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Joined: 7/16/2006
Msg: 153 | |
| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/8/2007 1:28:39 PM |
I'm factoring the OP's Youth on these questions I some how doubt that even if they are answered She is not going to feel any better about the response even given on the questions
Sometimes its the presentation and not the content that makes all the difference. I can't speak for the OP but 7 pages of acrobatics from pof's finest sure brought a smile, or at the very least a smirk to my face... | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/8/2007 11:37:35 PM | Why do men fear commitment?
Not only men fear commitment... Anyone who has been hurt from a previous relationship is somewhat hesitant when entering a relationship
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Because with children comes a great deal of responsibility which a lot of guys arent ready for...
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
Have you seen the divorce rates in America??
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Personally I value my friends' opinions.. (to an extent :P)
Why do men run when they fear something?
not only men do this
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Because talking about feelings makes men vulnerable
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Who knows
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
lol I dont do that
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
There is a difference between presentable and slutty
Why do men fear the words "soul mate"?
Commitment again
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/9/2007 5:09:53 AM | | I have to say, I am impressed fellas on answering the OP's questions. She had a lot of good valid ones and some not so good. I found some of the answers to be interesting and some to be very immature. Some answers gave me more insight to how men think, or feel. I have ran into some really immature @$$'s in my life. I have found a really nice man, who never has any @$$hole traits at all and that is so hard to find these days. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/9/2007 1:55:36 PM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
All women think they are something good in a mans life.
Why do men fear commitment?
Men don't fear commitment. They fear women that get to clingy. Clingy women means more rules.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Competition is a mans nature. Just like women talking about how other women dress badly.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Because they are not their own. Men tend to get attached to a child when he helps raise them. Raising another mans childrens is a tall glass of water. I'm doing it and trust me it's hard not playing favorites between my bio daughter and the step kids.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
In short. Enjoying your freedom and youth is not such a bad thing. Men also think with their other head more often when they are young. Sex with many women is for some reason satisfying for young men.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Cause women always have a motive. Whether it be good or bad. Conspiracy theory.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
See last answer
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Because women don't understand what a serious discussion is to a man. The trash is not one of them.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
He's either cheating on you or looking too. Wow you should know the answe to that one. It's kinda obvious
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
Men think with their d**cks. So the chance of you getting laid compared to him are pretty good. All it takes is one bad argument and off to the highest bidder you go.
Why do men run when they fear something?
Men only run when it comes to beer and food
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Men fear women will use there opening to find a weak spot
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Nothing. Who said it was wrong. We don't for the reason above
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Cause women are challenging to land it's more sport for a guy. For women all you have to do is say the word sex and that's that.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Cause he's an ass. Wrong guy
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Have you been dating cavemen again?
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Good question. UHM insecurtiy mainly.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Cause they no it's a crock of Sh**
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Dressing up for Mickey Dee's naaa. Cavemen don't dress up for nice places. Wrong guy
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Guilty concious. Sweet hear who have you been dating?
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with
LOL my god girl what is wrong with you. Why don't you try and be picky. Sounds like your taking what you can get and then realizing that it was a bad choice. Date around a bit. Have tests for the people you meet.
Like if he says six more then six times a night eliminate him. Etc. Etc. Etc. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/10/2007 5:56:15 AM | -- Why do men fear commitment? --
Afraid of picking the WRONG woman. You all can hide stuff from us, were afraid we wont find it before the "I DO" part.
-- Why are men not accepting of women with children? --
Prolly just knowing that there is another alph-dog in the house, from time to time and the games that get played with the woman and her kids. Meaning, "your not their father, dont tell them that" then when you sit and watch them do something wrong, "WHY DIDNT YOU STOP THEM?" Crap like that!
-- Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics? --
Most guys are still boys, still using school yard politics to run their lives.
-- Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation? --
Prolly cause your trying to control the guy, manipulate.
-- Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends? --
Were jealouse! Its part of being an alpha-dog. He will prolly let you go out if you let him PEE on your first. The sent will drive others away! :D
-- Why do men run when they fear something? --
You girls get really scary sometime!
