mackz
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Joined: 10/1/2006
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 1/1/2007 10:55:14 PM | Maybe he is not holding out, maybe he is just not diving in...........
#1 maybe he wants to get to know you better, invest in the actual " getting to know you " process before he gets intimate, does not want to base the relationship on what happens in the bedroom...or the thoughts of the downstairs mind, wants to establish a firm base of what is everything else first.
could be the guy has a fear of intimacy, and is avoiding it, knowing that once he experiences it, he will not be able to deal with it.
To some people, intimacy is a line, and once it is crossed, or shared, the mind and the heart get involved.....things can get complicated.
Then again, I could be wrong
maybe his Viagra perscription is up, his Doctor is on vacation, and he is waiting for him to get back, hey.....could be alot of things.....
but, why not ask him......" hey goober....somethin wrong with your peter?? Or are you just holding out on me?? Cuz if not, lets get to it!!!""
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 1/1/2007 11:19:11 PM |
im sry but i think this is comical and have to comment. i didnt think men could hold out. hahahahahaha
that's because you date teens and not men, if you were, you would know this to be not true. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:41:00 AM | | once about 2 months into it, and again about 2 months after that. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:10:55 AM | | If it was me and it was that infrequent there would deffinitley be an issue. Holding out or not if we're having sex I'd be more frequent but that's just me. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 1/3/2007 8:25:59 AM | OP, if you guys see each other everyday or hang out every evening for the last 5 months, there is a probelm that is probably emotional or medical.
If you guys have seen each other a few times spread over the five months (say 2~3 dates a month) then either he's married or there is another woman in his life, making you the other woman.
If you guys had been hot and heavy in the beginning and it had tapered off I'd say otherwise but to me it sounds like your the proverbial booty call dear. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:29:26 PM | I think Im living proof that guys can hold out. And not all guys are after just one thing. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 9/30/2007 5:43:53 PM | | I've never heard of a penis embargo. I dated a girl that had me take part in the great vagina embargo of 1993 for a few months though. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 9/30/2007 7:34:55 PM | Yes guys can and do hold out for various reasons.
But once being intimate with you letting 2 months go by between sessions indicates there is a little more to it than that. You need to discuss it openly together in a relaxed environment. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:08:20 PM | yes what do you take us for some kind of man slut?
once i've the realtionship is past that point, no why i want to spend time with them and be close to them | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 9/30/2007 8:16:20 PM | | it could be simply you suck in bed or he has a low sex drive. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 9/30/2007 9:09:09 PM | | Oh just tear his clothes off already...if he tells you to stop there is definitely a problem. And yes I have held out and am currently back in a state of doing so. I'm trying to find something meaningful not just the next big fling, that kinda died after college. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 10/1/2007 4:48:45 PM | Ok this is what i ment to say.. typo.. GRR..
once i've gotten to that point in a realtionship, NO why would I ? i would want to spend more time with them and be close to them.. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 10/1/2007 5:53:25 PM | its happened to me too!
well, i went out with a guy and we had discussed having sex together and we were both open and interested -- but then when we first had the chance -- he changed his mind, said he wanted to, but that his instincts told him not to...
but he says he wants to spend time with me... tho that remains to be seen...
so i guess SOME guys hold out... and by what i read here there are several - who seem to do it cuz they have a fear of intimacy that may develop, or they like the woman so much they want to go slow... OR they are Closet cases!!
so at least you arae not alone, chicky!
i say talk to him about it and ditch him if he doesnt have an answer you like... | |
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svj
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Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 40 | |
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svj
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Joined: 9/15/2007
Msg: 41 | |
| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 10/1/2007 6:45:43 PM | Why are you asking us? How would we know?
(there are tons of possible reasons that have nothing to do with you, mostly centering around exs and religion)
Wouldn't it be a lot easier to be honest and ask him?
Just don't get all insecure if you decide to be up front and ask him...
Good: "Is there some reason you seem to be holding back physically?"
Bad: "Why won't you f*ck me? Do you think I'm fat? Do you think I'm ugly? ARGGH!" | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 10/6/2007 11:05:50 AM | I decided to consult the works of homer to find the answer.
all I got back about it was - doh!
mm not logical ... try asking him. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 10/6/2007 4:12:54 PM | | If the guy is extremely shy then that might be the problem. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 10/6/2007 6:27:58 PM | | Very odd as most guys like it once per day ! | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 11/12/2007 1:53:12 PM | You probably scared the hell out of him with that " Bow and Arrow ?
...IIIIIIIIIIIII like it myself...just keep pointy end away from _____ lol
woody
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 11/12/2007 2:22:00 PM | | I have held out but that was many years ago and the girl I was holding out with said "Its about damned time" so I don't hold out any more. | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 11/12/2007 3:02:08 PM | Very funny !
After all the forum messages I read about women complaining about men who want sex on the first date !
He is maybe not that much into sex, not every man is a raving sex maniac ! | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 11/12/2007 5:57:08 PM | what the h*ll is an octegenarian?
sorry not the subject I know
maybe he is playing you, better watch out for that too, he can't get around to all his women enough- taking on more clients than he can handle so to speak | |
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| Do guys hold out?
Posted: 11/12/2007 6:13:56 PM | | That guy must be wacking off like there's no tomorrow !! Are you dating a Shaolin Monk ? lol | |
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