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Posted: 1/2/2007 10:15:55 AM | | I don't really have an age limit. It is, as said above, about the fit. I do have things in my life which someone 10 years younger than me, may not get, and I have other things someone 10 years older may not get but nothing is inconceivable. I've met men the same age as me, and they are perfectly content in their lives, and can't be bothered to go beyond their limits. I do admit, I can be a limit-pusher but again, that's all part of the fit. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 10:20:42 AM | Been there done that, read the book, saw the movie, and will never say never, as age IS just a number.
The key is to accept each person as themselves, older, younger or same age!
In my relationship experience, I have gone from 20+ years older than myself, (I was 20, she 42) to 19 years younger, (I was 43, she 24) and it never made any difference to me! There have, and continue to be, great connections in all age groups!
IMHO, it's all about the person you make a connection with, not their age! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 11:35:56 AM | There is a difference between mental, physical and calender age. Calender age to me is not so important. However, the other two are somewhat. Mental age is a measure of how much you have things together and physical age can affect what you can do. If someone is unactive it can be a source of conflict because i tend to be on the go alot. While people vary there is a correlation between all the ages. I think part of it is the level of accomplishment youa re at and what you want in your future.
Overall, most of the women i date are my age to slightly younger, altho there have been exceptions. When i was younger i dated predominantly older women but kinda stopped at mid twenties and i just got older lol.
I like people who are driven, know who they are, know where they are goin and know what they want but dont have it yet. The problem with people signifigantly older is that they either lack the drive to get what they want or they have gotten it. Basically, I think its a function of where you are in your life.
I get along with most people but in regards to relationships...other factors time in. I dont have a family, nor do i want one any time in the immediate future. 5-6 years down the road tho...perhaps. For now i want to have fun, build my life and enjoy it. I think if youa re looking at having a family it will have a strong bearing on the age bracket you are looking at. 40 may be the new 30 socially but biologically there are signifigant differences. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 11:47:00 AM | You mean there are actually men out there that are OLDER than me?
After being on this site for awhile, I'd forgotten that..  | |
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| Age difference....
Posted: 1/2/2007 11:50:40 AM | | ive always seemed to have dated older women from 7 yrs older to 3 yrs younger... no reason that i can think of tho.. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 12:22:27 PM |
What is your limit for a long-term relationship?
Do you generally go for someone your age, younger or older? Do you find older ones more settled?...younger ones not ready for anything serious? Or have you found that ones your age can be really immature when it comes to relationships - either friendship or more?
Or are you someone who figures it doesn't really matter?
I haven't dated older since I was in my 20s...and am unlikely to start now. The older guys just seem really old and stodgy...but yet shockingly immature. I might meet one who surprises me....but I am not holding my breath.
I tend to mesh better with people 10-20 years younger....but doubt if I would date someone more than 10 years or so my junior...mainly because I would rather not deal with the asinine cougar label. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2007 12:42:43 PM | Age is but a number. If the two of you are compatible, does age matter?
I was married to a lady 6 years my senior for 18 years. Our age difference was never an issue. I am presently in a relationship with a lady who is older by about the same. Great, I like being the younger one.
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Posted: 1/2/2007 1:06:02 PM |
If the two of you are compatible, does age matter?
I think compatibility is the key – shared aspirations and goals. It worked well for me for a while to have a 20 year age difference. When I was 20, he was 40*, but when I was thirty and he was 50, our life interests started to diverge. Now, at 40, I cannot envision being compatible with someone that is 60. Just perhaps too much of a difference as we get older?
Now I am eyeing the reverse direction. ****growly cougar sound****
*yes, gentlemen, it DOES happen! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 6:35:03 PM | | Age ..... it is a matter of feeling, not years. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 6:56:31 PM | | I agree with what you are saying Tofino girl. My ex was 18 yr older than me and I have dated people up to 20 yr older. It was fine before but as I get older so are they and I find that there is less in common. I now want to stick to no more than 10 yr my senior. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 6:58:33 PM | I agree with you tofinogirl, mind you I have never dated anyone over the age of 40. Maybe I'm immature??
