| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 1:06:10 PM | I agree with Readywoman..it is equally distributed and is more prevalent on this webiste more than others.
I don't get the impression that alot of men are looking for a true relationship here..just looking to play around, so to speak. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 1:13:15 PM | | I also am conducting research on this topic and I have come to some very interesting conclusions. We should compare notes sometime and create a final report that can be used to help unsuspecting dating site newbies on the truth about meeting people online. It is possible to meet people, because I have been successfully doing it for many years, yet it sometimes leaves you feeling let-down or pushed aside or rejected and I don't feel that is the intention that most women on here have. I met a really nice lady on POF. She moved in with me and helped me with a dog rescue, then took over my job and I moved elsewhere. We are still good friends and I care a great deal for her, but we will probably never be together in a relationship. But that doesn't mean that we have to no longer associate with each other. Anyway, I'm rambling on..... See ya! Robster | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 1:45:53 PM | | lets face it...women get more emails , there for they take it for granted and arent as appreciative when we send a simple "hello". They say they want something creative, which means they want to be played | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 2:10:40 PM | You assume we take them for granted. If a man walked up to a woman in real life and just said hello, she would not assume he wanted to get to know her. It is no different here. Also not all women here are getting a lot of mail daily. Rabid generalizations are always so popular.
For some odd reason, you seem to think a woman having preferences for men is wrong. There are also a fair amount of men who are creative and bright and not players. I have one. I can prove this. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:41:09 PM | | I've gotten alot of mail recently even though my profile says I'm no longer looking. I email everyone back, but there have been guys who email me, I email them back and then they go POOF. Women aren't the only ones who do this. Why bother to email us to begin with if you are going to disappear after we email you back. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:05:32 PM | | You know QT, i noticed a big upswing in my mail when I stopped looking too. The second I was taken, suddenly I was a hot property. What does that mean? | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:33:33 PM | It means some men like a challenge and don't care about stepping on another man to see if he can get something someone else has.
I back off the minute someone tells they are getting to know someone else. I don't want someone else's man. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:44:15 PM | "Maybe it's just you who thinks the conversation is going great. Or maybe when they get to know you, they find they do not like you"
first of all they didnt get to know me, secondly i am not assuming the conversations went great...because even they said it was | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:53:29 PM | Thank you Mominatrix!
If I felt I had the responsibility to stop and respond to every guy who nodded and said "hello" on the street, I'd never get anywhere! I try and respond to most emails if they say more the hello. I haven't been doing this dating site thing long however one of the first things I noticed was how you can be chatting with someone and all of a sudden I'm thinkin' "hey, wonder what happened to him?"
I think its the internet way of finding out about "cyber chemistry". It seems to me it's a mutual thing. We both sort of just drift off of emailing. If he's still interested then he'll continue to email me. If I'm still interested I keep buggin' him! Thusly, no one goes "poof". If I go "poof' it's on him as well as me.
Did that make sense? Again: I think "poof" is a mutual thing or there would be closure.
Well, now that I think about it maybe there won't be closure. But I know for me I'm afraid to go "poof". It sounds scary like I might not make it back!!!
But really, if someone has "left the building" and you send a couple of "hey, how's it goin" and they still don't respond, wellllll, be grateful you weeded em out early doncha think? They're not someone you want to spend your energy on. That's how I look at it, I don't get all pissy and think all guys are like that. I know better than that.... | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/23/2007 4:53:44 PM | We have all done the poofing thing with some or most of the men on here and will probably do so. again. You know within the first few minutes whether or not you want to continue a conversation.
Some guys are more comfortable talking to someone on the phone right away. I don't get that...isn't there some sort of protcal you are suppposed to follow while on-line dating...
I think that I am very outgoing and have no problem holding a conversation and making someone laugh, but when the person isn't much of a talker you have to remember that poeple like to talk about themselves the most of all. So there you go...have them talk about themselves....did that make any sense? | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:30:24 PM |
We have all done the poofing thing with some or most of the men on here and will probably do so. again. You know within the first few minutes whether or not you want to continue a conversation.
continue a email conversation..or other?
Some guys are more comfortable talking to someone on the phone right away. I don't get that...isn't there some sort of protcal you are suppposed to follow while on-line dating... NO! There isn't a 'protocal' one should follow when typing or emailing one another...
