pemsit
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Joined: 11/12/2006
Msg: 232 | |
| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 8/21/2007 8:40:49 AM | Women are more like men than you would think, We (men) are looking for that thin beautiful woman and they are looking for that tall, dark, handsome, thin man with lots of money.
As you grow older as I have I am less selective on the outer appearance than I was several years ago. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 8/21/2007 8:47:53 AM | Lot of pages on this thread and I didn't read all of them so if this has already been addressed--sorry!
I am 54 and tend to date men more my age. Just do not find myself compatible with men who are 10 or more years younger.
I like sex--no I LOVE sex--and it is a very important part of a relationship to me. What I have found is that the more overweight men are the first ones to start to lose sexual ability as they age. In fact the majority of overweight men are having severe difficulties by the time they are 60 years old and MANY much before that. And the more overweight they are, the earlier and more severely they experience this loss. Now I understand perfectly well that the sex can't go on forever, but I believe it is also a direct indicator of circulatory health in the majority of instances. In other words loss of sexual function at age 55 is nearly always an indicator of plaque build-up in the arteries, etc. leading to poor circulation which leads to all kinds of other problems.
If someone is willing to do that to themselves and others are willing to accept that--good for them. However, I work VERY hard to keep myself in great shape and I want my partner to do the same! Just can't help it. I want to stay as young feeling and healthy as I can and keep my sexual drive and abilities intact for as long as possible. I want to get the most out of this short life we have as is possible. My bf is almost 56 and in GREAT shape. We are extremely active and have lots of fun together, plus the sexual part of our relationship is astounding! Absolutely no different from when we were in our 20s. So long as we keep in shape I see no reason for this not to go on for at least another 20 years or more. And that is the way I like it and want it. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:23:35 PM | ^^^What she said ... 
Of course most of the guys will deny, deny, deny ... (they hate it when we "OUT" them) ... but it's just a known fact that the obesity and overweight contributes to ED in men ... especially the older they get.
OT ...
"Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen"?
I think some are willing to ... but there are a lot of reasons some of us are not inclined to get involved with them. Most "overweight" men my age struggle to get from their car to the entrance of a grocery store ... unless they park in the handicap area ... so how in the world would they be able to go on a walk with me? Make love to me longer than 3 minutes? Go on a bike ride with me? Go out dancing with me?
For us active ladies ... men who are overweight just generally have a really difficult problem keeping up.
Then there is the problem with having them on top in bed ... and pushing the air right out of you ... some to the point that you get the feeling you're going to suffocate. That turns a potentially wonderful experience into a frightening experience for me. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:29:17 PM | | I have no problem dating someone who is overweight. I just got out of a relationship with someone who had some weight issues, so trust me we are out here. Hoping that we can find men to love us for our shapes as well. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:31:00 PM | | Oh I forgot to add that he finally admitted that he doesn't like overweight women and didn't mind me so much because he knew that i had lost a large amount of weight. I told him have you looked in the mirror? | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:45:27 PM | | It's like any other aspect of your your personality or appearance,your either attracted to a person or your not.If there is no physical attraction ,you are doomed in a relationship.Does that mean no one will ever date you? Of course not.You have to find the right person and that's not as easy as it sounds.Also look at what you can do to improve your appearance,I was in an accident and had some injuries to my face,you can't see it now except for I'm missing 2 teeth,soon to be (expensive) permanently fixed.But that's up to you.Personality is great but it won't carry you through. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:25:33 PM | | Well you know...lets take this a little further friends....from a health point...overweight is not good.....I was married an overweight guy for many many years....his obesity affecting both our lives in all aspects......he eventually passed away..breaking our hearts all because of his poor eating habits and refusal to face up to his poor habits....so now I will never date an overweight man.......its not just his fat your living with..its his health in the long run...... | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:28:44 PM |
Hey ladies, I'm a nice guy who is honest and romantic. Why won't women look on the inside of a person. I'm sure a lot of you good looking women out Big or Small and/or Short and tall. You Could find true love with a short overweight person like me, who would treat you right and with respect. Well I find when you ladies get treated like this you run the opposite way. Why?
