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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 3/26/2007 11:54:33 PM |
Why are men afraid of something good coming into their life?
Actually, we love good things coming into our lives, it just depends on what things. If a new motorbike, car or some other sort of toy comes into our life, then we are delighted. If you are talking about relationships, however, then that is a minefield.... a relationship requires a man to explore his feelings and emotions, and many men are actually afraid to do that.
Why do men fear commitment?
Fundamentally, most men cherish their freedom. We like choices. We like options. We are scared of not having choices and options. What if we forfeit all those choices and options, to focus on one option, and it doesn't work out? We feel stupid because we've passed up on opportunities.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Again, fundamental male psychology. We want to push ourselves... we want to see what we can do. We like a competitive environment, it's what we thrive on. It motivates us. We want to see what we are actually capable of. We also secretly desire to be superior to others, in some way. How many guys get an ego trip out of being seen in a cool car? Lots.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
We like a monopoly. And, women might just be the one thing that we don't want to compete over. We want to know that we have a complete monopoly over you... not in a controlling way, but we just like to know that you won't be packing up and dumping us in the near future. We want your attention and devotion. When there are children involved, we have to compromise. We can't do spontaneous things with you, things have to be planned. Instead of your world revolving around us, it revolves around other people, that you gave birth to. We want to focus our own attention solely on you, and not several other junior life forms. We like for this attention to be uninterrupted. Once we have figured out that we like you, we actually don't want to share you. Besides, the sports car is only a two-seater, and won't fit the kids.
What is so scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
There's an entire lifetime for that. Why do women want to give up and settle down so early? Who says that settling down early is a good thing? I've met many single-parent women over the years, and the consistent thing that they are always saying is that they got married too young, and should have waited. Patience! And, we're worried that you'll take too much control over our lives, and start wanting us to do stupid things. Like not having a flashy sports car.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Probably for the same reason that women rely on feedback so much from their circle of female friends. We're sensitive to what our friends think of us. We want to know if our new sports car really is as cool as we think it is.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Ditto... same as above. After all, that car cost a few dollars... we need to know that it looks cool.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
We have to explore feelings and emotions. That involves being vulnerable. We hate appearing weak, in any way... we need to look and feel in control at all times. We might not be good at dealing with emotions, and we hate not being good at something. So, we'll avoid it, and get back to something that we are good at. Such as talking about our new sports car.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her there's no reason, when she is never invited?
Insecure men will feel that way, but secure men will encourage it. This is one of the ways that you can learn about who a man really is. Sure, we want to be the only source of fun in your life. A secure man will have enough trust in himself, and you, to genuinely wish for you to have a good time without him. Besides, while you're out having fun with other people, we get to wash the sports car and go for a drive past impressionable young women.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
If we like you, then there is the potential for you to hurt us. We hate the idea of being even the slightest bit vulnerable. And, as above, only an insecure man will have issues about that. A secure man will be happy for you to have lots of male friends. Because then we get to impress them all with our new sports car.
Why do men run when they fear something?
Fundamental male psychology... males are problem solvers. We see some sort of problem, and we must solve it. We hate feeling defeated..... it makes us feel vulnerable. Just because we look like we have courage doesn't mean that we also have the courage to face painful emotions. Besides, the sports car is due for a wash, anyway.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
We need to be an emotional fortress. That's the way that males have been all through the history of the world. We need to know that we can handle anything. The male gender doesn't have a historical background of dealing with emotional issues. Unless someone crashes into our sports car, which naturally requires an international day of mourning.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
We love talking about our feelings! We feel really, really, really good about the new car. It looks soooooooooo cool!!!!!!!
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Again, competitive stuff. The more guys that you've slept with, then the more that we have to compete against. We want to have the biggest penis, and be the best in bed. Of course, what really matters is that our car is cooler than any of theirs.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
We have to look emotionally tough. Being vulnerable is one thing, but being seen as vulnerable by people whose opinions we value? Ouch! That's almost as bad as someone putting a scratch on the sports car. Almost.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Depends. You want to spent the next 16 hours putting on makeup. We just wanna go out and eat some food. And if you dress up, then we feel that we have to dress up as well. But hey, at least you'll look good in the sports car!
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Depends on how secure we feel. If a guy is insecure, and other guys are looking at his woman, then he's gonna get his back up.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Because it sounds so identical to "sole mate". Fear of commitment. Besides, we already have our soul mate. She's parked in the carport, and seeing as it's been 45 minutes since we either washed or drove her, we're gonna have to go check up on her any minute now.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Because we don't want to. We might spill something. We like being casual. We don't need to look all that impressive, we've got the sports car for that.
