| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 4/19/2005 8:19:18 PM | | How about a man in platform shoes or a man that is a midget. We can't just keep dating taller and taller people and models...the dinosaurs did it and look where bronto and t-rex ended up....nice displays in short monkeys museums..hahhheheh ; I just hope we're not next....I like 6' tall women and I noticed chris columbuses time people were all spanish or aboriginal height....what about toy poodles and dobermans? | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 4/19/2005 10:14:23 PM | I don't like the word "shallow" at all. It diminishes others opinions/preferences, which are in fact perfectly valid. If what they want is not the same as what you want, why not just let them be?
It seems that in most cases, its the short/fat/whatever person, calling someone shallow who isn't looking for someone short/fat/whatever. Question is, if you are already at a disadvantage with someone because they aren't looking for a feature you possess, wouldn't it be better to show them all the good things they will miss if they rule you out? Rather than getting all defensive and making it look like you are a grump, or have some sort of complex about your physical foibles. | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 4/20/2005 12:15:29 AM | I for one have always been attracted to guys at least 5'10 and more on the husky side... say around 200 lbs. just recently i have become involved with someone who has been a great friend for the last while and we decided to take it a step further... he is 5'7 and i outweigh him by 10-15 lbs (i'm almost 5'6). the only problem i can see with the scenario is who will be able to reach the top shelves in the kitchen cupboards hehe | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 5/2/2005 2:36:37 AM | hmmm... last 2 ladies were both 5'10. I am 5'7.
Not really a big deal for me. If I couldn't reach something, you're darn right I'd ask them to get it for me. If they couldn't open something, they would bring it to me. It worked out fine. We stuck to our strengths. :-P
Going out was always fun. They would tower over me and sometimes people would just stare... especially if they would wear high heels or boots. My last lady was 6'1 with her heels on. I had no issues with that but we sure got some looks! *LOL*
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 5/3/2005 1:48:11 PM | I realized that playing center for an NBA team was out at about 5 years old so it's never really been an issue. But I have had a couple of women on the site point out the fact that I didn't have a chance due to my stature. And these weren't Gabby Reese types either.
I've gotten that from a woman who was 5'3". That's when I afford myself a wry smile and say "It's not me, it's you!" | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 5/3/2005 2:41:03 PM | Hell, recently I had a woman that was 5'7" tell me that I was too short for her, with me being 5'8" I figured, as long as she was shorter, so what's the problem?
She asked how tall I was (in chat)...and I told her, and she said, "ha ha, a little too short for me" but thEN she asks for a picture
LOL! I said, "Why do you want a picture? What does it matter, I am too short for ya"
She said, "Well, I hav ea tendency to be attracted to taller men!" and then she proceeds to tell me:
Her: i'm into eyes and faces too, and of course a sense of humor and intelligence are number one
Me: humor and intelligence is number one....lol....so how come you asked for my "Height" first LOL!
Her: part of me must be intensely shallow i suppose | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 5/3/2005 11:02:40 PM | You know, there is some stigma about shorter than average men. But through the wonder of camera shots and angles, it's worked rather well for Tom Cruise and Sylvester Stallone. If a woman won't date me because I am shorter than she is, that is entirely her issue not mine. I can control the respect with which i treat people; I cannot control genetics.
And ultimately, I want a woman who is about more than externals out of my control anyway.... :) | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 6/3/2005 8:39:24 PM | | I prefer men that is around my height which is 5ft,or from the height 5ft-5'6.Ive been in a relationship with a taller guy before and he always had to stoop down to hug me.It feels better when you are both around the same height or he only a few inches taller.also I think it just looks better when the guy is taller then the girl.for some reason to me it just seems like the girl is more protecting the guy then guy protecting the girl.but thats just me.they are some chicks that like short guys and they are tall.but to each his own.but I prefer guys my height or few inches taller.much better cuddling,and better hugging. | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/29/2009 6:50:20 PM | | I'm thinking that a lot of the women I see that complain about height so much should look in the mirror because I've seen very few that I would give the time of day to anyway. What they don't realize is that there are plenty of GORGEOUS women who don't care about height so they're not really doing us any favors by "lowering" themselves to go out with us. Women with this attitude are good for a chuckle though. | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/29/2009 6:59:04 PM | ^^^ Agreed.
I'm 5'7" and I'm the tallest dude I know ;)
I date phenomenal women. Both in looks and brains.
I don't begrudge women who will only date really tall men, but honestly, it's never been a problem for me.
