| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 1/5/2007 1:28:14 AM | | why not after the first date say you'd like to go out again some other time or if things dont go to well just say being polite I'll talk to you later and be done with it. You know the same ending you have with your usual friends. Then you don't need to worry about calling the person | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 1/6/2007 12:16:37 PM | oh ...wow? Wait for him to contact you...  LOL (sry)
WHO gave him that power to make me wait. omg.
I refuse to wait by the phone---LOL or get excited by a knock at the door...LOL
THERE was two of us there... maybe its me that dont want it to go further... I seen the - date as one way- he saw it another.
I had fun- he didnt... he had fun- I didnt... hmmmm...
what to do- what to say...OH? lmao----> its not you- its me.....
hey- we can still be friends tho....LOL
sigh- if he calls within the next two days- that is a good sign- if it is a week later- he is assuming that your gonna be available for HIM/her... meanwhile- what n who was he doin - durin that time? lmao
Everyone that is in the dating scene has the right to 'shop around' ... but they dont have the right to make me wait- and - maybe be ... at their beckon call.
Did he tell you- > next couple of days- i will be ... "doin this n that- I had a great time"...
hmmmm- how do you take that? OK- this is it- wont hear from him now?
He may hint (or she) that I am free- again- in a couple of weeks- (but does that mean that he wont call- or doesnt want me to call) or this weekend- wanna get together n hang out...
I think I can accept that. BUT still would not hold my breath...LOL
THIS is where emails come in handy- lol- personal/ private - but not too pushy ...
*talk to ya - sumtime. Take care* ...LOL
eeeekkkk- see this from so many diff ---views.
MAYBE he is bizzy- why wont he tell me that he is interested- BUT I am still ...dating others? Does this bother you?
I dunno- i dont expect a guy/ girl to wait for me- to make up my mind- i think you should just tell them- maybe at end of first date- then there is no waitin for his call...
your old enuff to date- your old enuff to speak your mind....LOL and know it is not good to lead others on. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:49:51 AM | | I just had a date on Friday evening with a guy and it went well on both ends. He made the first move and kissed me first and the date extended beyond the intended drink to a dinner and a movie on the couch. He didn't want to take me home and I didn't want to go save I had to work the next morning at 6. I emailed him the next day to say thanks and then texted that night to say good night. We both stated to each other that we were free Tuesday night and he leaves for a business trip tomorrow. Now it's Tuesday and he hasn't called, texted, or emailed back. What's the deal? | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:18:17 AM | i think that if you have had a good time and you want to see the guy again you should let him know.
i would like to know the real truth, even if you had not enjoyed it so that i could learn from the mistakes in the future
and im sure if the roles were reversed you would like to know what he was really thinking
if you both feel the same way great, if not it lets both of you move on | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:21:10 AM | | Absolutely.. if a guy spent his time and money on a fun night out with you, he at least deserves a "thank you," even if you don't want to see him again. If you do want to see him again, then a followup call suggesting another date would be ideal, and make it much easier on the dude. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:40:02 PM | | I for one say SURE why not. It lets them know that yes you did enjoy meeting. I happen to just do that a few days ago. I meet someone for coffee And I emailed him to say thank you. And I also left a message on his cell phone. Hey ya never know it just might be the right one for ya. Gotta take that chance if nothing else. With out taking chances you might just be left sitting alone for a long time. Enjoy it all | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:56:31 PM | | I think circumstances determine the course of action. If you had a horrible time, then of course don't call. However, if you had a great time and he paid then I think a thank you within 24 hours is not unreasonable. If YOU paid and took most of the initiative, he owes you a call methinks. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/6/2008 7:39:51 PM | If I go out with someone and she contacts to tell me she had a good time, I appreciate it.
We have doubts just like you. No matter how well we think the date went and ended, we still wonder. A *short contact puts everything to rest. Something like "I just wanted to let you know I had a great time." | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 5/11/2008 6:56:45 PM | I don't think it's neccessary to call them to say thank you, assuming the woman said thank you at the close of the date. But as for your second comment "should she leave it all up to the guy to continuously make contacts?" That's a resounding no. I've seen many profiles on here talking about how people do not want to play dating games, so it is obviously a common issue.
Playing games means intentionally not communicating clearly and politely. It could also mean asking yourself, I like this guy but I don't want to appear desperate so I'm going to wait a... 2 weeks before I call back. If you like someone just call them and plan another date especially if it was the other person who set up the initial date. There is no good reason to feel bad about that and if we are confident in ourselves about our own self-worth, then it won't matter if we are misunderstood as being "desperate". | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:08:39 PM | It would be nice if all ladies would carefully read the replies to this forum post question. At least read the posts on page one. I'm glad to see so many men and women who agree on this topic .. that if a man takes you out on a date, and he pays, it is common courtesy to show your appreciate with an email or an e-card. These are free and it shows real class on your part. If you're not interested in seeing the fella any more, keep it very brief.
The exception to this is if your date is very rude or obnoxious himself -- in that case, no contact may be the safest thing to do. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/12/2008 4:16:07 PM | If it were me I would say 'thank you' at the end of the date just before a little kiss, hug and a goodbye. The kiss would be an indication that I liked him a lot and hoped that I could see him again! Hopefully he would pick up on this anyway. I would NOT send a card or an email - in my opinion saying thank you personally is enough.
