| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 2:03:52 PM |
wow. It's always the linebackers that get pissed. lol.
Say, when you wear yellow do people run after you and yell "TAXI!"
Give me a break lady... I really don't care what a 48 yr old "seperated" fat woman with no kids thinks of me.
You shouldn't insult others. It doesn't feel good does it?
I can see why your husband left you.
Get a life will ya?
And stop "hating"
btw.. I can guarantee I have FAR more education than you AND make more money.
What the f*ck is your problem? You think you are a good catch???
Maybe for an old man.
Daveincarson, perhaps the reason we reacted severely to your earlier post is because you gave a very striated, yet generalized, set of "rules" for all people. Believe it or not, I have dated athletic men, but according to your rules, that would never happen. I also earn a middle class income and have dated men with money. I am average in looks, yet have dated handsome men, go figure! I am old, yet have lived with and dated younger men.
There is no set of ground rules that cover everyone and you cannot prescribe or proscribe attraction.
But back to the question of obesity. I "rejected" an obese man last week because I didn't find him physically attractive and because he smokes--this was after a series of polite rebuffs I had given him for a couple of years. He wanted to know specifically why I wouldn't date him. When I was honest, his polite demeanor went out the window and I was suddenly a shallow she-dog.
The hypocrisy of this is that he was attracted to me because of my pics; if he had perceived me as ugly, he never would have bothered. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 2:26:17 PM | Funny, the only one who didn't "flame" me is athletic and beautiful.
Like I said, always the "linebackers" that get pissed.
I'm sorry reality is so hard to accept. Don't waste your time "flaming" me. It's a complete waste of time.
It was simply my opinion based on what I have seen in my life. This is precisely why I do not post much on these forums any longer. Insecure people get so defensive.
Notice the post after mine? She is pretty and athletic. She did not flame me.
If you are overweight (which most of you are that posted on this forum) you should not even be on this post!!!
I'm sure the guy has no problem getting overweight women. So why are you trying to answer his question?? Give me a break.
"average" or "athletic" women should be answering this guys question.
aaaah.. I'm not posting on these forums.
Later
P.S. Showing off your legs like a hooker still is not going to change the fact that you are overweight.
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 2:46:32 PM |
P.S. Showing off your legs like a hooker still is not going to change the fact that you are overweight.
And flaming women who don't fit your ideas of beauty does not change the fact that you lack class. Showing off your muscles doesn't change the fact that you have skin the thickness of a Kleenex.
"average" or "athletic" women should be answering this guys question.
By your illogical reasoning, YOU shouldn't be answering his question either since you are neither female nor overweight.
Notice the post after mine? She is pretty and athletic. She did not flame me.
Neither did she corroborate your generalized statement. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 3:05:58 PM |
I'm sure the guy has no problem getting overweight women. So why are you trying to answer his question?? Give me a break.
In addition HE did not address his question to athletic women, he stated:
I'm sure a lot of you good looking women out Big or Small and/or Short and tall.
and then amended it to
Correction: women out there Big
He did not aim his question specifically toward athletic or slim women.
He goes on to say:
And I would say that there might be two women that I would like to ask out. One was Asian and slightly overweight as well
and
I have dated a nice overweight romantic woman util she started playing head games and she put in a situation, where I had to walk away without saying a thing. It hurt to walk away, because I lobved her. But my sanity and self-respect was more important. I would date an over weight romantic woman, who could appreciate the romance that I would give her.
So not only was he NOT aiming his query specifically at thin, athletic women, he was interested in a slightly overweight women.
Before you start spouting incorrect information, read the posts. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 4:13:46 PM | Hey ladies, I'm a nice guy who is honest and romantic. Why won't women look on the inside of a person. I'm sure a lot of you good looking women out Big or Small and/or Short and tall. You Could find true love with a short overweight person like me, who would treat you right and with respect. Well I find when you ladies get treated like this you run the opposite way. Why?
I honestly would not worry about the women who turn you away, Rocky. I once (prior to the Army years of today) was around 240lbs in weight compared to today's 175lbs. I admit that I enjoy the occassional use of romantic inuendo. When I was overweight I did notice that some women are shallow to that and today, still notice the same occurance. For some women, regardless of your weight, certain styles of romantic interest aren't entirely interesting to them. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 4:30:02 PM | Rocky,
Maybe most of the women that dont want to date you are the ones that wouldn't date you even if you had 30 lbs less....forget about those.
