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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:57:38 AM | OH? she does not believe in abortion? From some religious viewpoint I bet. Where was the religion when she was spread eagle?
Following you heart does not equal dealing with some **stard child or an out of wedlock conception. The problems be it monetary, family related, or better yet baby daddy drama will easily overcome "the heart" | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 1/27/2007 11:56:50 AM | If I should ever become interested in a woman that is pregnant, then I see no reason not to date... as the child was created before our lives even intersected.
If she became pregant AFTER we were dating, and BEFORE we had sex..... then, I believe that I would take issue with her. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 1/27/2007 11:58:55 AM | ...Following you heart does not equal dealing with some **stard child
In a thread on Step-Parenting that I responded to, I mentioned this type of thinking.
Ladies, this is a PRIME example of the kind of man you would do well to avoid. The sooner his genes and his ideology vanish from the pool, the better it will be for society as a whole. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 1/29/2007 5:21:43 PM | | I honestly wouldn't want to date someone with a child. I don't like the idea of taking care of a child I didn't even help create not to mention I don't want to put up with ex issues when he decides to be apart of the babies life like 4 years down the road. Too much drama for what its worth imo. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 1/29/2007 6:12:52 PM | | I don't understand why when a woman is pregnant then men act like it's this huge deal and they don't want anything to do with her, but yet when a man has kids then women automatically take that motherly instinct and have no problem with it. I mean I would date a man that had a child and I would even get the child stuff and show them my love. Just because a person is raising a child solo doesn't mean that the child doesn't deserve any other kind of love or support. I'm glad that you kept your baby and that you didn't have an abortion, my friend almost had an abortion and I stopped her from it. Now she is happy and having her second. For the adoption issue... Yes there are couples out there that want a baby and can't have one, but if the adoption prices weren't so freakin' high then there wouldn't be so many kids waiting to be adopted out. I've wanted to foster a baby since I was 16. They told me I had to wait til I was 18 then once I was 18 they said 21. Now I am 21 and there is no way I could afford it. If they would lower the prices of adoption more people would adopt I'm sure. I mean why should you have to pay this rediculous amount to adopt a child when raising them you are already spending a lot of money. School, clothes, food, diapers, shoes, growing up expenses, car, college... I mean... I just don't understand why they gotta charge an arm and a leg. If they really wanted kids to have homes then they should think about how much it is to adopt. It's like they are selling a child. And apparently it's cheaper to buy other nationalities. I thought we were all equal!! I did a research paper on adoption and it just frustrated/es me on how the system works! Anyways, I'm getting off the subject. Good luck to you and your baby. Congrats and I'm glad that you kept the baby. The right guy will come along and until then just enjoy you and your baby's life cause before you know it he/she will be grown up and out on their own. You don't need a man and being a mom is a big responsibility and reward. ESPECIALLY when you're doing it on your own! | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 1/29/2007 7:10:40 PM | date a pregnant woman? Are you mental?
I would happly date a single mom...but not while she was preggers...
Not to sound like a jerk..but arent there a few more important things going on in her life than starting a new relationship?
I mean presumably..unless i missed that biology class...she was just in a relationship with another person about hmm not more than 9 months ago?
I know everyone wants and deserves "love"..but man i just couldnt see this one working for me... | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 2/1/2007 10:00:58 PM | Scarey scarey scarey. so many haters out there. No wonder there are so many single parents. I haven't seen my step daughter since July o5, i would give anything if she was in our lives, but the only upside is that her father is a loser loser loser, yes I said it on POF Big time loser, he is the most selfish person on the face of this earth. He should read her profile. It is sad what people do to children regardless of how they where concieved. I think that if the shoe was every on any of you haters foot , you would soon be singing a very different tune.   | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 10:40:19 AM | Hey Hun ,
We'll it's like this pregnant or not your still a person , besides the woman looks her best when she is pregnant . I dont know why it's such a big deal , if your just dating someone or it turns out serious , at the end if you realize the responisbility is all yours and not theirs then it shouldnt matter to them because its not like they are goin got be rasiing your child.As long as your not out looking for a daddy to be !! then it's all good. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:45:01 PM | Beach Babe 21 All of the comments given are important to hear but the choices that you have made and will make in the future, can only be made by you. You seem to have your head on straight and your child will be lucky to have you as a mom. As far as dating a lady who is expecting, I really can't say yes or no. I think if you meet someone that you care about and cares about you then the issue is secondary. As with any relationship it should build over time and by that time, your baby will be born and hopefully a relationship will only be strengthened by all you will have been through together. That being said, remember that your child will always be your first priority and will love you as much as you will love them | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:46:47 PM | | when i was pregnant so many people wanted me because i guess its better for a guy.... you cant get her prego so u dont use condoms and its just all around sexy;) | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:00:15 PM | | First good luck to you,second No I would not date a pregnant women,she has more to worry about then dating.Same as I dont think I would date a women with children,Im not ready for an instant family,lol im still looking to meet someone. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:07:23 PM | theadra: I didn't get very far through the postings before I read what you wrote to this woman - I'm actually quite surprised! The choice to have the baby is hers and hers alone, who are we to pass judgement on her decision? We don't know the story behind the pregnancy, the guy or her life - good for her for sticking to her guns and doing what she feels is right. That's the joy of having free will: It's exactly that.
