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Posted: 2/21/2008 9:11:13 PM | Ok, how do you all deal with jealousy and insecurity when you are dating someone or in a relationship with them? Because let's just cut the shit.... generally, no matter how hot you are or how "cool" you are, your mate is going to find at least one other person attractive! And if you are a man and your lady is halfway decent, you DEFINATELY have to accept that she is gonna get hit on, particularly when you aren't around. Most women don't have to worry about women hitting on their men as much, but even so, they might have to worry about their men cheatin regardless.
So what do you tell yourself to convince you that your mate is going to always realize that you are better for them than someone else? Also, how do you deal with people that you are in a relationship with who are insecure that you might find somebody you like better than them and cheat on them and/or leave them? | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 10:22:19 PM | | The second I ever feel any jealousy, I ask myself if I am in a healthy relationship or not. Not that it is not normal, just that is potentially an early-warning signal of bigger problems looming ahead. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 12:56:52 PM | | I have been looking depressed with my brother's girlfriend over. I am pushing for a girlfriend. I used to bark and growl at my brother. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 1:21:48 PM | Guys say they aren't jealous. But! When a guy comes on to their girl, yes they get jealous. Men do not get jealous of thoughts of what may happen. They get jealous of actions.  | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 1:37:05 PM | | LOL I would have to agree with the boyfriend here. I wouldn't be jealous if my boyfriend dated someone else- I would be DONE! I would assume that is what he means as well. I am not a jealous woman. Have no reason to be- either he wants me or he doesn't . | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 1:39:41 PM | | Not all men get jealous either. My ex didnt' get jealous watching men hit on me- it was a pride thing- He was proud to say that I was his woman. The things that made him crazy were things that might happen in his absence. Hearing of a conversation I had with someone - friend or otherwise, knowing a friend of ours hit on me while my ole man was out of town- THAT made him crazy. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 2:32:20 PM | Admitingly having experienced both sides of the jealousy issue, I feel SMALL doses of jealousy are ok. It shows passion.
When it triggers anger, however.......all bets are off.
Keep it in check, analyze it, look within, and respond accordingly. Many times, just
asking yourself some questions when you are feeling jealousy, will mitigate its magnitude. Also, realizing its destructive nature will help temper things if one has his/her head on straight. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 2:58:18 PM | | A little bit of jealousy is NORMAL. A lot of jealousy is a sign of severe insecurity. When I was 19, my boyfriend Jimmy said he never got jealous. I didn't believe him. One day I actually tried to make him jealous. I even let a gorgeous friend of his french kiss me right in front of him just to see what his reaction would be. He was was completely non-reactive. Either (a) he truly never feels jealousy; (b) he never really even cared for me, even though we lived together for 2 years and he was very loving towards me; or (c) he was jealous but he hid it really well. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 3:00:36 PM | | Okay so read up to shag12357 and this man is a genius. The bottom line is your boyfriend lied to you. Jealousy is human nature. Anyone who says they dont have the capacity for it has never cared for someone deeply. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 3:04:52 PM | | In the original OP, the BF didnt appear jelous, but did appear extrememly apathetic. I was never jelous with my ex for I had complete faith and trust in her and she never gave me reason to be jelous. If there IS jelousy in the relationship, you have to decide whether it is an expression of your own inner insecurity, or if there really is a reason and your partner is giving you reasons to feel that way. Definitely soemthing that needs to be dealt with quickly as it can destroy a relationship if left unchecked. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 7:44:01 AM | | There are people who aren't dating that get jealous of other people dating. Has anyone else gotten jealous of other people dating when they are not? I have pressure on myself finding a girlfriend due to me having envy over my brother finding the right girl. | |
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