| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/3/2007 9:45:52 PM |
It's just science dear, it doesn't have a penis or a vagina.
Whoaaa! Did smith2267 here just call me 'dear'??? Let me tell you smithie, science DOES have a penis right now - but not for long, dude - oops, I mean dear;)
crystalline - I'm with you. I dated a guy who every once in awhile (usually when he was drinking) would get that feminine lispy thing, too. Certain other behaviors of his were questionable as well. I thought it was just me, but I bagged him. Couldn't handle it. I guess it's possible someone else could - like maybe another man???
Subotai - trust me on this: men will always judge a woman on her appearance, regardless of whether we judge a guy on his voice - be it hair color, weight, boobs. You're right though - it IS a matter of preference. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:29:07 AM | well not that i dont trust you...but dont you think i might be a little more familiar with how men think then how you interpret it?
I seem to recall that i am a man ...and most of my friends...well there men too..and I hate to blow the stereotype....but intial attraction with both men and women is purely physical...but you just might be surprised how little men really care...after the intial.
To be honest...women are harder on thier own appearance and more judgemental than any man would ever be...with a few neanderthal exceptions...
My point is more that high voice and boobs are really only important if you are unable to look beyond that...we call it a preferance but really its a choice...do you look beyond or are you stuck in the "fantasy" world?.
For example many women need a tall physcially fit man in order to feel "safe" well this is really a joke in reality its the skinnier shorter guys who are usually better protectors.
Dont get me wrong if a 200 pound 6 footer hits you in the head youll likely go down...however its the little guys who fight to the bone. I know this cause I used to pretend to be tough guy..its always the smaller ones who were the toughest and best protectors....but i know this wont change any womans perspective...but it just goes to show when you look beyond stereo types...you see they are mostly bs... | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/4/2007 7:40:43 AM | Maybe someday POF will offer a way for us to put our voices on here. Until then My voice will remain silent. And there is nothing wrong with feeling that way. I personally don't like to date obese women. Is that wrong. What is right for some. May not be right for others. Everyone has their own personal preferences. So, I say to each his/her own.
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/4/2007 5:06:15 PM | | For me, it's not so much the timbre of the voice, it's what is being said. A deep voice speaking an empty mind is much more a dealbreaker than a higher pitch sharing intelligent thoughts. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/4/2007 8:58:19 PM |
For example many women need a tall physcially fit man in order to feel "safe" well this is really a joke in reality its the skinnier shorter guys who are usually better protectors.
I only dated one really tall guy, and well, things just didn't 'line up' right.
I think there's something to be said for a guy who's short and stocky. In fact, I never really went for the muscleheads, even when I was younger. Nine chances out of ten, if they have rock hard bodies and tower above me, they've been with every woman in town already with no real desire to settle down. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/5/2007 6:42:42 AM |
Nine chances out of ten, if they have rock hard bodies and tower above me, they've been with every woman in town already with no real desire to settle down.
OMG blaze ...are you familiar with stereo types?
As a "semi rock hard man who would probally tower above you"...you couldnt be more wrong.
The external build of someone has little to do with resides in their heart or in their mind...but thats quite the scientific study there...heres one i recenly made up, whoops i mean read:
"9 times out of 10 stereo-types are freaking inaccurate"...
see web referance www.imadethatshyteup.com
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:31:18 AM | All hetero women know that a guy's voice does matter. Yes I am making a valid
generalization that happpens to be truth! You show me one hetero couple where
the guy has a high pitched voice and I will eat my hat. Every hetero woman wants a
man with a deep voice! Just like every hetero woman wants a man;ly man, not some ****. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/5/2007 8:55:54 PM |
Is the doctor you're stalking deep voiced or short and stocky??? LOL
Hmmm? Let me think here - he does have a gentle, but masculine voice (though not the Marlboro-type voice). And yes, he's sort of short of short and stocky, too. ha ha!
"9 times out of 10 stereo-types are freaking inaccurate"...
I'm sorry - you are correct here. I take that back - my mistake. My corrections follow:
Nine chances out of ten, if they have rock hard bodies and tower above me, they've been with 'almost' every woman in town already with no real desire to settle down.
Nine chances out of ten, if they have rock hard bodies and tower above me, they've been with every woman in town already with no real desire to settle down 'with one woman'.
Better???;) | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:42:58 PM |
Personally I love a deep voice.......the deeper, the sexier.
I'm a baritone but I can do deep bass. I've also done voices over work. Any takers? (Just not you Blaze) | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:35:05 PM | | It definitely isn't a deal breaker for me if I've already established online that I like the person. But, by the same token, a sexy voice just melts me...... | |
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Tirkus
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:57:15 PM | [i had a friend from boston too that when he called i was like...ewww i do not like this accent...I don't want to sound insulting but i went on a date with a guy here who was from boston and ewww...that accent is just the worst to me...]
