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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 12/31/2006 8:05:26 PM | | Are you really 41 yrs. old, because you sound more like 12. I agree with most of the other posts. Get a grip lady. How could you really even love someone you never dated and gotten a chance to know really well. Your acting like a foolish 8th grader who has a crush on the jock at school. Maybe you've been out of circulation too long and need to learn how this dating stuff works. This guy obviously has another woman and is not interested in you. I'll admit, your not a bad looking woman, so it shouldn't be hard to move on and find someone else. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 12/31/2006 8:30:04 PM | Let's see. I've been called 'psycho', 'nuts', and what else on here? Isn't name-calling pretty 12-year-oldish?
How can I love someone I just spent time with and never really officially dated?
I didn't see him once or twice and fall in love. This happened over an extended period of time. And what's the 'litmus test' here for love? How do you distinguish 'love' from 'obsession'? Is there a test for that? And isn't all love a bit obsessive by nature in the beginning anyway? We go out of our way to look especially good for our partner, find ourselves thinking about them, watching the clock, daydreaming, etc...
And to answer your question - the same way people have fallen in love with any friend. Boy, do you have a lot to learn. Maybe you need counseling to learn some empathy.
To the people on this forum who were kind to me (and there were a few of you who didn't trash me) - thank you. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 12/31/2006 9:11:21 PM | I'm really sorry that I hurt your feelings. Hey, we've all been in a situation where we have fallen in love with the wrong person. God knows I've been there and done that. We all seem to be hung up on somebody and I'm actually going through some of those feelings myself right now. I'm close to moving on and I hope you are able to do the same for your own sanity. Maybe we all don't know you well enough to use such harsh opinions, but I just was trying to get you to think with your head and not your heart. Happy New Year and good luck!! I wish you nothing but the best because I know how hard it is to go through something like this and you deserve better.  | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 12/31/2006 10:02:56 PM |
Maybe we all don't know you well enough to use such harsh opinions, but I just was trying to get you to think with your head and not your heart.
I know. I'm not mad at you, but these forums are tough! lol
I'd like to say I hope I can soon think with my head instead of my heart, but I'm not even sure that would be accurate. I like thinking with my heart - I know the people I do love with my heart eventually love me in return for it. Now wouldn't that be a nice world?  | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 3:55:35 AM | Two things with this OP seem pretty apparent:
She sits and waits for a reply to this thread and immediately jumps to answering it.
She is right, anyone who disagrees or has a more rational thought about this is wrong AND she just will NOT come to grips with reality----this guy is just NOT into her................ | |
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e-wok
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 3:59:13 AM | Just curious Blaze, why don't you drop in on him at his home? I'm mean, don't
do it, but I'm curious as to why you wouldn't.
One word of advice; next time, don't mention lyme disease or psychiatrists because
people will automatically assume you're nuts. If you left that part out, they'd
still think you're crazy but as crazy as everybody else in these forums....no more or less. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 4:47:02 AM |
She sits and waits for a reply to this thread and immediately jumps to answering it.
I have Lyme Disease, and I think I've said this before in my post several times already. It causes a variety of symptoms, including 'insomnia' which is why I must seem to sit hear like a 'stalker' - please note I used that word on purpose here. See, since I'm accused of 'stalking' my doctor - well then, of course, I'm 'stalking' you on POF, too! ha ha You're kidding me, right? Are you like PARANOID here or what?
Do you realize there are doctors who actually believe Lyme Disease is behind everything from schitzophrenia to autism to road rage? I'm not kidding here. Google it. So who really 'knows' how much of what YOU perceive to be 'mental illness' really IS mental illness, and how much (assuming I AM screwed up - which is touchy right about now given I've had nooo sleep) is really LYME?
Most of you (not all) seem stuck on wanting to play Freud here and diagnose me with like some freaky sounding syndrome. Again, what blood test can I get to confirm your diagnosis of this extremely sick, sick patient here? Should I be strapped to a table somewhere so I can't hurt people? And who did I hurt? I've only ever been kind to this doctor. Even when I've gotten angry with him, I always let him know he mattered to me - somehow.
Hey - if it makes you feel good telling me I'm screwed up, great. However, your Freudian concepts here not only question my interpretation of whether the doctor has any interest in me now, but also whether he EVER expressed any interest in me other than what I somehow 'mistakenly' perceived as interest.