-- What is soooo hard about opening up? --
Cause you girls are like BLOOD SUCKING VAMPIRES, show a chink in the armour and thats where you put the long blade!
-- Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings? --
Cause you girls are like BLOOD SUCKING VAMPIRES :D
-- How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls? --
Dats the rules of the game, dont like it, quit playing! BTW-dont feel bad, I know a girl who has been with over 100 by her 18th birthday. I meet one guy she was with, he says she smelled really really bad! Wonder why?
-- Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around? --
Boys and their school yard politics
-- What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public? --
We know your secretly meeting multiple guys for a gang bang, lol
-- Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves? --
Why do women pretend to just be looking good for themselves, when there trying to impress another man?
-- Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ? --
Prolly coming back to that BLOOD SUCKING VAMPIRE thing! :D
-- What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner? --
Dumpy-bottom shorts and wife-beater t-shirst, is the only way to go! (Faaart)
-- Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows? --
Makes it more fun this way! lol 
-- Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with? --
Why is it that you girls dont want us UNTILL we get a girlfriend. As soon as we start dating, then all the other girls come and, HEY YOU WANA GET TOGETHER, Wana go out, What you doing, Wana ....... You all will sit on the side lines, pushing us away, but as soon as another girl is interested, then you want us TOO! Prolly just part of that BLOOD SUCKING VAMPIRE thing!
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/10/2007 6:05:48 AM | Let me try to answer a few of these although may not like the answer in all cases
Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
Same reason as anyone else, cause we have been burned by the promise of something good in the past and what you may think is good may not be good for us
Why do men fear commitment?
Cause we have been cheated on by women after having this converstation with them!
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
At a younger age it is cause we want to be accepted at a later age (hopefully) we make our own minds up on this but use our friends as a way to check the logic if you will.
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Men actually like serious talks now and then, we do not like lectures and rants about what we are doing wrong. Remember that there are 2 sides to every story and it is just as important to listen (more so actually) then it is to do the talking. Sarcasm is a defence mechanism that is all
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
It's not, I have female friends (some very close ones) and my gf is allowed her male friends it is not that big of a deal, either you trust your partner or you do not.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Conditioning has made it that guys do not open up as quickly and this is some guys not all guys and once you find a guy that will open up about everything all the time you will look back foundly at all of the Dirty Harry's you have dated in the past
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Soul Mate is a great word, it is probably your timing on it that sucks!
I have been on dates were the second or third date in you are reffered to as someones soul mate... COME ON YOU DON"T EVEN KNOW MY MIDDLE NAME YET!!!
So in closing get a grip, stop complaining and take some of these things with a grain of salt, if you want to have a man who acts and thinks exactly like you, well clone yourself... otherwise ... welcome to the world that we all live in!!!
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 4/10/2007 6:18:13 AM |
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
they're rebellious towards us, sometimes woman won't let us be the authority figure to them.
What is soooo hard about opening up??
not for me...but it makes them feel girly.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ???
There is no such thing. and if you tell a guy that your putting to much pressure on him to be GOD like. keep it to your self. | |
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Joined: 8/30/2006
Msg: 163 | |
| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/16/2007 5:40:08 PM | All I can say is this.......
I'm not afraid of anything good comming in my life, what I AM afraid of, is what is she going to take when she leaves. I have already lost two houses, cash, boat, and a caravan, so I am extremely wary now, and will not tie in with a woman who fails to sign a pre-nuptiual aggreement.....
I do not fear commitment, I'm just wary as to what I'm committing...[see above]....
I dont compete, everything is 50/50.... take it or leave it....
Try getting a woman to accept you, as a single dad with two kids under 12...it just dont happen......................
young age??? I was out building assets, 18 - 20 hoursc a day, just to have it all ripped out from me......
Same reasons that a girl asks all her friends for advice....moral support......
Same as women, again,m support in numbers...........
I will not run, or avoid confrontatrion, I try to sit and talk it through, without the crockery flying, ashtraye hurtling, or booze smashed up against the wall......
I'm more a home body, unless the drags are on, or the v8 super cars are in town......
Your friends are your friends....If I dont like them, I will agree not to annoy them, if they leave me alone...........
I never run when I fear something....all fears must be overcome, in order to be a better person............
