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Posted: 1/10/2007 7:06:22 AM | most men and myself included are not afraid of a good woman coming into our lives.
some men believe that many freedoms are removed in a committed relationship with increased responsibilites which they are not accustomed.
#3 That is what and who we are.
#4 If the children are disciplined and mannerable then there is not a problem.But if the children are the opposite I want no part of that drama. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2007 7:41:38 AM |
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Because we don't understand it. If I'm doing something to make myself feel good, such as putting on clothes, I wear the most comfortable, beat-up stuff in my dresser. It's wrinkled, probably would disintegrate if I ever washed it, and has stains that are older than my capable memory. If I'm getting dressed up, it's to impress someone else... job interview, work-related gathering, or for something similarly special where I need to show people that I'm able to wear shirts with buttons AND collars. Why would anyone want to dress up to make themself feel good? That's just silly!*
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Because we're not wired that way. When we're upset about something, the "fight or flight" instinct kicks in. So, it's time to either hit something/someone, or go take some time alone. Talking about things doesn't move anyone forward, so therre's no use in it.*
* These are the standard responses I've heard, and do not apply to all men. However, we do think these things, at least a few times daily, but I'd say that most good guys have gone beyond this "all or nothing" thinking. Personally, I feel good when I dress up, because I get more positive attention... so with that reinforcer, I don't mind wearing nice clothes for more normal activities, such as going out to a movie or just meeting my roommate for dinner at the bar. As for talking, it does serve as an emotional vent, and it lets others know why you're upset, or particularly happy... but even working with kids for years, and frequently being the only male employee on my unit (out of 8+ people), I still sometimes feel that instead of talking about why I'm angry, it is just more efficient to do a lot of push-ups to aleviate the stress. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 1/10/2007 10:43:43 AM | 1) Why are men affraid of something good coming into their life?
-a generalisation probably based on a bad experience you had. We are not afraid, sometimes just as cautious as anybody else is, for fear of letting someone in and getting hurt...we have feelings too.
2) Why do men fear commitment?
- We do not fear commitment, some of us long for it....we just need to know what we are committing to, before the contract is signed....as do you. thats what the courting process is for.
3) Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning? -
Cuz it is, winners win, losers are leaf fans
4) Why are men not accepting of women with children? -
again, a generalistaion, some men like kids, their little voices, ambition in their eyes, 100's of questions..they are great ( unless they eat my chocolate, then NO KIDS!!!
5 )What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?-
- this is an individual thing, there are so many things to experience, not that it is scary to settle down, if that person is met, who knows, but, who is to say???
6 )Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics? -
- Sometimes SOMETIMES, guys need validation too ( LIKE GIRLS DON'T!!)
7 )Why do men let their friends influence their decisions? huh?
8 )Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
- defence mechanism
9)How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
not applicable in every situation, you are loooking for validation for something that is going on in your relationship??
10)Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends? see above
11) Why do men run when they fear something? stuff is scary...boo
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Sometimes it takes awhile to open up, and trust someone, we have all been down that path, its not unique to any one person
12) Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings? its not, unless its about chocolate
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
- unfortunate stereotype
13)Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
- no comment
14)What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
-nothing at all,
15)Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves? not a commen trait among men
16)Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ? we do not fear it, takes awhle to find it
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner? nothing at all
17)Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows? not a common trait
18)Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with? umm,
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Posted: 1/15/2007 9:25:27 AM | 1. Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Well there's a few possible answers here: a) all good things come to an end, b) they're afraid things are too god to be true, and c) The best things usually don't just come into their life, they make an entrance.
2. Why do men fear commitment?
Men don't, boys do. Then there's the look like men...they're those older guys who fear commitment. That's usually because they're afraid of something good coming into their life though.
3. Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Wait, with men or everyone? Either way I guess it gives people a reason to keep interest. That and it's in nature for people to compete for things they want.
4. Why are men not accepting of women with children?
This goes back to the commitment thing. They think if the woman has a kid then they need to commit right away.
5. What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
It makes people think that you haven't experienced enough and will have a point in your life where you'll start doing things you never tried when you were younger. Like party a bunch.
6. Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
They don't need approval, just acknowledgement. Like "Hey dudes look what I did!" and the others are like "You're dumb but we see that."
7. Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Friends are an important part of peoples lives. If you can't respect the bond between friends then you can't respect the bond between lovers.
8. Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Not true. I'll talk to any female about anything. Sure some subjects I'll joke around a bit but I won't avoid the conversation.
9. How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
He says the whole "don't be jealous baby" thing because he usually is out with buddies just having fun drinking and laughing. Mind you if they're doing this like every weekend and never inviting you...something is goin on.
10. Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
Who the hell made that rule? Why did you put quotes around the friends when you were talking about the guy's girl friends and not the girl's guy friends. That's a tad bit confusing, but either way, they can both have friends of the opposite sex. Just not bed buddies.
11. Why do men run when they fear something?
They don't want to conquer their fear. Some just freeze in place too.
12. What is soooo hard about opening up?
It's not. You just have to have a bond first. Or be an open person to begin with.
13. Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
It's not. Most just don't because our feelings are usually really simple. Examples of my train of thought in the next minute: food, hungry, eat, drink, beer, bar, pool table, balls, sex, sex, sex, sex, sleep, sleep, food, hungry, work, etc.
14. How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
That's just society telling you to think that.
15. Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Why does his woman have to be all lovey dovey around his buddies and try to hog his attention when clearly they are out with friends and she should be chilling out like everyone else? Ya, I can generalize too but it doesn't solve the problem or answer your question. They usually act like an ass because you're trying too hard to get their attention at that time. His friend is around you should give them near equal attention. He'll be all yours when the friends are gone.
16. What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Nothing. Nothing at all. Just as long as it doesn't take more than 30 minutes to "put your face on". My face is always on. Yours shouldn't take that long to reattatch if you take it off regularily.
17. Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
I don't know, I've never done that. Maybe if it's out of the ordinary or more than usual preparation I would wonder. But, other than that, I'm not sure why they'd say that.
18. Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Because the majority of us sold our souls for some stupid thing. You can't have a soul mate if the guy has no soul. We're afraid you'll find out. Crap the secrets out...umm. I really meant that it's like saying "marriage" or "love" or "huge commitment" approaching.
19. What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Well it depends where you're going. Usually there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Especially if you're wearing that "special something" underneath and the guy knows it. It's like a tease the whole time out. RAWR! ehem...sorry.
20. Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
If you're talking like chilling with other women then it's because you'll get pissed usually. If it's because they're cheating, it means they're using you as a constant fall back for sex while they're out trying to pick up. No offense.
21. Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
The possibility of something new or better. That and the majestic unknown that's there, we can get curious sometimes.
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Posted: 1/15/2007 10:21:58 AM |
I sense, though, that your issue lies solely with ONE man and that is the reason you're generalizing about men.
These are just questions based on my experiences with dating and relationships so far in life. It's more directed towards young males around my age.
OP: Are you kidding? You're 19 for god's sake! You can't be this bitter already?!
As for me being bitter at 19, I am pretty bitter because I have experienced in my life so far what most women do not experience untill their late 20's. I have a child which seems to be the reason for most guys ending a relationship with me. I have responded in this post to some of the questions so before the next person decides to bash me with their opinions, take the time and read what I have stated and then tell me what you think. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 10:36:24 AM | Forgive if this has already been stated.
You are in an unfortunate situation. I am generalizing, I know, but many guys in your age bracket are not ready for a serious committment. I was going to recommend seeking older men, but you are so young it may be difficult to find someone whose maturity matches your own.
Maybe you will have more success if you participate in activities where there is a broader age group. I am thinking sports, clubs, hobbys, etc. I hope this helps.
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Posted: 1/15/2007 10:53:35 AM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
They are not.
Why do men fear commitment?
commitment = ruinous divorce
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
It is the reality of everything in life.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
They balk at having to pay and put up with some ex-convict's **stards.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
The younger you settle down the longer you have to pay for the mistake.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
They know that there are other minds that have valuable information and experience.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
See above.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Serious talk is womanese for let me b***h. To a man, serious talk means devaluation of the dollar v the euro or the energy required to probe particles at the Planc length.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Because he is a free human being and not your personal property.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
It is okay to have male friends.