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Because if you know that we're seeing other women, then it's only fair that you see other men. And we don't want that. We're hypocrites - we want heaps of options, but also want to know that you are still available to us.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
That's how we protect ourselves. Someone has to contribute emotions, and the more that you chip in, the less that we have to. Then we don't feel so vulnerable. There is an emotional tug of war involved.
Notes: the above responses were written very quickly, without getting into much detail. My answers here indicate that all guys are insecure, gutless wimps. I don't like that I've come across that way, but the fact is that guys that have the issues described above.... well, they are. And no woman should wasting time on men like that.
Observation: If a woman has a need to ask these questions, then that indicates that she's definitely meeting the wrong sort of guy, and she needs to look at herself to figure out why this is so. The character traits described in the questions are typical of a guy who is insecure and controlling. A genuinely secure and confident guy won't have (major) issues with any of these questions.
Oh, and one last thing... I actually don't own a sports car... I drive a 1992 Mazda 626 Hatchback because it's cheap to buy, does the job and is very practical. However, if I had the money to buy a Ferrari 348ts.... | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/5/2007 8:18:01 PM | This is so funny, I can answer all of them BUT the real answer is,,,,,,,,,,,,,"Why can't YOU accept us for who we are?"  | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/5/2007 10:41:06 PM | 1) Men and women both often oppose change.
2) See #1
3) Competition and winning often brings entertainment/sense of accomlishment.
4) He will never be their biological father and that will ALWAYS be an issue.
5) You can travel anywhere while young and do it cheap! Can't with a family.
6) The ones that need approval from guy friends are insecure/childish.
7) Getting feedback is okay, sometime you get an experienced/intelligent answer.
8) Because serious talks are often just a huge pain, they don't change much, and are often an intellectual obstacle course of responses to dodge which will make you single.
9) It's not logical, he's being stupid. Couples do things together, or they let that stuff go, not that double standard crap.
10) He's insecure.
11)  you do not stand in front of a train, it's silly =P
12) It leads to serious talks, see #8
13) It's not, but it can lead to #12 and consequently the dreaded #8.
14) Society has double standards and is hypocritical.
15) Not all men do....
16) Nothing, unless you have to wait 2 hrs for her when you only have time for a 3 hr date.
17) Have never experienced this....
18) If we're not married, it's indicating she wants a change, see #1 and #2.
19) See #16
20) If you're dating a cheater, don't bother reasoning, just move on.
21) Obviously they have started thinking about other women, see #1 and #2.
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/6/2007 1:16:34 AM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Don't know but I just have an irresistable urge to tear up lottery tickets BEFORE the draw, invest in very shady businesses and only date women whose numbers I got off a bathroom wall.
Why do men fear commitment?
Because at midnight you could turn into your mother.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Because losers don't get a trophy.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
He might want HIS OWN children, don't berate anyone for that, you have yours if it is important to him to have his ... let him.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
You were kidding with this one right? Lock your life plan down while you still don't know your a*** from a hole in the ground, sounds like a great plan to me.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Always is a bit much but face it you do it with your girlfriends and family too.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
It is called "Advice", again you do it too.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
He probably learned that "we need to talk" meant "you need to listen", might not have been you that did that but he'll now need to learn that not everyone means that when the phrase "we need to talk" is used.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Hmmm jealousy and it's big ugly green head.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
Okay I will admit this one has me stumped. Perhaps the nature of the friendship is different?
Why do men run when they fear something?
Is it better to poke an angry bear with a stick or get out of Dodge?
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
^^^ Those two go together. Well no matter how many magazines tell you that this is what you want. Once a guy does this he is in "friend zone" which is not where he wants to be. That does change women know better girls don't. So that is really only a problem when one is either a girl or a boy instead of a man and a woman.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
He doesn't.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
On the 3rd date? | |
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Posted: 4/6/2007 2:37:15 AM | Why are men afraid of something good comming into their life?
No we're not. We just have different ideas of what is good.
Why do men fear commitment?
No we don't. We just fear the repercussions of breaking that promise.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Because Losing sucks ass.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Some are. For the rest of us, we're unwilling to share time with your brood and feel that we're becoming a surrogate father and having this burden put on us. And we didn't even have a hand in creating them.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
It's not so much scary. It's something we don't want to do. Remember: Time is on our side
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
I guess those who aren't the Alpha dog need the approval of the head honcho.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation? Because the serious talk is usually bad news and painful.
