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Posted: 12/18/2006 4:57:03 PM | Too many 'I' messages on this Thread...wow!...nice of you all to share your depressing, depleting, disappointing and unhappy thoughts about Christmas with the rest of us, now what was the question?, oh yeh...
I think that everyone designs Christmas in their minds before it even gets here and places such a high level of expectations on it that there are people that will never be happy at this time of year no matter what.
I would suggest throwing caution to the wind and try something totally different! Think about how you could make Christmas a better time for someone else. Go out on a limb and think about someone other than yourself, tough I know, but do-able.
The poor and to me, I don't refer to them as the 'other half', are overwhelming in numbers nowadays and I am talking dirt poor, they have nothing. I repeat, they have nothing.
Lend a helping hand, there are so many nursing homes for eg. that any one of us can simply call up and ask if we could go in on Christmas Eve or Day and have tea with one of the elders that are seriously alone in life and just living out the rest of their days. Do you know where the closest orphanage is to you? How about a woman's shelter or unisex shelters? How about the Vet's associations? How about the animal shelters? There are alot of people reaching out this time of year, take their hands.
I'll just end this by saying this to those of you who are so dissatisfied with Christmas, yadda yadda yadda, stop looking for what Christmas does for you and start looking at what you can do for it.
Please people, it is a time to give...try it, you may start seeing things in a whole other light. The passion towards others at this time of year is missing, I think they call it SELFISH.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:17:43 PM | I know that we ALL have things going on in our lives, past or present, that can taint what we feel or expect should be a happy time of year. But I truly believe that giving can be the best medicine!
My Mom found herself talking to a young mother at school the other day and she just looked sad. Of course my Mom is the ultimate nurturer and wanted to see what was the matter. Well in the past 2 years, this mother of two had lost her husband (most recent), her father and 5 other extended family members. She was struggling to support her two children and she wasn't even sure if they would be getting any presents this year for Christmas. Her 9 year old boy loves model cars and her 7 year old daughter is a craft fanatic! This woman looked completely defeated and rightly so! However she isn't the type to ever ask for a helping hand or complain....
So that's where Mom comes in... She was able to get a local church group to donate a couple hundred dollars so that my Mom could go out and buy some gifts for the kids, a few necessities for the mother, along with some gift certificates from the local grocery store. My parents and I are also putting a little money into the pot because the kids love movies, but they don't have a DVD player so that's going to be our contribution to make this family's holiday season a little more bright...
So... Does your desire for snow somehow seem that much more trivial?!? I really do think a lot of us need to remember that our lives aren't really all that bad and there are always people out there with bigger battles.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:45:34 PM |
So, am I the only one here who DOES NOT have the Christmas Spirit??? I don't know what it is ... could be the lack of snow around these here parts, could be the lack of Christmas Carols on the radio, could be me PMS'ing (Yes we men DO, not physically but emotionally and mentally), but I don't feel it. I don't feel the Christmas cheer. Am I alone or are there those of you who are Humbigging it like me????
Funny..tgurl and I were just discussing this the other day! I haven't had it yet, have no interest in it and don't see it coming from out of nowhere. I'm with dante, tgurl and tacopete...not excited or looking forward to it at all. This doesn't mean I don't wish all of you one though....just not into it for myself. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:47:30 PM | Well for whatever reason I am not feeling the Christmas spirit here either. My daughter is all excited but I just can't get excited about it. Not sure why, even my parents told me they don't have any spirit either this year. I don't blame lack of snow or not cold enough maybe its an age thing who knows. Not actually depressed just feeling its like any other day. Now during our secret santa night at the local coffee group it was smiles and happiness, so I guess there was some cheer in the crusty old dude 
Since it is the season    
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Posted: 12/18/2006 5:47:43 PM | im definately not feeling very christmassy,ive worked alot this year,im tired and it seems like just yesterday it was july and i was heading on an assignment in labrador.
hopefully i get in better spirits because right now i cant even stand christmas music,and its my mission to make my lil cousin have the best christmas yet,and hopefully build a snowfort with him | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 6:20:17 PM |
think of how fortunate you are compared to the rest of the world
Good point.
I'm not really in the spirit either - it would be nice to have snow, not to mention someone special to share it with! | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 6:38:25 PM | | I really feel like that this year even the 3 time I was over sea at chirstmas I could still find a reason to get the chirstmas feeling this year it's just not there | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 6:56:54 PM | I admit not feeling Christmas spirit like this year, but I have put a forced effort in for my son because he is having a really rough time right now emotionally, and needs something good to look forward too.
I think for me it is the knowledge that we will be spending Christmas Day with my mom in the hospital, she has been in the ICU for a while now and it is the first Christmas ever where we are not waking up together, with my sisters and I singing Christmas carols to get my parents out of bed ... I have been trying hard not to think about it, but you can only avoid reality for so long. I also hate the fact that it might be the last Christmas we are all together and it has to be like that.
