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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/6/2007 5:00:19 PM | I am of the opinion that women do worry about body image more than men worry about there's or there own. How ever believe it or not some men do worry about there own body image. women are very strong human beings I feel compared to men. Having said that you would think they would not care about body image in the respect that what I have is attractive as it is.
No two people are alike you should be comfortable in your own skin as hard as it might be you have to be. It is a big world and every one looks at it in a different way. The media leads women to believe that they all have to look like what you see in advertizements. That just is not true, but very infuencing and it is hard to seperate real from not real. Yes some women have a terrific body but they lack in other areas. Be comfortable with what you have as long as you are healthy. | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:24:47 PM | I did something great for myself almost 2 yrs ago...
I threw away my scale for my 30th bday. I also stopped dieting...I still work out when i can(in ways i enjoy!)..I walk lots and eat as healthy as I can (I have always had good eatting habbits so that was no change)...I just decided after 15 yrs of hating something about my body I would start loving it. There is always going to be a standard i dont feel i meet...so why even measure against it? so i can find fault with myself? Not anymore...its extremely freeing. I started living a healthy lifestyle instead of the latest fad diet
I love myself today!!! | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/7/2007 9:00:52 AM |
As if being young, thin and pretty might improve my critical thinking skills. In point of fact if I were young, thin, pretty and popular, I might not have as much time as I do to improve my mind!
The irony about these boards is that if you *were* young/thin/pretty/popular people would label you an immature bubblehead with no life experience and dismiss your opinion based on *that* instead.
It seems as if some women confuse freedom and power for promiscuity and exploitation, and allow men to treat them specifically as objects of sexual gratification.
Just out of curiosity, have you read "Female Chauvanist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture" by Ariel Levy? It deals with this exact topic. Not as well-written as it could be, but it's still a fascinating read.
I am still waiting for that men's body image thread... Time for you men to step up!
Oh please, don't get me started.
One of my gal pals likes to shop 'til she drops, and I often go with her. Men's fashions, unless you're gay, fall into one of four categories:
a) wall street "suit and tie" man
b) preppy hipster
c) lovable slob
d) thug nigga
Heaven forbid you don't really fall into any of those categories. Us men couldn't look better if we wanted to - our image is even more narrowly crafted than womens'.  | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:08:14 AM | I have only one body, one life and don't have stunt body double in the closet as a spare..lol 
No one is perfect, not even models, and how we view our bodies and our self image has to do with confidence. The pefect body that the media can give young children and insecure women the wrong impression on what is beautiful.
We need to accept oneself and live our life the best way we can. No one should feel that they're not valuable if their image isn't measured by what you must have & media impressions. | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:34:48 AM | I fell out with my body when it changed shape and gained all these ridiculous curves. I'm still not entirely reconciled to "this" as really being "me" at times. At one point in my life I dieted intensely, until I realised that no weight would seem small enough and that I was making myself very weak and unhealthy and stopped weighing myself in order to be healthy.
I'm not sure why it is that we end up with such negative perceptions. I do think that part of the problem with image is the sheer volume of unreal images that we get bombarded with. No real person looks like those air-brushed pictures! They have sooo much work done on them. But one glance at ourselves tells us we don't look like the image that is sold as being "beautiful", so the conclusion that we can't be beautiful is a natural one to make, subconsciously.
Then there can be complications if you recognise that men do find your body attractive, despite the fact you have your little catalogue of imperfections. I wanted to be loved for my heart and myself, not for my appearance, which is so superficial, to have any bearing on it. I'm so happy to have found one who sees my heart as beautiful, and he makes me feel I can be beautiful in a deep way, that makes the physical interpretation of the word to be rather insignificant and my catalogue of imperfections quite irrelevant. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 127 | |
| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:53:00 AM |
Then there can be complications if you recognise that men do find your body attractive, despite the fact you have your little catalogue of imperfections. I wanted to be loved for my heart and myself, not for my appearance, which is so superficial, to have any bearing on it. I'm so happy to have found one who sees my heart as beautiful, and he makes me feel I can be beautiful in a deep way, that makes the physical interpretation of the word to be rather insignificant and my catalogue of imperfections quite irrelevant.
