| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 10/24/2005 1:16:45 PM | | its simple dood! i was once more so over weight now im eating right and taking care of myself. weight problems are your problem its not the appearance its the health at ages up from 21 women want to settle down a overweight man is more in trouble of death come on face it its your choice to stay that way take the will power i tell ya one thing a women loves a man who loses weight lol shows strength and make you look better internally | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 10/24/2005 3:47:43 PM | Keep looking, I like a man on the cuddly side, I have always been muscular and on the chubby side, just me. I have dated men thinner and bigger, just depends on the man. Some people cannot help the metabolism they were given. Show me the soul of a person because that is what I am looking for..... | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 7:15:11 AM | Why won't women date ugly guys?
Why won't women date short guys?
Why won't women date tall guys?
Why won't women date poor guys?
Why won't women date rich guys?
Why won't women date nice guys?
Why won't women date mean guys?
The list goes on and on. Another generalization thread. Call the waaahmbulance!
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 11:30:33 AM | Hey I would take an overweight guy who is caring and loyal over a pretty boy with a bad attitude anyday. Like my teddy bears, always have. More cuddly and not as likely to take their woman for granted. Sounds like a smart choice to me in the long run. The outside of a person changes and lets face it, mother nature can be cruel over time. The inside however seems to work in reverse.....it gets better in time. Inner beauty is much more important and if more people realized it, the world would be a happier and healthier place overall. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 3:52:07 PM | I have dated short men/tall men/fat men/skinny men/men with muscles..when a woman treats a man real good..he gets an ego like he is all that and a bag of chips and decided to "contact" ALL THE BEAUTIFUL GALS on ALL personals sites..
Thats the thanks I get... | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 3:59:17 PM | For me it's not so much about the size as it is about the attitude. I dated a guy recently who was rather large...and I had NO problem with that. What I DID have a problem with was that he would complain about his weight...whine that he should really do something to lose weight then stuff his face with a whole box of hamburger helper or a serving bowl full of spaghetti and sauce....or just sit on his ass all the time instead of staying active. I figure if you're happy with your weight...the attitude will shine through and I will be interested. But if you're not, but aren't ready to do something to change it then your attitude is wrong, and I am not interested. I have been overweight myself, but I didn't sit around whining about it...I did something. And just to clarify, this is in NO way meant to cut anyone down about their size!! It's just to say that it's more the attitude and self confidence that I am attracted to than the size of a person.
ETA: I forgot to mention that I know sometimes the person is unable to do anything about their weight...bad metabolism etc...and that's different. I am talking about the ones that eat enough to feed 6 people but still whine that they are overweight....I mean really.... | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 4:05:52 PM | At the risk of sounding like a jack*ss...
Women don't date nice, romantic, overweight gentlemen because they are overweight. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and not everyone finds beauty in extra weight.
Believe me, I'm overweight, so I see where you're coming from.
I am losing weight as we speak though. What are you doing? | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 4:50:51 PM | Possibly for the same reasons men don't look past the short, round. pushing 50 aspect of a woman. There are many shallow people in this world, but, there are also just as many people who can look past the physical to the true person underneath. I was married for 22 years to a man who was 5'6" and when we met weighed 120lbs soaking wet. He had made it up to 140 when we lost him. I always out-weighed him. But he didn't care, he was all about the personality, not just the person. Don't let those who wish to turn this into a critique of your person, personality and/or of overweight people in general get to you. Pick what works for you and ignore the rest.  | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 5:22:49 PM | | Lose the weight for you own good. Just start eating lots of raw veggies and you'll drop 10 pounds in a week. You'll feel a hundred times better and you'll live longer too. Then try posting a photo. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 6:15:01 PM | Most of the time that women turn down men that they find unattractive, there is a reason. I have dated a lot of men that are not considered the "norm" of attractive males, but it's because I'm not necessarily attracted to "good-looking" guys. What I do find myself looking at is the confident man that takes care of himself (not necessarily muscles, etc.), but clean, healthy and happy. The reason is that when someone loves themself enough to care for him/herself, THEN they can be reliant to be respectful to his/her other halfs. An example is this (though extreme)... if you meet someone into self-mutilation would you trust him with your daughter? In a way, obesity is a type of self-mutilation... their chances of being around to love and care for you is lessened, their ability to participate in many activities is shortened and most importantly -- they generally aren't as content. This is an emotional issue because of the surrounding population, but if you ask any doctor, they will more than likely tell you that the chemistry of the overweight person is off-center as well... leading to depression.