Why do men run when they fear something?
Instinct. Unless one is certain of the outcome it is always best to flee danger if you can.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Nothing.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
It isn't but they usually don't mix their words with tears, screaming and other juvinile hystrionics.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Something wrong with a slut?
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
He doesn't have to.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?Nothing.
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
They are mistaken.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Womanese for I already checked your credit score.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Nothing.
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
They don't want to start trouble for stupid reasons.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Women make the rules, men don't. If you don't like it, then don't dump the next guy who remembers your birthday. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 11:02:54 AM |
so before the next person decides to bash me with their opinions, take the time and read what I have stated and then tell me what you think. You can take it as bashing all you want...it was simply opinion. Don't put it out there if you can't handle opinions that you don't like. I guess you're wanting me to go back and read your personal story, wherever it is on here and feel sorry for you? I'm sorry if things haven't been all rosey for you, but we ALL have been through rough times. The fact is, the men on here are being nice to you. If this were a man generalizing the same stuff about women...he would have been torn in two.
I went and read your profile. It is full of negativity about men and dating when you have a child. The problem you're having is that you're young. I don't know if you date men your age or close to it, but I wouldn't imagine that a lot of 19 year old guys want to be instant dads. I assume that isn't the expectation you put out, but I can understand a young man being cautious. Consider a man who is a bit older (no, I'm not saying 60ish or anything...no offense to the 60ish guys!).
I know that dating is hard, and it's even harder when you have a child...BUT...don't stress about it (your profile makes it sound like you are desperate and NEED a man, which some may take as "father figure for my son"). Love your son (which I'm sure you do), and remember that the man you allow into your life with your son should be a special person, anyway. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 11:30:33 AM |
You are in an unfortunate situation. I am generalizing, I know, but many guys in your age bracket are not ready for a serious committment. I was going to recommend seeking older men, but you are so young it may be difficult to find someone whose maturity matches your own. There are many 19-year-old men who want to settle down. Typically they found the girl they wanted to settle down with back in high-school.
I agree with the poster that said that finding 19-year-old men who want an instant family with another man's child are pretty rare. At my age, we are generally pretty accepting of children. We are also past the point where "instant family" is a problem. In many cases (though not mine) we already have children of our own. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2007 3:12:28 PM | Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?  It isnt.
Its societal and consists of mis-shapen and shame based ideas of who and what we are supposed to be. Not to mention that a lot of us never learn to align ourselves spiritually with our natural instincts. We do a helluva marketing job on ourselves passing on information that is designed to further our egos than to benefit our fellow man...or woman as the case may be.  From the dawn of time, tools (of our own invention) designed to enhance our station in this life, have only been as good as the individual that picks them up and applies their correct usage.
In the privacy of our own minds...All men wish there was someone we could talk to without being judged.  In a moment of question, its easier to be cool and collected (to act as if), but in the long run, its a lot of work and acting out around that is not much of a viable alternative to mental implosion. Bottom line is this...take away the self centered ego and develop a communication with your fellow human being and realize you aint got no secrets that anyone else hasnt got. We're ALL wingin' it on the planet!  It aint wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings, but---you might be talking to someone who isnt big enough to "hold" them in confidence/conversation and you could get the impression that you're wrong depending on THEIR perception----not YOURS.
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Posted: 1/30/2007 3:16:43 PM | Crap, looks like I'm a Johhny-come-lately to this thread. So my desperately needed advice will now be buried underneath all the other muck that is sure to have surfaced here by now.
Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Wrong question. It applies equally to people of both genders. So the person you're thinking of is most probably a loser. No offense. And you can tell him I called him that.
Why do men fear commitment?
They don't. Next question.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
It doesn't. Obviously, the guys you find attractive are among the small percentage of men who actually fit these questions. Perhaps you should instead focus on why you find such men attractive.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
Now THAT's the type of question likely to be asked by a woman with whom any man in his right mind would fear a commitment.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
We don't.
