| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 12:39:29 PM | To all the men that posted on this topic...YOU GUYS ROCK! You "get it" and that is the difference between men and boys.
I won't reply with anything negative to the "owner of the posting" because that won't change his thinking, it may even justify his reasonings for saying what he said or maybe, just maybe, he said what was on his mind after a negative situation he just went through. People say things in haste and then regret it after the fact. I know that one too well!
I should have looked at his profile to see what he put down as far information. A lot of times, I look for someone that actually puts some of his heart into his writing. A lot of women love words. They can "woo" you, seduce you, charm you or just plain out make you laugh (in a good way)!
Humans overall are attracted to the packaging. That is the nature of the beast. Remember too, that looks are the lure but the texture, taste and feel and the fight of the catch is what keeps you wanting more...I fish, what can I say? LOL
Now, bearing in mind that everyone has different tastes. I will read one profile that interests me and find it is so wonderful, genuine and enticing, I can see his attributes will compliment mine and then I notice...yes, this is true...he is TOO good looking! I have heard about these creatures (looks, personality AND respectful and caring of the opposite sex), they are quite rare BUT then I think, they won't like me unless they really don't care about the looks.
Do you see where I am going with this? Some people just think they aren't worthy, some think they are G--'s gift and some don't even notice that the other person may just be shy or think that the interested party is out to "get some". Different scenarios for different people.
Beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. Whoever stated that quote forgot to say that personality is what creates the beauty.
As with any method of meeting someone...bars, dating sites, through friends, etc., you will find that SOME people cannot get past the outer layer of a person's worth. Once you have realized that, you have prospered in knowledge, that it takes a lifetime to reach the inner being of a person and that is what it is all about...learning, wondering and having patience to know, there is more... | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 127 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 12:52:38 PM | | guys have to work a cuzzillion times more to get noticed that's for sure and even so it will seem soso , yeah just go with the flow. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:11:19 PM | Ok, I have to re-nig on the ALL GUYS as far as posting their thoughts...z3t3, this one is for you...
Unless you can back up your generalized remarks with factual content, you are only an OPINION...a hazy sketch that was not thought about deeply but instead spewed out like some grotesquely, tasted concoction that came out as fast as the intake!
I could keep on this subject matter but frankly your not worth my time. What is worth my time is the point of an idiotic statement that says the female populace of this dating site is "not endowed with beauty"....my nicer version of your drivel. Why are you on here searching then? If your looking for a piece, go to the bar around the corner by you instead of making a mockery of yourself and the women as well (like your going to find any dates from here now)!
As far as why we are here... I, myself don't drink and I don't need to find an intoxicated person from a bar to date. It's virtually impossible for me to find anyone when I am with my friends because they are all guys, for one and when I am with my friends, I am not out on the lookout! I am good in my own skin, ugly or not but to have the likes you putting me down when you don't have a clue what type of person I am, you are in your own world of hate and I don't want to belong to THAT club!
What you put into this life is what you will get out of it. I am rich beyond my needs. I have happiness, hope, health and humor and I wouldn't ask for anything else.
Do an inventory of your values, honor and respect. I think you may be "out of stock" | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:16:16 PM | To, Roberte1971, I hope you wrote this forum looking for honest opinions!!!! Here are some, or some questions you should ask yourself.
Why wouldnt you want a woman with high standards??? actually that is the only question you should need to ask yourself.
I understand where your coming from, sometimes self improvement can be a big pain in the a-- but once you get on the road and make some changes it starts becoming a new and better you and you start agreeing with people that shoot for high standards.
My final thought is I have some ideas for low standards, most big cities have a down and out areas, where drug abusers hang out and go in and out of jail,,start there,,let us know how that works out for you. | |
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z3t3
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Joined: 10/11/2006
Msg: 130 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:27:28 PM | BW17:
Somehow I'm being villified for stating a very real fact.
Let's be honest here for a second: I'm not on this site looking for a girl. I really have no problems finding them in real life (whether you believe it or not, I couldn't care less) and I'm actually on here for business reasons, none of which I have to explain to someone I don't know.
The fact of the matter is that people who're online misrepresent themselves. In a recent Ipsos-Reid poll, 61% of respondants indicated that they were mistrusting of people online because of misrepresentation, most of which was based on the fact that people's pictures often don't resemble the person. They're either altered by some computer program, from years ago when the person looked and felt better, or of someone else altogether. Whether you're going to take this as a personal attack or otherwise is your perogative, but I never said it applied to everyone. I said it applied to most people and I still stand by that.