Now, who wants to be with someone that's depressed? You can argue with these statements as much as you like, but they will not change. I'm not saying that you're a bad person at all... quite the opposite. What I'm leading to is that YOU need to take responsibility to realize that you owe it to yourself (not the women) to feel good about yourself. You are fortunate... fat can be lost... there are other things that cannot. You deserve a wonderful woman and you deserve to be happy. The happiness comes first.... do it! | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 6:20:03 PM | Most of the time that women turn down men that they find unattractive, there is a reason. I have dated a lot of men that are not considered the "norm" of attractive males, but it's because I'm not necessarily attracted to "good-looking" guys. What I do find myself looking at is the confident man that takes care of himself (not necessarily muscles, etc.), but clean, healthy and happy. The reason is that when someone loves themself enough to care for him/herself, THEN they can be reliant to be respectful to his/her other halves. An example is this (though extreme)... if you meet someone into self-mutilation would you trust him with your daughter? In a way, obesity is a type of self-mutilation... their chances of being around to love and care for you is lessened, their ability to participate in many activities is shortened and most importantly -- they generally aren't as content. This is an emotional issue because of the surrounding population, but if you ask any doctor, they will more than likely tell you that the chemistry of the overweight person is off-center as well... leading to depression.
Now, who wants to be with someone that's depressed? You can argue with these statements as much as you like, but they will not change. I'm not saying that you're a bad person at all... quite the opposite. What I'm leading to is that YOU need to take responsibility to realize that you owe it to yourself (not the women) to feel good about yourself. You are fortunate... fat can be lost... there are other things that cannot. You deserve a wonderful woman and you deserve to be happy. The happiness comes first.... do it! | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/19/2006 11:39:28 PM | unfortunately looks/appearance is the number one attraction.
Now this is not at all a knock at you women ok?
Now when any woman expereinces dating a really good looking guy, she is going to want to date a guy like that once again. The standard has been set. She enjoyed the way she was treated and how she was viewed in a different light by people, seeing her with a really good looking guy. So if the relationship ends, she will seek that samething out and not settle for an average or overweight guy no matter how great he is. Human nature and instincts. If she liked what she experienced she will be wanting that again.
It is like reaching the top and you go back down, you want to reach the top again because, well you liked it.
Not at all shallow or superficial, just human nature. So it is a game of chance, some women have not expereinced dating guys like that but many have, especially as we get older into our 30's.
Only my thoughts here and not meant to ruffle anyone's feathers, just a point of view i have seen among many women I know. | |
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Hezron
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/20/2006 3:51:40 PM | | It is simple. If your experiences teaches you that something about you limits your access to the opposite sex...change it or except it. Everything else is just talk. If you don't like your reality, change it. | |
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/20/2006 4:01:15 PM | hezron, very well said. In my opinion and reading through these posts I think he is handicapping himself. He doesn't sound like he likes himself enough to be worthy of someone. So, I agree. If you don't like something about yourself then do something about it. You have to be happy with yourself to make things happen, such as women dating nice, romantic, overwieght, gentlemen. I see this a lot. I see overwieht men and women with very attractive SO's. I think the problem is more with your confidence and how you feel about yourself rather than how others see you.
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/21/2006 12:52:17 PM | | I just think ti is all perception...who knows, we all get down and disappointed at some point..then it is all up from there. I think alot forget you gotta have fun in the dating game, disappointment does happen alot, but have fun in general. make the person laugh when you meet them and if it does not go anywhere...just keep your chin up | |
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outdo
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Joined: 2/16/2006
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/21/2006 1:07:43 PM | i don't date big men
i guess there are lots of things why I don't date big boyz
I don't think that we would have enough in common due to lifestlye differences, obviously
I value thin, young and beautiful..just as society taught me..I personally value being able to take care of myself and being healthy and energetic. I 'd hope the same from my partner too.
one thing that comes to mind is what do you do that makes you big, even if you are a great romantic
i doubt that you are good for those long walks and talks
Would you feel uncomfortable at the beach??
or would you be one of the guys who dive right in..
Can you pick me up and throw me over your shoulder when we fool around?
the other thing that comes to mind is sexual and we won't go there
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Hezron
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 3/21/2006 4:49:48 PM | Outdo...You hit the nail right n the head!!!!!!!!! Thank you. If society taught you that eating dirt was just the best would you do it? I am serious. Would you? The misnomer of of thin is attractive goes against everyhting nature teaches us...and most men will admit that they perfer a well proportioned rounded and curvy woman and not a runway thin kate moss type. The proof in the pudding. Pornography. Look at the girls. They are not thin. Actions speak louder than words. Unconsciously men are attracted to a fertile woman who is in good health and displays attriibutes of same. The thin thing is an unfortunate myth. Am I saying people are attracted to people who are at the extreme end. No. it is just a big natural bell curve where tastes flatten out at one end at anorexic and the other at obese.
Another point is why do people who are very athletic and active think they have a right to openly call anyone who does not live the same lifestyle as them derogatory terms. In your own profile you use the term "slacker" Just an observation...and I don't mean to single you out as it is an interesting and common phenomena. It reeks of the self righteous and the self important. Why can't people just say " Hey...I like to work out at the gym and keep active and so would like somebody who has similar interests. When people use derogatory terms for people who do not share their point of view it is usally a sign of insecurity. Just something to think about. | |
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linne
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Joined: 11/7/2005
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