| Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/18/2006 12:23:27 AM | b) You're 33 and you want to find a woman who will appreciate you for who you are. She's 19 or 20 and is flitting around clubs, flirting with "hotties."
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You still miss the poitn m dear. This girl is grizzling she can't find a quality committed mature guy, around the bars when theres the perfect right man right under her silly nose.
Funny that the only person who thinks the OP has the slightest chance is a 50 year old man.
You know, us women (or just me for that matter) have this way of letting 'nice guys' know that we're not interested in them by confiding in them our problems about other men.
This is not a matter of 'nice guy' not getting the girl.... this is about a man who is in a boss type position fawning over a much younger women. Sounds like infatuation on his behalf. He is caught up in the fact that a younger attractive female is letting him in on her woes with men. Of course she thinks he's a nice guy.... he is there listening to her problems.
He should do the smart thing and tell her that maybe she should talk to her g/f's about her men problems as this seems to be affecting their work relationship. (by 'their' I mean his).
Leave her alone and let her figure out her problems and learn from mistakes, she doesn't need advice from a man who has other intentions. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 1:44:58 AM | Also to add........
But all of these men can pick and choose
Wouldn't that make those men 'shallow' also, after all that's what this woman in question is doing too?
If that's your definition of being 'shallow' | |
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| Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:48:07 AM | A co-worker/supervisor should stay out of the private lives of others at his place of employment. What she does on her own time is HER business and it is not your place to judge or even give a crap.
Move on OP, stay away from gals at work as potential mates. It'd be best to stay out of one's personal business. | |
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| Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:38:47 AM | | This is just another 'nice guy/pity' thread that I'm surprised didn't get deleted. | |
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| Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/18/2006 11:18:08 AM | She's 19!!!!!
Everything she is doing is completely age appropriate. She's learning about life. She's looking at guys who stimulate her glands, not her brains. That's because her glands are right now bigger than her brain. That's also age appropriate. Give her a few years and things will change.
As for her words, ignore them. She's saying what people expect her to say. As with everyone in this world, actions speak louder than words. Her words say "I'm no woman of easy virtue" (just like society expects from "decent" girls) yet her actions are much clearer.
As for the personal questions you are asking her and the fact that she is your subordinate, you're in deep doo-doo. One call to HR and you're toast, a sexual harrassment suit will certainly rain on your parade. | |
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| Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/18/2006 12:04:54 PM | It's interesting that there is so much more acceptance for women that date younger men, but not vice versa.
lol Don't worry OP, sounds like she will be a single mom soon at this rate and then will be here on POF looking for a "good heart" ie. a real man that will provide more than a one night thrill, ... hehe she'll be on the fourms griping about how men don't want to date single mothers or BBW by then. It's funny how the universe is all connected.
Pay no attention to the nay sayers here, morals change with the wind of fashion. Just look at vibrator sales.
Then again, she does have the right to do as she wishes. It's a free world. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 4:25:39 PM | Ok, I was gonna bash this guy for being a whiner-stalker, but that was taken care of so on to this...
hehe she'll be on the fourms griping about how men don't want to date single mothers or BBW by then
OMG, that is SOOOO frickin poetic.
Ok back to the original post....
Dude there are soooo many hot chix in canada, why are you stressing about ONE ? | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 4:36:53 PM | | Hey you know I sent out on the yahoo personal's a bunch of ice breakers and out of 45 sent I got only 1 reply, and here is the kicker they all had in their profiles how they are looking for the sweet guy to sweep them off thier feet and where is Mr. Right and is there any good men left out their. I had in profile describing just what they want and none but one replyed. They are not looking for just any mr. right but a rich and hot looking mr. right | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:00:31 PM | | I would agree that this isn't a woman being shallow but a woman wanting her cake and eating it to so to say, but I also am in agreement to the fact you shouldn't be asking her out at work and such right now i have a supervisor hes about 40 and he is a supervisor asked out a girl about 20 yrs younger and this has been going on for over a year well his job is in the hr hands because she turned in a sexual harrassment claim so honestly look at it this way is this girl worth you losing your job I disagree with the age differance though because age shouldn't be a factor in any matter as long as both are over 18 but she seems to be clear on not wanting you my advice is back off before you get in more trouble than shes probably even worth, I agree when she becomes a mom on the maury show looking for her babys daddy you can look at her and thank god you left her alone | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:35:49 PM | not all women are shallow..and to me..being 18...33 is not old...i dont base shit on age or looks...its all on maturity and personality....yes many women are like that...believe me..i used to run around with a few of them..but not all women are like that...though i have to say i agree some women will be quick to get all defensive when called a slut..or when they are quick to jump to call a guy shallow cause he wants a chick with a nice body...but it doesnt necessarily mean thats all he wants...i have the same problem kinda..i dont kno wat is wrong with me..but i am invisible to guys in my town cause im not tall skinny blonde dumb and big chested..if ur not that it makes u invisible...