Why do men run when they fear something?
Because we aren't afraid of stuff that isn't scary.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls? Because we don't get pregnant.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
We can't give the impression that we're pussy whipped cuz if we are, our status in the pack goes down.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
We're having dinner, woman. We're eating...stuffing our faces. Putting on fancy clothes just to stuff our faces is plain ridiculous.
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows? There's a slight chance that the woman will lie to herself and convince herself that her man isn't cheating. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/6/2007 6:38:47 AM | does anyone read this far?
I can only speak for myself for sure.
To sum it all up, its not all men, and its not all the time. Quick answer to many of these are that its not men but people in general.
Why are men afraid of something good coming into their life?
-How can we possibly know its good? Who has that kind of foresight? Its a fear of letting -one more seemingly good thing in that could turn bad.
Why do men fear commitment?
-Not all men do. If we had some kind of guarantee that other parties were as committed -than it would be easier for more of us to commit.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
-Egotistical or results oriented people are concerned with competition and winning. -Nothing has to be about competing and winning.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
-Different reasons. One can be they don't want to be perceived as the chump who takes --care of things while the other boys are out playing. That might sound warped, but it is a -theory. Just have to find men who strive to be above animals.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
-Perception that you might be trapped and want to be somewhere else in a few years but -thinking it won't be possible if you settle down. We reach that age where we want to stay -young forever.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
-Why do girls need approval from girlfriends. If someone confirms what you want to -believe it makes it that much stronger. At the same time you might not want to face -consequences and possible rejection of doing something unapproved.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
-Basically the same idea as last answer above.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
-Sarcasm is just some peoples way of avoiding negative feelings. Lots of girls just close up -and refuse to talk.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
-Insecurity. Now ask yourself why do people feel insecure, that is the hard question.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
-Again, Insecurity. The guy knows whether he is fooling around with his girlfriends or -not but he doesn't know and probably thinks his partner will end up fooling around with -her other guy friends. He also knows the kind of dogs most other guys are, even when -they appear friendly and sensitive.
Why do men run when they fear something?
-It's not men, it is people in general. Some run, some approach and get over there fear.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
-What people are being closed off about can be very hurtful and they don't want to let -that out and it may pass or not be true.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
-Why is it constantly reinforced that when a guy talks about his feelings he is perceived as -a sap by both other men and women. You want a guy to talk about his feelings, but only -so far as you want to hear.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
-Well guys are also being called sluts, and much of it is from jealous people. To me -whether a person is a slut is determined more by why they had sex, not how many times.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
-Many people act different around different people they are with. The person you know -when they are alone is probably not the same person when they are around others and -act how others expect them to, or how they think other people want them to be. They -may be so use to acting different in different situations that they don't know about it and -can't change.
-I have been treated like differently by girls when other people are around to. You tell -people them and its like they don't think they do. You dump them and they don't -understand why.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
-Nothing. Its more accepted that a woman look presentable than unpresentable at least -to most people. I think you have this a bit wrong.
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
-I am not quite clear on what is being asked.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
-Because the term denotes monogamy and many men are polygamous.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Nothing. What is wrong with not dressing up?
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
-Some people will deny deny deny. They think you can't prove it, and they don't want to -admit to something that might bring negative consequences.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
-They are not totally confident in their current relationship. They consider other -possibilities. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/6/2007 7:08:25 AM | Well, I'm not a man...but then again you aren't allowed to say for men/women only. So, here I am...
why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Women do this too. But, most people get used to being treated like crap, etc. and so when something good comes their way, there is a fear of losing it.
Why do men fear commitment?
Everyone fears commitment. But it is really the fear of rejection.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
That's the way men are wired. Just one of those great mysteries of God.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Some are. Some aren't. It's about preferences.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age? [/quote Nowadays, people want to live and experience what life has to offer. Many people feel that by settling down young, you will miss out.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Why do women always need approval from their girl friends on most topics?
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Why do women do the same thing? We just do.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Because men don't like confrontation and they don't like knowing that they have hurt/disappointed their woman.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Guys night out. Hanging with the boys. We just aren't allowed to go. Get used to it.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
It's a double standard and really shouldn't be that way.
Why do men run when they fear something?
