| Age difference....
Posted: 8/17/2008 7:14:13 PM | Age matters most when others are looking I think. We are programmed at a very young age to understand age differences and what is acceptable and what is not and when !
If its about the two of you, then its really about how well you relate to one another. Do you share enough commonalities and differences to make something work?
My Mom married a man 7 or 8 years younger than her. To this day I have a hard time figuring out which one is truly the older one.. I think he wins hands down in my opinion. My Mom has always been and will always be a crazy nut, no matter what her driver's license says. He, well he aged faster than most I have ever met, truly sad really.
I have never seriously dated any one younger than myself. Not to say I wouldn't if the right guy came along. I guess I try not focus on issues such as these. Dating in general is complicated enough for this girl... 
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| Age difference....
Posted: 8/17/2008 7:51:39 PM | first off I'm 19 I've had guys intrested in me that were alot younger and that were alot older. I don't go for younger guys but I'll chat and be friends with them. I draw the line at one year younger then me and 16 years older then me  but i've been with a guy that has been older then that... | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 8:19:24 PM | For a long term relationship, I think it's ideal to have someone within a few years of my own age. At my age (*cough*47*cough*) to date guys much younger would be silly as many of them are still looking to have children. This is NOT an option for me.
When I met my husband at 18, I thought he was younger and he thought I was older - we were 10 years apart! It lasted 26 years.
I couldn't see myself with someone more than 4-5 years younger - there are just too many things I don't want to have to explain.... like the 70's..... you hadda be there!
If I were to date someone more than 4-5 years older, they would probably already have their kids out of the house and not be keen on sharing my time with a teen.
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Posted: 8/17/2008 8:19:42 PM | I have been with a guy 5 1/2 yrs younger than me, and a man 9 years older than me. That age span works for me as I have been told that I look younger than my age.
To me, it is not the age difference that really counts, but the compatibility of the two people. However, that being said, I will NOT date some one who is my sons age or younger. I shutter to think about it....  | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 8:36:53 PM | From the age of 14 I was attracted to men in their late thirties, forties, fifties.
I know, i know. I never dated any....
My first real relationship lasted 10 years , and he is nine months older than I.
One time during a "break up" period, I had a fling/friendship thing with an 18 yr old (hey, I was only 25) and it was very *nice* as he wasn't yet jaded by the world...but he was too impressionable and naive for anything long term.
Other than those two, I haven't HAD any real relationships...or even dated....
next time around i'm going for what my instincts told me looong ago...a nice, wise, mature, older man.
I'm 34 so I'm looking again at late thirties, forties, and maybe fifties if they can keep up! | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 8:40:22 PM | ^^ I might add, that my 10 year relationship, while he was only 9 months older than myself....
we were 21 and 22 when we got together
and I aged, matured
he's still 22 but jaded lol
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| Age difference....
Posted: 8/17/2008 9:01:50 PM | I don't want to go out with someone many years younger than me or more than 5 -8 years older than me. Done a few combinations in age differences before and they didn't work out. It's not only the age that matters it's also their outlook on life.
But who knows, there might be a special person that slips in under the wire and I get smitten with them.
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Posted: 9/3/2008 11:02:57 PM | Age difference an physical attraction does meter! Just by nature , Woman go into Menopause, man don't and can be protrusive of of springs in to there 80this, live expectancy very s, for everyone! And if you look at the handy capt children, manly children from older women. So every one is different and this is a good ding, life would be boring if we were all the same! Aldo I dad et older girls, wen I was 10, my girlfriend was 12 put that has been 56 years ago.  | |
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| Age difference....
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:54:56 PM | As long as they are mature enough. And capable of being active, I don't think it is a problem.
Of course.. if it is over 15 years different it will start to feel a little out of touch. | |
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| Age difference....
Posted: 9/4/2008 6:46:03 PM | What is your (age) limit for a long-term relationship?
I'm not sure that I have a limit per se. I would think that it has more to do with whether or not I am physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually compatible with the person, and whether or not we both want the same things out of the relationship long term. At this point in my life, I probably would not bat an eyelash at considering a long term relationship with someone with up to a 10 yr difference either way. That being said, I have also met and connected with some pretty terrific men where the age difference has been 10 yrs + .. but a long term relationship was never in question.
Do you generally go for someone your age, younger or older?
My past long term relationships have all been with men a few years older.
Do you find older ones more settled?
Not at all.
...younger ones not ready for anything serious?
The last two men I dated were younger and far more serious than I was.
Or have you found that ones your age can be really immature when it comes to relationships - either friendship or more?
Immature is not the word I would use.
Or are you someone who figures it doesn't really matter?
I think it CAN matter. See answer to first question. | |
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| Age difference....
Posted: 9/8/2008 9:53:53 PM | | ^^^ how did I know you were going to say that? | |
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