You could rephrase the question and ask why men generally don't want to date fat women. Being overweight is a major turnoff for both men and women. That's just the way it is and it isn't going to change anytime soon. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:33:36 PM | | Livelaughlove53 put it beautifully when she said overweight guys have difficulty...to be blunt fat guy have difficulty keeping or even attaining an erection...also who wants to make love spooning or looking in different directions because of a huge fat belly that gets in the way?????????/ | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:39:38 PM | | hey,it's not just women..most of the men whom I have talked to say that they haven't met anybody on here because the women have all been too fat...claiming that their pics don't match their bodies when they finally meet them...so,guys don't want fat women either,no matter how romantic they are,at least the ones I've talked to..mind you they were no raving beauties either...most fat people tend to look healthy,nice skin,bright eyes,good teeth,no wrinkles,at least not in their face,but I guess that doesn't matter...so,tit for tat..BTW...OP,are you looking at chubby women? How many dates have you had with women who match you?.. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/16/2008 8:19:10 PM | | A few extra pounds is not a dealbreaker. But I'm not attracted to fat men. Just like some men aren't attracted to me because I'm thin, tall, "too old" etc. Many of the people who complain about being rejected due to their weight have rejected others due to some physical trait. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/17/2008 12:59:59 PM | | OK, so I have to be real honest....I won't date a guy that is shorter than me (I am 5ft8). I just don't feel comfortable, that's all. Was once told by a shorter guy that I might miss my "soulmate" that way and I told him that it wouldn't be my soulmate. Anyhow, he is not real overweight but he is not attracted to heavier woman........the morale of the story? We are all looking for specific traits, let's not fool ourselves. We are visual beings afterall. On that note, somebody could be real sexy and attractive and buff, if he is stupid, I won't go there either! gem | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/17/2008 3:15:06 PM | I am a big girl and I am dating a big guy... Before him I had a skinny boyfriend. And I do not miss it at all. I enjoy my soft and warm boyfreind. I am sure we look like two teddy bears together, but who cares, as soon as we are happy!  | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:11:47 PM | Some women like short, overweight men.
Maybe hoards of women are not running after you....and that is okay...only some men and women have it like that where they are in "high demand", and even those people sometimes still don't have meaningful relationships.
I think you should just continue looking as someone out there will like you. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:19:33 PM | ok, I know I am going to get some flack for this, but according to Dr. Oz (Oprah's pal) a man gains an inch of penis for every 30 lbs he loses....So, one could conclude that if you are overweight you most likely have a small penis, or perhaps it just gets hidden...
Not to mention the sweating and heavy breathing, snoring, etc....
so go ahead all of you, and tell me this is superficial, but I am not attracted to overweight men....and I have a lot of men tell me that the first thing they noticed about me is my trim body...and, by the way, I lost 65 lbs 8 years ago and have kept it off, due to willpower and portion control, so I have been heavy and stepped up and changed my life...no way would I date someone who couldnt do the same. Sorry, in our society, fat is gross, and I didnt invent that idea.. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 8/31/2008
Msg: 249 | |
| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/17/2008 4:46:33 PM | Well, I am going to duck after responding...
I probably wouldn't go out with a man who is very overweight. Hear me out on this one, though! As we get older, we all develop those natural "sags", some wrinkles where they weren't any before, and other things. My own posterior can get a bit big if I let it! I don't, though, due to careful eating, walking to work, and a lot of yoga.
So, yeah, I work on keeping slim and trim. I like to, for my own self-confidence. I like fitting into size 8 clothing, and I like to look as good as possible in the mid-40s. I do expect a man to do the same. Now, a little pot belly is OK and often can't be helped! That can be kind of cute. And, I'm not expecting a muscleman...never was attracted to them, anyway. I do like to be pretty active, and I want someone who can be the same way.
A waist is a terrible thing to mind (but I'll mind it anyway.)
Ducking now...! | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/18/2008 7:08:20 PM | | A lot of men think that their beer belly is ok, yet they would never date a woman with a beer belly, maybe a big bum would be ok to them. Or perhaps they want a girl with a big chest, but never consider that their man-boobs are bigger. Actually I think that more men will not date overweight women than the other way around. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:46:09 PM | | Well I can relate to this big time. I am 5'8" tall and I used to weigh 375 lbs. That's right 25 lbs. shy of the big 400! I love to eat. One day I noticed I felt tired all the time and that I was always thirsty. The more sodas and sweet tea I drank the thirstier I became. I went to the doctor and just as I suspected I was diabetic. He told me if I didn't 't lose weight, change my eating habits and excecise. I would be on insulin in a year and dead in another. So I said I don't want to die of course, he gave me some pills and I went home and started walking every night around 10:00 pm so people wouldn't be likely to notice me. In a few days I started jogging some of the 2 mile route. Then I was jogging all of it. Three months later I was 35 lbs lighter. Then before I knew it I was 190 lbs. Muscle weighs more than fat and carrying around all that fat while jogging helps build muscle. Today I weigh 190 lbs. I no longer take any medication. Hell at 47 years old I even date the 27 year old daughter who's parents are close Friends of mine. I said all that to say I know there are some women who don't have a bit of trouble loving a big man. I do believe that the majority of them would prefer a trim man. What I do know is both men and women who prefer the trim people are missing out on some great people and some passionate love. Hang in there Rocky. Just be who you are and know you are a beautiful person. Being big is fine as long as you stay healthy. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 9/19/2008 7:20:43 AM | I have found, much to my disappointment, that in the cyber-dating world the term "romantic" is synonymous with "desperate", "needy" and "clingy". I tend to avoid "romantic" profiles, and instead head straight for the "in your face honesty...even if you don't like it" type.
Weight & height have nothing to do with it...my FWB is a heavier, average looking guy with a SEXY brain! | |
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