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Posted: 1/2/2007 6:17:41 PM | It means exactly what it says, "he's the best boyfriend you'll ever have", at least to his mind he is. Just pat him on the head like you would a little boy, and answer back,
"of course you are". 
have you tried just straight out asking him why he doesn't hug you back?
some men are not affectionate openly. he may be that type, if you need that reassurance from someone, then you may need to move on. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 9:36:09 PM |
why do i sometimes come 5th on his list
Op, among the other "stuff" in your "nice" profile, you mention motorcycles in your interests section. Could it be that this guy was a biker? You know, important things to bikers are 1) brothers 2) bike, etc. woman being somewhere around 5th.
Your responces to other posts in here show you have very little patience and self control. Hence, he could be right in his staement to you. I hate when people don't take what I say on face value, and spend hours trying to read between the lines. If I held up my first 3 fingers, starting with my index finger and you read between the lines, what would you have? Study that for hours if need be. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 10:13:03 PM | | Well, I had a boyfriend tell me that 25 years ago and unfortunately, he was right. I have never found anyone that treated the way he did which was wonderful and it was definitely my fault we broke up...we were just too young at the time. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 11:10:03 PM | When we are in relationships, sometimes that is the only fallback line or recourse that they have. And sometimes......SOMETIMES....in that instant, it cause someone to think back instantly through their relationships and think of all the good times they had with that person. Some people get fooled into the " No one will treat me like they did, I will not find another.....the sun will not rise, my tv's broken, chocolates not sweet, etc" Like I said, it is a last ditch effort sometimes " no one will love you like I do, or treat you like I did"
or, I am the best boyfriend you ever had"
thats hooey
UNLESS, UNLESS
your boyfriend is Mr.christie, he makes Good cookies...in that case...he is the best boyfriend you will ever have, marry him now, take his cookies.
Or, or, if he is chef boy R dee, same deal....mmmmm Pasta
Stay away from the kool aid man, he is not that good of a dancer
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Posted: 1/4/2007 8:34:45 AM | Dude! I hear this shyt all the time!:
"Don't cheat yourself...."
"You'll never find (blum, blum, blum, blum)....."
"Aint too many guys like me....."
Like I'm chopped liver,or something. I didn't read all the posts, so forgive any and all repitition (if any). I call this simply being--pitched a dream--sometimes, he actually sells us the dream. Fortunately, as we grow older we get wiser, generally.
I am waiting for the day when a guy says, "I fcuk up sometimes......really bad sometimes, but never the same way twice. Throughout my life, I have come to realize that being nice is hard as hell, but I'm up for the challenge."
For some reason that's very reassuring to me......... | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 11:26:28 AM | Sounds a bit like what my ex said: "I'm just trying to help you be a better person!
Sounds like we were married to the same man....LOL
Have also heard the "you'll never do better than me" line but I didn't take it personally, I took it as a challenge!
Like everyone says, it depends on the context.... in your particular case as you've described it I have no idea what he meant.
However, if somebody says that as you are on the way out the door it has more to do with them than what they actually think of you, it's simply an attempt on their part to manage, do damage control and regain their power by intimidating you into staying by suggesting that no one else will want you or be as good as they are. In that case, don't look back! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 1:02:36 PM | I think it's just a formula line, I've heard it from guys I just met and in ending relationships. Just ignore it. It means nothing except manipulation. I've never had the urge to say "Oh, you are quite right! I must let you stay in my life because I am such a loser I can't do better than you!"
I think a much better line is "You'll never find anyone who loves you like I do." At least there may be some truth in that, and if loving you means you are somewhere down the list from his fish, or smacking you one when ever they get tanked, then you are very, very lucky! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 5:01:05 PM | Dump his ass.
This is the kind of line abusers say to secure control and beat your self-esteem into useless tatters. YOU'LL be the judge of what kind of BF he is... not him.
It's a ploy to hold on to you. If he has to use negativity instead of doing something like, oh, I don't know, taking you out for a surprise dinner or a massage.... then he ISN'T the best BF you'll ever have... because there are guys that will do those things for you floating out there somewhere, instead of flapping their gums about how great they are.
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Posted: 1/21/2007 8:22:48 PM | That is actually a form of mental abuse. There is no excuse for such words. It is as bad as calling you ugly, fat, worthless or any of the other ways to mentally abuse someone.  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 8:28:37 PM | The ONLY way a guy could say that is if he had no idea how much of a loser he really was to assume he was the best ever available. No sense of proportion, or imagination. And to top it all off, he really had no idea of what you were all about, obviously.
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Posted: 1/21/2007 8:39:35 PM | ...he's a controller.
Recently experienced this. First of all he came off as very attentive and gentlemanly. Then it turned to giving me "suggestions" ....finally after I got to the point where I decided I wasn't really "feeling it" with him & told him. He proceeded to send me a litany of all the things that were wrong with me and THEN tell me he was willing to overlook them and was willing to take me back (after I dumped him?) LOL. Whoopdi doo
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Posted: 1/21/2007 8:48:55 PM |
Who in their right mind during a conversation...discussion..aurgument
would say " im the best boyfriend you will ever have"
No one (in their right mind).