I have learned to keep my feelings to myself, as the woman will ALWAYS throw them in your face, in the heat of the moment...........
I dont believe in women being named like that, its extremely narrow minded...[besides, she wont sleep with me next time].....
He acts like an a***hole, coz he is one.I prefer to show my affections in front of her friends.............
Because of a mans insecurity, they accuse the woman of giving men the come on.....while they wished they had 'it', to be able to atttract other women.....
As a point of interest, I like my lady's lookin good, when we go out, in fact I encourage it, it makes me feel cool, when guys ogle my lady........
I dont like it, because...... ummmmmm..... well, I just dont believe in soulmates....you are meant, or not meant, to be together......
Love a lady to dress up for a dinner date..... I dress for the occasion too........
I cant answer this, as I am completely manogamus with a lady, right from date one, until she says 'no more!'................
I draw back, so I can look where the relationship is going, and re-assess myself, to see what needs repairing or fixing[right now, I have gained e4xcess weight, after giving up smoking, so its dieting sensibly, and exercise , until I reach my desired weight]........
Well, I hope I have provided something of value to you, and if you have any further queries, then let me know............................... | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/16/2007 11:16:22 PM | Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
What's your defenition of good? We're not afraid we're realistic...everything comes at a price.
Why do men fear commitment?
It's just not in our nature. Too easy.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Do you like to loose?
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Unless you have the most phenominal relationship with your ex and your kids are absolute perfect angels we just don't want the hassel. It's all about the baggage.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
I've been settled and it sucked...it may suit some but not this guy. Who wants to do the same thing night after night after night? Do you eat hamburgers every night of the week? Go out and have fun, be with your friends or your girlfriend...LIVE LIFE!
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
I don't know what guys you're talking to but I don't agree with my guy friends on a lot of things...especially women.
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
See the answer above. If I see anything it's guys getting influence from their girlfriend/wife. Makes me sick...grow a pair and have an opinion! Make a command decision!
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Because you can't wait until halftime or commercial break! By the way Yes and No are completely acceptable answers to most every question. Next question!
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited? Ummm...go out with YOUR friends! You spend enough time together...he needs guy time, especially when the testosterone levels drop from having to answer a ton of questions like these!
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
It's called the double standard and we got the long end of the stick on that one...you'll have to deal with it.
Why do men run when they fear something?
What the hell kind of guys are you hanging out with. Are you talking about running from bugs or snakes or something? Sounds like a bunch of pansies to me! Find a new guy.
What is soooo hard about opening up?
Again, you can't wait untl halftime or a commercial break.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
See the answer regarding the double standard.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Because he's not genuine. If he's an ass he should act like it all the time, not just around his friends. Or maybe he just can't seem to be himself around you.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Because the movie starts at 9pm and you've been in the bathroom for 4 hours now! Really anything you wear is fine for us as long as we leave on time!
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Why do you ask us how an outfit looks, we tell you it's fine, and you change again anyway?
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
We don't fear it...we don't understand what you mean. Can you rephrase the question?
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Because the movie starts at 9pm and you've been in the bathroom for 4 hours now! Really anything you wear is fine for us as long as we leave on time! I thought we covered this already?
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Why do you ask us questions you already know the answers to?
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Because it's possible to like more than one person at a time and, when presented with multiple choices, we will take the one with the bigger boobs. Too easy!
I hope this has been helpful and in sightful. These answers are as honest as they can possibly be from a man's man perspective. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/21/2007 7:32:23 PM | Simple answer: you are young, thin, and pretty and you are looking for a man aged 20-24. You might as well say you are looking for a male student, and no man is looking to be serious when he is studying, unless he knows what he wants out of life already, and then he is a mature student.
Date boys, and you will get treated like a girl, not a woman.
As to your questions:
1. Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life? We're not. We're afraid of someone bad coming into our life, like that skanky ho who acted all sweet and innocent when we met her.
2. Why do men fear commitment? Again, we don't. We are either not looking for it at that time, or not with you, or you are fine, but you are not behaving in the way we would want with a woman we want to commit with. Adds up the same. We don't want to commit with you.
3. Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning? It doesn't. But if you will persist on picking the best man, rather than the right man for you, you just made it about competition and winning. So from then on in, till the end of your life, we have to compete, just to keep you.
4. Why are men not accepting of women with children? Because they are not ours. Change their name, get rid of the ex, and tell me you love me and will be with me till our dying days and I'm there.
5. What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age? Nothing if you're a girl. Everything if you're a guy. Lots of financial obligations before you are financially secure. Same with sex. Same with everything else. Lots of obligations before you are sure that you can comfortably meet them. They are LITTLE BOYS!
6. Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics? Because guys are in competition and we would like to avoid a full-scale war. See question 3 on competition.
7. Why do men let their friends influence their decisions? See question 6.
8. Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation? Because women talk about what they are interested in, only listen to the answers that the woman wants to hear, and ignore the rest. Such as: "Do you love me?" "Yes, but we've only known each other a short time." Do you listen to the rest? No? I wonder how I knew.
9. How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited? He's going out. If he wants her to not get jealous, he won't go, or invite her. He doesn't care what she thinks.
10. Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends? Because most guys are only after one thing, and guys get the ball rolling when it comes to sex. One decent guy and ten girls in a room, nothing's going to happen. One decent girl and ten guys in a room, something's going to happen. Nine out of ten of those men are going to try to get into her knickers. Simple as that.
10. Why do men run when they fear something? Because we're not afraid of things we can fight. Even if we get hurt in the process.
11. What is soooo hard about opening up? Because it makes us vulnerable, and then you can hurt us. Stupid to do with someone we don't trust.
12. Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings? Because you girls insist on guys being confident and strong, and feelings show potential weakness and therefore potential lack of confidence.
13. How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls? Because the guy picked the ten girls to sleep with, but the girl "got picked". If she asked them out, and she dumped them, then she's the "master".
14. Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around? Because he will do anything to please her, and he doesn't want his friends to see that, so he does the opposite. Again, he doesn't want his friends to see that he will do stuff for her, because it means weakness and thus a lack of confidence, which women don't like.
15. What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public? A full-length dress that shows off nothing, either skin or figure? Nothing.
A short-cut T-shirt and a mini skirt? Everything.
Rule: if it shows a lot of skin or is tight enough to let guys get an idea of your figure, you're going out naked. Or at least, every guy in the room is imagining you naked, right in that bar.
16. Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves? Because you only look that good when other men are around.
17. Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ? A soul mate is for life, not just for Christmas. If a woman starts talking about soul mates after 2 weeks, she knows me so well that she can tell me what I want for dinner that night, or I'm reaching for her medication.
18. What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner? Nothing. As long as you do that when we're eating dinner together at home. See question 16.
19. Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows? Because there are other women, and they got away with hiding them.
20. Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with? Too much, too soon. Don't smother me. I said I like you, I didn't say I love you. Yet.
Like I said, these are all actions that men are capable of, but it requires growing up. And growing up is hard. So we avoid it as long as possible, which is until girls your age stop wanting to date us. If you want to date little boys, and be their mommy, fine. If you want to date mature men, and stay a little girl, fine. But if you want to date little boys and stay a little girl, then they will pull your hair, call you names, let you down, and mess around, like all little boys do. Your choice. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/22/2007 5:41:36 PM |
Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
We don't. We're afraid of something bad pretending to be something good.
Why do men fear commitment?
We don't. You see that car in the driveway? Well, the car is a 7 year commitment, the driveway is a 25 year commitment.
Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
It isn't. Women are far more competitive than men.
Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Because it's one thing to open your heart to another person, and another to open your heart to another person and carry the burden of their life with them.
What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
When you fight for a future in which you're free and unattached, the thought of giving up that freedom is scary.
Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Why do girls?
Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Why do girls?
Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Very few things are as serious as women believe.
How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
Because she's silly and believes him? Honestly, I've never been in a situation like this. I can only guess.
Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
Because you're way too lenient.
Why do men run when they fear something?
Why to girls?
What is soooo hard about opening up?
If you saw the icy look I got from a girl the other day for opening up, you'd know.
Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Because men and women have different vocabularies for the same feelings. Men communicate their feelings to their friends and get feedback on those feelings, but do so differently than women. Women naturally assume that men simply don't communicate about feelings ever because of it.
How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
Because women decided it was convenient, aeons ago, to believe this.
Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Because you're too lenient. Who knows, maybe you stay around because he treats you like garbage?
What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Objection! The prosecutor has stopped asking real questions and is now asking purely rhetorical questions whose real answer is "Nobody sane said otherwise".
Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Because you let him. You're too lenient.
Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Why do men fear the words "Psycho stalker ****"? Same reason. When men actually find that special somebody, they tend to settle down, but when they find someone who wants to smother them and worship them, the result is the exact same as when a man does it to the woman.
What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
The fact that you're so lenient that you let it be a problem.
Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Because you're so lenient, I'm sure.
Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Why did Eve eat the apple in the Garden of Eden? Because it was tempting.
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/22/2007 9:08:05 PM | Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with? I met this real nice guy it was really great , i was his first fave everything was going good, but then he stopped awnsering his phone and then he says to me that he was busy to busy to pick up the phone but not to get on POF.-we even kissed , and on a second date and i would only call him one time and i would wait 4 a responce soon i felt blown off so i stopped calling him then he calls and says did i get his messages i dont think so BUDDY you never even called . why do men do that they put you on the side to see if theres something better when its not thats when they want to talk again | |
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Msg: 170 | |
| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/23/2007 1:45:49 AM | I will pick a few to respond to:
1) Why do men fear commitment?
We (I) don't but I fear riding in a car that is traveling far, far too fast when I am not driving. Sooo, if this is the third date and you are telling me you want to spend the rest of your life with me we're traveling far, far too fast for the road.
2) Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Umm, this needs an answer? Why do women dress up, wear make up, etc.? It's not to impress the guys! To answer the question: that's life!
3) Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Because a serious talk to a woman is beating the crap out of a subject while traveling in circles! There's no objective, no possible resolution but after all of the "serious" talk you feel a whole lot better. Me, I have just lost an hour or two out of my life that I could have spent sticking needles in my eyes. In the "serious" talk my thoughts and opinions are irrelevant so why would I not avoid the pain and suffering?
4) What is soooo hard about opening up?
Because it is sooo much like loading the gun for you then teaching you how to use it. If women had a better capacity to forget perhaps opening up would be less expensive. Here's another option: we don't need to verbalize our thoughts and feelings in the same manner that women do.
5) Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
What does talking about our feelings achieve? If we're talking "I'm hungry" or "I'm horny" talking about our feelings solves a problem. Otherwise, what does talking about feelings accomplish?
6) Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Depends on your timing. If it's too soon see #1 above.
In general, as others have pointed out age (on both sides) has a great deal of influence on what you are experiencing. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/23/2007 5:10:16 AM | Wow, a lot of questions. I'll try.
1. Why are men affraid of something good comming into their life?
We're not. I'm guessing you assume all men view you as something good and you wonder why they're not tripping over themselves to commit to you.
2.Why do men fear commitment?
Because who a woman is while dating often turns out to be very different from who you are after marriage.
3. Why is it that almost everything has to be about competition and winning?
Because women prefer winners, not losers.
4.Why are men not accepting of women with children?
Because it makes you less likely to have more children with us and taking the best care of those children over your previous ones, decreasing our chances of successfully passing along our dna.
5.What is soo scary about wanting to settle down at a young age?
Men instinctively want to have sex with as many women as possible. It takes a while to control that desire, because it never goes away.
6.Why do guys always need approval from their guy friends on most topics?
Because we value their judgement, knowing that sometimes a second opinion is important, especially if it comes to picking out a woman when our eyes are covered with rose colored glasses.
7.Why do men let their friends influence their decisions?
Same as #6
8. Why is that everytime a woman want's to have a serious talk about something, the male becomes sarcastic and avoids the conversation?
Doesn't happen every time. But will occur with increasing frequency as you try to ask the same questions over and over.
9.How is it logical for a male to go out all the time, but when the girl he is in a relationship with gets jealous he tells her theirs no reason, when she is never invited?