But on the plus side, I have gratitude for the memories we can make this year and the pictures we shall have and the fact that we are sticking together instead of falling apart. My Dad and I are doing Santa stuff for my son at home before we head to Toronto. So he will have happy memories as well. I know I have a roof over my head and food in my fridge which is alot more then many families have this time of year, so I try hard to focus on that as well, I am lucky in so many ways, and everyone expierences loss and hardships in their life and I am greatful I have support and love of FRIENDS through it. You don't need a SO to be loved
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Posted: 12/18/2006 6:58:06 PM | | The Christmas Spirit was gone. Tree was half decorated, have only done half of my shopping, there is no snow, got ripped off at Christmas bonus time, need to cough up $2,500 one week after Christmas for braces for my big girl. Then after dinner and homework were done, we put the tv on and it was Charlie Brown. Kids had no clue who he was but we all sat and watched and I remembered what fun Christmas really was. So tonight I almost finished the tree, let the kids put the decorations where they wanted (need more lights), Christmas bonus is just a bonus, not an expectation, I can stop shopping whenever I want, no one really cares what I spend, and my big girl is soo happy to get braces she has phoned all of her friends to tell them she is getting straight teeth for Christmas. Christmas is coming here and I am embracing it for every moment that it is worth. Our tree looks like Charlie's a bit, but all is well that ends well. I am in the Christmas spirit | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:03:05 PM | | I don't really have it yet, not Christmas at all for me but I'm going home to see my family and it will seem like it then so I'm not worried. I have it a little now | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:05:23 PM | | I'm getting there slowly but surely........the shopping though is interupting my spirit.........and that tony guy with the licking of the balls.he is totally distracting me....... | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:14:39 PM | Are you freakin kidding me? Working 3 jobs, one of which is in the mall, a most heinous place to be at this time, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day are the ONLY two days I get off!!!! I am soooooo excited! I can't WAIT for Christmas! And after eating tuna wraps,fruits, vegetables, and all the other crap they say is supposed to be good for losing weight,(lost 3 sizes so far) every day for the last 4 months, I can't WAIT stuff my gizzard full of turkey and potatos and stuffing and cranberries and pie. (Normally I wouldn't care. LOL)
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:24:09 PM | I have yet to get into the Christmas spirit but hopefully it will catch me soon. Christmas was always a big thing for my mom. I would look forward to her big family get togethers each year. She has been gone now for over 4 yrs and well things just haven't been the same. She was the rock of the family, the glue which kept us all together.
This year is especially harder to get into the spirit as my older and younger siblings are feuding and have left me in the middle. Something they have always done but this time its been going on for a few months now. Christmas is just a few days away and I have no clue if either one of them will figure out that what they are feuding about is ridiculous. I won't take sides in the matter and have let them both know they can vent away to me but i am and always will remain neutral in that type of matter.
On a brighter side this year will be the first time in a long while that I am not single. I am happy to have found her love. I have always had the love of my daughter but had forgotten about the other kind of love feeling.
So hopefully the spirit of Christmas will catch me soon and my sibs.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 7:27:07 PM | a big hug to you Chuck........I know what your talking about........
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Posted: 12/18/2006 8:34:39 PM | This year more than any other, Im hearing this "bah humbug" mood goin around.....what gives?
I refuse to let it enter my house...... And when it does? Out comes the red wine and adavan! 
To everyone who's feeling bah humbuggy....here ya go | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 8:57:23 PM | every year i bake the cookies, decorate the tree put out the billions of decorations, send out the cards, wrap the presents <------ i love that part.
this year nothing period.
no cookie baking.
no present wrapping.
no tree.
no lights.
just not in the mood, it has been a heartbreaking year emotionally wise for me, i only have myself to blame for it too.
as well other stresses played into it as well.
but things are getting better.
i just cant seem to muster the energy to have any christmas cheer.
so maybe this year, i will reflect on this year and all the blessings the good man upstairs has brought into my life.
and oh ya for the posters that said people have it worse off then us, we are well aware of it, we are not moaning nor complaining, we are simply reaching out and sharing. sorry u could not see that.
id say merry christmas but that would be wrong, when i feel anything but merry, so i will say i hope that everyone in here that i care about gets everything their hearts desire.
and before i get the emails, i am ok. merely commenting on the thread.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 9:04:12 PM | Alright, don't make me come and thump some Christmas cheer into the lot of ya.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 9:10:15 PM | | ^^^^^^^ Right on!! If I'm asked about how "I" feel about something, that's exactly what I'm going to express. There's nothing wrong with that. I don't want "eat your dinner, there are children starving in Africa" type lectures. I know all about giving and how important it is, but I can't save everyone (Hey, I had a nervous breakdown trying to do that 7 years ago), and sometimes it's OK for it to be about ME. If you don't appreciate this thread for what it is, ignore it. Go to a happy happy cheery thread. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2006 9:15:00 PM | I'm with the majority here. Definitely no Christmas spirit going on for me.
A lot of that has to do with not having the money to buy gifts for the people I care for. That really, really bothers me.
A lot just has to do with the fact that I don't have any family to spend the holidays with.
