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Posted: 1/22/2007 1:06:51 PM | | My assumption would be that it means just that - you will never find anyone better than him...or at least that is want HE thinks and wants YOU to believe. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 1:17:05 PM | | Well the general feeling is that he means you cant do any better. But, as is my custom, I will play devils advocate. Maybe he really does think he is "the shit" and he really is the best. This is an unlikely scenario mind you, but to each their own I guess. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 1:36:21 PM |
im the best boyfriend you will ever have"
I don't think I've EVER had a guy say that to me but if one did, I'd just answer"well if that's the case, whom do I see about returning you, and getting my money back!?"
Seriously, without reading the whole 5 pages of posts,this guy is one who seeks to control by destroying your self esteem. And he's dirt wrong... no boyfriend AT ALL is better than one like him. I'd tell him that you were intrigued by his comment so you are ditching him to go and test the validity of his statement,and that he probably should NOT hold his breath waiting for you to be back.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:00:02 PM | ASSUME: (makes an A$$ out of U and Me) I quite frankly am rather incredulous by what is allmost exclusively going on here...(but then, I didn't read every post).
I will aggree, that it could indeed be exactly as everyone seems to instantaneously think it is. A desperate person grasping at straws using any ammunition he can come up with at the time. In that situation, this would be at the least, a cheap shot..and at the worst..the words of a loser.
However: Depending on the mentality and behaviors of the OP...of which we know nothing...this guy could very well be completely correct! In that case, the phrase would be a statement of complete confidence and awareness about themselves in relation to the ungrateful and uncaring actions of their partner who is betraying or dishonoring them.
threads like this are classic examples of certain aspects of predictable human reactionary behaviors. Be careful my forum friends... and take a few more moments to engage your good brains. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:05:26 PM | | My ex told me that, and I thought you dumb SOB why would I want another one like you. Go figure. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:12:30 PM | You got excellent advice from POF members.
There's a terrific book out called.
Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward.
It talks about things like this and how to deal with
these issues .
When People use Fear,Obligation and guilt to
manipulate you.
Savor your day :) | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 2:44:35 PM |
im the best boyfriend you will ever have"...
There are lots of good ways to respond to this. First of all don't let it bother or don't show that you are bothered. That would be feeding his ego.
Let's say this is a movie script:
Boy: "I'm the best boyfriend you will ever have."
(Look directly at him and with a cute smile)
Girl: "You mean had. Better check your crystal ball again dog. You ain't all that and tomorrow is looking real good to me right now.
or the Turner Classic version:
Girl: "Frankly (insert name here), I don't give a damn. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 7:50:56 AM | True Communication is key to any relationship....I learnt that when you stop talking you listening when you stop listening you stop feeling, when you stop feeling you grow to become indifferent, when you grow to become indifferent toward the other person you start resenting, when you start to resent you start hating. When you start hating any word that rises from that imbalance finds justification in that loathsome feeling of anger and ahtred.
All it takes is a few simple words and an effort to ask the one that sits across from you on the couch or at the dinner table, "How was your day?" What did you do today?" What made you smile today?" Did you think of me today?"....but often we tend to retreat from the world in silence and solitude even if our loved ones are near and so desparately want to share in our lives but we find the effort too tiresome or too intruding. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2007 11:21:38 PM | Simple translation to that - He needs to grow up, big time.
I have seen a number of women put up with this attitude from a guy.
I work doing many different functions, and over hear this type of abuse every once in a while.
You would like to walk over to this guy and floor him..If he doesn't want to treat her like a person,,i will..!!!...:) | |
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Posted: 2/25/2007 4:42:20 AM | Well, this is a man who has determined that he is perfect for you, regardless of whether you agree with him or not.
Perhaps 'on paper' he is. But relationships are more than about what's on paper. That's why e-harmony doesn't work that well. You've got to have physical chemistry too. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2007 6:50:47 AM | No one and I mean NO ONE is IRREPLACEABLE!!!! he is just a POMPOUS ASS!!!
A wise man once shared this with me "ONE MAN GATHERS WHAT ANOTHER MAN SPILLS"
there is always someone BIGGER AND BETTER!!! | |
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Posted: 2/25/2007 8:12:57 AM | Opinions are like a***holes everyone has one,and here is mine!
For someone to say that I AM THE BEST THAT YOU WILL EVER HAVE !
wether male or female is wrong no mater how you slice it! Because by saying
that you are saying that no one including the person you are talking to
will ever equal you!
What should have been said is that you are the best thing that ever hapened to me!
Because now the outher person feels lifted up ,as aposed to being put down.
And if that person did not change that type of atitude they would die old and alone! | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 6:22:31 PM | In my experience (the "wasband"), it meant "Don't leave me, don't leave me, please don't leave me!!!"
Of course he could never leave bad enough alone, so he added "some day you'll be sitting around ALONE and lonely wishing you hadn't left and it'll be too late cause I'll have moved on."
baa haa haa haa, it's been 5 1/2 years and that has yet to happen.
My best guess: he's an insecure weasel and you're oh so much better of without him, even if you are alone. Alone isn't such a bad thing, particularly if the alternative is life with a weasel. 
Chin up, anyone worthy of you would not spout such nonsense! I mean really, how does he know that!?!?!?!?! | |
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Posted: 2/27/2007 12:03:06 PM | Sh%? He just thinks his Gods gift to the ladies I guess!
Your right he has BALLS or does he? Maybe his just trying to convince himself!
Maybe he just wants someone to agree, cause he don't have any friends. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:35:24 AM | guys who have to pump their ego up by saying you will never do better than me are usually very emotionally needy,and if you dont date them they turn the blame on you so they wont feel the pain of rejection because of course its always some body elses fault a huge trait of players red flag ,red flag, red flag!
ran into one like that !god i love "block delete" | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:48:52 AM | Her parents and friends told her I was the best thing that could have ever happened to her....I didn't have to say a thing....
I guess they knew her better than I did...I thought she was the best thing that could have ever happened to me ,I guess not,,, | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:19:23 PM | | I've heard that from a couple of women I dated, when I decided that they WEREN'T anywhere near that vaunted level of quality! LOL Clearly, they had a higher opinion of themselves than I had of them. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2007 8:02:24 PM | | That is what he meant. Take it, and so deserve it, or kick him to the curb. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 5:29:32 AM |
" im the best boyfriend you will ever have"...
I bet he probably meant it in a nice way- and he was praising himself for how much he likes/loves you or something?
I dont think he was saying that you wont get anybody better or he probably would have just said that. | |
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