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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:41:15 PM | you sound like you've got it together-Great perspective -it's realistic yet hopeful- a lot of people don't have a strong sense of themselves-so confidence & self respect are off balance or non existent-I agree that if you don't see your own value-your'e not going to be able to identify it in others & you're probably always going to find or pick poor matches-jk | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/20/2007 4:22:08 AM | Lets see... where to start? Im one of those women who prefer the bad boy look..but i have learned years and years ago that that was a bad idea for me. In the past 3 years i have dated many men from this site and have no problem dating out side the box. it has been however with the exception of 2...( and they know who they are) That even the so called good guys are all the same....some women may like the bad boys and thats ok........but 95 percent of the men i have encounterd want their women to be a barbie doll.. ! i have listed on the profile extra pounds... all photos are recent and have even webcamed men so that they would know exactly what they were getting..but yet i more then half the dates from the so called nice guys ends up with me hearing( you have a beautiful face but your just not my type) SO TELL ME NICE GUYS... WHATS UP WITH THAT!! | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:07:18 AM | | A so called nice guy is seldom a nice guy and hence the problem occurs. People can say what they wish it is their actions that truely define them. The trick is to learn to see what someone does and therefor learn who they are. Not to be blinded by what they look like or bewildered by what they say. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/20/2007 4:11:03 PM | Three cheers for all the "Good guys"....In reading this thread, it borders on the edge of "Begging"...Can anyone define "Good guys"?..I'm sure everyone has thier own idea of what a good guy is...but is that what a "Good Girl" wants??...of course they'll say yes..but the proof is in thier choosings..so get off of you "self-pity wagon" and join the "Band wagon". Be yourself, cause anything else perpetrates a fraud and you will eventually get busted for the "Bad guy" that you are...woohoo...   | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/22/2007 1:44:10 PM | I agree I think we all have an idea who we would like to meet and date. I also agree that what might be a badboy to u is not a badboy to me and the same with good guys.
I would like to know this....If ur looking for a certain body type y not say that in ur profile writing. That would leave less typing LOL and we nice ladies wouldnt have to bother the "nice" guys | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/22/2007 3:52:04 PM | | Lmao......usually the good guy gets the woman after shes been broken by some other idiot.....you know the type...shes got low self esteem, and such.......then you show her how she should be treated.....youre kind and nice....and pretty soon she figures out she can do way better than you....and leaves...... | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/23/2007 5:52:44 AM | | My name is Ken I want a girlfriend but I dont have a car after all I am paying when I take you out not the car. Ken | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/23/2007 7:09:37 AM | Hi folks....
Just my few cents for whatever it's worth...
I think that what defines a "good guy" is different for each individual person. I've talked with many nice women who might not be model-thin, and have heard that they don't even get a second glance by "most" men.
I've heard an equal number of attractive women say "Ohh I just love the strong, silent type, or I just love a bad boy type"...which makes me laugh...simply because those are the same girls that will complain that their man runs around, never calls or doesn't communicate!
I think it's all too easy for people to get jaded, or lose their perspective with respect to relationships. The important thing is to build a life that is full of the things you love to do...that way the whole aspect of dating isn't such a HUGE part of your life, but rather one small part of the whole. And when there are dry spells, or whatever...you don't end up consumed with worry over it.
I really do think the first step to recognizing the right person for you, is to know who YOU are first!