Do we, Guys?
Who's with me?
Guys?
Come one guys. I need some back up here. Don't leave me hangin', dudes.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Why do women go to the bathroom in packs? Why is it, ladies, that you feel the need to gang-up before heading to the latrine?
Obviously, very few of the questions you've asked so far have enything at all to do with gender. Women let their friends influence their decisions as well.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Shutup and go make me a sandwich. Jeeze, I don't need all this ball-busting from you.
Again, you're saying something as if it was only men that did it. Women do it all the time. And it sounds like the men you find attractive happen to be the type of losers who do these behaviors.
You wouldn't hang out with women who do such things, would you?
Then why put up with it in the men you hang out with?
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
Why do men run when they fear something?
Again, all those questions apply equally to people of both genders. Choose better men and you won't have those problems.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Men will open up to people they trust. You should read some of what they've "opened up" on these forums. Seriously makes you want to punch Charles Darwin in the mouth.
Perceived Anonymity is apparently a good substitute for trust.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
The men you've been choosing, being the avid-readers that they are, probably misread it as "sole" mate, and figured they didn't want to be stepped on. Dr Sholes does a fine job of that.
I'm guessing the other questions have already been answered in great detail by many of the find, charitable contributors to this forum. If not, give Dr Phil a try. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 4:07:19 PM | "Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?"
Because if something looks too good to be true, it usually is.
"Why do men fear commitment?"
We want it, but we're cautious about expressing that because if she doesn't, we're labeled as stalkers.
"Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?"
It's hard wired into our animal instincts to try to prove ourselves as men to attract women.
"Why are men not accepting of women with children?"
No problems here.
"What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?"
There's a whole world to see out there. But not settling down and going it alone are not the same thing.
"Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?"
Don't most women do the same thing?
"Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?"
Since when did listening to advice become a bad thing?
"Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?"
Stop dating boys. Start dating men. What kind of guys are you going for?!?!?!?
"How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?"
"Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?"
"Why do men run when they fear something?"
Again, you need to rethink who you should be attacted to.
"What is soooo hard about opening up?"
"Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?"
We're taught not to by society from a young age, and most guys have had bad experiances the few times they have.
"How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?"
Learn whose opinion is worth caring about and whose isn't.
"Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?"
...date men not boys...
"What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?"
"Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?"
If a man loves you, he'll think that you would look good if you dressed in a potato sack and had been working down in a sewer all day long. Most women do look better with little or even no makeup to us - it's more natural. When we see a girl spending a lot of time preening herself we wonder who exactly she is trying to impress and it makes us believe that, deep down, our girl is unhappy with how she looks, a bad feeling we believe a woman has about herself that we can't take away or make better, which frustrates and depresses us.
"Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?"
Men dream of finding thier soul mate. We fear being wrong.
"What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?"
Nothing.
"Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?"
Because you may jump to the wrong conclusion? Contrary to what women are raised to believe, us guys do like to have girls who are just friends.
"Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?"
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Posted: 1/30/2007 4:45:17 PM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Good things often end up being bad things. At least, that's been my experience with women. Maybe I just have bad luck with them, but I've noticed that a lot of women tend to bring you an empty wallet, a life of drama, and a very short leash.
Here's the deal: of the women I've dated, there was ONE I would have liked to have kept. One. Consider that for a moment. Friends of mine have been driven into tens of thousands of dollars in debt because of their girlfriends.
Why do men fear commitment?
It isn't commitment itself, but what commitment may bring. See above. There seems to be a large number of women that end up becoming lazy and fat after they get married. Don't believe me or want to argue with me? Well, it has happened to more than one friend of mine. In fact, MOST of the men I know that have been married ended up dealing with that. Go figure.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Testosterone will do that to you.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
It isn't that it's scary, it's just that men don't always want to settle down early. I forget who it was, but one of the ancient philosophers said "The perfect age for a man to get married is 38. The perfect age for a woman is 18." Think about that one for a bit.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Guy friends are honest. If you ask a guy friend "Do you think this is a bad idea?" chances are he'll tell you his opinion. It isn't so much looking for approval but getting a second opinion on something.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
See above.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Guys point and laugh when men show emotion. Women use it for blackmail.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
I, myself, see a guy that's slept around a horrendous amount as a manslut. BUT, here's the logic from other people.
