| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/1/2007 10:31:30 PM | | It all depends on the 2 people There are really No rules. I have been with girls on the 1st and 2nd date. | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/1/2007 10:54:37 PM | I know that if I am attracted to a man I am dating, after the 3rd date I am taking cold showers. But I have to stand fast to my original comment that anytime b4 the 5th date is a relationship killer.
I have even been the the throes of passion and had to leave the situation. I will discuss it the next day, and he ALWAYS tells me that it will be ok, and don't worry, it will all work out. We discuss it back and forth, and I vocalize my concerns, and of course, HE is ALWAYS different, he is not like all the rest........
I know that it SHOULD be between each couple as a unique couple and discussed between the two of them, and it should be agreed upon by the two of u, and it should be a comfortable time for both.
Taking all of these into consideration, and having followed these rules to the letter, EVERYTIME I have slept with a man,even between the 3rd and 5th date I have NEVER heard from the man again.(Well, until a few weeks or month later, when he relaizes what he gave up.} It is because at the time all they think about it getting laid, once their head is cleared, they realize they don't want a relationship.
And before any of u smarty pants decide to say that maybe I am not a good lover, or comment that I may be lacking in some way, that is the farthest from the truth. They all come back eventually, but first they have to act foolish and avoid me for a month or 2, then they call and try to do that whole "I was busy, problems at work/home ....." story.
I am not bragging, just the truth. every single man comes back. It may be a month, or 6 months, but they all come crawling back. Of course tha answer is no, but they try. I am honest up front and tell them that I am seeking a LTR. I know u have to start as friends first, and lead to more. Anyway, this has been my experience. | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/1/2007 11:15:31 PM | So if it has to be the 3rd or 5th or else you die, what happens if you don't get it on the
3rd, and if you are dead, can you get a 5th date.
Happy new year to all. | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/2/2007 12:24:31 AM | | Ok now grneyed thats just plain WRONG!! Its statements like those that make me so disappointed with the rest of my gender representatives. *tsk *tsk | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/2/2007 12:40:05 AM | | Scotty562 what did I say that was "WRONG"? I'm pretty sure I'm representing a different gender than you. | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/2/2007 1:01:17 AM |
Scotty562 what did I say that was "WRONG"? I'm pretty sure I'm representing a different gender than you.
I was wondering that myself. The quoting feature needs to be used more often.  | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/2/2007 1:02:46 AM | >It all depends on the 2 people There are really No rules. I have been with girls on the 1st and 2nd date.
Ok, somebody needs to ask. How did that work out for you? | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/2/2007 7:54:58 AM | If a guy dumps you for not sleeping with him then he is using you and if a woman dumps a man for not having enough money then she is using him, or visa versa. Now if your both broke and horny that is differrent  | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/2/2007 2:27:41 PM |
hottymamisexy, it has to be the on the 3rd or the 5th..........or else you die!!!!] hey there Stefani, i am glad to see that some one gets it lol....  | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 1:37:48 AM |
Scotty562 what did I say that was "WRONG"? I'm pretty sure I'm representing a different gender than you.
Im sorry, It was in reference to the 'been so long' part of your comment as in what a shame. No offense intended, swear!!  | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 2:48:35 AM | I don't always believe what I read, but I read an article about how sleeping with a guy on a first date can be a 2nd date killer. It made the point that it takes the mystery out of it, that if a guy doesn't have to work for it at ALL it can lose the thrill. Kind of like if you were going to run a race but someone handed you the trophy for 1st and said congrats before you took your first step, would you still want to run the race?
Course every person/relationship/man/woman/instance is different and I only offer this as a view.
And if were me I'd say 4th date just to throw off the 3r'd or 5th date rule ;) | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/4/2007 8:41:53 AM | It depends on how long you have known that person during that 3 or 5 date period and how much time you have spent getting to know them and they getting to know you. It also depends on what a person is looking for too. Long term or otherwise. In the world of dating and realations, I feel that there are no rulses because every one is different. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 10:08:44 AM |
Im sorry, It was in reference to the 'been so long' part of your comment as in what a shame. No offense intended, swear!!
