| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/26/2007 2:23:41 PM | | Well personally i think id rather hear "sorry i dont really like you" or " im just not that into you" rather than being ignored by the person for the rest of my existance..This way i can know why they dont talk to me anymore and i know that they are okay and didnt fall off the edge of a cliff lol | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/27/2007 1:37:41 AM | I have had my share of "poofs." The only ones that bother me are the ones I've invested time getting to know and then for no obvious reason communication ceases, this includes some people in this thread but I am not naming any names 
Wondering why people do the things they do is a pointless endeavor however. Best to just come to terms with that simple fact and move on.
The only times I myself "poof" on any one it is because they genuinely frighten me or say something I find rude or hurtful. Even then I'd give them the opportunity to explain themselves. I don't just cut people loose because it's convenient and I'm not that fickle. I do my best to keep open all the connections I make. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/27/2007 2:34:40 AM | I feel that this site has lot's of women on here that have let themselves fall victim to their own press & some allow & want to be victims ---Crying that some "GUY" messed them over & you go & look at their profile & only see them wearning clothes 5% of the time....
(BUT you email them & don't excite them? DONE! they get a chance to "SNUB YOU" / the male race...)
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Shame that more women don't have a little more adventuresome spirit & allow & respond to the MALES on this web site...
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/27/2007 10:28:02 AM | I sometimes think that women have a cognitive disconnect with what they say and what they do. I also, sometimes feel, that they like to blame us, poor defenseless guys, when their perceptions of reality don't match what we consider reality. It may be hard wired into women; so I usually take it with a grain of salt, or sugar, as the case may be.
My current view of women is that, if I can work with them, then some type of non-sexual relationship can occur (as it can in a work relationship) if I am willing to try to find it. I have found it easier to get used to women (sometimes it feels like simply putting up with them), if I can go over to their place, take off all of my clothes, and let them fondle me for an hour, or so. We usually call it a massage; and it doesn't always include sex.
Maybe there is something to touch therapy. Some of the studies I have read, would indicate that touch can be beneficial in helping with some behavioral issues. I tend to think it helps me overcome some negative emotions when dealing with women, if I get a good fondling (massage) every once in a while. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/27/2007 11:26:27 AM | Gardenfairy, you are exactly right, I thought the same thing about robz. He really hates women, so why is he here?????? Think about it robz.
I, myself, don't go poof without leting the guy know why I am not interested. If I don't respond to the first e-mail than I am not interested, no explaination required. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/27/2007 11:41:45 AM | | I don't mind so much (just a little) if they read the first email and don't bother replying. If they view my profile and aren't into what they see, no biggie. But if we've spent time getting to know each other - opened yourself to the person, then it's just rude to "poof". I'm with pinup - it's better to be told they're not interested than just being blown off. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:47:32 AM | Thank you bane_
Mefeels this is turning into a woman bashing thread? Nah, you guys wouldn't do that. I'm going to say it. I get a lot of emails every day. And guess what? I respond to almost all of them. Usually with something oh so clever if I do say so myself. j/k I've kept up some of them but like I said before...... IT TAKES 2 BAYBAYAYAY IT TAKES 2 BBAYBAYAYAY ME AND YOU, IT TAKES TWO!
Seriously, why's everybody gettin' their panties in a bunch. I for one am not a rude person. If I don't answer someone i've been chatting with (and it happens) it's cuz I get distracted. All they have to do is remind me and I'm back. jeez.
So if a woman goes poof! do you email her again and say "hey'? I'm just curious. and then do they still not respond? hmmm I wonder if any guys have done that. duh | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/28/2007 5:59:47 PM | | The guys on this website have to understand not to take anything personal. As the women, most likely, get 20x more emails then the average Joe. So relax. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/28/2007 6:46:51 PM | Hello, I would first say that most of the women who posted replies and decided to get arrogant are the types to be players. There's especially a few on the first page who got real attitudes. If your so damn hot, and perfect why are you on this website. Secondly if your so damn intelligent how come you can not find a man? Why? Because your****, arrogant, and self absorbed. Many women now a days think to highly of themselves, are not really looking hard for a good sensitive man. Your looking for the bbd THE BIGGE BETTER DEAL.
I have wasted a lot of time on listening and going on dates with some of you, and honestly your a lot like the other girls, self absorbed, careeriest, snotty, and most do not know how to relate anymore. Your daddys taught you the your the princess and you must be spoiled and pampered. That is what the job of a guy is. I am certain many of you on this website of the female persuasion are not really worth a damn. Most got same attitudes, that men some how owe you something. So, you need to get a grip, learn to love, and care for another person. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/28/2007 9:56:20 PM | Havin funwme. Resentments perhaps? Carrying those around will make you miserable ya know.
A quote from your profile: "If your special and cool enough to date me your very lucky. I am not interested in boring girls who do not want a good time."
From you post: "Many women now a days think to highly of themselves, are not really looking hard for a good sensitive man."
????? Is it just me? or is something wrong with this picture....
They say if you hate something about someone, you are seeing a part of yourself that you dislike.