Women are a challenge. Men are easy. Some day, walk up to a guy you don't know and ask him to have sex with you. Better yet, walk up and say "Let's screw!" Chances are, he'll be all over you. Now, what if a guy you didn't know walked up to you and said "Let's screw!" You probably wouldn't sleep with him, would you?
Because women don't deal with any sort of challenge when looking for sex, she is seen as somebody that can't keep her legs together, while a man is seen as a chick magnet.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Men don't do that. Only boys. You can be in your thirties and still be a boy.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Nothing.
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
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Posted: 1/31/2007 4:59:15 PM | Sweet, too many questions for one forum post. I'll answer #8
"Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?"
It isn't likely that a serious question just pops into your mind and falls to your lips. Before you get around to asking him you have spent hours formulating what your own reply would be. Possibly even maneuvered him into the 'perfect situation' for asking. Then, "BAM, what is the meaning of life?"
Imagine for a moment that you are sitting in your biology class and without warning the prof says, "for the next 15 minutes, Sweet Blue will give a presentation on how the theory of relativity applies to the shelf life of dairy products." Sure, you could do that presentation, but not without a little forewarning. You put your guy in the same situation when all of sudden you bring up one of the heavy, serious subjects.
Your guy spends every sentient moment, when he is not thinking of something else, trying to figure out ways to strengthen the bond you two have developed. He is hoping to continue your relationship until it turns into a lifetime of bliss. It is not that he can't answer, or that he won't answer, he just doesn't have the powerpoint ready yet. So, he tries to buy time with a flip, funny, or sarcastic response.
Try working in a smaller timeframe. E.G. Give him a sweet smile and say, "Hun, I know you want to watch the Superbowl, and I want to watch the commercials. So, we won't be able to fool around while the game is on. How about we hump our brains out Saturday night so we are both too sore to be interested in sex on Sunday? Whadya, think?"
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 1/31/2007 5:15:58 PM |
Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Because it represents change. Most guys are pretty comfortable in whatever routine they have. We don't like it to change.
Why do men fear commitment?
Because it closes off future potential options. Yes, I realize this doesn't fit in at all with the previous answer; men always accuse women of being hard to understand, but we're not immune from it either.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Look around at society -- it's all based on competition, and from a young age. Mostly aimed towards men. We grow up with it.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
That part I don't get. Though I could probably give you some sort of biological/anthropological answer to that one, in the end guys who do that are what I would humbly call "dicks".
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
Ever seen "Friends"? Or any other sitcom for that matter? A young age is when all of that stuff is supposed to happen, and it's the best time of our lives! Nevermind that it's television and none of that stuff really happens in the first place.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
In grade school and high school, differing from the crowd got you ostracized as a woman; it got your ass kicked as a guy.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
See previous answer.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
That part I don't get. It's just rude.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
It's not. It's rude.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
See previous answer.
Why do men run when they fear something?
In the end, it's fight or flight. Flight is easier. Fighting is *hard*. More satisfying in the end, but hard nonetheless.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
It's a form of commitment. See earlier in this post.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
I have no idea, honestly.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
I've heard it referred to as a Madonna-Whore complex. Men want to be the first and only guy a woman has slept with, but he wants her to be experienced and know exactly what she's doing. If I had to take a wild stab at it, I'd say that this attitude comes out of this confusion.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Probably some sort of power thing, but frankly I think it's rude.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Nothing at all!
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Probably because men don't take extra time to look nice if we're not looking for a woman. Jeans and a t-shirt are just fine. Dressing up usually implies that we're looking for a date, so we extrapolate and assume the same thing for women.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
This is back to the commitment thing again.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Have you ever had to wear a tie? They suck! 
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Playing the odds, plain and simple. You assume the other person doesn't know until you have reason to believe that she does know. Then you either a.) own up to it, or b.) are an idiot.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
I... don't know, really.