Good luck everyone! | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/23/2007 9:26:18 AM | | well men, there is an interesting undertone to this thread. if you nice guys are getting the same results then you need to try something new. if you are confident then you should be satisfied with your relationships or satisfied to not be in one, remember you are choosing to be exactly where you are. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/24/2007 3:37:18 PM | hi I am one of the good guys, I may not be the best looking guy in the room,
but I have feeling s and am an interesting person, I have referrence s LOLLOL,
I think if there are 4 good guys and 1 bad guy in a room the woman would almost
automatical hone in on the bad guy, it seem s to be a force of nature, so tell
me Im wronge and take a chance on me, Bronx NY | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/24/2007 4:27:09 PM | | Hi...Ive gotten a bad taste from these sites because so many people are not honest! What is that?? They post a picture from 10 yrs ago, with the possibility of meeting someone...So I dont think its just men...Women wonder where the good men are too!! Its just so hard to meet people, and the computers have made it so easy to meet people...But never sure if they are real...thanks :) | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/24/2007 5:34:23 PM | well beens how im a girl and a good hearted one if that . i say when guys dont act like lying cheating jerks. been there done that way to many times.  we woman know what we want . guys on the other like to play around. and when i find a good guy that isnt about sex then ill let u know and guys why do u think with one head and not the one above the shoulders either . so that is ur problem  | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/24/2007 6:31:24 PM | lets be honest now, when a man and a woman want to get together ,
99% of the time sex is involved one way or another, otherwize we wouldn t
get together at all, thing here is not to make it the only reason you wanna
ge together, thats where the good guys come in, we want sex as much as
everyone else but we want more, compaionship, a partner for the long haul
someone to kiss good night and someone to have breakfast with in the
morning, it would be nice if it could be the same person ( LOLLOLLOL)
take a chance | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/27/2007 6:46:08 PM | ok here is one i want to vent about......nice guys my a.. u send an email or a hi to someone and why cant men just at least say not my type ??? again ill ask why cant men just at least say not my type??????????????????/
i dont know about the rest of the gals here but dam im tired of it, and wanted to just vent on that one, sooo i laugh at the good guys bad guys thing here good or bad they arent good, kind, or respectful enough to respond
ok thanks for letting me vent phew feel better now LOL | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/28/2007 6:07:42 AM |
ok here is one i want to vent about......nice guys my a.. u send an email or a hi to someone and why cant men just at least say not my type ??? again ill ask why cant men just at least say not my type??????????????????/
i dont know about the rest of the gals here but dam im tired of it, and wanted to just vent on that one, sooo i laugh at the good guys bad guys thing here good or bad they arent good, kind, or respectful enough to respond
ok thanks for letting me vent phew feel better now LOL
I know you're not serious... I have been a member for two weeks and have sent out about 100 emails (not cut and paste jobs, actual "I read your profile" emails) thus far. I have a back and forth e-mail relationship with 2 people and a phone relationship with one.
The other 97 did not reply back at all. And occasionally I would send a follow up email, teasing them for being too shy to email me back. Still nothing.
Men have it WAY worse when it comes to the no response. BUT aaynone who knows direct marketing will tell you- a 2% response rate is a winfall. and right now I'm at 3% so Boo-Yah!
Back to the subject of this thread though.
STOP WHINING. In general women want a nice guy with a bit of an edge. I read some of your guys profiles and lemme tell you something.... "i love to spoil women"? Good one, that will create attraction.
Seriously guys, give your profile and emails a more I don't give a f*ck attitude- you dont have to be an A**HOLE, still be the nice guy that you are- just don't supplicate. These girls get thousands of the "you have such a warm smile" or "your profile is so resreshing" emails a day. Stand out a little and remember the 2% rule of direct marketing.
Chin up fellas. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/28/2007 6:26:14 AM | YOU MEN DONT KNOW WHEN YOU DO HAVE A GOOD WOMAN. SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE NOT ALL THAT INTERESTED IN A WOMAN HAVING ETHICS AND MORALS AND A LEVEL HEAD YOU ARE MORE INTERESTED IN HOW THEY LOOK...YOU NEED TO BRANCH OUT AND NOT BE SO SHALLOW...
YOU ARE NOT GOING TO FIND A BARBIE DOLL WITH BRAINS OR A HIGH SEX DRIVE...YOU ARE ONLY GOING TO FIND NEEDY, STUPID, IGNORANT, SELF CENTERED WOMEN WHO ARE IN LOVE WITH THEMSELVES.
SO FAR I HAVENT FOUND A GUY THAT IS A REAL MAN YET....YOU ARE ALL IN LOVE WITH AN ILLUSION IN YOUR HEAD THAT DOESNT EXSIST. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 2/28/2007 5:54:41 PM | Oh I have to agree with ManOStyle...... its all in the opening line. You know the famous line from Jerry McGuire...
"you had me at hello"....
IF someone sends me and Email that is funny, clever and makes me actually laugh.. than I guarentee you will get a response from me... one way or the other. BE ORIGINAL IT SHOWS! | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/1/2007 8:39:00 AM | When do good guys get....?
Oh, that's easy....the minute we start smacking chicks around, using them as our drug mule to deliver things to the side of town we're too scared to travel to ourselves, somehow develop a LENGTHY prison record, have a history of neglecting our own kids what they need and instead buy OURSELVES the best clothes, jewelry, and rims for out cars....and lets not forget label ourselves little wannabe thugs....that ALWAYS works....