I get the girls I want. Period. The problem is that living in WV, there are not many girls I want around here.
It really, really sucks. | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/29/2009 9:13:51 PM | | Being the daughter of a tall man and a sister of a very short, an average hight, and a tall man. I'm used to being around men of all hights shapes and sizes. Tall men actually creep me out a bit. I'm 5'4 and quite fluffy, I'm usually not overly picky about a mans size or hight. Just not TOO big and not TOO tall... I usually go after men in size comparison to me on a male to female ratio... A bit overweight and a bit under average hight... But a man with a cute face is a must... Thats just me... | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:45:35 AM | | I'm 5 8. I'm pretty much only attracted (physically) to men that are significantly taller 5 11 etc. I will say though, that I've dated men that I would never have considered attractive, because of their personalities.If a man can make me laugh, he is really halfway there! | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/30/2009 6:15:01 AM | | hi, speaking from a christian point of view which is God's desire for us: a christian should only marry a christian. Having said this, if you are not a christian and do not desire to choose to be a christian, then you should ask this woman out. You could ask her and see what she says. Perhaps 2 inches does not mean anything to her. It all depends on the individuals: I had a male cousin who was 6 feet 1 inch and he let go of a lovely woman because she was 6 feet 2 inches. She even tried to wear low shoes. He did marry someone shorter than himself. We cannot generalize no matter which studies have been made. For myself. I do not mine what the heigh or weight is: it is the inner spiritural man that is important: God says He looks at the heart and so do I. Do be of good courage''''''''''you have nothing to lose if you ask her out: she will let you know how she feels''''''''''''just always be honest with her., Smiles4444 | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:01:52 AM | It's all in the attitude.
Haven't we often heard about women that are overweight, but who carry it with such an attitude that they can come across as sexier than the one standing in the corner with the 'perfect' body?
Being 5'2" most men are taller than me. But I've met quite a few shorter men that are extremely insecure about their height and you have to walk on eggshells. It may not even be obvious. Since I just tend to speak whatever is on my mind, this can create problems. So, I'm now trying to avoid stepping onto that mine field.
Example: Owned a house with 12' ceilings and I had to do something at the light socket, but couldn't reach it when stepping on my 6' ladder. So, my carpenter, who was working on another part of the house came over and offered to try it. Without thinking I said, I can't reach it and you're not that much taller, so I think we need a longer ladder. He totally blew up on me. I never knew until that moment that he was insecure about it. | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:20:08 AM | ^^^Varinia gets it. It's not about appearance, but your attitude about it. If you can improve on what's possible to change and gracefully accept what you cannot, most will look right past whatever you feel is an imperfection and like you for you.
If you can't get past something, don't expect someone else to.
Out of all the guys I dated shorter than me - they were the ones who brought it to my attention, harped on it, asked if it bothered me ad nauseum and didn't want to drop it as a topic. As long as he's taller than me I don't usually care, but if it's something I don't notice right away rest assured, he'll make sure I don't miss it if I give him enough time. | |
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| You've talked about fat guys, what about shorter guys?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:44:18 AM | :)
My Dad has always said, "Marva, we are all different breeds of dogs. Some of us are dobermans, some of us are poodles..some of us are german shepherds or tiny little teacup chiwawas. Find your breed and be happy."
I have had the wonderful opportunity to date different men from all walks of life. And I have found that.... guess what? Men are Men. Period. It does not make a difference if they are tall or short, fat or thin, hairy or bald. Men are Men. I dont discrimnate based on their outward appearance. But treat me badly and its off!
Last week I met a wonderful man that Id been chatting with. In person he is not what I would go for as far as preferences. ( I admit I like bald teddybears that kinda have that rough edge) BUT I was willing sooo much to give this man a try since spriitually we seemed to connect. But He didnt like me. I didnt fit the standard set by the exwife. (She happened to be the 9.5 or so Im told and that I was no where near that scale.)So...on to the next.
Life is too short (*laughs) to worry so much about the outside. Yes, there has to be chemistry and Im the first to admit that but you also have to make room for the person to be themself. They shouldnt have to change sooo much about them for you to like them..right?
Anyway, Im 5'11 and Ive dated shorter men and taller men..but a complex is a complex whether they are any height. If they have a problem it will only grow over time. Let it go. Just be yourself and good things will come your way. Smile at every girl you see and say hello. She just might be thinking "He's cute..alright!" ;) | |
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