NOTE: I'm not necessarily saying that *I* believe most of this; I'm merely answering the questions as best I can from a guy's point of view. You know, being a guy myself and all. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 1/31/2007 5:31:36 PM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Something good always goes bad....but some times the bad turns good.
Why do men fear commitment?
It means change...change frightens.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Because no one wants to be a loser.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Some are, many do not, many are indifferent....various answers to many.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
I'm older now...not in the frame of mind.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Why do women? Next topic...
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Again...why do women listen to theirs? Friends are there for help...even if they don't hold a degree in Psychology.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Yeah, right....like that will go over well. So how bout this weather huh?
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Logic dictates that the needs of the many out way the needs of the few...or the one. (Shaddup ya geek) Guess men know what other men are thinkin when they see a girl out...much like women do when they see them on the prowl.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
The whole "toy" syndrome. They like to show the toy, but don't like to share the toy with anyone else.
Why do men run when they fear something?
Primal instinct. "Uh oh...that time of the month?! RUN BOYS!!!"
What is soooo hard about opening up?
It's hard to close it back up again.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Some are more easy to share feelings then others, it all depends on their up bringings, role models, inferiority complex....various reasons.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
I'd be more worried about the numbers for either side...holy cow, ten people....time to get checked!
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Those that do like to think they're the ones in control. But wait till they get home huh? (then they get their "ass" handed back to them.)
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Nothing wrong with that....but dressing like you're going to a porn festival...yeeah, maybe that's a bit much. Maybe men are afraid if you're too hot...they'll lose ya.
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Looking good for themselves...hmmm...I dunno. Why can't a woman just accept she looks good to her man? If she's dressing to impress herself...wow...dunno...maybe because men aren't in the same frame of mind as women tend to be.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Watched too many Aussie horror films. "I'll swallow your sole, mate!!"
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Nothing. But men are slobs...and we like it.
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Because they fear death...and the only way to cheat death is to lie.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Ah....what? I didn't expect the Spanish Inquisition...."NOOOOOOObody expects the Spanish Inquisition!!!" | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 1/31/2007 6:23:07 PM | Reasons it's great to be a guy:
Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
Movie nudity is virtually always female.
A 5 day vacation requires only one suitcase.
You don't have to monitor your friends' sex lives.
Your bathroom lines are 80% shorter.
You can open all your own jars.
Old friends don't give a crap whether you've lost or gained weight.
Dry cleaners and haircutters don't rob you blind.
When clicking through the channels, you don't have to stall at every
shot of somebody crying.
All your orgasms are real.
You don't have to lug a bag of useful stuff around everywhere you go.
You can go to the bathroom without a support group.
Your last name stays put.
You can leave the hotel bed unmade.
You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.
Nobody secretly wonders whether you swallow.
Sex means never worrying about your reputation.
Wedding plans take care of themselves.
If someone forgets to invite you to something, he or she can still be
your friend.
You don't have to shave below your neck.
None of your coworkers has the power to make you cry.
You don't have to curl up next to a hairy butt every night.
If you're 34 and single, nobody even notices.
You can write your name in the snow.
Everything on your face gets to stay its original color.
Chocolate is just another snack.
You can quietly enjoy a car ride from the passenger's seat.
Flowers fix everything.
You can wear a white shirt to a water park.
Three pairs of shoes is more than enough.
You can eat a banana in a hardware store.
Nobody stops telling a good dirty joke when you walk into a room.
You can whip your shirt off on a hot day.
You never feel compelled to stop a pal from getting laid.
You can quietly watch a game with you buddy for hours without ever
thinking "He must be mad at me".
The world is your urinal.
Hot wax never comes near your pubic area.
One mood, all the time
You never have to drive on to another gas station because this one's
just too skeevy.
You can sit with you knees apart no matter what you're wearing.
Gray hair and wrinkles only add character.
You don't have to leave the room to make an emergency crotch
adjustment.
Wedding dress: $2,000; tuxedo rental: $75.
You don't care if someone's talking about you behind you back.
