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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/16/2007 5:09:14 PM | hey if this weather blows over , ILL be down there ,..........................
with my hands over my eyes eeeish ! | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/16/2007 8:25:16 PM | If "the woman" is worth having, she will consider herself the luckiest person alive to find one of "you good guys." I know this for a fact. Because 27 years ago, i married one of you "good guys". We got better with each passing year. When my friends first met him, I heard, "God, he's so nice; he's toooo nice, how long do you think this will last before you get bored he's so nice?!" more than once.
Well. They were wrong. We were together 22 years until i lost him to ALS. If i ever meet another "nice guy", believe me: i'll know exactly what to do with him. I'll thank my lucky stars that i'm getting another chance to be one blissfully happy woman. Because i know what i know: no man can make a woman feel love day after ordinary day like a nice guy can love a woman! | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/17/2007 6:08:16 PM | AMEN  ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/17/2007 6:28:07 PM | oh boy, oh boy..oh boy... .. sorry "job interview" wasnt succesfull...
i'm agree that lots of us women are unrealistic... but we also had/have "job interview(s)" and tired of all BS.. either in mail box, IM or face-to-face...
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 4/20/2007 9:00:48 PM | Theres no time like the present. Come on man, if you really are serious then what is holding you back. Just be youself, dont try to be something your not to try andplease that person, you will be making a bad mistake, Me personaly have a respect for the female species, but I will not be run over by anyone. Im a man who works hard, does things with my friends,cause if you dont go around your friends to hide your new found loveare you jealous or afaid of losing her to one of your friends, if that happens you didnt need that person anyway. Great to find out early. Just be yourself,stand tall and be proud of You, Your the last person that you want to let down, go get that special lady.     | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:19:47 AM | It seems both sexes come into this with so many reservations and fears from past relationships. Most of the women I talk to balk at even meeting for a coffee or anything. Makes me wonder sometimes what the hell is wrong with me, but I think I've figured out that it's not me. I'm a decent guy and I'm not bad looking. I've got a good job and I'm still fairly young. I think most women just don't know what they want and tend to let past hurts and fears rule the present and apply them to every man out there. Understandable to an extent, but if you're not really looking for a relationship then why are you here?
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 4/21/2007 4:27:32 PM | I agree with Bonnie (comment posted 3/7/07) Us women want to be liked for "who" we are... and I will like to add that most of us have disposed of past baggage and drama. "Some of us" do not dump past experiences on the guys we have just met... everyone is different and should be treated as such.
So Mr. Good Guy... open all channels and be recipient... your good woman may be closer than you expect.     | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 4/21/2007 10:49:37 PM | There are a few major problems with the good guys getting the girl...
guys are rarely as good as they think.. lol. They'll quantify goodness by all the wrong criteria (at least what matters to a good woman)
but the major hurdles are the fact that after a few hard lumps from relationships, the good women are no longer good, and the good guys are no longer good guys.
each and every bad relationship makes you more jaded, more selective, and more selfish. It may even turn a good guy into a complete dirtbag, or a good woman into a total man eater.
the other problem is that so many self procclaimed good guys are... boring. HAving a good and kind heart is fine, but if you don't appeal to a girl's *other* senses, then you're left with two choices... boring women who don't know any better, or short term co-dependant women who don't really want you, but just want someone.
good guy = door mat ONLY when the good guy lets it happen. The knee jerk reaction later is to not be such a good guy. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 4/21/2007 11:18:36 PM | I look at it like this, when I was with my wife women wanted to be treated the way I treated her. They love to have someone that would take care of them and put them on a pedestal. But with a good guy that treats women like that their personality is less likely to make them all excited there for you get "just freinds".
It sad to say but more women took notice of me while I was married then they do now seprated. And to take that one step further women don't tend to get involed with single fathers that have custody of their kids. That throws out all of those descriptions of the women looking for family oriented men because they don't have the free time that the women want. They may say it's great to see an active father but it means you don't have the time, or possible the money that they are looking for.
For the most part it's all about the excitment thats why the bad boys win out.
Sorry my kids come first! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 2:47:00 PM | I really haven't been on these forums at all because I am too busy keeping my 10th grade Special Ed. students in line and on their way to a diploma, but I can see a woman who only wants bad boys (and I do mean "boys") from a mile away, only because I have known them as personal friends. They seem to have a low self-esteem and are confused at who is best for them. They have had a series of bad relationships with these bad boys, yet they never learn their lesson no matter how many times their friends tell them to get rid of the bad boys because he will only hurt you. When they have been hurt so many times that they finally learn who they really want, the good guys (if they are smart!) will not want such a tortured soul because the good guys know they are totally damaged goods and we feel helpless trying to date them because their trust is gone, never mind their psyche. I am a good guy (or at least I try to always live up to a very high standard), but I am in no hurry to run off with the next supermodel who comes along, because 9 times out of 10 they are one of these women who have been fractured (or broken) emotionally, and I have enough on my plate with building up the self-esteem of my urban Special Ed. students without more drama outside of school. Bars are just full of these broken souls, so the only time I go there is if I want a good microbrew and some food, or a really good live band. It is interesting reading everyone's take on this subject.  | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 4/29/2007 1:14:50 PM | | he has a point. i will vouch for that. i have went wit all the bad guys. i have even gotten hurt from the guys from a one night stand from them saying that they wont leave me and stuff like that. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 5/2/2007 5:23:38 PM | how about going to city Island ,
place called sea food city , the place is cheap, but they have
a bar on the outside deck get a quick bit and have a few drinks
and if you don t drink alcohal you can get a soda or coffee Im sure,
the I dea is just to get out and meet someone how about sat 5, | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 5/3/2007 2:46:40 PM | It’s strange but true; many women go for men who don't care. I’ve had girls that I was crazy for whom I would always call back and never broke a date...only to be "friends." But then I’ve had girls that I would forget to call or cancel last minute because something would come up, and they would call everyday and bend over backwards to try to meet up again. The kicker is when I finally gave up on this one girl I was crazy about. I would call her and she would talk for a minute and then say she was busy and hang up. One day I quit trying and after a week of not calling her back, she started calling me several times a day and trying to set up dates.
I would still say that I’m a "nice guy" but I finally stopped being the doormat and it works much better. Women don’t want a guy who will sit there and agree with everything and smile. They might have a nice time with that guy but absolutely no excitement and in the end that's really what most women want.
Course if I really had it all figured out, I probably wouldn't be on this site in the first place. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 12/28/2007 4:34:42 PM | | The reason women are attracted to bad guys is not because they don't want to be treated well but because bad guys are unpredicble, they generaly are confident in what they want, and in most parts know how to get what they want. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 12/29/2007 3:56:54 PM | I am a good genuine woman that made mistakes in the past and have learned the hard way from them. But now I am looking to meet my mr. right...but i can't find him anywhere. I have met all the mr. wrongs...
Any of you men going to be at Jacobi's single mingle? | |
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