I'll just sleep through it, like I did last year.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 9:48:18 PM | If you want to see the Christmas spirt, look into the eyes of a child when they see Santa in the Mall or when you watch them put the decorations on the tree. Watch their face light up as you get them to help you wrap gifts for others and when they are the ones that helped pick them out.
Watch as your mom's face lights up as you walk in the door to help her get ready for the "big" dinner or just to sit and have tea with her. Sit with family and friends as remember Christmas's past and share laughs and tears of good times. Without Christmas these memories wouldn't be there.
Christmas is what you make it and as adults we get caught up in the drama of the world but at this time of year we need to look past that and put the stresses of every day on the back burner.
Give it a try...look for it...the joy of Christmas is here, you just have to open your heart, mind, soul and eyes to see it.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:06:00 PM | Well I certainly have to apologize. I did not realize I had walked right into a Redundant, Attention Seeking and Self Pity Party. I am sure this thread rears it's ugly head every year so that would make it redundant, almost sounds like it's a competition on who is the most depressed making it attention seeking and you're all feeling sorry for yourselves which in my opinion makes it a self pity topic.
I didn't realize that by trying to offer ideas up on how to perhaps make your Christmas a little better would get me kicked out of the pool. I didn't realize in trying to lend a little bit of encouragement I would be told, if I didn't like it to go find myself a happy happy thread somewhere else, lol.
If you are totally bent on being miserable, so be it for anyone else to try and change that. I love the reaching out and sharing aspect though, give me a break...I have no clue what that means but what a lovely thought.
I don't have a lot, I don't always feel like Christmas but yes, I do have it still in me to think outside the box. If a person doesn't care how or who they affect others around them with their attitudes and moods then that is just plain sad, you deserve to go sit in a corner. Why not just cancel Christmas entirely?, why put yourselves through this lousey time of year? lol...
I know I know, you are honest and caring and passionate and luvable and o yeh, single, wonder why?...OUCH.
To suggest to me or anyone else that does have the Christmas spirit to get lost or find another place to post is plain rude.
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Posted: 12/18/2006 10:08:12 PM | Wooohoooo! I love being different :) I'm soooo in the Christmas mood its not even funny!
Its ok that there isn't snow on the ground...I've been volunteering with Meals on Wheels and visiting the elderly at a retirement home who don't have family...Its very rewarding...Knowing you're making a difference in someone's life for the better is a true blessing ~ Really it is...You appreciate simplicity...We begin to understand how fortunate we are and how much we actually do take for granted...Some have a blanket for a bed...a towel rolled up being used for a pillow...a tablecloth for drapes...And they sure as hell don't have the computers we're all using to tell how 'lonely and unhappy' we are this Christmas...
Two days ago, an 84yr old woman named Ethel thanked me for wheeling her to the 'social tea' so she could be with her roommate...She informed me that her husband of 64 years passed away in the summer and she has 'nothing left, because when he died, I did too...' Then said...(pardon my watery eyes) "Maybe you are my Christmas angel? I bet Robert sent you to be with me because he couldn't make it...whad'ya think?" I said "I think you're right..." Speechless, I was ~ for once...Like cmon people! Awww...Its moments like these that bring out the Christmas spirits!! The look on the young childs face or less fortunate when you spend time with them...
I have my mother, father, sister, brother-in-law and that concludes my family...Several of my family members and close friends are in heaven...I am single, I have no children...heck, I don't even have a pet fish and I am completely content with that!! I couldn't be happier knowing I have the best life has to offer!! Sorry to be bursting everyone else's bubbles, but really...I wish more people would understand that Christmas isn't about presents ~ it's about presence...
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Posted: 12/18/2006 11:22:12 PM | ^^^^^ We are all somebody's Angel from time to time and good for you! I loved Red's post as well.
Well I got the Spirit here and I don't even drink! Even have 2 Christmas trees set up in my front room. Happily twinkling out a glittery greeting to the night. No pets, no kids, just me in this huge 10 room house. Bought one turkey to give away and I'm gonna buy another one to-morrow too.
I am happy, and contented and gonna be spreadiiinnnnnggggggggg the Love Baby!!  to y'all anyhow. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 12:32:30 AM | Awww, well that is sweet Ruby, just awesome of you. I read your post and immediately got a little bit more glee in my heart, I know, maybe I am a little gushy when it comes to a time of sharing and giving. Doesn't matter how much I have or how much I will get either.
I've stuffed and roasted turkeys, carved them up and delivered them throughout the complex I was living in, my neighbours were just thrilled and how much work did that take?...none because I enjoyed doing it. I didn't even have a turkey dinner that year either, I think I had mine the next month, can't really remember but I was all alone and thats how I dealt with it.
I thought this thread was dead there for a couple of hours, but to me it just showed me that the bah humbugs were perhaps feeding off each other and not in a good way, glad us gals just stepped in and maybe burst a couple of balloons?...lol...I've just convinced myself that we changed a few minds and hearts.
Thanks for being, just thanks.
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