When I posted this thread, I expected to at least be believed here. And most of you haven't even done that. I 'think' my daughter loves me, too - should I question that since my perceptions seem to be so 'off' here? Maybe my cats don't love me either. Oh God! Now what? NOBODY could love me? Now I really dooo need help! See how that all works?
I may have exaggerated that a bit, but really, this is what most of you have done here. You are questioning the facts because somehow you either find me or every single one of my perceptions to be somehow 'off'. Even if I were completely deranged, as you seem to think I am, even a total f***-up would get at least ONE perception right here. Maybe you all can go through my original post and find one perception in there that you all somehow 'believe'? How's that?
Seriously, let me tell you - if a girl told a guy on here OR a guy told a girl on here:
"Besides, I just started dating someone, but that's new."
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"I will ask (if I can date you). I promise (smile)."
Hmmm? Well, since you all seem to be so much more psychologically evolved than me, well then, of course this would equal a 'no' to you as opposed to a 'maybe eventually', right?
See, though I admit I am uncertain about how he feels about me right now, I in no way question my perception of the events that brought me to this point. And frankly, you're not being as objective as you're claiming to be - a good portion of you anyway. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 4:53:20 AM |
Just curious Blaze, why don't you drop in on him at his home? I'm mean, don't
do it, but I'm curious as to why you wouldn't.
Actually, I'm considering this as soon as I'm not quite so photophobic.
By the way, thanks for the tip. I'm new to forums and thought I'd just put it all out there. I'm not really ashamed of Lyme or even if I was sitting here with a diagnosis of schitzophrenia or multiple personality disorder. These people do have the ability to think and perceive correctly at least part of the time - it's simple math here. | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 4:58:12 AM | Excuses! Photophobic is light sensitive....like, why won't you go at night?
Go around 6ish...it's not so late to completely freak him out - unlike 3 am
but it's a realitively reasonable hour. Heh heh....(now why can't I get the
devil emoticon working?) Grrrrrr....
Me thinks you know how it'll turn out and you've got this need to keep
this fantasy alive. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 5:04:10 AM | If you're so sure you aren't imagining this e mail or call him and ask him out.Ask if he is indeed interested in you romantically.It's really that simple.
I believe it will continue to go unanswered.When he doesn't answer,you'll have to accept it.Maybe therapy to help deal.If it is answered,post the wedding date.
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 5:04:23 AM | Excuses! Photophobic is light sensitive....like, why won't you go at night?
I'm photophobic to all light, including traffic lights. I also don't look very attractive when my eyes are tearing profusely or my eyes are swollen from my contact lenses - I do admit I am a little vain in that regard. Am I forgiven? He hasn't seen me in almost 2 years - I kind of want to look at least similar to what he remembers.
If it is answered,post the wedding date.
You bet I will!;) Who's going to be my maid of honor???
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 5:07:49 AM | Well, looking similar to how you first appeared to him would require a time machine....vanity
has nothing to do with it. You want to be accepted as you look now, not how
you looked years ago or decades ago. What's up with that?
See, your sub conscious is trying to protect you by coming up with all these
implausible excuses but you know consciously that you are not sitting in the dark typing
your posts - your computer monitor is damn bright but miraculously enough
you can tolerate staring at your monitor hours on end. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 6:16:24 AM | ewok (oops - I mean FREUD, sorry) - I can't wear makeup either, and it's only been just under 2 years - not decades. Lyme was brutal to my appearance. I had dropped to 88 lbs and had vitamin A and D deficiencies - and occupational a***nic levels, too.
I'll tell you what, ewok - next girl on POF that you are interested in and ask out, be sure to put nail polish remover in your EYES beforehand. Also, wear something REALLY noticeable that you haven't worn since 9th grade, like cat-eye glasses or something along those lines. And do this EVERY date with this woman UNTIL I post that my eye problems are all solved. I'll bet you aren't dating her by the time of my wedding to this doc.
No seriously, I don't think he would care if my eyes were red and swollen, but I would. What you don't understand though is that sunlight and brake lights are a bit brighter than indoor light. And this computer? I walk away for awhile and come back to it. I can't do that in traffic unless I hide under the seat, and it's pretty hard to do when you are driving a car.