How are we to know she wouldn't be an amazing mother? We don't. Why would you hope she is considering adoption? That's a very brazen remark to make considering you know absolutely nothing about her other then the fact that she is strong enough to do this on her own and fully admits she doesn't want or need a man to support her and her baby. By your remarks, I'm guessing you wouldn't be strong enough to shoulder it alone...
OP: Good for you for doing what you feel is right. Things happen that we don't plan but you've taken control of the situation and are doing what you believe in.. good for you | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 3:09:59 PM | I have no problems dating a woman. Whether she is pregnant or not is not really a factor. I just reckon that she might have a more clear 'motive'. Not accusing her of having so, but if she does, she should be honest about it.
If you want to meet a guy, then your situation should not be a problem to him. flat-pregnant-single mom are factors to some degree, but if he is interested in you, he'll partially ignore them. I can however imagine it will be harder. A lot of guys want to ease into the situation of having a family. knowing that they will be daddy within 5 months is often a bit of a reality check for them.
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 4:27:42 PM | I'd be disinclined to do so - perhaps if we totally meshed I'd consider it, but there are so many other women to consider. That's the reality of it, and there would have to be a good reason to take on the potential complications.
If I'd just fathered someone else's child, would you want to date me? (Knowing that I have those obligations stemming from a failed relationship? Or perhaps a reconciliation?) I rather doubt that many women would, given so many other potential dates and mates. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:29:30 PM |
Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
NO! A thousand times NO!
I lived with my ex while she was pregnant and that was fine, but if I were to be single? Not a chance.
... why would you even be looking for a guy while you're pregnant? Whoops... sorry, I guess that was some of that "negative crap" you were talking about.
But seriously, sure there are going to be some 'nice' guys out there who will come to your rescue, as they will see it, but that's not a good way to start a relationship. I know, I know, you said you didn't want a father for your baby, but if you could find 10 guys who said they would date you, 9.6 of them would feel like they are the shining knight coming to rescue you. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:08:19 PM |
I am not a party animal and it was ironic that we had a back to school formal hangout and I guess something was slipped into my drink and thus I am in this situation.
OP... sorry, I gotta call BS on this one.
If this happened as you say, it's called rape. I'm having a hard time understanding how you could bring a kid to term and raise him or her knowing the father was a "loser coke head" who raped you.
Maybe it's me, but man, if I was a woman and I was raped my first stop would be the police station, then the hospital and if I became pregnant? ...... | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:24:47 PM |
^^^it's not your call
... nor did I imply that it was my call in her case. ...
... but, I am entitled to my opinion. Something doesn't add up and that would make me even less likely to consider dating her (just to keep with the topic of the thread). | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/15/2007 1:16:48 PM | I have dated pregnant women in the past and have had mixed results... needless to say none of them panned out for a LTR but a couple I'm still good friends with, while others were simply in it for the 'comfort' of being with someone during their 'emotional time'. I have no issues dating a woman who's pregnant, and as one of my friends told me when we dated, "At least now you get to know me at my most emotional time of my life and if you can handle me now you can handle me forever". It made for some good laughs between us. We had other diffferences that made it not work out but still stay friends to this day.
But before those of you out that start calling guys ***holes and ****ers cauese they wouldn't date a pregnant woman, just remember there are alot of women who won't date guys that have kids also. To each their own.
Just don't give up cause honestly, they are there you just have to open your eyes sometimes and see whats around you, not just whats in your sights. | |
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| Would you date a woman who is pregnant?
Posted: 3/15/2007 2:09:47 PM | Well being that I am pregnant at the moment and looking at single parent hood, I would not want to date anybody at this time. Hell, I still have mixed feelings for my ex. I have way to much on my plate and really don't think that I could give a realationship a fair go.
When I had my first daughter I was almost 3 yrs before I could date again. I guess you will know when it is right for you. Everyone is diffrent, not saying it can't happen but I don't think it a good idea.
If it comes along this time, I might just take the chance though... So long as I was in a good place to do so. (Which for me is not likely) | |
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