks, yes looks is going to matter. no hot incredible attractive woman is going to go after a 300lb fat bald guy with hair all over his body and an acne-scarred face. no greek adonis type guy is going to go after a gal that doesn't look like she belongs on a magazine cover or could win a beauty pageant.
that is the beautiful people's end of the spectrum. and, of course, at the other end of the spectrum is people like msyelf and several others who, while we want to be pleased by who we wake up next to in the morning, we believe and feel that person's character is far more valuable than their looks or their body.
so...in short...looks is subjective. find somebody that has character...not someone that is vain or shallow. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/6/2008 2:53:53 PM | Get hair cuts that fit your face -- yes, this may cost more than the Cost Cutters special
2. Take care of any acne problems -- there are many products for this
3. Keep your body clean and odor free -- only good odor is a small splash of nice cologne or after shave.
4. Dress for your body type -- everyone cannot wear every fashion
5. MOST IMPORTANT: Carry yourself with confidence -- people notice
Not on here.
I can't do a lot with my hair bit but at least my cut suits me, its neat. I dont have acne, Im fit, lean, toned and I always dress well. I learned it through work where the impression it makes goes some way toward getting money out of people. And I have plenty of confidence, I am in control of my world, my petty insecurities are long gone and it shows.
On POF, all that counts for nothing. Women look at my pictures, think 'he dosen't look like Jude Law' and thats it.
People TEND to (not always) date people with similar attractiveness. There are studies on this
In reality that's quite true. But again, not on POF. | |
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| Is it the end of the dating world if you are not good looking?
Posted: 3/6/2008 5:15:41 PM | According to society us females are supposed to be a size 0 to at most a size 6 in order to be desirable and pretty for men. When in actuality the average size of a woman is 14. Surprising isn't it? Though the average size is a 14 men still demand women to be 0-6. I have yet to find someone who's willing to accept me as I am. And I'm of course being like most females with trying to lose this weight to be a size 0 for men to actually look at me. Sux.
Ok my ranting is over....continue. | |
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