If he goes out without her all the time, she should find someone else. It's apparent he prefers other people's companionship over hers.
10. Why is it that it's ok for a guy to have as many girl "friends" as he wants but it's not okay for a girl to have alot of male friends?
It's an old time double standard, whereby a woman always knows her children are hers, but a guy can never be sure, so he tries to keep other males away from his mate because he doesn't want to be raising another man's children. Perpetuation of our dna, you know.
11..Why do men run when they fear something?
Um, maybe we don't want to die? It's called the fight or flight reflex.
12.What is soooo hard about opening up?
Women like strong, confident men. Admitting to any doubts or fears changes that image, and may make us less attractive to you, decreasing our chances of having sex, and of course, offspring.
13.Why is it wrong for a guy to talk about his feelings?
Same answer as #12
14.How is it that a girl is a slut if she's slept with ten guys but a guy is "master" if he sleeps with ten girls?
As above, the old 'spread the seed' concept, and men liking to know if the kid is really theirs. Doesn't apply to all men, though, especially now that dna testing is available. But the behavior is genetically induced to increase the likelyhood of our supporting our own offspring.
16.Why does a man have to act like an ass to his woman when his friends are around?
Dominance. No guy wants to appear 'whipped'; if we let it appear a woman is dominant over us, another male may be encouraged to try to work his way up the pecking order by trying to dominate us, making us less attractive to women. Again, doesn't apply to all men.
17.What is wrong with a woman wanting to look presentable when she goes out in public?
Nothing, but we don't understand it when you feel you have to do it every single time. When a guy's working, or not 'looking' for a mate, he may not give a rat's ass what he looks like. Hence, you see a lot of men who appear less than attractive when we are working or just going out shopping or with the guys (see: incidence of butt crack exposure).
18.Why do men accuse woman of trying to "impress" another man when they feel like looking good for themselves?
Again, they don't want you involved with other men.
19.Why do men fear the words "soul mate" ?
Because it's something that doesn't exist. Love/lust/infatuation is a temporary hormonal state naturally induced to increase the likelyhood of a man and a woman staying together long enough for her to get pregnant, have the baby, and the child to get somewhat independently mobile before the parents move on to their next partner. Lifelong marriage was conceived when the life expectancy was 30, and it was more of a declared partnership and division of labor for the pair in order to insure procreation and survival.
20.What is wrong with dressing up to go out for dinner?
Nothing, but it really depends on where you are going. A tux is kind of inappropriate for burgers.
21.Why do men lie to hide when they've been meeting other women even though the women their with already knows?
Because they don't know for sure that she already knows, maybe she's guessing and hopes the guy will admit it.
22.Why do men draw back in a relationship when other women become interested in them even though they say they really like the person they are with?
Some do, some don't. Some guys just always want to 'trade up'. As do some women, like my ex. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:12:55 AM | *sigh* yet another BROAD generalization. Listen just because you've run into guys like this doesn't say anything about men as a whole. Like a good 80-90% of these things don't apply to me. If this is one of those roundabout ways of trying to figure out whats going on in your SO's head you might try just asking the man. If its just a curiosity thing then I stand by my earlier statement. Just because you have observed certain behaviors in certain guys does not give you the evidence you need to start making broad generalizations about the gender.
I highly recommend Dr John Gray's 'men are from Mars, women are from Venus'. and I'd tell you to save your money. | |
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| My Questions For MEN!!!! IF you can answer one or two of these that would be great!!!
Posted: 5/23/2007 10:48:05 AM | No one is afraid of good things coming into their lives. If you assume you are the good thing I'm assuming the guy doesn't quite agree with you on that.
Meant don't fear commitment. That is a myth created by women who cannot get a man to commit to them. Put a women he finds really attractive and interesting in front of him and he'll commit in seconds flat.
Nothing scary about settling down at a young age. Show the young man a women he finds really attractive and interesting and he'll settle down in seconds flat (redundant).
Leaders don't need approval from friends but followers do.
It sounds like you dated a lot of guys who weren't really into you. Almost all of your questions show disrespect on the guys part. Choose a better quality guy. If he disrespects you dump him. If you don't dump him he'll just continue to disrespect you. | |
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