| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/12/2005 5:35:23 PM |
Older women tend to have baggage whether they admit it or not. I prefer to be the cause and not the solution
And Brat, seriously, one day you will look back and wonder why you ever complained about getting sex so much. You'll see.
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/12/2005 5:42:24 PM | | keep your eyes open and listen to everyone and turn on the bullshyt detectors...youll find guys like me up there darlin | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/12/2005 5:45:32 PM | | Seriously, the idea that this brat girl has any problems in the romance department is pretty laughable. The world is your oyster sweetie. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/12/2005 7:54:08 PM | | I fall into your little range, but what's a "kk" guy? When I was younger, sure I was interested in "getting to know her," but now, forget it. After many hours wasted of getting to know her, she flips out and becomes a psycho and then that's the end of it. So the focus now would be simply to f.u.c.k her, that's pretty much it. I'm 23, and you're a little girl compared to me. I'd be interested in, yes, "the hottest girl," usually. However, if she's a ****, then there's no interest. In conclusion, no, I don't just "want to get to know someone." I'll leave you with something to think about: don't expect too much, it will set you up for disappointment. | |
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xeodis
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Joined: 1/28/2005
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/12/2005 8:02:49 PM | is it that difficult to find a guy between 20 and 26 that doesnt just want sex....
I am 27 a year out of your question however I think that you can have a guy who will cuddle however if that is all you ever want to do then no at that age it is not likely you will find someone easily. I mean it is a battle between hormones and maturity good luck with your search hun. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/12/2005 8:20:48 PM | Guys my age are generally out for sex, because honestly that occupies our minds a lot of the time, I'm not going to lie.
Sometimes I find that women I message have the idea that I only want sex, but honestly all I'm looking for are the same things that you are. So it's a two way street. It's hard to find guys that want more, but sometimes you have to give guys a chance. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/28/2005 5:45:09 AM | | no shit...guys are mostly douche bags...that i know...i dont expect anything it would just be nice once in a while to get some respect and be treated like they actually care about ME... | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/28/2005 5:49:07 AM | | id rather find someone absolutely gorgeous on the inside and average on the outside that i know i could spend my life with than a beautiful woman who temporarily satisfices me physically, but after a month you have nowhere to develop your relationship intelligently. as for "just cuddling"....if im next to someone im crazy about, its the hardest thing in the world not to want to be as close to them as possible...all the time. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/28/2005 6:02:56 AM | | Depends on the guy. Emotional state of mind. Experience. Ect... hang in there. In time , you should find someone to give you the attention. Cuddling , laying in bed together is fun. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/29/2005 5:59:48 AM | ^ second the opinion.
I'm particular to whom I cuddle just like some of the guys. But the older you both get, the more men appreciate cuddling and then, when Winky says "Hello", he's more sincere and ummmmm so fine. Kissing certain men really turns me on and if he's a fine middle aged man, he likes it too.
Be patient, my pretty..... your time for all things will cum. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/29/2005 6:35:13 AM |
someone who can cuddle in a bed fer 3 hours and watch a movie or too and JUST cuddle...
Thats exactly what Ive been looking for, I even had my profile saying that but was told I sounded too needy and would never find anyone good with it. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 4/29/2005 8:56:16 AM | I have come to the conclusion that there are basically three general opinions about sex and how it is portrayed upon each gender. There is the double standard where men are considered studs if they have alot of sex, whereas women are considered to be "sluts". Then there is the reverse of the double standard... where if a man admits to thinking about or liking sex, he is a pig, and if a woman does, then she is empowering herself. Of course there is the other view, that people are all different, men and women.
I think the old jungian view on autoerotic love is still very prominant today. Where people only love themselves in other people... the mirror reflection of themselves in their peers, family members, and significant others. That they can only recognize that another person cares for them if they do what they want, and what they personally consider as acts of love. Thus the utter lack of mutual compromise among most modern relationships. Which poses much conflict concerning affection, be it cuddling, foreplay, or sex... being that most men hit their sexual peek in the late adolescence to mid twenties, whereas most women hit the peek of their libido somwhere in their thirties. As such, said man wants to have sex, and said women wants to cuddle... and they both suspect that the other does not care for them, because they don't personally recognize that form of expression from their own.
I know if it can be frustrating, but it is frustrating for both men and women. It is not fair to demonize men because of a simple difference. How would you feel if someone were to call "most women" douchebags, because all they wanted to do was cuddle?
I like both sex and cuddling, but I don't think I should have to feel guilty about liking sex. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 3:13:26 AM | | a lot of people like both and thats okay everything in moderation tho!!!! PLEASE! | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 4:56:29 AM | | First of all, YES, a guy that age WILL choose the best looking girl, just like you WILL choose the best looking guy. Quit trying to fool us, and quit fooling yourself. People that young are fairly shallow. Also, 20-25 is the time for exploration and SEX. Lots of sex. You people looking for a serious commitment at that age are insane. Don't you ever see the statistics? Over 80% of all marriages in the United States between partners under 25 end in divorce. Everything is a compromise. Men think about sex ALL OF THE TIME. The first thing a guy thinks about when he sees a girl/woman for the first time is "would I do her?". That doesn't change with age, either. If a guy tells you different, he's lying to you so he can eventually get what he wants-more sex. | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 5:18:49 AM | I'm 36, so I don't fall upon your criteria, but can offer a little advice on when I WAS that age.