Have you never said anything in total frustration, anger or hurt that you spewed crap that made no sense?
hmm... guess, I'm the only one. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 10:29:21 PM | OP:
"I am the best bf you could ever have." Also, that statement could be in the form of, "I am the greatest,nicest guy you will ever know.If you let me go, it will be a huge mistake and your loss.Because I am just the greatest guy I know of."
Translation:
"Nobody has ever told me I'm great, but I think I am.And someday, after I tell a girl this, I might just get lucky and have her believe me."
I seriously don't think it was a slam towards you.He no doubt just wanted to go a few rounds with you, and went to the desperate measure of trying to convince you of his awesomeness.In my experience, every single guy who has told he just how awesome he was, wasn't.The great guys are the ones who don't feel the need to tell you. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 10:37:53 PM | | I think you are dating my ex! His conversation goes like this( You will never get a man as good as I am! Iam the best thing that ever happened to you. I am the man to solve all your problems. Your a fool! look at me ( all this while flex'ing his biceps) Is he blonde? If he is run! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 10:46:10 PM | Well, I’m replying mostly to just the original post – as that really is all I have to go on. And really, all there is, is his saying: “I’m the best boyfriend you will ever have”. As expected, most have taken this in all it’s negative connotations – full of himself, a loser, degrading to you, those sorts of things. And I will admit, this is entirely possible. There’s no way for me (or anyone else here) to know for sure as it is only you, OP, who knows this person. But since you asked “What else could that mean?”, here’s a scenario I’ve not heard mentioned yet – and I take it from my own experience.
At one point in my life, a long time ago now, I was deeply in love with a woman and I truly believed that I was the best boyfriend she could ever have. And I didn’t mean this as degrading to her, but that I truly believed that no one could love her as much as I did. I just didn’t see how it would be possible. So, although I never actually said this to her, I did believe in my heart that I was the best boyfriend she could have. Yeah, I was young and foolish, and have since learned the error of thinking like that, but ... at the time, what I was saying was in no way degrading to her (quite the opposite, actually) and it was certainly not myself that I was full of, but her.
As for this particular situation, I have no idea what I believe. It’s really not for me to believe one thing or the other. For it’s not my place to judge – only yours, OP. But you did ask in your original post: “What else could it be?” Just thought I’d point out another “what else”.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 1:26:15 AM | | I have heard that. It came from a man who used emotional blackmail and control as his technique to keep me chained down so to speak. It is meant to not make him look good, but make the woman feel bad about herself and her worth. It attempts to make her grateful that he is there. Imagine that... glad someone will treat you like crap. Funny thing is... it usually works. PS. Did not work on me forever. I found the door. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 6:23:27 AM | WELL i said it well sort of I said"Youll never find someone who loved you like I did" and added some more LOLCause it was true...But he had cheated ...so had to get my pennies worth end before he hit the door, with all his Cristmas presents in tow!!!I agree with Fallen depends if he was a loser and said it,its a joke!!!In my case he was the loser and the cheating joke and I was the BEST woman hell ever have!!just plain truth...also love Hey Its Dougs response!!!being alone IS better than being with a louser ,abuser ,cheater..any day of the week!!Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaallllllllluuuuuuuuuuuuuyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!jewel | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 6:31:31 AM | You ever tell him ...
"you're the best lover I've ever had... No one's ever made me feel this way.... ooohhh, you're the biggest..."
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Emotionally charged situations bring out extreme comments.
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Posted: 1/22/2007 6:35:30 AM | It is their attempt to convince you that what they are saying is true.... Walk...NO; RUN AWAY, because it will only get worse!!
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| LORD!!!someone answer this
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:37:22 AM | Wow he said "Im the best boyfriend you'll ever have"?? Is that what he said?
Wow. that guy sounds a teeny tiny bit full of himself...ont he arrogant side. Arrogance is amusing adn annoying all at the same time isn;t it?
For SURE that comment would NOT make ME feel downgraded. Hell no. Never!! Comments from other people have limited effect. I take lots of things into consideration before I decide how valuable that comment was. I think this one would be just about ZERO value. REMEMBER what people say and do is a reflecton on THEM, not you.
anyway, If a guy said that to me I'd probably laugh a little and say "Listen, honey, I've already had a quite a few better than you. Moving on to another one will not be a problem....How about I go ahead and do that right now? See ya." | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 12:31:00 PM | OPie, I haven't read the replies here, because I'm dead certain no one has answered your question. I'll bet they've all started whining about 'conceit' and the like.
The reason anyone says something like "I'm the best you'll ever get," is that they are losing an argument, they know it, and they can't think of anything less stupid to say.
Cheers!
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