You can hit me up with pretty much every Freudian theory you can think of here - like maybe I am sooo infatuated by this doctor because really (in my subconscious mind) I desire to participate in an autopsy because my one cat died of a heart attack right in front of me last year and I have not dealt with that yet - or maybe (subconsciously) I'm looking for an excuse to eat sushi - or maybe (subconsciously) I enjoyed my last PAP and pelvic sooo much that the thought of a guy with a stethoscope and a pair of stirrups really, really turns me on - but the fact is, I'm a woman - he's a man - and you are making this wayyy too complicated here.
I had a darn SPECT scan of my brain done which shows areas of inactivity, and some are working overtime here. So technically 'I' am the only one who is truly able to 'know' what my subconscious mind would be telling me. That only stands to reason. My subconscious mind tells me that I am vain, by the way.
I wonder what you all would think of me if I told you I was seeing violet auras for awhile there - or maybe I'll save that one for my next post, huh? | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 12:06:42 PM | "Do you think he's waiting until enough time has passed since I was his patient to date me legally? I'd have dated him illegally, but I'm sure that had him worried and he didn't want to risk it." Doctors are held to a strict ethical code. I'm sure this man spent enough of his resources in time and money not to blow it all over any woman. It's been a few years, you asked him out he said no. If he hasn't made any attempt to contact you, it's quite obvious he's not interested.  | |
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e-wok
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 1:57:29 PM | I had a darn SPECT scan of my brain done which shows areas of inactivity
Although I'm not a doctor but only play one on these threads, I have to
ask: What part of your brain has gone "inactive"??
Jut a thought...how about taking a taxi and wearing dark glasses?
.....and always ensure you wear a dark trench coat, and that it's raining out - to
set the mood. Oh, and don't forget to ask the cab driver to slip in
a cd; perhaps some symphony from Berlioz?
Now I'm peed off....those stupid emoticons don't ever work for me!! | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 2:13:24 PM | | Wouldn't you want a man who was totally pursuing you! I think you should move on and not wish for something you ultimately will not have! You know there are "many fish in the sea"! Don't waste ur time on a man who is not willing to put forth the effort....... | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 2:34:27 PM | | The doc was flirting with you and never had any intention of anything going any further. It does not matter the reason, if he had wanted to pursue you, he would have, either by terminating the patient/doctor relationship on positive terms or ignoring it and beginning a relationship with you anyway. Move on to someone that is available and stop wasting time trying to figure out a man that does not sound worth the effort. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 2:56:48 PM | Two things jump out at me here. One is how the OP is immediately posting a rebuttal to every post that doesn't say "Yes dear. You are right. He is nuts about you." and refuting it. You posted asking for opinions and advice, so stop arguing with everybody offering it. If you like living in denial, feel free to do so. Everybody else makes up their own truth when the real truth hurts. You may as well too.
Next is that you want this to happen so badly that you are seeing ghosts.
Just jumping in and reading it seems to me that the most attractie thing about him is that he makes a lot of money and you would have a life on easy street if you hooked him. Women chase doctors like men chase models.
You are also probable just "next" and once the new wore off you, you'd be gone.
Move on and find a real person, not a mirage. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 3:15:03 PM | Dear Blaze0811,
Everynow and then I like to read whats going on in peoples life's likes yours and enjoy giving my point of veiw so here mine is. Please excuse my spelling.
He must like me, right? Why else would a doctor allow this? If I were him, I'd have had me arrested by now.
Why would anyone allow this? Well I can tell you some people are power hungry and love the fact they have people chasing after them. It makes them feel better about themselves. In my expeircence some guys love to make women think they like them and act all dashing and handsome to "make" them fall in love with them and then leave.
Am I nuts, or what?
No not nuts many women have been in the same place you are, even i thats why i am giving you advice. Only thing that makes you nuts is if you let him keep doing this to you!
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 3:22:19 PM |
How could you really even love someone you never dated and gotten a chance to know really well. Your acting like a foolish 8th grader who has a crush on the jock at school.
8th grader crush? hello people fall in love and they aren't even dating! my fiance and i met on the net and fell in love before we even freaking met! How old are you? probably too old to know the meaning of love anymore! | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/1/2007 3:52:21 PM |
my fiance and i met on the net and fell in love before we even freaking met!
You are 18 years old NOW.....
And YOU are giving love advice? One year ago you were going to homecoming and prom......
You'll be divorced by the time you are 21. Write that down and remember where you saw it. | |
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