| I just want to cry!
Posted: 1/6/2007 4:13:09 PM | Hmmm touchy situation,
Many people grow up in situations like this, its part of life.
As hard as it is for you to deal with, i will say this.
your daughter is 3.... she will look to you for reaction and guidence.
she will learn how to react and process situations, as she sees others.
Your influence and behaviour will mold hers.
So i recommend that you start making loving choices in your life,
make loving choices for yourself and her.
If she sees you upset, bitter, sad and depressed and confused about
how her father is behaving, she will then start to mimic your reactions and behaviours.
He obviously doesnt want to be involved right now, right or wrong in your eyes, it is his choice to make. Perhaps he will come around, perhaps he wont.
It should not effect how you love and treat her, how you raise her, how positive
your life can be, or how much of yourself you pour into your relationship with her.
So shake it off, and walk on. Accept that we all have free will, and choices, he has made his.
You make yours.
You will be amazed how much her interest drops towards him and why he inst around, when you stop focusing on it so much.
Do not however lie to her, daddy isnt at work, thats a lie, daddy isnt living across the globe, that is a lie. do not lie to her, that is not required, she is 3, her little world revolves around YOU.
She trusts YOU, depends on YOU.
Lying will not solve anything here, it will however create many problems for you and her in the future.
Honesty is key.
without bitterness and a huge amount of information ( she is 3,) keep it simple.
you are molding a life here, honesty and loving choices will pave a life of love.
~Autumn | |
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