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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:21:39 PM |
And two more things... that look of urgency just may have been his concern for your obsessive nature and imagination.
Second thing... why are you no longer his patient???? Honestly.
It was a complete fluke that I even found him on JDate - I wasn't even looking for him. It's not like I saw him there and then joined and clicked on him. I had given up on his ever dating me, but that's when the 'universe' decided to step in. If it were truly his concern for my 'obsessive nature' or my 'imagination', I would think he'd have looked at me like this throughout every appointment, not just my final appointment with him.
I'm no longer his patient simply because I found him on JDate. Plain and simple. I asked him out long before the JDate event. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:37:40 PM | "I think I read that Lyme causes 'social incontinence', which I believe is feasible." You think you read? AKK...geez, it's a conditon you've said for how many pages you had. If I thought I had something or was diagnosed, I guarantee I'd be much more informed than that. Social inconteninence? I've read a lot of medical websites and journal medical journal articles and I've never seen this. Are you just making up something?
Geez...forget the Doctor, you're apparently getting your thrills off the attention of posting every other post on this thread.
C'mon give it up and get over it. Your medical issues, as conconcted and likely fake as they are, aren't even the issue here. I'm tending to doubt seriously if you do have any of the multiple supposed medical conditions you've spoken of. If you had them, were diagnosed and being treated for them...well your ignorance and obsession isn't what this is about.
Puleeze at your age, thanks for giving the men here one other reason to think females are all nutjobs. Shame you went to a neurologist and not a shrink. You'd have been Baker Acted. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/5/2007 11:08:32 PM | "With a loss of voluntary and subconscious editorial control of emotions and expression in word or behavior, a patient with encephalopathy gives the general impression of being erratic, inappropriate, if not dysfunctional."
http://www.angelfire.com/biz/romarkaraoke/whento.htm
By the way, the author of this article above had Lyme himself - he committed suicide. I'm guessing it's because there are many like you, bucsgirl, who need that scientific 'proof' for someone to somehow be believed.
I think everybody here should read this entire article for his/her own benefit and check out how Lyme presents itself over time, as I honestly believe most of us here have Lyme and/or coinfections that are flying under the radar - 'science' just treats the chemical imbalances and other conditions it causes, neglecting the 'root' problem in the process while the infection literally takes over us.
I think that answers your question too, squirrly, about why I don't have much faith in psychiatry or psychology.
Who on this forum does not have two or more of the 'symptoms' of Lyme? Some people think Lyme was a bioterrorism experiment gone awry. Lyme is much more common that we are told. My new doctor says the state of North Carolina only 'reported' 4 cases of Bartonella (another tickborne disease) last year, yet he'd diagnosed 120 patients just within his own practice alone last year. | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/6/2007 7:59:50 AM | BLAZE ... Hey the title to your post is great, but my thoughts are that in your case that old saying "no news is good news" doesn't apply. I don't doubt that your love interest might have been attracted to you at one time but there was never a foundation set by the 2 of you to allow that attraction to grow into love, at least so it seems on his part. I spose only time will tell (2 years?)
I hope that after the 2 year deadline your prince will come for you. However if he doesn't, I hope you will then lay it to rest and allow your heart to heal.
If it is really love that you are feeling you will set him free,
I'm sorry to hear about your illness. I won't even pretend to know how it must have impacted your life now or in the future. However you do sound like a survivor. You seem intelligent, sensitive, articulate and attractive, with a lot of love to give. Love does indeed help us manage and carry on when life gets us down. Not so much by how many love us and how much but more by the love we are able to feel for and give to others.
Unfortunately, it can also blur senses and at times delude our reality. Specially when reality is so subjective anyway. That blur has it's pros as well as cons when it comes to love, yet it is in fact better to have loved and continue to do so.
Love is also a verb it's the actions that substantiate and give evidence of that love, Ideally giving us clarity and a sense of security and peace. Not confusion and anguish though it many times will.
That said I wish you much Love and much Clarity.
T
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/6/2007 10:48:23 AM | I think I read that Lyme causes 'social incontinence', which I believe is feasible. So basically, whereas someone without Lyme might be able to keep their feelings to themselves in order to avoid social upheaval, someone with Lyme tends to be an 'on-the-mind on-the-lips' kind of person.
Also, many people with mental disorders keep it quiet and are non-verbal while
the verbal ones......well, we see them on our streets everyday or should I say
hear them. It's the same with all mental diseases. Others are more in control
of how much they say and apparently you are one that is unable to control
her verbage. Lyme patients keep to themselves out of CHOICE - that's the part
you don't understand. You believe it's a symptom! IT'S NOT!
BTW: regarding his answering machine? There is NO ACTUAL phone in his house....the
number is real but your phone call is routed to the telephone company computer
where all his messages are kept but unread. His real telephone number is PRIVATE.