Here's something to think about: what's the ratio of 'attractive' people online to that of attractive people offline? I bet it's far higher online because more attractive people have easier time getting dates. This is simple common sense. While I'm not saying everyone online is ass ugly (lord knows I ain't for instance), it's far easier to strike up a conversation with a person you'd consider out of your league online where the anonymity inherent in online dating makes rejection far easier to deal with.
z3t3 | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:34:16 PM | I have a sense of humor so here goes.
eldubu before calling someone a loser why don't you try and take a good look at the mirror.
Can you spell loser?
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 132 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:35:38 PM | I am just pondering what legimate business reasons a person would have for being on a dating site.....*rolls eyes*
Woman are shallow, women are scum....yeah, we get it. Men could never be shallow, heartless, callous, gold digging liar who misrepresent themselves online.
They are all wonderful, caring, handsome winners who just cruise dating sites looking for friends and for business reasons.
Uh huh.....yeah, and I have a bridge in Arizona with some ocean front property if you're interested. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:36:28 PM | Hey z3t3 you don't have to be nasty profanity is a sign of immaturity...look we all are here for the same reason to meet new people....I don't believe u have the audicity (spelling) to imply that we are all dogs looking for a bone that is why we are on here...duh u are on here....HELLLLLLLOOOO!!!!!!
fiesty
PS never said I was god's gift to men never implied it or assumed it, I am also very kind and respond to all emails so come on give me a break. | |
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z3t3
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Joined: 10/11/2006
Msg: 134 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:38:47 PM | Okay if you really want to know, I'm starting my own dating site and learning from this one what's good to implement, and what isn't.
Look, guys do misrepresent themselves too. But again, considering how much easier it is for a girl to land a date in this 'real life' we call the offline world, when an attractive girl is online, you have to wonder whether that's really her.
I have also met at least 10 people offline who I originally met online at events and parties my friends and I have posted and I'm serious when I say that only 3 of them actually resembled who they said (and appeared) to be online. I know this is anecdotal and not scientific, but my own experiences only confirm the truth.
Don't take it personally. Sides, at least you have some ocean front property. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 135 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:42:28 PM |
I have also met at least 10 people offline who I originally met online at events and parties my friends and I have posted and I'm serious when I say that only 3 of them actually resembled who they said (and appeared) to be online. I know this is anecdotal and not scientific, but my own experiences only confirm the truth.
That being said, we can presume you are ugly, poor and live in your momma's basement since people misrepresent themselves online 7 times out of 10.
Go UGLY BOY!! Yo mommas callin you to dinner. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:42:42 PM | | joeandgarcia- There's a difference between having high standards and having an encyclopedia's worth of dating criteria. Also, is it necessary to be a beotch at the same time as having those standards and sounding rude and demanding in one's profile? ie "DONT BOTHER CONTACTING ME UNLESS YOU MEET THE HEIGHT REQUIREMENT" (6 feet). That's a headline on one of the rude, demanding profiles I've seen. There's no excuse for being rude, arrogant or a bit ch. | |
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mar814
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Joined: 11/16/2006
Msg: 137 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:44:15 PM | | The online dating venue is an opportunity to advertise for your ideal if you have one in mind. Why not go for it? I don't think there's anything wrong with people for being honest about who they are looking for. Guys do it too and unless you are being rejected by men you really can't say that women do it more frequently than men, can you? Seriously, you do need a thick skin to 'window shop' online, but you need to give it way more time than the few weeks you've been here in order to find your needle in the haystack. Good luck. | |
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z3t3
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Joined: 10/11/2006
Msg: 138 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:44:51 PM | Awww.. someone cant have a mature conversation and is starting to get all immature... awwwww.
What's the matter.... the first guy you met told you he loved you only to get into your pants, knock you up, and then bolt?
Be nice, now. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:48:43 PM |
DONT BOTHER CONTACTING ME UNLESS YOU MEET THE HEIGHT REQUIREMENT
I don't think those requirements are rude at all. They're straight-forward, not rude. She's not demanding a damn thing from you, other than you not message her, which you could probably do anyway if you were so inclined. How is that rude? Did she hurt your feelings, because you're not 6'0? Did she call you a name? No, she simply stated what she wants, and that's the whole point of having a profile to begin with. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 140 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:21:55 PM |
Eldubu- you mean to tell me you were just complimenting me not insulting me by all that bit ching??? Okay, I find it sad when someone needs humor explained to them...nooooo, I was saying that you taking such offense to my posts in particular is a compliment to me.
Are you joking again because I dont see anything but you making mockery of my post and nothing complimentary. That was the point, dimbulb.
And what's this: "I have been insulted by brighter people"- what does this look like? You just insulted me now. NOW you're getting it!