And did I mention "smacking chicks around"?
You know, someone mentioned that when chicks are all used up and frustrated (not in those words), they always come crawling over to the good guys who will treat them like royalty...that's true....but one thing they NEVER seem to mention is that the vast majority of the time, those good guys don't want them anymore, because they are the same ones who got played by these so-called "good women" in order to get with these LOSERS that chicks somehow DESIRE these days.
So you can all call it what you want...guys can be as fed up with the logic all they want (but will never give up that false sense of hope)...and chicks can sit there and deny not liking these cornballs all they want (but always, ALWAYS run back to them...even cheat on the good one they have just to mess with a cornball just because he's more "exciting")....this is never gonna change. I'm sure as you can all see, it's getting worse.
We see it in rap videos. In the beginning, chicks were CALLED sexy, they were CALLED "women", they were a few words short of being WORSHIPPED for looking so good and carrying themselves in a way that made you want them. Mind you...that was back when rap was all about saying NO to drugs, staying out of gangs, and all other things positive. And chicks loved rappers back then and NOBODY had a problem with it...not even good guys......NOW....please...these days, chicks are seen as pathetic morons in videos...and what's worse is that they're VOLUNTEERING themselves to be degraded...and then have the nerve to complain about the type of guys they get, and the type of attention they receive in general. Rappers now don't see chicks as anything more than worthless wastes of time that are only good for one thing...and so these wannabe thugs emulate that attitude, and chicks feed into that thinking they're "Mr. Excitement", end up getting played like a damn FOOL in the end...KNOWING there are MILLIONS of quality guys out there who would worship the ground they walk on and be everything out of a storybook for them...but they flat out spit in the face of that....and what kills ME is how chicks have the audacity to COMPLAIN about what they bring on to THEMSELVES....
All in all, if you want me to be honest, we can't really hold anything against these cornballs that chicks dump good guys for...all THEY are doing is acting out a role that gets them the butt the easiest...and that little act has yet to fail them, because the last time I checked...IT'S WORKING. You play the role, they will come...
So it's like they say..."if it ain't broke...."
So how about we not ask when do good guys get anything.....why don't you ask why chicks love making fools of themselves all in the nameof "excitement" or "adventure"? Things they can get from these same good guys...
Makes sense, don't you think? | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/1/2007 4:00:45 PM |
So you can all call it what you want...guys can be as fed up with the logic all they want (but will never give up that false sense of hope)...and chicks can sit there and deny not liking these cornballs all they want (but always, ALWAYS run back to them...even cheat on the good one they have just to mess with a cornball just because he's more "exciting")....this is never gonna change. I'm sure as you can all see, it's getting worse.
You know... everyone's got this perception of the "good guy" as an unexciting, prone-to-be-cheated-on, LOSER.
A "good guy" can still build excitement in his relationship without being a jerk. A "good guy" can still be sexually aware without being a horn-dog. A "good guy" can be attentive to the right degree without being overwhelming or unavailable. And in doing the aforementioned, a good guy can know how to create and maintain attraction in a relationship.
The archetypical good guy has none of these qualities while the archetypical bad boy has all of them to extremes. I'm not a woman, but if I was I'd rather be with a "bad boy" that I think I can control than a "good guy" who's constantly proving that he doesn't know how to create feelings in me. | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/1/2007 4:16:18 PM | yea tammy I got it in reverse out many woman I sent a e-mail onl about 10%
sent some kind of reply most of the replie s were pleasent, some just wanted
to chat on an on an on , but most didn t reply at all, so it work s both ways | |
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| When do us good guys get the woman?
Posted: 3/2/2007 2:29:31 PM | hi Witchepoo I totally agree with you. Most not all men are superficial and shallow. Now men don't start getting your briefs in an uproar. Its a fact and I know many male friends who admit to it . All women have value and deserve to be loved and treated special. Same with men. If these sites are just for the ken and barbie dolls then I guess all us regular people should start our own site. Leave the Ken and barbie dolls to themselves where they will find out there is more to life than looks. Sooner or later they find out that Ken or Barbie are boring and self centered and selfish or dumb as a bucket of rocks. Gee thats what I want to spend the rest of my life with. NOT.
Bonnie | |
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