| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 1/20/2008 5:50:10 AM | 123carrie Thank you for that well thought out post.
Many women say they want an open, honest relationship but when a guy says he has a problem with something or something makes him uncomfortable then he is chastised.
It sure takes the wind out of my sails when I have to listen, but am never heard. | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 1/20/2008 6:06:38 AM |
How many guys out there have had a woman tell you how you feel or tell someone else how you feel when they are completely wrong.
My hand is up like a shot.
when I was actively looking for a mate my profile was full of feeling and honesty, I was an open book and yet I was told I was just saying those things because I was a "Player!"
It was stated repeatedly that I just posted the things I di just so I could set the stage to play women.
I tried the less is good angle thinking I spilled to much then I had a "bad profile"
I finally gave up, posted my interests and started hanging out in the forums hoping I could read and try understand women women better.
To much variation in personalities, many people (Men/Women) still visualize their ex in their new partner and they treat them as such. When they could have only one single trait the former had, it still congers up hard feelings and the new potential mate burns for it. | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 1/20/2008 9:00:38 AM | Unfortunately, when a woman says she wants to know about your feelings, a lot of them are thinking about you mirroring back the feelings she has and wants to have for you.
"I feel so warm and loving towards you."
"You complete me. I am nothing without you."
"You are the most wonderful woman that ever lived."
And if you aren't feeling that way, it's time to have a Big Talk.
Men on the other hand take the suggestion literally.
"God damn it, my boss is really becoming a pain in the ass..." etc etc etc which is NOT something that she can address to get closer to you and you closer to her. It's also about something other than you and her.
So she gets angry. | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:53:47 PM | For all you guys that say that showing feelings show weakness.
Because it is so natural for us if you don't express your feelings we think you don't care or that you can't feel. It does not show weakness to us unless you just whine all the time. LOL
I know a lot of women that have cheated because they didn't get their emotional needs met and thought their SO didn't care..... and in every case the man freaked out when it happened. So is it good to not show feelings? | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:07:14 PM | The truth of it is: Women are issued hundred and hundreds of feelings when they are born. Guys only get one at birth. We guard it very carefully, once its broken we don't get any more...  | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 2/13/2008 6:01:08 AM | hi, there feelings get hurt just like ours they just show it differently.. we want to talk about it to death,, they want to cover iy up,,,,
with football, friends,,internet,, we think there going of to tell there friends about what happended,,, but not so...
we are the ones that love to talk not them....
cheryl | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 3/7/2008 8:28:25 PM | I have to agree with most of the responses. From my experience women want to hear what they want to hear and that's it. Here's a life experience for you. One I was involved with wanted me to have a baby with her. I don't want to have a kid at my age.
She is older than me. 48. I told her to go after what she wants in life. She wouldn't accept my answer or even acknowledge what my feelings were or what I wanted from life. This whole thing turned into a nightmare for me. She now hates my guts, kept me from working by keeping my tools that were at her house, and owes me several thousand dollars. Men! we are what we are! We're damned if we do, and damned if we don't. Most of you women need to get a grip. It's obvious when so many women on this thread still want to answer for the men here. That's my story and I'm sticking to it! | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 3/7/2008 11:40:41 PM | I think guys will talk about their feelings. Unfortunately it takes alot of time and silence to build the courage and reason to begin talking about how he's feeling. Also unfortunate is the amount of talking women do. My favourite is the talking that occurs when nothing at all needs to be said. How about this for a change. This goes for EVERYONE, and does not discriminate against any gender, race, religion, etc.,
Try enjoying silence. Try talking only when words are necessary. If you don't know or aren't sure about when this might be, then you need to go to your local mall, grab a coffee and just sit in the food court watching and listening to people. You'd be surprised as to how many things could go unsaid, without wasting air and creating pointless noise polution. | |
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| Why do guys feelings not get heard? Now don`t laugh.
Posted: 3/8/2008 9:10:15 AM | A suitable song for this post would be Nobody Knows It But Me.
123Carie had a very good insight of man.
I also believe that man does talk about the way he feels about his love. It is more in his actions than words. How often does the man fix something around the house and would like to get praised by the women. The praise from the women is not to build his ego or say he is superior it is more for the fact of being acknowledge. The other thing is that most men uses a different part of the brain. They think in terms of formulas, technical data, numbers, which I believe is the right side of the brain and women will use more of the left side of the brain which is creativity, english etc. Therefore, man has a harder time to articulate his feelings in the first place. Add on that man is suppose to suck back his feelings to the pit of his stomach and you have a sex that will have a very difficult time expressing their feelings. Most men would probably would rather build a bird house or fix the lawn mower for their women instead of just saying I love you. Bye the way if a man cries in public which shows emotion depending on the group or the reason he cried is considered a homosexual. Someone who is to sensitive for society. Just fact! | |
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