And...email gives you a chance to think out your response as compaired to a phone conversation...for hours sometimes...both laughing and cutting up...which as compaired to emails doesn't give much time for quips, witty responses...making someone LOL on the phone... | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/24/2007 9:19:14 AM | That would be both...email and or a phone conversation.
And I do not agree with you...I think that there should be some sort of protocal or some set of unspoken rules regarding this on-line dating.
But on the other hand I agree with you that emails do give you a chance to think or overly thingk about an answer. But the excitement of phone calls is in the spontaneity of it all and how someone reacts during the conversation. You can not really laugh out loud or cut up via an email like you can on the phone for 4 to 5 hours, Allan.  | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/24/2007 9:58:32 AM | | Perhaps the admins can appoint a protocal commity and they could start ironing out the possibilities on On-line dating? They could make it in a roll...call it the Protocal Papers...make for some good reading while sitting.... | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/24/2007 2:34:18 PM | lol
Yeah! That's it Allan, a committee! Then they could have their committee meetings and they could argue about what protocols to appt. for all of us who need more rules! NOT...
I reiterate: It takes two to Tango, or unTango as the case may be..... | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/25/2007 10:31:55 AM | I think women aren't here to actually meet anyone, but rather to see just what men will say, or do to meet them.
There no actual interest anywhere that I've looked. Iunno. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/25/2007 5:54:39 PM |
So who here wants to be on the committee? LOL
Oh I will....ill be a tester to see how well the paper rips...does it tear evenly? does it chaff? Is it biodegradable? Will it stop up the toilet? can you blow your nose on it? | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/25/2007 6:24:16 PM | I say............ Let them POOF!! it's probably for the BEST!! when one door shut's the other one open's........things happen for a reason!!!
xoxo
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| whats up with all of the people?
Posted: 1/25/2007 7:04:21 PM | | Women have usually been taught not to be rude, BUT ALL BETS ARE OFF ONLINE! You don't really have to say a thing or give a good g-damn. Men are usually the poofers, you know... don't call when you say you will or some such nonsense as that. If you are not that into someone why can't we just say>>> Hey, you're cool just not my type. Watcha looking for maybe I can hook you up with another friend that may click better. Why can't we say what we mean and really mean what we say!? Give what you wanna get and good karma comes back at ya! Not every time, there is a****ead in every crowd, but most people are cool. Give the truth a chance! | |
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| whats up with all of the people?
Posted: 1/26/2007 6:47:18 AM | | eros its funny because you have just described the action of most women who decide they dont want to give a guy a shot. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/26/2007 9:34:30 AM | "If a man walked up to a woman in real life and just said hello, she would not assume he wanted to get to know her. It is no different here"
actually to any intelligent person, this would be obvious. as far as i assume we are taken for granted? Im not assuming, it has been admitted over and over again. All you hear from most women is HOW MANy emails they get a day...and that they ONLY reply to very few...pretty obviously taken for granted there. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/26/2007 11:33:00 AM |
actually to any intelligent person, this would be obvious. as far as i assume we are taken for granted? Im not assuming, it has been admitted over and over again. All you hear from most women is HOW MANy emails they get a day...and that they ONLY reply to very few...pretty obviously taken for granted there.
No actually you are taking women for granted! If you weren't you wouldn't have said what you did.....not all women are taking things for granted....and if a woman comments on how many emails she gets a day isn't that her right? or is it in your world only men get rights?
Astounding.....all I have to say.
VaL | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/26/2007 12:40:40 PM | | i said somewhere that mean only have rights? wow...I look bad and see I said nothing even CLOSE to that. Funny how you can say something and somehow people see something totally different. i have never taken women for granted. That would be a guy who gets tons of emails..What does taken for granted mean? it means you KNOw you will get emails...dso therefore you dont appreciate them as much, and wont answer most of em cause you know they will always be there. most women have admitted this...but, then again, some say they DONT get alot of emails. Thse tend to be the nicer women, who are easier to get along with. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/26/2007 2:14:29 PM | | guys do it too. Tell me which you would rather hear; "sorry, I don't really like you." or poof? | |
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