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Posted: 12/27/2006 8:36:31 AM | How sad this whole post is and some of the replies... you are the victum girl... your pictures show a happy girl with lots of friends... I am sure the picture with your friends was a snap shot to capture a happy time and not just your breasts...Be proud hold your head up high... The guy was a jerk and yes they are out there... Should you give up? NO! You have the right for happiness... I agree that there should be a place to report married men or true jerks... I have even heard there are some married women and lady jerks looking for $$$... Girl keep the faith and I hope you find what you are looking for... and may that guy get what he deserves... You are Beautiful, do not listen to the judgemental people they are not happy with their own lives.... jacki | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 9:06:08 AM | | you are young and beautiful , check out the next guy first, people are not what they used to be times have changed from when you met a guy at a soda shop and could date , this isn't mayberry and girls have to be careful , so do guys for that matter. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 11:16:35 AM | I'm a fun-loving girl who likes her partying, and clubbing
^^^^this is what u say in your profile, and while this is all fine and good, there is just something that says you might be flighty , and easy to take advantage of....your pics aren't bad at all....there are a lot worse on here.....just my two pennies | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 11:22:51 AM | First I would like to say that I think it’s terrible that people feel the need to attack someone who is hurting. Even if you don’t agree with her choices, she is still a person experiencing some pain and asked for support.
I think you have to ask yourself if this is a pattern. If you tend to get involved with people who are dishonest and hurtful, it probably is about your being attracted to these types of people. If this was an anomaly, then don’t blame yourself. There are a lot of liars and cheaters out there, and they have perfected the ability to seem sincere.
Several years ago, I began dating a man that I worked with (bad idea!). Everyone at work liked him. We dated for almost 8 months. I had his home number, had been to his house (or what I thought was his house) on multiple occasions, had met his friends, and had even gone out of town with him for the weekend. We picked his mother up on our way home from this weekend getaway, and spent several hours in the car together. I went to her house on one other occasion. The relationship ended when a co-worker came to tell me that he had begun dating another woman who also worked with us, and then also mentioned that his wife had just given birth! I had no idea that he had a wife! He tried to explain it away with “I haven’t been happy for a long time, but I didn’t want my son to be an only child, so we decided to have another baby before getting a divorce.” He is still with the other woman that we both worked with! Apparently she believed this bs! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 11:36:58 AM | That sucks!
I am really sorry to hear that... so sorry that I am not going to bash you about the fact that women do this as well.
Learn from it, figure out what tell tale signs there may have been... did he only use his cell, did he never invite you over to his place? was he often too busy...
and build up your self esteem (cause getting the wool pulled over your eyes sucks and hurts) and do the best you can to move on!
do something that you feel good about yourself for doing and move on! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 12:44:04 PM | I think you look great. You don,t look like a slut at all, you look like a young woman at a party who has a nice figure. You havent got a low top on or a bikini top on, or wearing suspenders as i have seen in some pictures on here.
I think it inconsiderate to make these remarks to you, when you have been hurt you need building up not putting down.
Their has been many an intelligent, nice women and men who have been the victim of some slimy person. Put it down to experience. Learn from it be more careful in the future and protect yourself. Just because someone seems nice does not mean they are.
I have been the victim myself in the past. Protect yourself do not trust too quickly.
Watch how a person treats others, expassilly the more vanurable such as old people, children, mentally and phyically ill animals. If they treat them with respect and care that is a true indicator of a caring nature. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 12:53:39 PM | | I think they,re is a wee bit of jealously going on in some of these posts because you are a goodlooking girl, take no notice of it. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 12:54:08 PM | | When your dating people from online you always have to look for signs ...dont just take their word for it especially if they live out of town,sadly to say theres alot of decept that goes on now days. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 1:29:58 PM | hey innateplanet get bit yippee for you and i have read a few of your other posts you seem a bit hard maybe if you loosen up your bra straps a bit you wont come off as such a cu*t | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 1:34:52 PM | OP-
dont you dare let the hard old crab a$$ bickets give you grief about your cleavage whoa i am so sure it was the crack between your boobs that made him into a lying cheating jerk. You are gorgeous and you trusted hey that is not always a winning combo but it was his mess up not yours. Be careful as i know you thought you were to begin with but next time any thing that strikes your gut as unusual question the heck out of it until you are satisfied or just walk away before you have too much invested. You'll be fine beautiful don't you worry! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 1:55:47 PM | There is a site to report all these people ,,,men and women...I have seen it posted in a forum,,someone on here must know the name of it,,,,but also how can you confirm what they are posting about the person is true,,,, | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 2:07:00 PM | ok well first i would like to say that not all men are so slimey!..
