| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:00:56 PM | A woman with a great neck, shoulders, and back looks HAWT in short hair, otherwise I agree with the Gman100, I love long hair on a woman. Still, before suggesting how a woman can improve, how about compliment her first? You will catch more flies with sugar than you will with vinegar.
p.s. Lucilou, your hair looks great. ;+) | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:10:51 PM | | I agree with bikeman , a compliment goes a long way. I think if a guy suggested that i would look better with my hair different on a first date i may feel as if i didnt look good enough as i was, however, i am not usually that sensitive...i think it's all about timing when making remarks about a persons looks. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:15:40 PM | Well, since you're obviously not a hairstylist, I'd say a comment about someone's hair is way out of line. If you don't like someone's hair, which is part of initial attraction for men, why would you even bother? Giving someone unsolicited advice, unless you're an expert in an area, is always a bad idea in my opinion.
But I would like to be there to see some woman's reaction if you suggested a different hairstyle for her...... | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:18:19 PM | | If you and I were friends and we were having lunch or something along those line.. it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, my GIRLFRIENDS and I do this all the time... but if we are on our first date, I think I would understand that this was your way of saying "you're not what I expected". Most of the men here will tell you that you would have been better off giving this woman a heart-felt compliment on your first date instead of saying something that implies she's unattractive to you. If you didn't like her hair, you could have told her that she has a lovely smile or complexion...or maybe beautiful eyes? If I were your date, I would have had no problem reading between the lines. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:22:04 PM | Chucks i can do the due the thing not a problem i would even gladly pay  but please dont ask me to foot the bill for a tummy tuck 
unless of course we are married and the reason your stomack got like that was because you bared my children  | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:34:27 PM | People have different preferences. Live and let live, let people be who they are. That is who they probably want to be. You know the story: If 20 people see the same exact thing, there will be 20 different points of view. If you can't accept someone for who they are, then just be polite and move on.
PS. The suggestion may not be so bad if you are in a serious relationship with the woman, maybe she would do it to please you, if it does look good.
:) Cali | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:44:03 PM | Thank you Bike man, then I will leave my hair alone, But I really dont mind if someone has a suggestion, I am not a very sensitive person. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:51:58 PM | actually I think shieldvulf is right on the money. You just don't make personal remarks about someone until you are in a relationship with them. You JUST met her and you are suggesting she will look better with another hairstyle?
I had this recently where a guy made several personal remarks ...one being that I would suit long hair better. Well I had long hair until my hairdresser went a little nuts with the layers and now I am growing them out so there was no need for that comment. But little by little, I did feel that the personal comments were showing that he was a tad controlling and thats probably what your new girl is thinking too. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 6:23:17 PM | Here is the key...
she would look better with a different hair style
OK, the important word here is "better" which when said implies that she doesn't look good with her present hair cut.
Thats where it borders on an insult.
If you said something like, wow, you are a beautiful woman, I can't even imagine how beautiful you would be with short hair. Or something along that line....
You get the picture.
Hair styles are usually a pretty sensitive topic for women. (bad hair days really suck) | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 6:31:37 PM | It is good to see that I'm not the only person who is able to stick both feet in my mouth at the same time !
Never .... and I repeat .... NEVER tell a woman that her hair would look better another way unless you have already limbered up and are wearing a terrific set of sneakers ( full body armor might be advisable also) | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 6:34:45 PM | Well the long and the short of it is that some women look great with short hair, some with medium length hair, and some with long hair. I get many compliments on mine and not only from men, from women too. The most bizarre comment I got was from a guy at a house party who asserted that "All women with short hair must be gay." I told him that was exaxctly what I wanted him to think.
WD | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 6:38:00 PM | | I think there are some people that you could say something like you are so pretty blah, blah. Then perhaps later ask if she ever considered short hair because it would really highlight her beautiful face, delivery is key. Obviously, there might be people that this would work with on a first meet if you really click and get a sense for their self-esteem level. I think you know you offended the woman or you wouldn't be asking about it and even if you had been seeing each other for awhile, the responses to the thread illustrate that some women would be fine with it, others would like to poke your eyeballs out. The guy I am seeing likes long hair, he doesn't dislike the way I am wearing my hair now but it was kind of cute the look he got on his face when he saw a picture of me with my hair longer. Gee, somehow he has managed more than once to let me know that he likes long hair without suggesting that I should change it. Might be why I am growing it out. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 7:19:07 PM | | There is nothing wrong with suggesting a new hair style if you know someone well....if it's your first time meeting....then we have a problem.....I probably wouldn't go out with you again if it was our first meeting... | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/3/2007 9:13:50 PM | | Well I have to tell you, my last boyfriend of 6 years loved my long blond curly locks. If I change my hair if would almost freak out. Well the day we broke up what did I do, I cut my hair short and dyed it black. I am going back to blond now but it took me 5 years. This is just to say that hair is only "skin deep", so to speak. You should've waited a bit longer if you wanted you friend to change her hair. To me it would say that all you see is the cover not the book. Remember there is more than hair style to a person. Cheers! | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/29/2008 8:03:17 PM | | it would piss me off it reminds me of my ex husband who always found ways to make me feel unattractive...................keep your mouth shut | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/29/2008 8:16:18 PM | Jeepers, this couldn't be any easier. No need to make mention of her current style... just say "I think you'd look awesome with shorter hair." Trust me, women take these suggestions seriously. ;-)
For sure, eh, Ottawa Chicklet. It's all in the way it's said and done. For me it depends on how long 'just met' actually is, and how comfortable the two of us have become with simply touching one another [and I don't mean sex...I mean a hand placed on an arm sort of thing]. If my hair was long and I was comfortable enough to have the person actually touch me, then I wouldn't mind if the guy reached out and touched my hair in an appreciative way while he said so.