Ok that makes more sense to me... it actually hasn't been that long. Occasionally FWB's can come in handy  | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 1:10:43 AM |
Ok that makes more sense to me... it actually hasn't been that long. Occasionally FWB's can come in handy
AMEN to that!!!! After all, its the FWB's that make the world go round...(or is it money? I can never remember) If it werent for FWB's, who would you give the  to? | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/5/2007 1:51:04 AM |
its the FWB's that make the world go round.
And I thought it was inertia! So much for all those physics classes I took in college. Can I get my money back or, at least, another major? (Physics certainly wasn't a way to meet women!) | |
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Posted: 1/5/2007 2:42:17 AM | Like many rules that seem stupid now, there was once a good reason for it. Back in the bad old days when men were expected to pay for everything, there were women who made a sport of stringing guys along to get as much entertainment out of them as possible.
The rule was to weed out women who used men that way.
There are some people out there who are still playing by the old rules. If a guy threatens to dump you for not putting out soon enough, my guess is that you probably aren't all that attracted to him anyway.
If a guy has already paid for a couple of dates, why not treat him to the next one? That will defuse the whole thing before it even comes up. Also, his reaction to your offer will give you good information about the rules he plays by.
All the best,
Robert | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:17:17 PM | Is there really a rule? Is it truly better to "wait" even if you both feel good about each other, and the kisses are sweet? Isn't it kind of game-playing to deny the feelings, just because of some silly rule?
All I have observed is that it's awfully different to be dating in my 40's than it was in my early 20's. Back then, I didn't really know what I wanted, how to say what I needed, to even know what it took to make me happy physically (and frankly, both "no" and "yes" were fraught with guilt). I dunno, maybe sex was more emotional then.
Now, at a more mature age, if the chemistry, and the mood, and the timing is right, and the opportunity is available, I say, "why not?". It can be the first date, or the 20th as long as you're both interested, and respectful of each other (and you use protection, of course). You don't have to feel guilty for feeling good. Very different state of mind than when I was just a young pup!
As an adult, I've never been with a man who didn't want to see me again, and/or continue a friendship, even if we slept together early on in a relationship. Maybe I'm just enjoying the FWB thing, but it is awfully nice to be touched and held - to give and receive. Isn't that the core of good sex?
To quote Tina Turner, "what's love got to do with it?"... LOL | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 9:06:40 PM | | what the **** is a fwb? new lingo or am I just under educated? | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 11:29:11 PM | ok first of all for all of you out there who dont know this by know its not a rule that you have to sleep with them on the third date.
whoever told you that is wrong!!!!
it an average that most people in the US after three dates will sleep together NOT A RULE AN AVERAGE get it right | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 9:03:28 AM | | well then FWB is good if both parties agree that is what they are! | |
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Posted: 1/12/2007 11:22:26 AM | I have heard the 3rd date "rule" a lot...but I am not one to "follow". I think you should have sex when ever...1st., 2nd, 8th, when ever the mood is right or you rip off each others clothes (which ever comes first  )
I agree i think its more of an average than a rule | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 1/12/2007 2:44:01 PM |
Should there be a certain time frame when you decide you'll have sex with someone you're seeing?
I wish I could take the high-road on this one and say that if he's really a keeper, your first sleepover should happen on your wedding night. But, who could ever wait that long??? Personally, I'm working on a new World Record for celibacy, so I understand.
Sex is such a field of landmines. If you become lovers right away, some guys lose interest. (I never have, but I'm probably an exception.) If you wait forever, some guys lose interest.
If you think he's cute and you want him, go for it. Rules spoil everything.
All of these so-called 'rules' are BS. I waited 3 days before calling a gal I'd just went out with last month. When I did call her, she was furious because I didn't call sooner. I wanted to call sooner, but figured I'd look desperate, so I went with the 3-day rule. Even after I explained all of this to her, she still dumped me. | |
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