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Posted: 12/24/2006 8:40:43 PM | I have a uncle in a hospice tonight he might not make it to the morning , whats realy bad hes a grandpa to little ones we are adults but about the kids , telling them that hes dead on christmas they need a Santa.
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Posted: 12/24/2006 8:44:05 PM | | Moved for a coaching job in August after 19 years in the same place..........new location, new job, no one I knew......and so.....well, I made a mistake..........!@ | |
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Posted: 12/24/2006 8:57:27 PM | | We can ALL reflect on things that will make us sad or cause us heartach.......present, future or past......the living have to go on....and the bottom line is what do we want and need..........either of us may be gone tomorrow......but life will move on,......and those that live will still need partners that fulfill lives......... | |
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Posted: 12/24/2006 9:10:38 PM | apolla...my deepest sympathy in reguards to your uncle...an the kids...my heart goes out to you.
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Posted: 12/24/2006 9:53:57 PM | Hi Mick,
I received an email on fish. Before I even got to the email, I saw your post. I decided to read it and boy am I glad I did! I have also read all the replys and am throwing my hat into the ring.
I lost my mom five days after mother's day three years ago. She lived from one Christmas to the next. For many years I remember her as a selfich, self-centered woman. When my sister-in-law was deathly ill at Christmas I over heard her tell one of my children how Carol had ruined her Christmas. It took awhile for me to forgive her.
I am greatful that she began to change her attitude as the years progressed and she displayed an understanding of life that I had not observed in her before. What a peace came upon me with that knowledge.
Tonight I am also sad. A year ago in July of 2006 my wife asked to leave our house. During the time since, I have found a wonderful woman who does not ask me to jump through hoops nor does she point out my faults. We now live together and are waiting for our divorces to become final. My children refuse to meet her, although they have no idea of who she is or what she means to me. Her children judge me without having met me or knowing who I am.
We have each other tonight, but not our children. Life is full of shit and judges. So, we are happy and sad at the same time. Because we have each other we share our feelings and sadness and we are made stronger in our bond.
Like one of your responders, my oldest son has chosen to make me responsible for all the mistakes he has made in life and has written me off. I feel sick and empty in my heart for I love him regardless.
You have learned that you are not alone tonight. I applaude you for initiating this topic.
We are strangers, yet we are not. Thank you for opening up our loneliness so that the rest of us can have an opportunity to express our feelings. Merry Christmas, Mickey. Thanks for your inspiration. I feel good for having the opportunity to sound off.
Jim in Virginia | |
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Posted: 12/24/2006 11:02:46 PM |
you should get all ****ed up tonight on booze and drugs and go for a long nice drive down the highway..........
"Beannacht
For Josie
On the day when
the weight deadens
on your shoulders
and you stumble
may the clay dance
to balance you.
And when your eyes
Freeze behind
the grey window
and the ghost of loss
gets into you,
may a flock of colors,
indigo, red, green,
and azure blue
come to awaken you
a meadow of delight.
When the canvas frays
in the curach of thought
and a stain of ocean
blackens beneath you,
may there come across the waters
a path of yellow moonlight
to bring you safely home.
May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
may the clarity of light be yours,
may the fluency of the ocean be yours,
may the protection of the ancestors be yours.
And may a slow
wind work these words
of love around you,
an invisible cloak
to mind your life."
On September 20, 2003, one day before my 32nd birthday my little brother who was 2 yrs younger than me was killed in a car accident when he swerved to miss an oncoming car and lost control of the car he was driving…
When we buried his ashes I placed a picture beside the urn of him and I standing in the middle of a huge sunflower field we had taken one year earlier and on the back of the picture I wrote those words… and to this day I am right beside him as I had been throughout his 30 years… “a path of yellow moonlight” to bring him safely home, as he has done for me so many times since then… | |
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Posted: 12/24/2006 11:39:27 PM | Thanks olddog,
Sometimes we need to instigate, communication even if it is hard, because i have found that thru this people have opened up and we are seeing people for what they truly are, and I think that is important! We are so obsessed with ourselves and how we feel and our little world that we dont realize that people are hurting and it passes us by...with the comments here and my other thread, (and i know that i am repeating myself), i am finding more in myself the desire to find out how i can make a difference in someone else, and to try and see people more for what they really are not just superficial looks or material gains...Anyone can look like they have the world by the balls but when you get to know them and realize that they need a friend or had a tragic loss, it puts everything in perspective, and i think we miss the boat way too much... I hope that you have a great new life with your new friend and that your children will see the happiness that you have, because everyone deserves to be happy! Even if it is the second or third time around! Merry Christmas
Mike | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 5:01:10 AM | my dad is christian and mom was buddhist; i take away
the good from both religions.
