| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:56:26 AM |
I wonder how many miles a 42 yr old woman has on her.
Probably slightly more than a 41 year old woman....but doesn't that mean it's time to get checked under the hood, and a lube job? | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 3/10/2007 12:36:08 PM | Im only interested in celibate men...those kind get me so crazy    | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:38:15 PM | | I don't follow that rule but I think it works for a lot of people. By the 5th date, most people know if they want to sleep with each other. If someone still goes out with you after 5 dates and hasn't slept with you, then they might just see you as a friend. | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:03:36 PM | | I love that theoretical question. Personally I think I does depend on the actual meeting of the people. If there's chemistry? Then there's no going back or putting the brakes on, so to speak. These days, if it takes up to five dates? Why bother. Some body should take a hint. The other person is just being curtious and possibly going for the free meal/entertainment. Guys bring your raincoats either way. Don't leave it up to us. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 7:55:03 PM | "when you're 40 something you body is starting to change and don't want or need sex as much. like menopause or even impotence."
Wow!! Sure your body changes in your 40 somethings, but sex is WAAAAY better than in the 20 somethings. The desire hasn't dropped at all...just the recovery may be a little slower  In our 40 somethings we won't put up with BS just to get laid, like 25 years ago  If you go 5 dates without sex, someone doesn't like sex! | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 1:59:11 PM |
Probably slightly more than a 41 year old woman....
What if she's been driven in reverse for a long time?
but doesn't that mean it's time to get checked under the hood, and a lube job?
Ah....ah....no, I just can't do it. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 8:24:19 PM | I've never heard of those rules. I do think there should be a time frame in which you decide. However your decision will proably only aid you. This is how things start to get out of whack and a perfect parallel universe gets turned upside down. If it's the 1st 5 seconds or the last 5 seconds of the relationship be sure to inform your date of your decision.
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/12/2008 11:18:11 AM | | I agree completely with the poster that said if you sleep with a guy before the 5th date they won't take you seriously. I have had similar experiences. I've had men try to convince me they wouldn't lose respect for me if I slept with them right away on more than one occasion. On all of the occasions i caved in and slept with them, they lost respect for me. When a guy is ready to go.. they'll say whatever it takes to get what they want. I've learned that if they respected me in the first place they wouldn't be trying to pressure me into it in the first place.. so presently i live by that rule. Not to say that by the 5th date I would feel obligated to have sex, just that if it's going to happen it definitely won't be before then! | |
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Posted: 8/12/2008 11:47:00 AM |
I agree completely with the poster that said if you sleep with a guy before the 5th date they won't take you seriously.
What if you have an all-day first date... wouldn't that count as like five dates?
On all of the occasions i caved in and slept with them, they lost respect for me.
I don't care if you're on the 1st or 50th date, if you have to "cave in" to sex, then you shouldn't be having it. Having respect for yourself should be more important that if he respects you.
I like what some poster said back on page 1 the best!
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You have probibly decided in the first 5 minutes of meeting them -whether or not your going to ever have sex with them, and the next few dates trying to decide exactly when...  | |
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| 3rd date/5th date rule
Posted: 8/12/2008 12:01:27 PM |
I don't care if you're on the 1st or 50th date, if you have to "cave in" to sex, then you shouldn't be having it. Having respect for yourself should be more important that if he respects you.
That is so true I just had to post it again. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2008 3:23:42 PM |
I don't care if you're on the 1st or 50th date, if you have to "cave in" to sex, then you shouldn't be having it. Having respect for yourself should be more important that if he respects you.
At least once more.  | |
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Posted: 8/12/2008 4:35:10 PM | | I think the intimacy thing which is disclosing things, sharing emotions, trust etc. are the key factors involved in whether you move to a sexually intimate level...just physical attraction doesn't create sexiness...there is so much more involved...also The vulnerability factor is important...i.e. you may end up sexually involved ,if you are feeling emotionally needy...applies to both men and women..i.e. the desire to be comforted...on the other hand some people I've met play sexual games for competition,or vengence,or ego-trips as a game, not for closeness | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 9:07:33 AM |
I don't care if you're on the 1st or 50th date, if you have to "cave in" to sex, then you shouldn't be having it. Having respect for yourself should be more important that if he respects you.