I seem to connect better with men 10 or less years younger than me. Does that still make me a cougar??? Or something worse??LOL?? | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 7:38:48 PM | | my 2 cents i have allways bin with younger than me by about 5 years but as i get older seem to have a lot more in common with my age . and thats 42 soon to be 43 in may. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 10:15:12 PM | | My ex husband was 12 years older than myself. Didn't make any difference when I was 20, but once the kids left, we didn't seem to have as much in common. He's getting ready to retire and slowing down, I'm not quite ready for that. I'm finding more in common with men around my same age. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 10:41:12 PM | Hmmm... well it's been my experience, most men (not all) in my age bracket seem to come with excessive baggage, they are single usually for a good reason(s). I have found that men younger than myself are often more understanding, more spontaneous and more open to long term relationships or at least trying to make them work.
AND... 9 times out of 10, they are usually damn good cooks! 
SABRE places breakfast order *wink* | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 11:45:32 PM | i've gone out with a broad age spectrum of men...a decade up, a decade down, and all the numbers in between. the large majority of guys i've been involved with have been younger than me...not planned that way, the chemistry just worked.
the tendencies i've found are that most men under 26 aren't into serious long term relationships, and that many guys older than me come with too many hangups, unresolved issues and emotional baggage. there are always exceptions to this of course...i've met some very deep, romantic, and committed guys in their early 20s...and some wild, exciting, and amazing men in their 40s.
ultimately whether or not i'd have a serious relationship with someone significantly younger or older is dependant on personality, spark, and chemistry...i wouldn't dismiss any possibility based on something as meaningless as a number (within reason of course...i think a decade either way is where my cut-off tends to be). | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 8:40:31 AM | | Age is not a factor to me but it is the level of maturity and life experience that she has. I have been with women 10 years older my age and some are younger than me. It's all about chemistry and compatibility... | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 11:40:49 AM | The longest term "live-in" relationship I've been in was 7+years, but I've no limit to the length of a relationship.... a couple's philosophical compatibility and continued interest should be the only pre-determinationing factor, don't you think? Hopefully, the occassional hurdles would then be understood to be surmountable and worth the effort if there's a good match basis for it.
Age differences: have to admit to not being overly interested in men more than 5-6yrs my senior... perhaps that's a shame, but... meh. Again, it comes down to the question of commonalities and how we can grow together, so the junior cut-off would probably be about the same. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 10:17:00 PM | | Imagine if they found a cure for ageing so all humans lived to there hundreds. No longer limited by age there would be endless possibilites. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 6:27:22 AM | | As most have agreed that its just a number, i too have an acceptance of this. An important issue is compatibilty, the high intensity passion, freedom within, accepting knowledge from within each age group. My last partner was 15 years younger, but her maturity level was much higher than the age she is and more often than not, i never really gave the age difference much thought due to her maturity, her intelligence, and her drive to succeed in life. All i knew is that we were dynamic in many things. As far as having things in common towards each of our age groups, we could always learn from each other, sharing our hearts, our knowledge, and passion should be at the forefront. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 2:39:48 PM | Age really doesn't matter all that much. What makes a difference is level of maturity, life experience, making a connection, having chemistry, attraction, and knowing you are in the same place in your life and having the same goals, aspirations - or at least knowing that they will take you to the same place in the future. When you meet the right person, compatability is really the only factor....not age.
That said, I have typically always gotten along better with older people. Probably because they have similar experiences as I while the younger ones (or people my own age) haven't been there yet.
As for dating, I would not rule out somebody because of his age....but I do know that I will generally click better with men who are at least a few years older than me. While I do tend to attract the younger ones, I tend to look at them more as "boys" rather than "men". While that's not always a bad thing (actually, being playful and boyish is a must-have personality trait), I do prefer someone that is mature enough to be a "man" when the time calls for it. Hence, my attraction to older men rather than younger. (Now that I've said that I'll probably fall for some young guy...LOL...oh well, that's the way life goes. You never know what's coming around the corner). | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 3:03:41 PM | I can "know" Anyone,be "friends" from 25-35,"date over that till age 45,then "get life" Some women can be only"friends",with "benefits" should be illegal,Some you always leave the door open for whatever you please Face it,under 30 is not "compatible" Over 45 shouldn't be looking for under that Go  might catch a "sucker" instead of a "keeper" or snag a "dog" or a "log" or the bottom of the body of water | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 3:07:23 PM | good question, i always have a problem with this one, i seem to attract the younger men, and i have never been with an older man, but gee someone my son's age i don't think so, i say 36-50 for me | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 8:49:27 PM | Just thought this needed to be revived.....