No one likes to face their fears.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Because it shows vulnerability and 'weakness'...which is what boys are commonly taught to avoid. Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings? [/quote It's not!
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Just another double standard.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Because he will get razzed if he is to sweet to his girl in front of his friends.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Nothing.
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
They are scared someone will catch your eye and they will lose you.
Wy do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
The same reason why they fear 'I love you' ong with dressing up to go out for dinner? Who wants to be uncomfortable while they eat? men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows? Because they are cowards. Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with? Don't really know. ~Welder's Girl~ | |
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Posted: 4/6/2007 9:31:22 AM | I have a question: why is everyone trying to give reasons for all these questions???
To sweetblueeyes: you are what,20 yrs old? Well no offence but at that age how could
you possibly know enough about men to assume we are all like this? You are basically
putting us all into the same coral with a sign that says we are all made from the same
mold. Why not get a few more years under your belt,then see how you feel | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/6/2007 10:05:10 AM | De'ja Vu here, but I'll take another swing at these...
Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Why do men fear commitment?
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Why do men run when they fear something?
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
These are vague generalizations of men and each statement is present in a negative way to skew answers into a biasis response. They hold no purpose other than to instigate arguments and dramatic commentary for the OP. Hence I will disregard them as vaild questions but general stereotype by the individual to provoke sympathy or rage.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
These are bad situational examples of previous activity with specific individuals. These questions don't apply to a specific group or general group of men BUT specific men. I'll bypass these as well.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
This is the ol'double standard of society. Men didn't creation these conventions we all did. Men are to be virile and women are to be modest, that's what folks decided and that's how we bring youngins' up. Their are individuals who break these conventions but to truly be broken requires a broader outlook on things than just ones self. We call these conventions 'traditions'.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
This is something I'll speak too. Walking into a family especially at a young age is scary and intimidating. Not only that males are usually of the mind to adopt early or not at all children of another parent. Plus taking on family is responsiblity and a relationship already has a lot to over come to work without the addition of working out child responsibilities.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
Nothing. However you have to find like minded individuals who share the same thoughts on settling down. Traditionally youth is to handle and learn the 'ways of the world' not tie ones self down to Family. You would need to look to older individuals ready and willing to settle down with someone younger than themselves in most cases.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
These are clear signs of one thing... your not in a relationship. Your in a situation and the guy is using it to get what he wants but is keeping his alternative options open. He isn't commited or loyal, your the current digs til something better comes along.
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/6/2007 7:39:09 PM | 1. some men are scared from past relationships and have a fear of commiting again.
2. some guys feel if they commit to someone that they will lose out on all that other "cat"out there harsh but true. and some are just scared of being hurt.
3. that is a guy thing all men have thear own pissing contest its just us.
4. some dont like kids. and for those of us who do its just hard i made a post about this already somewhere check it out.
5. some feel that they arent ready or that they cant do the things they want in life if they settle young.
6. guys want to know that they arent doing something wrong. girls do the same thing and its just part of it. but ultimatly most guys will fallow thear heart.
7. no clue dont have that problem.
8. some things are just hard for a guy to talk about. again some girls do the same thing it goes both ways.
9. um every now and then thear are guys night out, but the woman should be invited most of the time. and if you cant trust someone then you shouldent be with them.
10. its not like i said if you cant trust your woman or your man then you shouldent be togeather.
11. no clue dont have that problem.
12. some men feel that they are supposed to be the strong arm the macho man whatever and dont want to open up because of fear of beeing seen as a "sissy"
13. see above.
14. because a guys pecker dont get smaller or less appealing or less fealing and a girl gets lose and un attractive. its harsh but true.sry
15. dont have that problem but chicks do that too ya know.
16. nothing at all.
17. because they realize the woman is hotter than they should have and they dont want her to move on to greener grass.
18. dont know
19. nothing looking nice for a nice dinner is always good but dressing in a tux for burger king is over doing it.
20. no clue. never been more than a one woman man.
21. see above
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Posted: 4/6/2007 10:40:52 PM | Wow,
Well here you go:
Men are men and women are women. They are different.
That should clear some things up for you.
Men love freedom..."afraid" of commitment. I wish you could live as a male trying to find a proper mate for a while. With all the headgames, bad women, users, gold diggers...you would never ask that question again.
It also seems like there may be some insecurity in the air on both sides. Add brainwashing and it seems that may be the source of your confusion.