Simply put, NO. Most guys that are are only interested in 1 thing and I need not tell you what that is because I think you already know.
Thinking back, It was give something for something. If I had to cuddle you for 3 hours, you had to put out for 3 hours.
Time's might have changed since then, but I seriously doubt that. Seems todays "boys" are only about getting laid, than enjoying a lap and petting. If your looking for a cuddler, then you'll have to broaden your age criteria. Older men are all for it and we really don't expect anything in return. I for one adore a woman who'd pet my hair while watching a movie, then we'd switch off, all this without even expecting anything other than the soft touch of your hands running through my hair..
Bratluvzu,
I couldn't have said it better myself. Being 36 as well, I also don't fall into your criteria. Why limit yourself that much? Your fixated on an age number for your own reasons. You gotta take the good with the bad if your limiting yourself that much. Chances are he'll be trying to hump your leg every chance he gets. I know I was like that 10 years ago. Things change. I didn't get older, I got better!
Now what if you met a guy that over the course of a week would do just enough to satisfy you to the point where you would be the one jumping on top of him cause you couldn't take it anymore lol | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 5:32:11 AM | First of all, YES, a guy that age WILL choose the best looking girl, just like you WILL choose the best looking guy. Quit trying to fool us, and quit fooling yourself. People that young are fairly shallow. Also, 20-25 is the time for exploration and SEX. Lots of sex. You people looking for a serious commitment at that age are insane. Don't you ever see the statistics? Over 80% of all marriages in the United States between partners under 25 end in divorce. Everything is a compromise. Men think about sex ALL OF THE TIME. The first thing a guy thinks about when he sees a girl/woman for the first time is "would I do her?". That doesn't change with age, either. If a guy tells you different, he's lying to you so he can eventually get what he wants-more sex.
actually, I'd have to take an opposing view on this one. Most guys will have sexual thoughts during the day as is normal but thinking about sex all the time is not correct. If your life is full and diverse, then you shouldnt be like this at all. Guys, who are desperate and needy, yes, think about sex all the time. But if your life is structured that everything is balanced and you do have an outlet for sex with your partner, your mind isn't all about it. Its the absense that makes the heart grow fonder. If your congruent with your environment, sex isn't the thing you only think about.
Having "sex on the brain" 24/7 is very unhealthy just as not having any thoughts on it as well. Your interaction with women will be very narrow and specific. Why box yourself in like this? Their is a time and place to have these thoughts and if your mind is undisciplined to allow it to overwhelm your focus so much, well, you get what you pay for as they say.
Long time ago, primitive man probably only saw 2 women naked in their lifetime. Their mom and their mate. Nowadays an average guy is pummeled with some much sex-fueled imagery its enough to pummel you into a trance. I look at a new women as a new experience in getting to know her because she is a person first and hopefully a unique one. Not as a piece of ass that needs to be conquered. I would hope that I'm not perceived as a walking wallet by women as well lol | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 5:58:39 AM | Passionfly,
We're talking about 20-25 y/o males. They are the "primitive man"!! How much structure or diversity do you think most of them have? Most still live at home and are trying to decide what they want to be when they grow up. You don't think that way, and I don't think that way, but back then, we both did. At 20, everything was about sex. The "all the time" may be an exaggeration, but is was a very time consuming attraction then. That's why the young marriages so often end in divorce. They are children playing at being grown ups. I would be willing to bet that most of them got married because of the steady sex. | |
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Joined: 1/23/2005
Msg: 121 | |
| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 7:12:45 AM | | nope, not all guys. I don't mess around with girls or have sex because I want to save my body for my wife when I get married. So for me, cuddling while watching tv or while talking can be one of the greatest things = ) | |
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Mr O
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Joined: 3/26/2005
Msg: 122 | |
| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 7:28:00 AM |
is it that difficult to find a guy between 20 and 26 that doesnt just want sex...someone who can cuddle in a bed fer 3 hours and watch a movie or too and JUST cuddle...or is it really that hard guys always have sex on there heads both of them...it sux...will the guy always go after the hottest one...the cutest one if shes with her friends...do guys ever really just wanna get to know someone...errrrrrrrrrrrrr
lol, good luck with that.
If that's what you're looking for might I suggest you aim a little higher. 30-34 I think you might have better luck | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 7:35:03 AM | Until they need the little purple pill, most men are only about getting laid. After they need pharmaceutical help....who wants them?  | |
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Mr O
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Joined: 3/26/2005
Msg: 124 | |
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| kk guys arent any better??
Posted: 7/12/2005 7:54:29 AM | | i wanna get to know why you're in new york throwing up west side lol....that's brave lol | |
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