Let me echo that as well and add this:
If you're doing something with me that you're ratehr not be doing, I'd just-as-soon skip it too. Really.
There are worse things in life than a case of blue balls. A grown man understands wha t"no" means. He also understands what "stop" means. Me? I'll stop on a dime at any time. If it doesn't feel right to you, who needs it--or the dreadful aftermath? I might check in to be sure that "no" or "stop" is what you really mean, but if it is, I'd rather you tell me so we can figure out what you'll be content with in that moment. Believe it or not, whether we're in a committed relationship or not, I want you to be happy and to have a truly good time with me whether it's 1 date or a 50+ year marriage.
I have never lost respect for a woman who has sex with me. I am grateful to each one!
I have lost interest in women who attach hidden meanings to it, use it as bait for whatever other agenda they might have, or otherwise do things that indicate they don't actually respect me. In most cases, I don't think they even realize it when they are disrespecting of me--a mere male.
Why would I want to have sex with someone who doesn't respect me, and especially someone who lacks the self-awareness to realize that she really doesn't?
If a woman doesn't respect herself, she can't possibly respect me. She might fear me because I'm male and therefore might hurt her feelings, but that's not respect. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 11:29:24 AM | 3rd Date: you’re both over at your place in your Mom’s basement with a bottle of Boones Farm: ... BoOm cHiKA BoW bOW…..... ohhhhhhhh yeeeeeeaaaaahhhhhh….
5th Date: Stalking her in front of her condo: “I have the police on their way and they are going to enforce my new restraining order, so you’d better get off from my porch, you miserable loser…”
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:14:25 PM | ^^^ Sock, who you been talkin' to?
(pssst... Janet!!! You know restraining orders are for sissy's right?)  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:37:19 PM | My guy is a nice Christian Boy...
(I am not religious...)
"...didn't want to be a fling," he said... "wanted it to last," he said...
..."didn't want to be just some guy," he said...
He made ME wait three whole weeks!!!
As THE planned date (he set) approached, he started getting really antsy!
We saw each other practically every day up until the date (he lives almost across the street from me),
and our mutual friends kept telling us, "get a a room!" and "are you two still here?"  "
It was good to have A LOT of making-out with the heat turned WAY up
because by the time we got there, we were both VERY ready.
Now, I have had more long-term relationships in my life than not, but there
have been those couple of times when I had wished I had been more patient in my youth.
--Not that every situation merits specific rules to me,
just believing some prospective boyfriend (I thought, anyway) was a nicer guy than he was.
I think the 3rd or 5th date is only becomes a RULE in hind-sight, for a lot of us.
...I think I had to not shave my legs to keep that one a couple of times!
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:40:32 PM |
I think I had to not shave my legs to keep that one a couple of times!
So, if we're messing around and your legs aren't shaved... I'll know you're being BAD? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:52:52 PM | ^^^No, it would mean that I decided NOT to sleep with you before I got ready for our date! lol
Convenient hearing, that Pete! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:59:17 PM |
^^^No, it would mean that I decided NOT to sleep with you before I got ready for our date! lol
Yes, but if we're messing around... wouldn't that mean you changed your mind?  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2008 1:07:31 PM | HAHA! Nice eyebrows!lol
I see....Yes, the chase makes it a sweeter victory for most of you guys!
If we like you, I think Barbe said it, we just won't run very fast! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 1:02:12 PM | I hate those rules, they make a diservice to us all, specially women!
Also, why do we most of the time think about the woman as "giving it up"?
We women don't have to give it up, we have the choice to decide that we want or we don't want to have sex with this particular man, wheather it is the first, second or 10th date! We may even decide that WE don't want to see HIM again after that! | |
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