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Posted: 1/3/2007 4:33:33 PM |
OP I know exactly what you are saying::::::Try this on for size lmao,,,,Love your profile to bad you are so short
-Are you really 5'5".
-Well I hate to say it but you are too short for me.
-If you were taller you would probably be marreid by now....thats just some of the messages I receive,,,
You may want to remind such persons that 146 people who have you on their favorites list don't seem to have a problem with your height! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 4:52:21 PM | aprincelyfrog
WOW......I only get comments like that in forums, chastizing what "I desire"......BUT...that is obsurd !!!!!......I personally hate coffee....but that is still a pretty safe, non expecting way to meet....I can drink something else....
No one should ever be condemned for what their feelings are....like you said.....right click onto the next one.
Sounds like to me, she must have really liked your looks....and she wanted to 'convert you'....why should antone....male/female....spend a fortune on a "chance meeting".....depending on how it goes....I go dutch treat.
I learned LONG ago......you get a lot more with honey!!!!!!!! there's nothing you can do to gain any respect from put downs. | |
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mar814
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Joined: 11/16/2006
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Posted: 1/3/2007 5:04:09 PM | | Omgosh, yeah, I'd say that's enough to make a man want to only offer up coffee dates. That's a dreadful e-mail. We (women) aren't all so awful. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 5:29:00 PM | davidbryan....
from a fellow "northerner", born & raised in Upstate NY......possibly the reason for your "lack of reply"....( & I do see you have 'someone' that has put you on their favorites list )...anyways....your 'profile' is glum.....like that of someone asking for pity......Be confident with who you are, what you believe in and what you want......I stay away, at my age, from the ones who have no confidence.
Yes....I'm sure you've been told you resemble Richard Petty......I, an ex race car driver myself, have met him on a few occasions during my little local career.......BE BOLD ! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 8:36:41 PM | To the OP:
I've been on this site for over a year and have yet to get any really nasty emails, or even unfriendly emails, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
When I was a boy, one of the girls in my class would make fun of me. I told my mom and she told me it was because the girl *liked* me.
This woman took the time to write you. She probably wants some kind of response - most people don't send fire-and-forget emails. Maybe she wants you to offer something better, or maybe she's a ****, or maybe, just maybe, she's making a joke and playing hard to get at the same time. If you stuck a smilie at the end of that email, it would be more obvious. In fact, this would be a pretty good way for her to weed out guys with no sense of humour.
My recommendation: if she's a ****, it doesn't matter what you do, but if not, why not have some fun flirting? For example:
"I got your email. I used to go out to fine restaurants on a first date, but I found that most women couldn't afford to buy me dinner, so I thought'd I'd be nice and settle for coffee. You can afford coffee, right?"
And if I'm wrong? Heh, just imagine the look on her face when she reads it!  | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 8:41:35 PM | | Well meeting for coffee is my first date (so to speak) too. Obviously this lady has a chip on her shoulder. I wouldn't worry myself with the email, just focuse on the positive ones. Cheers! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 9:06:51 PM | Looked at your profile and from the photos it looks like you spend money.
(horses, beach, tuxedo, etc.) Could be this person doesn't have any money
and wants a meal ticket. It does work both ways........trust me!
There is NOTHING wrong with having money and spending it on yourself,
family, charities of your choice, etc.. A coffee date is perfect! I went on
a pizza date and by the end of this guy eating the pizza he already had plans
to rent out his condo and move in with me........."NEXT!".
Good luck! There are alot of nice people out here. Darn rose colored glasses! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 9:11:17 PM |
When I was a boy, one of the girls in my class would make fun of me. I told my mom and she told me it was because the girl *liked* me.
This woman took the time to write you. She probably wants some kind of response - most people don't send fire-and-forget emails. Maybe she wants you to offer something better, or maybe she's a ****, or maybe, just maybe, she's making a joke and playing hard to get at the same time. If you stuck a smilie at the end of that email, it would be more obvious. In fact, this would be a pretty good way for her to weed out guys with no sense of humour.
My recommendation: if she's a ****, it doesn't matter what you do, but if not, why not have some fun flirting? For example:
"I got your email. I used to go out to fine restaurants on a first date, but I found that most women couldn't afford to buy me dinner, so I thought'd I'd be nice and settle for coffee. You can afford coffee, right?"
EXACTLY!!
You guys have it all wrong! She took the time to write, so she's actually flirting! She wants to see if you're the sensitive kind (which it seems like you are given the forum thread reaction to her little insult), or if you're the kind of guy with a sense of humor about things.
I mean, honestly! She isn't a psycho, or a man-hater or even a gold-digger from this post. She's someone anonymous sending you an email that can be interpreted many ways. It's a challenge! And a fun one!