I'm finding lately that some people you meet can be close your age and yet still behave like they are in high school when it comes to relationships. The mentality just isn't there.
I still prefer someone close to my age for a serious relationship, but with friendships - age has nothing to do with it.
So lets all be friends and get along if we can. That's how it should start out anyways. :banana: :yay: :applause: | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:33:24 AM | I would never have considered dating anyone 11+ my years, but the recent past has proved otherwise, based on connection. I met both people in real life vs the internet, which I believe made a difference. There was an immediate connection in the first scenario. I thought the gentleman was probably 12 yrs older, but when we began to discuss age, I learned he was actually 24 yrs older. I knew it couldn't last long based on wanting to share a life with someone, but I still allowed some room. If you fall in love, you fall in love. The only other time, the gentleman was 16 yrs older then myself. I had no preconception of a relationship with him ahead of time, was just enjoying our great friendship and it grew naturally from there.
The main thing is the connection the two of us have and being with someone I share commonalities with. It would be nice if we were striving towards some of the same life goals and are at a similar point/stage in our life in many ways. With a significant age difference, I've learned that often isn't the case though and the other has seen so much more of the world then myself; but, more then anything, many of my firsts aren't theirs. Sharing firsts completely excites me and I believe bonds a couple amazingly. It is something I wish to have if at all possible.
However, after all that, I still couldn't ignore a remarkable connection if one formed naturally with someone 11+ yrs older. I often find it's men in their mid-late 40's that I seem to connect with on more levels then younger men. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 5:43:49 AM | This is a very good question and has so many possibilities.. Personally I prefer a guy younger than me and most of my life I've dated younger guys.. They may not have many material things or accomplished alot in life like an older guy.. But I'm not dating him or thinking of him in long terms for what he "has" anyways.. There is one problem.. Some.. Not all... Younger men.. Aren't mature enough or ready for anything long term.. I do find that alot of younger men like older woman.. Could be older woman know what they want and don't play games.. Not that all younger woman do... I think younger or older guys appreciate a woman who has a brain as well.. I think younger guys are sexy.. Are more active.. Not so set in their ways and are willing to compromise.. And more spur of the moment when doing things.. That's what I love the most... Plus most younger guys don't have a beer belly.. Aren't bald (Unless by choice) And most have all their own teeth.. It's actually more of a physical attraction thing as well as a preference.. Now I'm not saying I wouldn't date an older guy if he had the same qualities and could keep up with me.. But if I had a choice I'd definately go for the younger guy.. I'm not saying rob the cradle But 30 something and up.. I wouldn't even consider someone under 30 even if he was Tom Cruise himself... Well...Hmmm.lol That's another question all together I think it is important to be settled enough to know you want a serious relationship and mature enough to handle it.....There are younger guys who know what they want and go for it.. Whether they prefer younger or older....Older guys usually come with baggage of some sort.. Whether it be ex wives or children.. divorce..alimony payments or child support..... But also with alot of bad expieriances to judge you on.. I personally really don't have baggage and would prefer my man to put his baggage (if any) in the baggage department of greyhound.. Not into games or conflict or arguing.. Younger guys seem to be easier to get along with...This is general...NOT all older guys have this...But I have yet to meet him...That's just my preference..To any older guy who knows me or wants to meet me...Please don't assume this is a deal breaker for me..I love men of all ages as long as you know what you want and don't want to play games or have any other women on the side...As I'm a one man woman and I expect my man to also be a one woman man
That's just my opinion and I believe physical attraction and sexual satisfacation is 1/2 the battle in maintaining a long term relationship.. or starting a serious or any relationship for that matter... .. good luck with fishing in this pond .. whether you be younger or older
Thanks for allowing me my opinion whether you agree or agree to disagree
starr
xx...  .. and as I agree with Tony..Age IS in fact "Only a number".. So let's get over this age thing and move on with a relationship that may last a lifetime..Who knows what tomorrow will bring in POF's pond | |
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