what i like about buddhism is their belief in reincarnation
and belief life is partly illusion[ like a movie].
it helps me to get thru the pain of losing loved ones,,,,,
most of the time. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 5:32:58 AM | I know first hand how you feel. I lost my Mom, my brother and got a divorce
all within a span of 2 weeks. Boy!!! what timing!!!!! You will never ever forget,
but time will ease your pain. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 5:51:26 AM | Yep.....home alone.........just like the movie. It sucks! It sucks big time!  | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 6:09:06 AM |
a10frau
its terrible about your daughter,,,,,my girlfriend
passed away when she was only 29, if you need someone
to commiserate with please write me[ or anyone else
reading this,you too] | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 6:23:07 AM | My cousins husband died of a heart attack last night, they just got married 2 years ago, but were together much longer, lived together, he had 3 kids. She was so happy for the first time in her life, she had a terrible 1st marriage.
They were going to watch a movie and he said he was too tired, went up to bed and when she went to check on him, she noticed something wrong, he was making strange noises, she called her Dad to help, he was there visiting, but they live so far in the woods it took the paramedics 45 min to arrive. They said he was gone long before they arrived, only 43. Everyone is so upset.
He didn't know he had a heart problem, no sign of anything, but did not live a healthy life style, really bad eating habits, weight fluctuated a lot. Like he'd gain and lose 50lbs all the time, she's like that too, always on fad diets, big fan of the Atkins diet, ate tons of bacon, that sort of thing. He never looked very healthy but he was so nice.
We got the call this morning at 7:30, that's going to be a really hard funeral, she always gets the Christmas spirit so much, decorates like crazy and goes around with a Santa hat on. It's one of the saddest things I've ever heard of, for him to die on Christmas Eve when he had so much to live for and I'm mostly worried about her, she'll never be the same. She's my good friend too, so sweet. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 7:18:01 AM | Hey Mostlykitten,
Wow, my heart goes out to you and your cousin! For everyone that reads this post today or any day, how about you take a second of your time and just take a moment think about this family, and all the threads on this post....as you can see a lot of hurt today and probably only the beginning of whats out there!
I know that i keep repeating myself, but we HAVE to start realizing how we can lift someone else up and start being there for others....we are all so self absorbed that we cant see past our nose...we have the chance to make a difference in someones life, or just to be an ear, and we need to do that!
I feel sorry for your loss, and I hope that someone will never leave your cousin right now, and that she knows she is loved!
Mike | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 8:26:59 AM | Hello maestro99ca and everyone else on here.
I am blessed to have a very close family and a wonderful Christmas. I'm sorry Christmas sucks this year for some of you. You are in my thoughts. It makes me appreciate my family all the more.
I wish I could give each of you a hug and a smile.
maestro99ca I am here in Thunder Bay - feel free to e-mail or im me - I'll be home until about 3 pm - if you want to talk on the phone and hear a real voice, just send me your number and I'll call you.
If you decide to go to the New Years Dance - I'll bring you a hug and a dance if you would like. I'll even bring you a treat if you tell me what you like - shortbread, chocolate fudge, peanut brittle, or anything else I know how to make.
May God give you all a sense a peace in your heart. Merry Christmas. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 8:27:26 AM | Our family is very close, lots of cousins, everyone rushed to her, people are flying in from the USA and other parts of Canada. It just scares me to think how fast it can all be gone. I love my cousin and am broken hearted with worry for her but it also reminds me that it could be any of us or our loved ones any moment, makes me want to live a healthier life and cherish my loved ones more, not take a thing for granted.