I guarantee you that there are some out there that look at you inner self and just keep looking and trying w/o losing the good attitude. Do not lose faith in people that see beyond the exterior packaging....there are plenty.
I have plenty of examples I could give you, here I will give you one:
I have a very handsome and intelligent cousin that married this cute girl with similar qualities but that unfortunately had polio. She always was limping....they are happy as can be and have 4 kids. Cousin now maybe 54-55....but we all went to college together, so have this example always present in my life. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 6:20:42 PM |
aaaah.. I'm not posting on these forums.
thank you
you obviously have nothing of value to contribute, otherwise you wouldn't deem it necessary to make such puerile attacks
there is enough venom on the boards without your input | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 6:31:03 PM | DAMN! You are HUGE! You are a heart attack waiting to happen. (I'm serious!)
You should post a full body pic rather than a deceiving one of your face.
And again another "aesthetically pleasing" woman agreed with me.
And no I do not use steroids, so don't even try that one for a comeback
Fat women should be banned from these f*cking forums.. They are the ONLY ones who give me a hard time..
geeee.. wonder why? | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:39:15 PM | I personally love guys with some meat on their bones! I understand the dificulty in finding someone willing to look deeper then the cover of the book- and for some reason many men my age who are bigger want a tiny little skinny thing to be by their side. We will all find that one person who makes our lips smile and our hearts sing, but dangit, they need to hurry up! | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:49:01 PM | I could not be romantic with a heavy man. If I looked inside I would see heart problems, artery problems, vein problems, lung problems, diabetes, and the list goes on. I don't want to look on the inside of a heavy man. I would never find true love with someone that is not healthy.
A tall man in good physical condition can treat me right and with respect. It doesn't have anything to do with height or physical condition, it has to do with the person. Don't dis people in good shape. They don't treat you like crap just because they care about their health.
If someone is running in the opposite direction, it is because they don't care for you. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/11/2009 6:20:20 AM | I would date a nice romantic man if he was big or slim. I myself have a few extra pounds and find that it can be an issue when tryna meet someone people tend to focus a little too much on the looks and then they wonder why they might be disapointed.
You will find someone great hun you just need to have a little patience. I will happen though. I wish you the best of luck on your search and I hope you find what you're looking for. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/11/2009 11:53:37 AM |
DAMN! You are HUGE! You are a heart attack waiting to happen. (I'm serious!)
maybe that's part of the problem, you take yourself too seriously...you're actually really quite funny in the way you have to attack and try to belittle all the time -you don't seem to realize that the only person you're belittling is yourself
You should post a full body pic rather than a deceiving one of your face.
none of the pics i have up are deceiving, or so the chap i met the other day told me... and i do have a full body pic up...oops, you can't see my toes... my bad ;)
And again another "aesthetically pleasing" woman agreed with me.
she is lovely but she's not necessarily agreeing with you, she is saying that often men won't choose to date overweight women - there's a difference
And no I do not use steroids, so don't even try that one for a comeback
i have no desire to comment on your photos, i think you probably have enough thoughts on them yourself without my need to... although i doubt they're thoughts i'd agree with; i'm attracted to blokes who are naturally attractive, inside and out
Fat women should be banned from these f*cking forums.. They are the ONLY ones who give me a hard time..
perhaps because you're so rude to them?
fat can be changed, ugly personalities, not so easily... | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:01:40 PM | | OP: People are usually attracted to the physical at first. Instead of being down about it you should be constructive and put your energy into living right, exercising and trying to be as healthy as you can. Trust me, once you see and feel the results from being a little healthier you will be happier about yourself and probably have a better chance to have the relationship you're looking for. I was always the fat kid at school and I'd still be the fat guy if I didn't take control of the situation and turn it around. Just don't tell yourself you're too old, too big, etc. to do it. It's a great thing to do for yourself both mentally and physically and you'll feel great regardless of what happens in your dating life. Good luck to you. You seem like a good guy. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:03:10 PM | Well before October 17,2008, I was 55 lbs heavier. I still have alot more weight to lose but I feel so much healthier weighing less. For me, it's unattractive to be overweight..I know how I felt...Also, I would worry that if we got together romantically, you might be able to keep up with me, I don't want to be crushed, and its more of a medical issue as well..Would your heart be able to handle the stress of having continous sex for 20 minutes to a half an hour? I can't answer that...
I was married to an overweight guy..but he was tall, 6 ft 1 inch or 6 ft 2 inch..weighed about 250 lbs, size 14 shoe...I always worried about whether he was going to have a heart attack because of the heaviness in his breathing (more than normal during sex)
Why not try to lose the weight and be healthier? The weight didn't come on in a few months, It probably took years to get to the poundage you are talking about...Sorry, I am being bluntly honest.