one thing that always helps me ...is this.....Time..it just takes time....something will come ur way :) | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:51:44 PM | | yea you are so right guy with what you are saying straight up from the heart right. I think first and foremost the women are liers even to themselves about what they want. A lot of these guys at bars have home lifes with wives and children already and have no respect for the woman they pick up at bars who are an dime an dozen lays thinking thats how they are going to snag an man and if its for their own satisfaction then they are sluts like the men they pick up. On top of that the women who go after the body builder doesn't realize that an body builder admires his own body as much as the woman do and they also admire the body of the guy beside them as well trying to get what the other guy has or to say what he doesn't have and they also build their own ego by sex building the more women they have sex with the better they are--its an game all the way around and the women themselves are caught up in themselves if they realize it or not they are still part of it. Love is God given and will be apparent when two people come together and the blood flows like never before but if its all done through sight then its lust given bye satan---so the morrow is who is the lier and who doesn't know what they want in reality if they are being used like trash when what they are saying they are looking for is right there??????? | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:54:09 PM | | I agree that she was just not interested in him and its a tad on the creepy side. What makes me laugh is when older men go for young women and are some how surprised that the girl is out clubbing and kind of immature. Thats what being 19 is all about having fun and just cause she goes out and flirts with hotties doesn't make her a slut it makes her a normal 19 year old. Much like a normal 33 year old should not be dating an employee who is over a decade younger then them. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:56:28 PM | | yea I never thought of that---its fear based as usual---society sets an standard and people are afraid to be real so they say one thing and do another. I wish people would get some guts and say the truth so people wouldn't have to work through all the garbage fear causes....but only in an perect world. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 8:55:47 PM | Dude here's a formula...
Age you should = A
Your Age = X
Minimum Recommended Age
A = (X/2) + 7 (rounding up)
Maximum Recommended Age
A = (X * 2) - 7 (rounding up or down if you prefer!)
So if your 33...
33 / 2 = 16 + 7 = 23 should be as young as you should go
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33 * 2 = 66 - 7 = 59 should probably be as old as you go
Just a good rule of thumb, mileage may vary.
As for the potential HR / Employment ramifications... most likely this chick dumps on him like he is a good friend or platonic buddy, heck probably even a father figure. He most likely doesn't pry into her life although asking her out as her direct supervisor, big red flag bud. May wanna let that though go, even as a hypothetical question. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:00:51 PM | | Your right and if the man isnt a "hottie" then they blame it on "Chemistry". What ever happened to giving things a chance to see if there is any mental attraction? | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 12:49:06 AM | | E-gads. I used to date (and was crazy about) a really homely guy. When we first met I was not attracted to him, but he was so nice that I gave him a chance. And for the record, he's the one that wanted to trade up for a younger, prettier woman. | |
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| Women can be really shallow.
Posted: 12/19/2006 1:18:53 AM |
Women can be really shallow.
SOME can yes, just as some men can be. You seem to be bitter because she doesn't "like" you. She's 19 for god's sake, she's doing what all 19 yr. olds do, and yes, you at 33 are TOO OLD FOR HER since if she's like you say she is, what in the hell would you have in common with her and why would you be interested??? | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 7:04:23 PM | Ok so every time a read another post on this site I feel as if I am alone on this “Plenty of Fish” planet… I unfortunately cannot relate to any of the men’s “Issues” that I have read up to this point, I don’t even know why I signed up…although the majority of the posts make me chuckle… In this day and age when I for one spend the majority of my day at work (then the gym… but that is a completely different story). I meet a lot of women at my work place that I could be interested in, 1. You more than likely have “something” in common since you have chosen the same profession. 2. You can really get to know someone, and I mean truly know someone working beside him or her day after day. That being said the feeling needs to be mutual, I have pummelled (verbally and/or physically) more than one guy for not “Getting the hint” when one of my girlfriends (strictly friends) have told them in no uncertain terms that the feeling is not mutual.
Now as far as the age thing is concerned… I am 35 yrs old, a little more than 8 months ago my girlfriend of 5 yrs and I split up, almost immediately young women started approaching me, now these are attractive, intelligent, confident 18-25 yr old women, some I knew through friends some I had never met, and the main thing that I realised is that a lot of these young women were more mature than a lot of the women my age or at least they acted the part, and in addition there was no baggage, children, expectations of marriage and most importantly they never once mentioned their “Biological Clocks”, at this point in my life I have pretty much figured out where I want to be but that doesn’t mean I’m ready to trade in my motorcycle for a minivan…LOL… Everyone seems to be harping on the same subject “You are too old for her”, I think one thing that everyone can agree on these days is the fact that this new generation is growing up far faster than any before it… But once again the feeling has to mutual, if its not and you choose to pursue this young lady, you deserve everything you get… and HR may be the least of your worries if she has a friend like me…LOL
One last thing, just so all you ladies that do not agree with me don’t think I am a hypocrite, when I was 24 I dated a 40 yr old woman and those were some of the best times of my life…
~...Do not fear death...But rather the inadequate life…~ | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 7:10:52 PM | You're 33 she's 19 and you two work together. Working together alone is a reason for you two not to go out. In a lot of companies it will get you fired.
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Posted: 12/19/2006 9:31:09 PM | | not to mention they just don't work together he's her boss and she is obviously not interested. So he harps on her for flirting with hotties. If she was in her 20's it still would be a silly issue to post on a forum. To me anyways its blatantly obvious that she just isin't that into him. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 2:33:49 PM | I would agree that if she isn't interested he shouldn't pursue... but to all you folks who are telling the OP he shouldn't be interested in a coworker or in someone so much younger than himself...
Ok... so... suppose you were a 33 year old man working in Antartica... video taping penguins or something... and the only woman around was a 19 year old sub-ordinate...
Wouldn't YOU be interested in her too?
Check out Tex_mex's profile. He travels all the time and works strange shifts... I'll bet the 19 year old he is so fond of does too...
Unusual circumstances make unusual bedfellows... is all I'm saying... | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 4:11:35 PM | Hey i think you are generalizing. I think you are putting her down a bit actually
because she does not fancy you and wont go out with you. So what not everywoman is going to fancy you, even if you are a nice bloke. Their is going to be woman who is going to fall madly in love with you as their is someone for everyone, but you are not going to find her looking at someone who,s got eyes elsewhere, so forgot her and find you right one. You wont regret it. She is out their and she will want you more than any other man. | |
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