Mom says when your number is up you go, but why when he had so much and was so young, and on Christmas Eve, not sure I believe the number up theory. He died at a happy time in his life, he was so happy but left so many people broken hearted, very worried about his kids, he was a very good father and treated my cousin like gold. She doesn't have kids fo her own and is 42. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 8:58:04 AM | I had a brother die in a car accident on christmas eve over 10 years ago, while time numbs the pain having tragedy so close to a holiday is soo difficult. My sister had her 21st bday burying her brother, and now this christmas my other sister, has learned that a baby she was to adopt, and born on christmas eve has now serious brain trama, and probally never will be a normal child. All I can tell you, is live each day like it was your last, know time is precious, and life is a gift. See the joy in others, especially children, and let their joy fill your saddness when you are feeling low. The holidays are about family, and while saddness feels lonely, don't be afraid. Your friends, and family love and care for you, and through them you will live. Let the time that you shared with your special ones be the legacy to share with others, and it is ok to stare blankly, just know there are many who care, and share such pain with you.
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Posted: 12/25/2006 9:12:27 AM | | spent 10 years in Thunderbay one winter...the place is not great | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 9:43:09 AM | | Yea Christmas sucks - big time - I started a thread this morning and now its been deleted. EVEN ON CHRISTMAS DAY SOME PEOPLE CAN STILL BE SOOOOOOO HORRIBLE. It was so un-nessesary to delete the thread so whoever deleted it THANKS FOR MAKING MY DAY EVEN MORE MISERABLE - GUESS SANTA FORGOT TO BRING YOU A HEART!!! | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 9:49:23 AM | | I think they are checked and if moderator decides to delete it they can. You think that there would be just a little bit of compassion in the world especially on Christmas day. My thread wasn't rude, abusive etc so have no idea why its gone, just makes me feel even more sad to think my words are not important to be heard! | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 10:12:57 AM | MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE
It's Christmas day and I hope you all made it through Christmas Eve. ok and that some of you don't have too big a hang over this morning.
Just remember everything happens for a reason and I'm sure our loved ones would want us to move on and make the best of the time we have. They know that they are in our thoughts and prayers and they are missed deeply but they are always watching over us and may our fond memories of them will help to make this Christmas Special,
Christmas time was always a special time for my son who is no longer with me but every year I sit down to the Christmas dinner I can feel his presence near me,
God Bless
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Posted: 12/25/2006 10:39:00 AM | | Hey everybody. I'm in the Xmas sucks club, too. It's not too bad for me so far. I've really enjoyed reading forums. I'm actually a little relieved to be alone. My kids are having happy Christmas's I trust. One is with his girlfriend and the other lives to far away to get home. Christmas has always been a vicarious pleasure for me--when I was a kid, my parents did not or could not do Xmas to save their lives, but my neighbors did. So anyway, I get about as much satisfaction knowing the joy in other households as I would having it in my own. It must be hard to have a rotten Christmas if you were brought up to think of it as a special day. Some of us are sad like we have been on other days. After reading some of your posts, I can appreciate just having a peaceful day, no new heartaches rearing their ugly heads. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 10:41:56 AM | | My dad died a few years ago and my mum is alive and lives round the corner but get this - she didn't even want to see me today - I feel so hurt! | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 12:07:44 PM | Merry Christmas Mikey!
and, Cheers to rebounds! | |
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Posted: 12/25/2006 3:31:01 PM | Christmas does suck and I sure hope that (other than the hangover) that you are feeling better today. I could use some therapy myself and have good ears and shoulders soooooo if you ever wanna chat......talk to me!! Please! ughhhhhh Today is so boring......and sad and lonely.......I don't often get into the forums, I guess I am bored....I don't have and JD to drown my sorrows but am soon gonna start on some crown royal!! Cheers to US!! (((((HUGS))))) to all of the lonely people! | |
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