You know, the looking in the mirror thing. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/28/2007 10:12:42 PM | They say if you hate something about someone, you are seeing a part of yourself that you dislike
Using that logic....everyone on here who says they hate liars and cheaters must be liars and cheaters themselves.
Looking in the mirror has more to do with judging others for faults while at the same time not judging ourselves for our own faults. Does'nt mean we own the same flaws and faults | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/29/2007 10:29:04 AM | As far as POOF goes, I'd actually prefer that over some of the snotty replies I've received. LOL!!!
As far as resentments go, they do tend to build up after a while. There is a distinct pattern among people who are single--of both genders.
There are some who are takers and they know it. After a while they're easy to spot and easy to weed out just by saying something stern in your profile. Players just want to play, and if you look like you might call them on their misbehavior they're really not interested in that.
There are others who are takers but don't know it. They are also easy to spot. They're the ones who speak in fairy-tale metaphors or describe exactly what it is that they want from a partner in detail, but can only be vague about what they have to offer. They are prime targets for the takers who know it. That old saying about con artists is true. You can only con those who want something for nothing.
Next, there are givers who don't know their own value. They are the ones who complain that they can't get a date, or for whom things never work out, or who explode with resentment every so often. Those fits aren't very attractive, but if I were going to mine this site for a partner with potential I might start with them.
Someone like that can be a bit of a project, though, because they really don't know their own value and it can be hard for them to accept that they have it or appreciate what it is. However, there is nothing like seeing a person blossom, and once they open up and start expressing the truth of who they are it is A W E S O M E !!!! Totally worth the wait.
But it can be a wait, because they've been thoroughly trained to expect nothing but neglect and abuse, and are often too badly hurt to open up easily. For them, it's either slow and steady or a back-and-forth process of fits and starts--depending on how badly they've been neglected. Players and takers call them people with "baggage." However, they came by it honestly. And, if they are capable of being honest about it, they will come to a willingness to let it go when they see they're with someone who is neither going to neglect nor abuse them, and who is willing to have a little patience with their difficulties.
Actually, the ones who are honest about their baggage are good prospects in the moment. The ones who are still in the habit of blaming others for their troubles probably aren't as of yet.
Finally, there are givers who do know their value. They know who they are and probably don't last long here.
My criterion for a potetial friend or lover? A willingness to try seeing things from my point of view. That goes a long way toward healing any damage that might occur when my baggage collides with hers. Needless to say, that is also something that I have to offer!
All the best,
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/29/2007 12:25:14 PM | Life is too damn short to carry grudges and resentments over the crapola you may see on here.
If someone on here does'nt like my attitude or what I have to say or the way I look. I say forget em.
Maybe when I was 25 it may have bothered me, but at 44 and having lived a little, I don't have enough time left on this earth to worry about how others on here or any other dating site feel about me. I only worry about those in my life who's opinions of me matter to me. | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/29/2007 12:29:02 PM | | Good outlook:) It annoys me though when someone starts stuff with me for no reason. I am going to stick up for myself obviously but i hate doing it over the internet, very immature, yet i do it on here especially because i know only about 20 of the people on this site in person. I just think its ridiculous how worked up i get and i admit its stupid but i cant help it :( | |
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| whats up with all of the women?
Posted: 1/29/2007 1:05:54 PM | Well, there are a million people looking for the same things but only one or two of them will have the chemistry to connect. We can't be soft shelled in here. It's nice to be nice and honest and creative gets our attention but when you get hundreds of letters a day how are you going to write each one a 'sorry but we're not a match'????
Not that I get hundreds of letters a day anymore, but a lot of these young ladies do, and you men need to stand out in the crowd.
This is a great way to learn who you are, what you want and where you want to be in life. Take your time and keep writing. We aren't going to catch any fish unless we use good bait.
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| whats up with all of the women?/Reply to Mougge
Posted: 1/29/2007 3:03:49 PM | Well, Mougge, perhaps you are dicriminiating too much and therefore eliminating a lot of nice ladies. I tried to send you a reply to your profile and got a message back saying that you were only accepting messages from those that live very close to you. I can understand that, as I am looking for the same thing, namely a relationship with someone within close driving diatance, but, on the other hand, there is nothing wrong with just chatting online with others a little farther away. You never know what might happen. Surely you, a die-hard movie fan like myself, must have seen "Six Degrees of Seperation" and realize that connections are made by networking with others.
On the other hand, maybe the women have received from you some of the same lines that I have gotten, which always have sexual connotations, even in the first message they send, or even more incredulous, from those who are disabled and trying to figure out the 375th Kamu Sutra position to try when they have arthritis from the nose down!
PS: It was Robert DeNero(Jimmy) talking to Ray Liotta (Henry) in "Goodfellas," as it is my favorite movie too. Since we are soulmates in that respect but you will not accept my message, you owe me a dinner, that is, if you ever get to my territory, Palm Springs!!!
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| whats up with all of the women?/Reply to Mougge
Posted: 1/29/2007 3:59:23 PM | "whats up with all of the women?" All the women are great.
Women know what they want and what they don't (most of them). As for me, I don't have a clue...any for sale? I'll trade you [This Space] for one. Lookin for a good clue...anyone? | |
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