I so agree with Belly Dancer!! A voice could be a deal breaker for me, but not for the same reasons as everyone's saying. I don't really care how deep a voice is. But, oh my gosh, NE accents are the w-o-r-s-t. No accent, or a slight southern drawl, I like. Oh, I like Canadian accents too. Actually, come to think of it, the only European accent I like is a Scottish one. Geez. I'm an accent snob. Oh well.
Have you ever talked to a guy who sounds like he has an extra set of teeth in his mouth, or a second tongue? And it's like you can actually hear his spit trying to find a place to settle in the midst of his words? | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:11:09 PM | I say "Yes", if you want to move forward at all,
then you must enjoy the sound of one another,
same for a woman! Its one of our most enjoyable
senses, sound--taste--feel--sight!! We're all guilty
of liking certain somethings that well.........
......makes ya go hum.... | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 12:53:36 AM | My ex ex had an Italian accent. It was alright, except when he got 'emotional' his voice would get very high pitched. lol Didn't bug me though. Just made me giggle.
I knew a guy (that was into me) who claimed he was straight but had the 'gay voice'. At first I thought he was joking, but I realized it was for real. I thought maybe he was from somewhere in Canada where their accent is like that. Nope... he was born in Vancouver. Now I could deal with the high pitch whine from my ex, but that was just... I mean it was the 'trademark' homosexual male voice. I was expecting him to throw out his limp hand and kick up at his foot at any moment... | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:45:58 AM | Everything matters. Because the whole package is made up of many bits of that person. Everything. Past, experiences, looks, humor, intelligence, personality....everything.
Some things will just be less important in the scheme of things. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:10:38 AM |
This sounds really silly, but a guy's voice has become one of my 'dealbreakers' (though not the only one) and my best friend agrees. Are we the minority?
I don't know. I've had it happen more than once (though not on here yet) where I liked a guy's pictures and got along via email, but once I heard his voice, things went sour. I shouldn't even talk because I have a vocal chord polyp, and my own voice is really raspy as a result. I actually pinned this as a dealbreaker though before my own voice went south.
I guess what I'm saying here is that, though he need not sound like the Marlboro Man on the phone, I do seem to need to 'hear' a certain degree of testosterone in a guy's voice to keep interest. If it has too much of a feminine twang to it, I lose interest almost immediately - at least as far as romance goes.
Beyond sense of humor, intelligence, and smile (and animal person, oh - and employed) - voice seems to be my only remaining dealbreaker. In fact, looks have less of an impact on me than these things. Am I alone in thinking like this?
OP, I hope you can handle healthy criticism. Yes it is silly and in fact it is shallow to judge a guy by his voice. It seems people keep getting lower and lower and thats just not right.
I guesse atleast you don't focus on looks as much, so thats one good thing , and it's a BIG thing by the way, so kudos to you for that, but still, you ruin it with this "voice problem" that YOU see in others.
What I said may have sounded alittle hars.....maybe not, I don't know, but it was honest and the truth and I hope you can understand that with a loving heart.
Besides, what is a beautiful lady like you doing judging a guy by his voice??  | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:20:40 AM | | I agree with Blaze 100%. If the guy's got a whiney, nasal voice, it's a dealbreaker. As shallow as that sounds, I'm just trying to be honest. A man has to sound like a man. But, like the OP, my voice is a little deeper than guys expect it to be. Although that doesn't seem to bother any of them. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:31:10 AM | Does it make a difference? YES!! Is it an absolute deal-breaker - not always.
For me its not always the tone (although who can resist that deep voice...) If I have met someone online, and then talk to them and they dont sound like I thought they would, its just something to get used to.
You get an idea in your head about what someone should sound like. I talk to people all day on the phone, but never see them, and I get an idea of what I think they look like. Ive met some that look NOTHING like what I thought they would!!
And like someone else has stated, they can have the sexiest voice in the world, but if he is empty headed, its not going to work for me. A smooth voice, and some brains will win EVERY time.!! | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 1:19:07 PM | | Yes, his voice matters in that I'd like him to have one that runs shivers down my spine. But most men don't, so I don't require it. But I like a nice, strong, firm, manly voice that lets me know that he's here and everything's gonna be all right now. | |
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 6:22:10 PM |
Everything matters. Because the whole package is made up of many bits of that person. Everything. Past, experiences, looks, humor, intelligence, personality....everything.
Some things will just be less important in the scheme of things.
Jasmine got it right there.
I would like to think that voice would never be a dealbreaker for me, but if I found his voice really annoying, how am I going to be able to handle spending lots of time talking to him? And I would have to convince him never to talk during sex...
Just like physical appearance, I want the voice of the person I'm with to be attractive *to me*. What I find sexy may not be every woman's cup of tea. But when I hear his voice and my body reacts, when I could listen to him talk about the most boring subject just because I like to hear his voice, of course that's going to make me more attracted to him. So, yeah, it's not as important as some other things, but it does matter.
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| Does a guy's voice matter?
Posted: 1/23/2007 6:55:25 PM | | Oh it is soo not just you! I think a guys voice is high on most womens lists. However I don't think I would let it stop me from dating a great guy just because his voice wasn't deep enough. | |
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