| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 2/5/2007 8:15:37 PM | I've slept w/ a couple guys on the 1st night. Ended up married to 'em. I knew nearly as soon as we met. 1st marriage lasted 10 yrs, which was just as I predicted. Next... we still keep in contact. He wants to get back together, I keep reminding myself there was a reason we split.
Next one... I want to see a clean, recent STD screen 1st!!! & I'll have mine ready.
The stuff that's around these days is no "go get a shot in the butt" kinda stuff!!!
Next one's also the last one... need to take more time in deciding...
"I'm not really bad... I'm just drawn that way."
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 2/6/2007 11:30:46 PM | | I agree! What's wrong with waiting until you really know each other? Otherwise, how can it be great if you don't have a sense of intimacy with each other which is attained by getting to know them? There are so many rules...sigh. We just have to set our own personal ones...and stick by them. Sex is awesome...but it's not a sport *grin*..... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 12:16:13 AM | This response may or may not get me slapped.
I think it is totally up to the 2 people involved.
but also I think that regardless of how long you have or have not dated the person, make sure the sex is more than just sex. I spent a good deal of my younger days on a hump em and dump em roller coaster, it wasn't fair to them, and I know that. I was being stupid and just wanted to get my rocks off.
However, I don't see the harm in having sex before marriage. I mean would you buy a car without test driving it? I know I wouldn't. Sex isn't everything in a marriage , but it certainly helps if your enjoying making love to the person your married to. I should know. I respected my ex's wishes of waiting for marriage, then we got married, and I had 3 years of horrible sex. I am still trying to recover. This wasn't why the marriage completely broke down, but I think it might have helped to keep it in one piece from the start. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 3:20:30 PM | rofl Terribly sorry Ambiguous
Can't help it I am better with cars then women, although sometimes my car reminds me of my ex-wife | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 4:16:26 PM |
I don't see the harm in having sex before marriage. I mean would you buy a car without test driving it?
I wonder how many miles a 42 yr old woman has on her... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 4:20:12 PM | | One of my psych professors - who is a licencsed family therapist - says we should wait ten dates or more. I can roll with that. But, personally, I prefer to be in love first... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 4:26:04 PM |
I wonder how many miles a 42 yr old woman has on her...
hmmmm that's a good question
let's find out j/k | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 4:55:56 PM | interesting reading! it really depends on the "chemistry" as we all
should know! 1st 2nd 3rd...? I thinks it depends on the individual
situation....     | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 2/7/2007 5:13:11 PM |
I wonder how many miles a 42 yr old woman has on her...
There's the miles and there's how well she's been taken care of too ;) But women aren't cars and the analogy breaks down (or "brakes") when examined at all closely. | |
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Joined: 4/18/2006
Msg: 87 | |
| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 2/7/2007 10:28:01 PM | | I'm rolling on the floor here..laughing...because one guy actually said that to me and I just didn't know what to say (and I hate being stumped) but now I'm laughing because I think I get it.....thanks for the insight....too funny...... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 11:34:29 PM | | I don't think there should be rules. I don't have that rule- I pretty much always score on the 1st date. :P | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 11:55:11 PM |  Personally, I feel rules are made to be broken. It's more fun that way. Rules are for people that have no imagination or self discipline anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 3:30:25 AM | 3rd, 5th, 7th.... it doesn't matter. What really matters is that you don't have sex on an even number date. If you do, the relationship is doomed to fail and your babies will come out sideways.
WARNING: not all odd numbered dates are good for having sex. It has to be a prime number (exluding #2, of course, since it's one of the forbidden evens).
So the following date numbers are okay to have sex on:
3, 5, 7, 11, 13, 17, 19, 23, 29, 31, 37... etc. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 9:12:22 AM | I am with you sweet caramello91950. I prefer to be in love too but sometimes one just can't help themselves.  | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 9:51:01 AM | | 3rd date/5th date rule; sex is boring it doesn't matter to me. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 11:28:08 AM | when you 18 to about mid 20's you're hormones are usually on the date. so the 3rd date/5th date rule applys here.
when I was 20 I had woman who had sex with me on the first date an thought she was a hoe. now that I look back on that she probably considered me a hoe too.
also when I was 20 I date a woman who we decided to have sex on the 5 date
it started
1st date - getting to know eachother.
2nd date - we were holding hands
3rd date - at the end we were kissing
4th date - at the end I gave her massage
5th date - at the end I invited her in to my home, she accepted and we stayed together for about 2 yrs.
Now that I am 25 going on 26 I am thinking about my actions more and the Disease out there. I want more out of a relationship than just sex I want someone I can communicate with someone I can relate to.
when you're 30 something you want even more from a relationship.
when you're 40 something you body is starting to change and don't want or need sex as much. like menopause or even impotence.
just my thoughts! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 11:33:49 AM |
when you're 40 something you body is starting to change and don't want or need sex as much. like menopause or even impotence.
Oh, thanks a lot! I suppose by 50 our sex life is completely over. 
Maybe the urgency isn't there quite as often as it was in my teens. But I'm far from dead and impotence is not even close to being a factor.
Now that I am 25 going on 26
And soon you'll be able to eat solid food and walk on 2 feet | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 11:57:41 AM | Sex was boring to me too before I started having it.
As far as the 5th date - well it should only matter if the guy and girl both think sex should be apart of the relationship. I have never dumped anyone for not having sex with me by the 5th date. Then again I have never gone to a 6th date without sex hmm. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 1:42:46 PM | | That's ridiculous. Should just be whenever two people feel comfortable about it. Who needs that kind of pressure? | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 2:49:44 PM | I have a 90 DAY rule.........or I would be a unpaid hooker!!!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 6:48:19 PM | | Why not just have sex on the first date? That way you get the sexual tension out of the way. If he doiesn't call the next day then you'll know for sure that's all he wanted and you don't have to waste any more time trying to figure it out. | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 8:40:39 PM | | Of the last five women I've dated, 1 followed the "3rd date rule" and 4 followed a "1st date rule." | |
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