When women are short and fat, most men want to take advantage of us as if we were a doormat and just use us for a one night stand..
That's all I have to say . | |
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Posted: 5/11/2009 3:07:53 PM | Some of these messages are really annoying me not everyone man out there likes a stick thin woman!!! I get messaged all the time by men saying they like the look of a fuller figure. I also know men who only go for big women!!!
What i'm tryna say is that there's something out there for everyone and everyone has a different type so just because you personally might not like something doesn't mean someone else won't. No need to be rude and nasty to people about their shape. It's hard enough meeting someone nice without the added pressure from online bullies! | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/11/2009 7:42:17 PM | | I think its just overall attraction. I am not skinny but not really over weight . I have dated extremely over weight men who I was very attracted to but then also same for thinner guys. I've found thin athletic guys with toned bodies who I thought were not attractive at all even though nice guys, and same goes for over weight. Beauty on the inside is really what it boils down to but there still has to be that general attraction for it to work. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2009 4:51:16 PM | | Being over weight is not a detriment, focusing on it makes you feel unattractive, makes you lose confidence in the qualities you have that will sustain a relationship beyond the first orgasm. Be a better man everyday learn to care about yourself in ways other than the physical attributes you do or don't possess and you will find someone who will boil rabbits for you all night long! | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/16/2009 8:38:22 AM | Obviously I can only answer for myself . When it comes to friends , I have friends of all sizes , shapes , and physicalities.
But when it comes to finding a mate - who will likely also become my lover - I tend to be physically drawn to lean folks - on occasion, even downright skinny . It's just my thing .  | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/16/2009 9:51:46 AM | I believe the OP has left the forum, a while back.
"why wont women date nice romantic overweight gentlemen?"
Nice-----all women want a nice guy. They assume when they start dating a guy, that he is nice.
Romantic-----I, personally hate seeing this in a profile. Everyone on this site looking for Mr or Miss Right is looking for romance. One person's idea of romance may be entirely different from the next person's. Women, or myself, I should say, am not looking for the guy who is romantic with everyone else. I dont want flowers or candy on the first date. They mean nothing, they are essentially from a stranger, to a stranger. Save the romance for when you know and care about the person. One last thought, using the romance card for sex, blows the effort to H***.
Overweight-----with all due respect OP, you are not overweight. At 5'6" and 230 pounds, your ideal weight should be 130-150 pounds. 230 pounds is Obese. It is already causing medical problems for you. Diabetes, I'm assuming you are also on antihypertensive, cardiac meds to help with the overload, possible a breathing machine at night. I dont imagine you could even keep up with a "model" type. Not to mention what the meds do to the libido.
You may very well be the greatest person in the world, but until it is in a package that people want, you will be overlooked. It happens to all of us, fat, thin, short, tall, smoker, kids, no kids, bad attitude. The great thing is, we all have the right to choose or not choose. We can only try to make ourselves better, so that we get chosen, lower our standards, or forget the whole damn thing.
{{{{ I would leave the restaurant coupon books at home, OP, especially for the first date.}}}} | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/16/2009 10:00:16 AM | yeah it all depends on the woman. i've had friends who had said that they wouldn't be with an overweight guy because medical issues will arise when trying to have kids.
medical school makes a person paranoid lol...
you'll find her
just stay healthy | |
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Posted: 5/16/2009 10:16:41 AM | Actually his profile is still on. Last thread he was in was a while back. Perhaps he forgot to cancel his account when the women flocked to him because he is romantic.
I like my in shape, nice, romantic, good guy. They exist.
We all can have health problems but, weight is something that should be controlled through diet and exercise. From reading all the latest statistics there are extremely few obese people that became obese without eating the wrong foods, too much food, and not exercising. Most people can loose weight by changing their lifestyle.
It is wrong to blame the other person for not wanting to get involved with someone we think has health problems or is a good candidate for having them in the near future. We all have preferences too and a man that exercises seems happier and more outgoing as well as more attractive to me. These aren't shallow reasons, they are legitimate. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 5/16/2009 6:15:29 PM | | It's a personal preference. I prefer to date a man who has a college education. This type of man usually seems to be happier and more outgoing and attractive to me. Lots of people who are not overweight sure seem to be giving advice and dising overweight men, etc. Unless they are/have been overweight, they know little about walking in his shoes. | |
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