I suggest finding a good source of information and going from there. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/7/2007 2:30:08 AM | What I find interesting is that despite the fact that there was nothing particularly compelling about the questions themselves nor the op's attitude, the men still executed their backward summersauls flips through each hoop with a form and grace that would make Baryshnikov proud.
I don't think we need to ask ourselves the outcome should a man reverse those questions, and put them back towards the women in the ask a Girl forum 
glad to see good ole mother nature alive and kicking every now and again
OT: What is soooo hard about opening up? A gentleman always holds a door open for a lady | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/7/2007 3:06:18 AM | 1 How do u know its good? U dont?
2 Why change your life for something u dont know is better?
3 thats how we were bought up by our mothers
4 not my kid, why should i nuture anothers kid ie the competitors kid. its an evolution thing from cave man days. its in the hind brain. an intelligent man ignores it
5 having fun ie lots of sex with different women. (flippant) ever thought i dont wanna settle down with YOU.
6 friends stay friends by consensus same same as for women
7refer to 6
8 she; do u still love me? he; im still here arnt I! what needs to talked about, actions speak louder then words.
9 he doesnt want you babe. live with it or dump him
10 jealousy. hes scared you will not only sleep with some other guy but prefer sex with the other guy
11 fight or flight reflex. if u cant hit it run from it. keeps you out of jail on domestic violence charges
12 refer 8
13 refer 8 actions speak louder then feelings
14 slut is a word men use to describe a woman who has discovered she likes sex and who sets out to get more of it. compare this usage to what a woman means when she describes another woman as a slut and you will see what i mean
15 cause that particular bloke is a****ead. dump him
16 nothing. if he objects dump him hes an idiot
17 refer 10
18 its a womans description alien to a man. its means nothing to a man. speak english.
19 nothing. refer 16
20 fear of confrontation/hoping to lie their way out of it/have their cake and eat it too
21 dont understand this the way it is worded. reword and represent.
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/7/2007 3:09:18 AM | Hmmmmm. Sounds like you've had a rough dating life......
you wouldnt have to ask these questions if you would realize that the greatest common denomitator in all scenarios is YOU!
Stop dating the same type of guys. Date someone that you would never look twice at on the street.
Basically, stop stereotyping the male gender. We are not all testosterone junkies wanting to be a pimp.....
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Posted: 4/7/2007 4:00:57 AM | SBE, I can answer all your question with the same statement.
Don't judge all men by a small sampling....
I mean come on, you are only 20 so I can assume the men you've had relationship are rather young as well yes? I can count on one hand the things I still have in common with my 20 year old self.
Don't misunderstand, I'm not knocking your age, I had a blast at 20, it's a great age to be. But as you grow older you (and men your own age) have more relationships and more chances to learn something about yourself and others after each one.
Give guys a chance to grow up a bit more before you write them off. Lord knows I was so horny at that age I couldn't see past my own****and what it wanted. As enlightened as I like to believe I've become I still must admit that I did some very selfish things back then in the pursuit of nookie.
Some men (and women) never really mature, but at least give men a chance to reach 25 first. At that age we start to think about sex about half the time as opposed to 99%
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Posted: 4/7/2007 5:19:21 AM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Why do men fear commitment?
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
Why do men run when they fear something?
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
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Posted: 4/7/2007 5:29:02 AM | >>Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
This is a ridiculous question and one that does not lend itself to be gender specific...
>>Why do men fear commitment?
Because it is not natural when men are young, and because most women dislike/hate/despise men when men are old enough to appreciate the upside of a committed realtionship.
>>Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Cuz losing is not really that much fun, is it?
>>Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Given the problems in society with a man taking care of his own damn kids, what on Earth would make a woman wonder why he wouldn;t be all erxcited about taking care of another man's? This who still take care of their own post-relationship are the ones that will not mind accepting another man's. Learn it, know it, live it!
>>What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
The lack of care-free multitudinous sexual encounters at every single opportunity. Its the law of ths jungle. Some fight it long enough to waste their younger years trying, but they almost always end up in a divorce one 'the kids are old enough' and they are the ones populating these damn dating sites, generally speaking. The divorced women they leave behind are the female counterparts.
>>Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
You are dating men who obviously are the follower type. Try finding a guy who is trhe leader of his peer group. It may end some of your issues. Date out of type for once...
>>Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Because its an excuse to make decisions his mate might not be happy about and everyone needs a support person/group of one kind or another. If your mate won't support you, there are always the friends to fall back on, maybe.