After that - no further contact until he calls me later. Sometimes later that day, other times later that week so don't panic if not straight away but giving him space to think about you is important.  | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/12/2008 5:18:04 PM |
Go with your gut and quit analyzing it. I'm amazed at how many people on these forums analyze every single detail, agonize over every move, apparently worried that if the don't "play the game" right, they will "lose" or something. Reality: trying to play games makes you more likely to lose
you know its funny, i am wondering the same thing..still cant comprehend why so many people think and over analyze things when it comes to dating..really amazing...OP all you have to do is send him a message, or call him or whatever and tell him what you want to say..and if you feel like aksing him out..wht is the big deal about doing so? | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/12/2008 10:01:34 PM | Careful!
If he seemed to love it too, something like a simple text message (hey I had a great time tonight!) is a good idea.
Don't make it too formal. And be careful, if you let a guy know you're too into him, alot of guys take advantage of this and try to back off to make you come to them. Just, don't go far enough to let that happen. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/13/2008 9:16:33 AM | It all depends on how you do it.
If it's a simple thank-you, and your intention is to be polite and honest, that will show.
If your intention is to pressure him into another date, that will also show.
If you can say an honest, adult, no-pressure thank-you, I would think you showed a lot of class by calling. I would like that very much. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/13/2008 10:26:37 AM | My technique is to genuinely tell them that I truly enjoyed the date, at the end of the date. Then I wait to be contacted. I will not say anything at the end of the date, if I was not impressed. I leave the calling up to the male. I do this because, I do not want to be too pushy. If this is not your way, that is fine. I either suggest that you tell him at the end of the date, or call him a few days later to tell him that you had a good time. I would not call him more than once. I would also call when I know that he will not be able to come to the phone. So that I don't feel as if I were pressureing him into another date. Men like to be aggressors. You can scare a man off if you are too aggresssive. Unless of course things went really good for the both of you. You can never know how he feels about it, because you are not him. Do not assume, that he felt the same. The goal is to be polite, and do not be a stalker.  | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/13/2008 2:14:00 PM | good posts!!!
I too say, go with your gut. If you feel like expressing the fact that you had a good night and would like to suggest a second meeting. why not??? Why are some things only the man's responsibility?
Besides, I was raised with good manners and I think if someone was nice enough to ask you out, entertain and dine you, the least you can do is let them know that you enjoyed it all and thank them.
like Typewriterman wrote on here:
" if we are confident in ourselves about our own self-worth, then it won't matter if we are misunderstood as being desperate"
^^^ agreed. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/13/2008 2:22:38 PM |
I just had a date on Friday evening with a guy and it went well on both ends. He made the first move and kissed me first and the date extended beyond the intended drink to a dinner and a movie on the couch. ... We both stated to each other that we were free Tuesday night and he leaves for a business trip tomorrow. Now it's Tuesday and he hasn't called, texted, or emailed back. What's the deal?
I take it this was his couch, not yours. If so, he probably freaked out a bit over having brought you home too soon. Guys are taught that we have to push, and sometimes we can get ahead of ourselves in the process.
Or, he could be testing you at a subconscious level. If you like him, I'd let him know that everybody gets one and he's just had his. If you say it in a nice way that indicates you mean business--if you handle it like an adult--it will reassure him and encourag him to start dealing with you like an adult.
Good luck! And BTW, if he pulls it again, drop him instantly. Nobody needs to be jerked around by a flake. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 6/13/2008 2:22:54 PM |
After a first date, should a girl contact a guy to say thank you, and that she had a good time, or should she leave it all up to the guy to continuously make contacts?
If a girl contacted me and did that I would have a high respect for her that she had the manners to thank me. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 8/20/2008 8:52:08 PM |
We both stated to each other that we were free Tuesday night and he leaves for a business trip tomorrow. Now it's Tuesday and he hasn't called, texted, or emailed back. What's the deal?
I notice that something was missing in this. Where was the agreement to do something together (or even communicate) on Tuesday? My guess would be that both parties involved were operating on assumptions... she assumed that the conversation meant something, he assumed that the lack of any concrete plans meant she wasn't really interested. | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 8/20/2008 10:40:51 PM | | I always call when I've had a nice date as I think it's rude not to thank someone for such a nice time. But then, I was brought up to say thank you! There is nothing wrong with a short and sweet thank you, but I also don't really care what anyone thinks or believe in "Rules" - I have confidence in my own judgement! | |
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| After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you?
Posted: 8/20/2008 11:40:52 PM | Obviously, you are not aware of proper first date etiquette, so let me fill you in.
If you did not enjoy the date, you just say 'Thanks, I hope the next time you find someone you click with.'
If you enjoyed the date, you open your blouse and show your bare breasts (since there is no such thing as a first-date bra), offering him to take a photo as a souvenir. Then it depends on his reaction.
If he says his cell phone does not have a camera, he is politely declining you. No second date.
If he says 'Yikes!' and shudders, he is impolitely declining you. No second date.
If he pulls out his cell phone and takes a picture, he is unsure but willing to go on a second date with you.
If he apologizes because he does not have a wide-angle built-in, you either tipped your plastic surgeon well and got yourself a second date, or the second date is off and you need to join weight watchers.
If he suggests that he has a camera at home that takes far better pictures and does your breasts more justice, you follow him home and see what happens.
See, it's not that hard. You just have to follow etiquette. Now you know. | |
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