With 400 million sperm per shot, you could double the Earth's
population in 15 tries, at least in theory.
You don't mooch off others' desserts.
If you retain water, it's in a canteen.
The remote control is yours and yours alone.
People never glance at your chest when you're talking to them.
You can drop by to see a friend without having to bring a littlegift.
Bachelor parties whomp butt over bridal showers.
You have a normal and healthy relationship with your mother.
You can buy condoms without the shopkeeper imagining you naked.
You needn't pretend you're "Freshening up" to go to the bathroom.
If you don't call your buddy when you say you will, he won't tell
your other friends you've changed.
Someday you'll be a dirty old man.
You can rationalize any behavior with the handy phrase "Screw it."
If another guy shows up at the party in the same outfit, you just
might become lifelong buddies.
Your pals can be trusted never to trap you with: "So...notice
anything different?"
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 1/31/2007 6:25:20 PM |
Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
A: You opinion of 'good' and their opinion of 'good' may differ greatly.
Why do men fear commitment?
A: We like to 'spread our seed/sow our oats' and commitment means an indefinite end to that happy pastime
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
A: We (Americans and some Canadians) are trained early in life to compete. If we didn't compete we would all be communists - and even communists like to compete with capitalists ... so at some level we all compare and compete
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
A: I could give a really blunt answer but, the not-so-blunt answer is: 'No guy really wants to raise a kid that's not his own'
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
A: Hello  - have you seeeen the divorce rate in the US? "50%" that means half of all marriages - and possibly more - that start this year will end in unhappilly. I've also been told by a wise, older, DIVORCED female friend that 'No one should get married before they turn 28. People change a LOT between the time they graduate High School/College and when they've been completely on there own for a few years' - I still trust this wise woman's advice today.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
A: Honestly, I think that depends on the guy. Maybe they want to be sure something doesn't seem to 'gay' or that they are doing something normal. Some guys don't need to ask their friends about everything though.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
A: Not all guys do. Sounds like you've got a cruush on a definite 'follower' ...if you like that kind of guy
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
A: Because he's trying to keep the mood light and talking 'serious' usually leads to fighting and/or girls crying.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
A: My guess is you might be exaggerating on the 'never' part. If your really are his 'main girl' he'll bring you along at least some of the time. If he has never gone out in public with you though - you are not really his 'main girl' if it's closer to the first situation and he only brings you with him every once and a while - he probably just needs time with his boys/guy friends to act like an idiot - he can't really do that freely with his woman tagging along.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
A: Because the guy's friends-who-are-girls probably have no interest in having sex with the guy whatsoever. Little does she know - all the 'guy friends' of the girl are ready and willing to have sex with her when she gets drunk enough and/or is vunerable and needs a 'hug'
Why do men run when they fear something?
A: Can't speak for this one - not scared of a whole bunch.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
A: Because the moment we open up about our feelings we are put in the friend zone and you will most likely lose interest - unless you've been dating for quite a while.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
A: see above^^^
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
A: In my neck of the woods the term is called 'pimp' and honestly, I really hope for equality in this area in the future so more guys can get laid more often. Another answer is - girls can have sex ANYTIME they want, all they have to do is ask - so it's not really a big achievement. Us guys have to spend a lot more time, energy and money to get laid - so for a guy who gets laid by a different lady every day of the week - he deserves repect - at least from the guys - for achieving such a task.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
A: Because we act like idiots around our guy friends, it's fun.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
A: nothing wrong with it - just, if you said you're going to be ready at 6:00 and it's 7:15 we get a little annoyed.
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
A: Sounds like a jealous boyfriend, unless you are taking your current boyfriend somewhere where an 'ex' is very likely to be as well.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
A: they don't - just don't like to use it around our guy friends too much lest we get our @$$ kicked.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
A: Nothing unless your going to McDonald's for dinner.
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
A: becuase he's not quite sure if you know or not. And why do you ask yes or no questions you already know the answer to?
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
A: if only polygamy was socially acceptable.... | |
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from all of that, and there are plenty of women that run from the same things you mentioned.