>>Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Have you ever tried to have a serious talk with a woman? Many women talk with emotions flying in at every turn, and commen sense flying out, and men have no such mechanism to deal with all that. Many women believe crying is a serious form of rebuttal. Yikes...
>>How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
It's obvious that he has more fun when you are not with him. And that is YOUR fault I am guessing. If my mate is not fun, I won;t leave her home, I'll just leave her. But many guys will just leave her home at every chance. The secret my darlin', is to enhance your mate's life, not make it less fun. If you cannot enhance his life, then you should find someone whose life you can enhance, or you should just fill your house with cats, and enhance theirs...
>>Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
I don;t think this is ok personally, but it is easy to understand why its not an even street. All men want to screw all women they are attracted to. Chris Rock said it best when he stated that men don;lt have platonic realtionships. They just have relationships with women they havn't f*cked yet. If your man has female friends he has already shagged, he could be just friends with them. If he is friends with women that are not his type physically speaking, he may be able to be friends with them. He knows all of this and that's why he doesn't want his attractive woman having guy friends. Gain 50 pounds and he won't care who the hell you hang out with...
>>Why do men run when they fear something?
Animal instinct has a rule called 'Fight or Flight'. Society has a rule saying that women are the fairer sex and should not be physically fought with. When the two rules are melded together, the only option for the man is one of 'flight'.
>>What is soooo hard about opening up?
>>Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
These are the same question and should be a triumvirate along with "how come he never cries?'. Darlin', take $15 bucks and go buy a book called 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'. And that's all I am gonna say about that...
>>How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Because a woman, if she decides to, can sleep with ten different guys, every single night for the rest of her life. A man has to be good looking, in good shape, witty, generous, kind, yada yada yada, just to have a miniscule chance at one woman, one time. Who has the greater task at hand, I ask you. The man's only chance for lots of lovin', is to meet up with one of the girls who likes to sleep with ten different guys every night for the rest of her life...
>>Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
He is immature and you accept he disrespectful ways.
>>What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Another retarded question, sorry...
>>Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Your argument is weak. You should at least be telling him (and maybe yourself) that you are wanting to look hot for him. That is your only chance to divert him away from knowing what everyone knows. That everything we do publicly is becasue we know we are being watched, and we are all egotistical, at least to some degree. We all need to be wanted, or needed. Your needs are very obvious, and for good reason I am guessing.
>>Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
It is a direct derivative of 'husband' in waiting.
>>What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Retarded, again...
>>Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Retarded...
>>Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Not sure, but I think it has something to do with the gravitational pull of the Earth on the moon... Talk to a physics man...
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Posted: 4/7/2007 7:28:08 PM | even though i'm a woman, i'll answer a few of the questions (they're gender-independent).
commitment: i don't think are afraid of commitment with the right woman (unless they're very young - some of the older guys, have been there, done that, and can't be bothered. same things here when i was younger and now that i'm no longer a kid).
children: as a child-free by choice woman, i could not possibly fathom seriously dating a guy with young chidren. i might be able to swing ONE older teenage child, but even that's iffy. even if i had children of my own, i wouldn't want to take on all the commitments (and changes in life style in my case) involved with someone else's children. i'm sure a lot of men and women feel similarly.
guys seeking approval from friends: might be true of very young men (under 25), but not true in general (although some guys might use their friends' "disapproval" as an excuse if they're not that into you). most guys past 25 are secure and confident enough not to need outside approval (of course, i'm assuming you're dating someone with something on the ball).
why does the guy avoid conversations: he's not that into you. there wouldn't be much of a need for "talks" if he were (his actions would be clear enough and you wouldn't need to question). if he's not putting his money where his mouth is, it's time to move on.
why does he accuse you of dressing to impress others: he's insecure (maybe warranted, maybe not)
the "slut" thing: that's so archaic. i can't believe that mentality. it's time to grow up. there's nothing wrong with either a man or a woman choosing to have sexual partners. (not my cup of tea, but the whole mentality is ridiculous and unsophisticated.) the very word "slut" is unsophisticated as is the paradigm that follows.
why does a guy act like an "ass" to a woman when his friends are nearby: a well-educated, squeaky clean, sophisticated, confident guy who has a lot on the ball never acts/feels that way. time to raise your standards, hun. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2007 2:49:16 AM | The answer to many of your questions might be contained in one innocent act in a male child's life. For those who've given birth and raised a young boy, at some point he learns to sit up and begin to play with his toys. Let's say that he's focused on those square wooden blocks we all grew up with. He'll soon learn to assemble those blocks in various combinations. Not long afterwards, and after many attempts to "build" something, frustration inevitably is experienced and the whole assembly comes crashing down!
