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| When your soulmate and best friend is in a bad marriage with someone else.
Posted: 1/4/2007 6:24:38 PM | | Staying together for the kids sake, is not alway a good thing. But you can stay together as parents, for the sake of parenting, and still live seperate lives, for the kids sake. It just takes cooperation, by both parents, whom have thier childrens best interest taking highest priority, in thier lives. Being parents for thier children, but living seperately. It can, and does work. Better than living unhappy together, fighting all the time, and possibly infidelity. | |
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goldn
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Joined: 10/5/2006
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| When your soulmate and best friend is in a bad marriage with someone else.
Posted: 1/4/2007 6:33:21 PM | | it never ceases to amaze me what people will believe and what they will tell themselves despite the obvious.....if she was THAT in love.....if she was your 'soul mate'....heaven and hell would not keep her in such an "unhappy marriage" .....the kid thing.....bull....its a great excuse to hand you though.....she gets to be the moralistic woman who is sacrificing for her kids.....again....bull! do you really want to be the reason a marriage....no .....a FAMILY ends....i am a firm believer in not leaving a relationship for someone else....if you leave.....you leave because it isnt working....not because you have someone else you want to "try out" .....i think you are both kidding yourselves.....and maybe that she is kidding you....sounds to me like she wants both....if you are willing to settle for that.....thats on you.....but there are other people involved.....little people who had no choice in any of it....we live in such an instant gratification society now....what ever happened to sacrifice, nobility....character? sad....and extremely selfish | |
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| When your soulmate and best friend is in a bad marriage with someone else.
Posted: 1/4/2007 8:50:42 PM | Relationships are also about timing. With several billion people on the world I am sure there is more than one possible soulmate for each person. Finding and identifying that person, when both of you are available, is what makes connecting with a soulmate so rare. You might have been soulmates if the timing had been better. Then again, if you are meant to be, then all things will aligne some time in the future.
Until then, move on. | |
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| When your soulmate and best friend is in a bad marriage with someone else.
Posted: 1/5/2007 7:29:57 AM | | You are giving her grief. Sneaking around with her behind her husband back. That is what every marriage needs. It is helping to strengthen it. They are resolving their problems with trust and love........NOT>>>> A SNAKE is a SNAKE. See what you are!! . Step out and give them a chance. What chance does he have with your nose in their beeswax? You have No right to be putting a wedge there.....NONE. If you continue. I hope the same thing happens to you in your life so you can see and feel what is like, to have a snake alienating your wife's affection. You have absolutely no right to be doing what you are doing. Sure give her a reason to leave him....Are there not enough divorces today? Is there nothing sacred to you about a marriage vow? Listen... I had a very good friend consoling a married woman. When her husband found out he killed him in a jealous rage. Talking late at nite mostly and emails. Nothing physical supposedly. Are you blind to the damage you are doing? You feel safe with what your doing? No conscience or remorse? What do you think a snake is? If the skin fits wear it PAL. Oh I hope your life insurance policy is up to date. | |
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| When your soulmate and best friend is in a bad marriage with someone else.
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:50:45 AM | People who come on these forums are asking to be judged. That is what advice is, one party presents a situation and the other parties make judgement calls based on experience and beliefs.
As for the situation you are in my friend, having been on the other side of the coin, the husband whose ex had a "friend" that talked her into leaving her family, I think you are a sorry POS. All this "soulmate" crap is just that. Over the course of a marriage, people go through rough spots, unless he is beating her the kids or endangering their lives you need to stay out of it. If he is hurting them, call the cops and let them figure it out. You are in the process of finding ways of justifying your part in spliting up a marriage and having an affair, emotional at the least. Guess what? I found through personal experience that the grass isn't greener on the other side. Yup, I popped smoke once myself and guess who helped talk me into it? Yup, my current ex, we were "just friends" and ended up married.
There is a thing called Karma. You don't plant corn and get carrots. | |
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