I agree that I want to be loved for my heart, my compassion, what I have to offer that is unique to me. I think thats what most people want. Thats where this negative body image is so hurtful....because women have this warped sense that they can only find love once their outside is perfect.....so even if a man is attracted to the total package.....but you have a negative body image you don't accept that he could possibly love you.....how could he when you have so many flaws. I think thats so sad. | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:27:27 AM | One of my gal pals likes to shop 'til she drops, and I often go with her. Men's fashions, unless you're gay, fall into one of four categories:
a) wall street "suit and tie" man
b) preppy hipster
c) lovable slob
d) thug nigga Wait! You forgot:
Metrosexual
Band T-shirts are my life
I have a Harley, can't you tell?
Business casual
Pimp
See, you have a lot more choices that you thought Wonka! Or you could just opt for:
What Wonka wants to wear, providing it is clean and not ripped
What choices do we have as women to wear? | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:33:21 AM | Actually, there's also a few others:
The ripped-lining leather jacket look
See my shirt? Huh? See it? Look!
I got this for Christmas, and I'm only wearing it because my mother's in the next room...
Of course, there's always more... | |
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uk28
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Joined: 8/9/2006
Msg: 130 | |
| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 11:59:57 AM | I think, I started getting teased about my weight at around 13 or 14. I remember one day at school wearing a 'GUESS' sweater to school. In front of everyone..a boy said '175 pounds!'. There were a lot of other instances..but I think this one really stung.
This continued all the way through high school - no boyfriends. Finally, in college - I guess everything somehow starting coming together and I couldn't believe guys fancied me. My chubby overweight young weight - was now C cups boobs or shall I say - big butt! (that yes..I am VERY proud of - cellulite or not - does my ass look fat in these jeans?? I HOPE SO!
I will say a couple of things about me:
1) I am so thankful in many ways of my weight issues, especially when I was younger. My sense of humor and being very 'quick' with comebacks - is directly related to me, feeling as though my personality had better be kickass - since I was deemed 'fat'. Any insult was met with a vicious comeback - except when I was called 'fat'. I could never think of anything to say. To me, being overweight meant feeling a lot of shame.
2) Regardless of how I look now...it is very hard for me to take compliments on my 'looks'. Call me funny, smart, ****y - no problem. In me - (now at a BMI 'healthy weight' of 138 pds) - is still the girl who is 'chunky' - just a little too heavy to be any guys first choice. I need to work on this. But it is the truth.
3) I have never had such amazing, lovely boyfriends as when I was heavier.
Everyday though - I get closer to say 'you're just fine'. | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:10:32 PM | LMAO at Mommintrix's Cosmo for Men. What about:
The Art of the Combover
The New Affordable Surgery She'll Love: Be 2 Inches Taller by Valentine's Day
Saggy Ass - No Problem!
Ways to Hide that Beer Belly When it's Time for Love
What She REALLY Thinks of Your Body Sounds | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:13:47 PM | | Kerry, I've probably bought it 5 or 6 times in my life. I always "forget" and fall for the baloney on the cover. The last one I bought got me with "10 Shocking Truths about Guys and Sex". Well, needless to say, there was nothing shocking about it. | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:39:05 PM |
The irony about these boards is that if you *were* young/thin/pretty/popular people would label you an immature bubble head with no life experience and dismiss your opinion based on *that* instead.
Amen.
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 1:08:08 PM |
I am so thankful in many ways of my weight issues, especially when I was younger. My sense of humor and being very 'quick' with comebacks - is directly related to me, feeling as though my personality had better be kickass - since I was deemed 'fat'. Any insult was met with a vicious comeback - except when I was called 'fat'. I could never think of anything to say. To me, being overweight meant feeling a lot of shame.
Oh UK, completely hear you there! I went to a school reunion and I noticed a sharp divide in the kids who had been pretty and popular back in school. Most of them had nothing interesting to say. It was the geeks and loners that were great to chat with!
I am thrilled I was totally ignored by boys in school! It gave me time to ride my horse, learn spelling and grammar, work, read, study, go to college, listen to opera, write, rehearse and perform, learn the constellations, develop close friendships with women that remain close to this day, join the forensics and chess team. If I had been busy with grooming and out every Friday and Saturday night, I don't think I would have the inner life that I have now. Today, I am never bored.
Oh, and the reply to "you're fat" for the record is, "yeah, well you're a rude a**hole and I could lose weight if I wanted to." The reply to "you have such a pretty face but it's a shame you are so fat," is "You have such a pretty face, it's a shame you are so rude and inconsiderate towards others!"