This goes for all of you that get weird emails (maybe even insulting ones). Listen to Pathles' advice! He's on the right track!  | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 9:23:30 PM | Yes I have had that happen to me once on another site...which left me wondering "they have too much time on their hands", or they are psycho needing anger management???
Not sure what these people want to accomplish....geez imagine if you had taken this woman, unknowing, on a coffee break or first date!!!!! YIKES!~ | |
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Joined: 10/1/2006
Msg: 61 | |
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Posted: 1/3/2007 10:52:46 PM | That was just not......nice of her...maybe it was not her cup of...well you know...but still...c'mon
take her to a restauraunt, and just order coffee | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 12:13:36 AM | Can anyone shed light on emails like this?
Losers who will never have more of a life than sitting at a computer messing with someone. Teenagers pretending to be what we're looking for. Whackjobs who thankfully reveal themselves for what they truly are, thereby saving us the trouble. Take your pick.
I once had a gentleman (and I use that term loosely), whom I had never spoken with before, mail me to tell me that I forgot to mention in my profile that I am fat.* And, apparently so that I would know what the person insulting me looked like, he attached several pictures of himself to it.
*I keep meaning to do something about that extra weight I've gained in my eyeballs. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 5:50:35 AM | i'm actually getting to be sympathetic toward somebody
like this; they've been hurt in the past
so they're just taking a vicious swing at
anyone who comes in range | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 5:51:17 AM | | What's wrong with coffee on the first date? I find that's a great way to find out if you're compatible or not. Sounds like that lady is about 5 beers short of a 6 pack. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 6:01:14 AM | MSG. #62...... NP, you seem to be a bit "obsessed" with "stalkers". Why is that?? Just reading some of your posts, that is disturbing, especially when incidents DIDN'T happen.
Coffee in a public place is always a good idea. Then if the meet "goes south", you can bail!!! I was on another site, met someone for coffee, and I had a friend call me in case I needed to bail. I'm glad I got the call. I was OUTTA THERE!!! This person was not who they made out to be | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 10:30:17 AM | | I read your profile and it comes down to men/women who don't like people telling what they're looking for and know what You want. I would move on after reading a profile, if there's something in a profile that didn't match my interest. Why bother sending email that's rude. | |
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mogrl
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Joined: 5/29/2005
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Posted: 1/4/2007 11:23:36 AM | | well,you did say starbucks and last i checked their coffee wasn`t all that cheap....for a cup of coffee | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 11:38:33 AM | | Well what is wrong with a coffee for the first meeting? I mean it has nothing to do with cheapness it is just an oportunity to size up the other person face to face no more no less. Why do people make it so complicated? After that it is different of course. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 11:53:12 AM | I got an email the other day. Subject line was "wow". Inside was one sentence. "That's a really bad testimonial."
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Posted: 1/4/2007 12:05:16 PM | A lot of women go on dating sites to just reject men.
It feeds their ego. It also gets revenge to the male gender for them.
Some women also have the idea that no man is good enough for them
and will pick out anything convenient to reject or to cause a problem.
If a dating site user is business only, they may just want to get the
money fast, quick and bail out. Sitting over a coffee may not work
for them as you might figure out their scam.
I think the joke is really on these women though because how can a guy loose
something he never had no chance to have in the first place?
Maybe you should just laugh her off as another jerk in the pile. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 12:45:43 PM | | I don't think getting coffee is cheap at all, most people like to talk to one another alot to get to know things about them, going to a cafe or something is a great place to start, a lot of restaurants are too noisy. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 1:11:23 PM |
I have gotten nasty emails like this before... my questions is why in the world would someone take the time to write such garbage? If you read a profile and you don't like the person you just skip it and go on... why send an insane email?
There are forums threads filled with men who are angry because women do not e-mail them back, even if they are disinterested. At least you got one back!
Sheesh, some people are never happy! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2007 1:59:04 PM |
EXACTLY!!
You guys have it all wrong! She took the time to write, so she's actually flirting! She wants to see if you're the sensitive kind (which it seems like you are given the forum thread reaction to her little insult), or if you're the kind of guy with a sense of humor about things.
I mean, honestly! She isn't a psycho, or a man-hater or even a gold-digger from this post. She's someone anonymous sending you an email that can be interpreted many ways. It's a challenge! And a fun one!
This goes for all of you that get weird emails (maybe even insulting ones). Listen to Pathles' advice! He's on the right track!
Nope, I'm not the sensitive type, was really just curious if other people were getting responses like this too. I was on match once and I probably got 5 hate mails a week! It was really odd!
If she's flirting, she lacks style... or at least lacks the style that would attract me... antagonistic is never going to get my attention.
At my point in life, drama is out... drama queens are out... I don't need a challenge, had one of those once and she was really just too much work.
And for flirting back, like I said... she really wasn't all that...  | |
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