Youre a complete retard Eldubu and you dont make any sense whatsoever. If you were bright enough to make a single intelligent post (which you obviously arent) then I might take you seriously, until then clam it because you're a waste of space. Honey, I think you might still want to look into more fiber. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 141 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:23:23 PM |
I have a sense of humor so here goes.
eldubu before calling someone a loser why don't you try and take a good look at the mirror.
Can you spell loser Don't worry about me, I spell just fine. I suggest you READ some of the bull this LOSER is spewing before you tell me I can't tell him what I think of him. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:43:18 PM | | This is an image obsessed superficial society that presents a limited type of image that is considered acceptable and appealing. Women are usually on the short end of the stick when it comes to living up to those ridiculous images and many don't get any attention because they don't fit any of those "looks." So i found this posting funny and I all can say is that I echo the comments made by chaoticdreamer, donttouchmyhibiscus, fiestyangel2007, and smiles644. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:51:10 PM | | eldubu: you've been "insulted by brighter people"? As if to suggest I'm not bright? And now you call me a "dimbulb"? Whose doing the insulting now? Explain this for me, give me a good logical argument as to why I'm not bright. You're taking all of this a little too personally arent you? Its like the thread is directed against you. Who do you think you are insulting me like this and calling me a dimbulb and treating me in such a condescending manner? You really shouldnt talk because you are nothing but a pea brained moron with an IQ of 40. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 144 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 3:05:15 PM | eldubu: you've been "insulted by brighter people"? As if to suggest I'm not bright? I can't believe it! It took 3 posts, but you finally got it!
Explain this for me, give me a good logical argument as to why I'm not bright See the above and everything that you and I have posted between each other and the fact that you don't get it.
You're taking all of this a little too personally arent you? Its like the thread is directed against you. I don't see where I've taken it personally. I was having fun with your posts and you are taking it waaaaayyyyy too seriously and showing what an angry young man you are.
Who do you think you are insulting me like this and calling me a dimbulb and treating me in such a condescending manner? You brought it out in me, I couldn't help it. Who are YOU to insult every woman on here? I think it started as sarcasm and you couldn't handle it. When it takes you this long to finally GET IT, yeah, you're a bit of a dimbulb. As for the condescension...you've asked for it.
You really shouldnt talk because you are nothing but a pea brained moron with an IQ of 40. Yeah, I think I keep proving over and over with every post that I'm not too bright. As for my IQ, I've had it tested and it's 143. But thanks for your concern. (Hell, at 40, I think I'd still have you beat) | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 3:06:48 PM | Explain this for me, give me a good logical argument as to why I'm not bright.
I can, if you like...
You're "incensed" because the people you message don't want you.
You're implying that there's something wrong with them for wanting what they want, even though you messaged them knowing that you didn't fit the bill.
You're getting angry because they don't play nice with you just because you want them to.
You're generalizing the women on POF.
You believe that they don't have the "right" to have their own preferences and should be guilted or shamed into giving other people chances.
It honestly looks to me like you've got some control and anger issues, and it's coming across in your "How dare these women not do what I want them to...who the hell do they think they are?" attitude.
Anyone with an ounce of sense would run for the hills. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 146 | |
| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 3:08:34 PM |
What's the matter.... the first guy you met told you he loved you only to get into your pants, knock you up, and then bolt?
Be nice, now
Nope. Not at all. I don't have children, nor do I want any. Thanks for asking though.
As far as being nice, you get what you give - you are nasty, so you get nasty in return.
It's ok to make generalizations of all women based on YOUR experienes, so why can't I apply the same generalizations about men based on MY experience.
7 out of 10 people are liars on the net.....right? | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 3:42:37 PM | | You didnt answer my question as to why I'm not bright. You keep saying I didnt get it- didnt get what?? I asked you once not three times didnt I? fk you're an idiot. Its you who doesnt get it. I can see that you've been doing nothing make silly jokes and trying to mock me, none of which are the least bit funny, since I started this thread, so what didnt I get? What YOU dont get is that I've been asking you for a a logical argument to refute my threads argument and all you give me is freaking nonsense and bad jokes. Try to say something intelligent for once, stop babbling away with all this nonsense. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 3:54:41 PM | ssdude: No I'm not laughing. I think he's rather pathetic. I think he needs to put his hand in the paint, and the paint on the paper. | |
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| Women on POF have standards way too high
Posted: 1/3/2007 4:13:07 PM | I was going to chime in on this thread with a warm and fuzzy, "can't we all just get along" post, but I've decided to a save the effort since I imagine this thread will be deleted quite soon.
Group internet hug, perhaps?
We all hold cyber-hands and sing "Kumbaya?" | |
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