And i know it is kinda hard to think of it this way but this guy has probly been doing this for a long time. He has learnt what do do/say and what not to do/say he has just become good at lieing and getting people to see what he wants them to see. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 3:41:10 PM | You did nothing wrong he didn't wear a wedding ring and took you to his place, what more were you suppose to do?
The question is what's your next move are you in love with him..I hope not because he is a player nothing more nothing less
BTW...in my opinion you are very beautiful and that's a beautiful picture on your profile | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 4:01:53 PM | Unfortunately, it's just something you have to be on the lookout for. What he did was WRONG, don't beat yourself up over it, just live and learn. It speaks well of you that you ARE upset,rather than seeking some way to blame the guys wife, or treating the situation lightly.
I wish I could tell you some magic 'secret" test that would identify the married gameplayers, but I don't think there is one, other than awareness, caution, and a certain amount of skepticism.
Better luck next time, kid.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 4:28:10 PM | | That is what you women want! I hate to sound mean. i hear complaint after complaint after whine after **** after so on and so on.... then it's right back into the same thing all over again! stop it! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 4:33:17 PM |
Innateplanet your mean comments to strawberrysab was just crap.Sexy pics gets a man attention thats why so many women post them.Your just jealous she has the body you dreamed you had and you missed the whole point of what she said [/unquote] Well said nightcowboy, innateplanet is probably the kind of woman that rated me a one. Though I don't rate myself so high, these women are doing me a favour, as so many men have commented on the fact that they think these women must be jealous.  | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 4:49:01 PM | | this kind of thing is not only men that play the game woman do the same thing on these computers.cause people go by looks alone and never look past your pic | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 5:36:27 PM | Your pictures are another issue....and regardless of the judgement used in posting them -- it's no excuse for a married man to lie to you.
As far as the married guy goes,....you're young & inexperienced. Just take things a little slower in the future and be more observant & 'investigative'.
Wake Dan's comments were right on....
It will just take some time of learning about yourself and others to become a better judge.
Good luck in the future. Lesson learned... Forget about this creep and move on. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2006 5:55:27 PM | hey strawberry
thats the way it goes sometimes at least you found out now though and not way down the line
look at it this way
God made the rivers and God made the lakes but God made mankind but we all make mistakes!
dont worry move on put it behind you learn from this experience and ignore all the nasty comments some are coming out with... | |
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Posted: 1/1/2007 3:38:39 PM | | Another sign that a man is involved or married is ...he won't give you his home number or that you can only call at certain times. Sometimes if you talk to a man long enough before meeting him, he will eventually slip up and say something. Luckily, I've always been told straight out by a man if he was married. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2007 3:52:41 PM |
I wish there was a site to post all of these married men who lie to us women about being married. We could put their names up there along with their photos. And hopefully their wives would see them.
There is dontdatehimgirl.com
You can post a photo, write whatever you want and people can add comments.
Maybe he's already on there :) | |
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Posted: 1/1/2007 4:05:03 PM | Good post himmicanes,,,
And if they state single or separated,,question them on it, if they are honest they will tell the truth, it has worked for me a few times, not that they give up easy,,,, some of them still think they should have both a lover and a wife,,,,,,,,,,,,,, | |
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Posted: 1/1/2007 4:05:32 PM | I am so appalled people are in any way making this your fault...
This is exactly why women hesitate in reporting rapes!
Come on people... this is just wrong. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2007 4:07:54 PM | | Not dumb, hon. Just 21. And that's no man. Slimy, yes. Man, no. I'd compare him (IT) to slugs and snails, but that would be unfair to them. Live & learn. New day/new year...NEXT. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 7:36:24 AM | | I feel bad 4 u, and hope u can move on. Remember one thing u dictate how peolpe treat, and u should take your time in getiing to mknow someone, if they r really interested they will stick around if not genuine they will move on, good luck, hope u can get passed this I know how much it can suck | |
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