You can leave messages until the cows come home....another 20 30 years but
as long as he pays his $10 per month, you'll never know the difference and
neither would other patients who are under the illusion that psychiatric doctors
would actually have a LISTED TELEPHONE NUMBER - LOL | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/6/2007 11:24:37 PM | I highly doubt that you will take anything that I have to say into consideration (simply because it isn't what you're wanting to hear), but I'm going to say it anyway...
I wouldn't doubt it if he was flirting with you. You're an attractive woman. However:
a) He may not have even realized that he was doing it, or
b) He was merely flirting with no intention of it ever going anywhere beyond that (this is more likely).
There's also the chance that he was simply trying to be nice.
Why did he say that "he was dating, but it was new", etc...? I agree here as well. If that was indeed what he said, then yes, (to me) it does sound as though he considered it a possibility. However, something happened along the way to change his mind. Perhaps he realized that it wasn't worth risking everything he had worked for. Perhaps your feelings for him scared him. Whatever the case, if he was interested before, he isn't anymore...
If someone likes you, they talk to you.
Why hasn't he changed his phone number? Sometimes it's easier to just hit "delete" than have to inform everyone that you have a new number, explain the situation to them, and possibly lose contacts in the process. Maybe he doesn't consider you a big enough threat to do so, and maybe permanently blocking you from contacting him isn't even worth the effort.
I know it's difficult to accept. Sure, maybe at one point he was interested, but he wasn't interested enough to actively pursue it and won't even after the two-year mark.
It's time you move on... | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/7/2007 5:19:13 PM | meeRi - I think you're right. I'm going to give it a little more time - maybe a couple of months beyond the two year point which is coming up very soon. Then I think I'm going to give up. Otherwise, I'm going to completely lose my mind.
You're comments though were enlightening in a 'New Age' sort of way - something I'm just starting to familiarize myself with.
Blaze, honey, do you want to have sex with me?
Hmmm? Let me think here.
Lyme kind of gave me 'erectile dysfunction' in the form of vasculitis, but if I can turn that around, who knows. Just about everybody here thinks I'm brain-dead anyway. I may as well use those parts of me that don't require much thought.
ewok - No - you're wrong. I had the doctor's home phone number long before I ever asked him out and called his house. It was listed on 'anywho'. Why would he pay for a number if he doesn't bother to listen to the messages? By the way, he isn't a psychiatrist - he's a neurologist, which makes this doctor-patient relationship fundamentally different. By law, a psychiatrist can never date a patient. I lucked out because frankly I think this law is stupid, so skirtsandheels is right here. Any other type of doctor can legally date a patient once enough time has passed - 2 years is the recommended amount.
Lyme patients keep to themselves out of CHOICE - that's the part
you don't understand. You believe it's a symptom! IT'S NOT!
I'm not sure about this. I believe I've had Lyme my entire life, and in high school I was voted the shyest girl - a far cry from what I am now with Lyme - and right now my Lyme is worse than ever. Those people sitting on park benches talking to themselves aren't 'mentally ill' - they have infections that cause them to spew thoughts out in the form of words that normally they would keep to themselves. I think my feelings are simply so close to the surface that, like these people on park benches, I have great difficulty keeping my feelings to myself for the sake of social graces. I believe Lyme has messed with my inhibitions somewhat - but my feelings for this doctor would still have been there regardless of whether or not I had Lyme.
I wouldn't doubt it if he was flirting with you. You're an attractive woman. However:
a) He may not have even realized that he was doing it, or
You're kidding me here? There is no way ANY guy could be unaware he was flirting.
By the way, what should I get him for Valentine's Day? | |
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| Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help?
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:12:03 PM | Seriously .. I read the article you referenced above regarding studies about Lyme Disease. As I live in Connecticut where it originated I was curious because my hairdresser was bitten by a tick,became extremely ill, and was diagnosed with Lyme Disease within the past year. He also did a lot of reading up and studying the subject as he was very sick for a few months. Since recieving treatment he is fine now...no personality changes, no sudden obsessions with any of his customers nada... so I guess I dont understand how you feel this has taken control of your life... my guess is as others have mentioned... you were ill and someone took the time and effort to make you better and you mistook gratitude and admiration for something more. When my son was born I had to have surgery because one doctor botched my surgery to tie my tubes..No one knew this until the lab reports came back... I was bleeding internally and began running a fever and had to have additional surgery to correct the problem before I bled to death internally. One of the doctors in the group took the time to sit by my side, explain everything to me, took control of the situation and got me better again. He came to see me every day in the hospital and I found myself thinking about him all the time... silly I know..I just had a baby for gods sakes, but still it happened. .. but I got over it and in time I realized he was just being a great doctor... the way doctors are supposed to be. I hope this helps you because I am not trying to ridicule you.. I know you believe what you feel to be true. And thanks for the heads up on that article... now I have a whole new avenue when I need a sick day from work!!!!
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