There's a hairdresser at a mall I go to who I'd pay to do nothing but pay attention to me like that. Damn! Watching him hustle the ladies like that - the young and the old - is a trip in itself. He's married and he'll tell anyone without a ring (in mock dismay) that he's simply amazed they aren't too. LOL | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/29/2008 9:39:05 PM |
Is it uncouth to suggest to a woman you have just met that she would look better with a different hair style? For example, I met this woman and I said that short hair would look good on her.
It is uncouth to ask someone out or accept a date and immediately start finding things to “change | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/30/2008 6:44:09 AM | I would be thinking that you were a control freak and would next be telling me (suggesting... LOL) what YOU think I should be wearing, or how I should be acting.
There wouldn't be a second date. I'm a grown up and choose how I wish to look, dress and act, whether I wear makeup, jeans, a dress or dye my hair purple, or have a mohawk, tattoo myself or pierce my eyebrows (or not). For another person to even attempt to tell me how I should express myself, dress or whatever is a HUGE red flag of a narcissistic control freak. I'd be OUT OF THERE.
Does THAT answer your question?
If you really want to "improve" someone maybe you should go into aesthetics... or see the play Pygmalion.
Either you like someone the way they are... or you don't. Accept them or move on. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/30/2008 12:50:00 PM | | Hmm? I'm surprised men's facial hair issues haven't come up. I'm just thinking what balls it would take to suggest that a man grow a beard because a mustache all by itself looks silly, or to suggest he shave because his face is too small to carry all that hair! ha! If looks were the be all end all, I guess I'd rather just pass him over than tell him how he should look! | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/30/2008 1:28:19 PM | I've seen some women with the "wild hair" thing going on.I will not say nothing because women get emotional if you bring things about their looks or style to their attention. A while back I met this gal off this site. First night we jumped in my vehicle an went to a small club had one drink and we left took her to her car.. no kiss or nothing. She looked great. Then next day picked her up on her short lunch break and wowser.. She had too much make up on but I didn't say nothing. Then later we went out for a while and she had even more make up on. I wanted to say something but didn't and then like a couple days later called her and we just went goofing around and went to a couple store and she came out of her house and was just in her loaf around "relax house cloths" an no make up at all.. OMG she was ~H~O~T~ with out a bit of make up on. She was the bomb. She seemed to be embarassed and mentioned that she didn't put any make up on. I then spoke and said: You look great with no make up. I think you look lots better with no make up on and I'd not even wear make up if I was you.
Haaaaaaaa this offended her. She spoke up and said : I like wearing my make up! ! ! Wowser I said the wrong thing.. She's fliping hot with no make up but still it upset her when I told her she looked great with out it. The moral of the story is. We seen each other like 4 times while I was down visiting family and never even got to kiss that gal. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/30/2008 5:48:00 PM | If that's what you LIKED then why did you go out with someone with long hair? *scratch my head* ... don't you know it's not nice to be in a relationship that someone tells you to CHANGE something about themselves to deem themselves adequite to date you? How would you like it if your girl said "well hunny, I adore you but, you just need to change this ONE little thing ... then we can talk". Not good if the shoe is on the other foot now, is it?
Think about that ... and OF COURSE you offended her!! Do you know how long it takes to grow our locks?!?!?!?! You should have appreciated her for HER (not what she could be) - don't be surprised if you never hear from her again - sorry - it is the truth. NO ONE likes to be changed!!! | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/30/2008 6:17:54 PM | I think when it comes to extremes in hair (crazy colours, baldness, super long hair) then for some, those can be a deal breaker. It is just a matter of what you are turned off by.
I myelf have very long hair (over two feet) and some men find it a turn on and others thing it would be better shorter. What matters is that I like it and how it makes me feel. If a man thinks I would look better some other way, I would not mind if he told me (but it seems silly to do so on a first date). I notice the same thing with men. I have met men I thought looked bad only because of thier hair style or cut, but if I liked him enough, it wouldnt matter. | |
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| Is hair style a package deal on a woman?
Posted: 1/30/2008 7:20:57 PM | myndenway state: [As expected most did not read the original question correctly. I never said to criticize the current hair style, or ask anybody to change one, merely that I would suggest that that she would look even better in a different style. Is that such a sin? ]
YES!!! Who do you think you ARE??? Let me see, if some guy tells me that I would look even better in a different style, that dumbass would be implying that HE knows what would look better than I do....ON ME!!! How bloody ARROGANT is that!!
You know what? You might as well just remove your profile and run to the nearest therapist to deal with your arrogant attitude. An arrogant attitude such as this displays a HUGE RED FLAG, in my books. I would NEVER, NEVER, NEVER want to date someone who would have the bloody nerve to do such a thing. ...what's next, my clothes, my car, my friends, my kid. Criticism destroys relationships...no one has the right to criticize anyone else...EVER! Learn this, and learn it well, if you ever hope to succeed at anything in life! Geeeeeeeeeeeesch!
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