It's possible that somewhere in a male's psyche, he believes that perfection can, and must be attained. He'll strive to be the perfect son, friend, student, boy-friend, employee, husband, father etc.
This so-called innate drive for perfection, which in reality is un-attainable at any level, is then called into action with the expected results. In other words, if I can't be the "perfect" son, husband, father then I'll destroy it!
This is simply a personal observation and makes no claim otherwise. Hopefully this will provide some insight and understanding for you, and for us all. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/8/2007 10:35:35 AM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
never afraid of anything good
Why do men fear commitment?
i dont
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
not with me first or last as long as i get there
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
ive dated women with kids whats the big deal
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
0i guess a case of what if
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
ive got my own mind but then again men and women think diffrently
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
i dont
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
i dont ive allways said better off the chest than rotting away inside
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
a night out now and then is ok but id allway take my girl with me
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
wouldnt bother me if someone will cheat they will cheat if the do better off rid of them
Why do men run when they fear something?
i dont
What is soooo hard about opening up?
nothing but ts all down to trust
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
neverbotherd me once i trust someoe
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
dunno prob double standards
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
immaturity
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
nothing at all its ll down to trust
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
tust or lack of it
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
what is a word
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
nothing at all if you look great it just gets us randy for later
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
liars and cheats never change
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
i dont if im with someone hats it for e no one else matters
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Posted: 4/8/2007 10:43:03 AM | Those aren't questions, those are accusations. Fiddle-faddle...
Twenty-one Points for Women Who Want Their Men to "Open Up"
A perfectly valid word for an exchange of thoughts and feelings is "intercourse." There's a good reason for this. For every complaint that women have about how we try to get sex from them, we can make a similar point about how women try to get emotion from us.
1) Don't just snap your fingers and say, "Open up."
2) Though you may feel a strong urge to "do it," men are different. Intercourse does not always have to be in and out, back and forth. Men value and enjoy non-verbal intercourse, like being understood and accepted for what they are, not what they say.
3) You can't force intercourse and expect your man to enjoy it. You might force him to fake an understanding just to get it over with.
4) Men will not hop into emotional intimacy with just anyone. Men know that women are always ready to get into somebody's head. You must convince him that he is not just another piece of mind.
5) You should let him be on top sometimes. Men are tired of being in the inferior position, especially in hot and passionate intercourse.
6) Don't perform tricks that make him feel inadequate. Remember that you have been raised with more skill in intercourse than he has.
7) Men were taught that only women are supposed to enjoy intercourse. Help him not to feel guilty and weird for doing it.
8) Let him take control sometimes. Don't insist on controlling whose needs must be met when.
9) Don't talk and tell. Don't get him to "put out" and then rush to your women friends with the intimate details.
10) If your thrusting and probing hurts him, stop immediately. Don't assume that he'll start to like it just because you do.
11) Allow him to initiate. Don't hit on him with so many requests for intercourse that he never feels the urge to start intercourse at his own pace, according to his own needs.
12) Men are often shy and insecure about their flaws and blemishes, about whether you will find them attractive. Don't expect your man to show you everything right away.
13) Remember that good intercourse is not a wrestling match. There should be no winner and no loser.
14) Respect your lover as an equal partner. You don't own him; he does not exist for the sole purpose of providing your pleasure.
15) If you have ever abused him during intercourse, understand that it may take a long, long time for your man to open up to you again.
16) Keep in mind that men's and women's rhythms are different. Don't get angry if his needs don't coincide with yours.
17) If you simply want to release tension, let him know. Don't pretend that you're doing it for him. Men often resist intercourse if they feel pressured about "getting into it."
18) There is no such thing as the ideal lover. Don't try to make your partner into something he isn't. Accept your man as he is.
19) Foreplay is essential; gentle stroking of the ego can help. If you encounter a ravenous ego, remember it is ravenous not because it gets too much healthy attention, but because it gets too little.
20) Don't get hung up on achieving simultaneous understanding. Men's understandings take longer, but they are usually more intense.
21) Respect him in the morning.
Excerpted from Jack Kammer's book "If Men Have All the Power, How Come Women Make the Rules?". ©2002; used by permission. | |
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