What is inside is always what is most important, because God willing, we are all going to be old and look like hell anyway.
The other 90% of the shopping mall that caters to women. I have noticed a sharp upswing in the men's vs. women's clothing stores in the mall and in department stores.
Amusingly enough, I was in the skater store buying one of my spawn some 'cool shoes' and I overheard two men at the end of the bench in their 20's talking as they were trying on shoes. They were asking each other which ones made them look sexy and what ones they thought might attract women. This went on for no less than 1/2 hour. Finally I turned to them and said, "You want to attract women? Get some pants that fit, because all we want to do is check out your butt." My 15 year old son said to them, "It's totally true, she won't let us wear baggy pants and the girls call so much it is annoying." One guy said to my son stunned, "Really?" My son sighed and replied, "Yeah, and all we want to do is go paintballing, it really sucks." | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 1:28:26 PM | I love it! Bad - @$$!
You're lucky to have such a witty son. If he can play ball (the figurative sort, not the paint- variety) that quickly, he'll have no trouble with the women when he decides to want them!
Why do I say you're lucky? Because you likely are happier for him than he is, since you know what it's like to be avoided, and since you see him through more objective eyes...
By the way, I've never been close to a woman who cared whatsoever that I had a belly.
But look on my profile and, yes, I mention that I want to get rid of it...
You know why? Because I, as opposed to the women I've liked, am materialistic about my male body...
Oh, and by the way, to all you guys who think men shouldn't look any better than random chance allows:
Which gender of nearly every animal is prettier than the other so as to attract the other gender to them?
There's a reason some women judge men by looks: they're following instinct, and they're probably really nice. In fact, these sorts of women often end up with guys who are also rather instinct-driven, and sometimes get abused, and feel stupid for following their gut.
I only am just realizing this, and if anybody else sees how this makes sense, then I think I'm onto something: no one is to "blame", it's really a matter of caring for those who have made mistakes. Chances are, they're trying to learn from it, and if you turn them away just because they've made a mistake, they might never learn from it, and that's just not a good thing to do to a person.
My two cents, plus extra change (if people are ready for it... )
~ David | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 1:40:37 PM |
I went to a school reunion and I noticed a sharp divide in the kids who had been pretty and popular back in school. Most of them had nothing interesting to say. It was the geeks and loners that were great to chat with!
Very true Mominatrix only no girls ever payed attention to me in school. It does seem what you say is very true. All the poular people only had that going for them and that carries over to today. Back then I was concerned with body image and looks but I could talk and debate well and had skills that the popular ones did not.
Today I accept thing like they are well almost I would like to be better looking but what is is and what was was and whats going to be is going to be. Now I am even more intelligent than I was then I thought I could talk then now I am light years from then. I notice more girls paying attention when I am in a room talking and then hear comments after on where did I learn so much and where did I learn how to talk the way I do. I was never out on a friday or saturday night I was working and am glad to this day that that is how it was. | |
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| Body Image....can women really accept what we have?
Posted: 1/8/2007 2:00:42 PM | I certainly can accept it guys -- have and do. I date who appeals to me in all ways, not just their body. Let's face it, if you make it to 45 and over, chances are there will be some body issues. I'm no different. I am not perfect.
Most of the men I've gone out with of late have bellies and I have NO problem with that, assuming of course, that all else is in place: intelligence, height, kindness, etc., etc.
Some, though, have bellies they can rest their arms on, and do!
NO, I am not fond of that -- if it is really pronounced, the no-neck guy, it is a huge turn-off no matter how great they are otherwise. So in that, I am not really accepting-- at all.
The irony of this, is, Billy Beer Can Bob, who hasn't looked in a mirror in years; yet, says, that because he has a $70K Harley, a corvette, lots of money, and a big-bad-a** boat, airplane or whatever, that he'll only date a swimsuit cover, flat-abs babe 25years younger-- and usually follows this with a loud gross belch.  Then there he sits, week after week, wondering, WTF happened? Where is she? Then comes in here and whines that every woman he writes to doesn't write back. But then something it does happen, and great if it does. 
Seriously, it takes confidence to accept who and what you are and be the best you can be.
Fun, laughter, and good health are the prime ingredients to happiness, for without them, nothing worthwhile will ever happen, whether you think you have the perfect bod or not.
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