| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/3/2007 8:37:04 PM | | I thought that was what porn is for...........................I am so naive. | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/3/2007 9:10:35 PM | OP - IMHO - wrong thread, wrong forum. But you knew that. Comes off as self advertising or getting your rocks off....like the poster said...Dear Penthouse Forum.
Give MI's opinion some thought. I agree with him. Your profile mentions nothing of this or your g/f.
To each his own...if this is "your" thing, it's your thing. Definitely not for most. I think if we wanted an "insight" or were "curious" we're aware of where to find that information....definitely not that difficult to find in this day and age. | |
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| Thoughts on Skydiving
Posted: 1/3/2007 9:37:09 PM | If this we're titled "thoughts on skydiving" and depicted my events skydiving and what a truely wonderful experience it was would it meet with such controversy?
Just because I have the right to, should I slam all the kudos threads about pof partys because I don't believe in the bar scene. Are they all trying to push their "bar scene ways" on me and convert me. (the devils) 
Relationships are all about boundaries and where they are drawn.
Is it ok when the guys or girls get together and go to a strip bar?
Is it ok if I dance with your sister at her wedding?
Although my post NEVER mentioned sex you all presumed that that's why we we're there.
going to a karaoke bar, doesn't make you a singer.
going to a gay bar, doesn't make you gay.
1 little post talking about a great night out and 20 posts telling me I'm wrong and to stop forcing this on them and I should do it your way. wow some moxy
PS your all divorced how's your way working out? | |
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| Thoughts on Skydiving
Posted: 1/3/2007 9:47:30 PM | Hey - OP ^^^
I say: whatever floats your boat bay-beee!!
peace
(psssst.... what's the name of that club?????) | |
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| Thoughts on Skydiving
Posted: 1/3/2007 10:04:58 PM | "although my post NEVER mentioned sex....(yadda yadda)"
lmao. your post wasn't about skydiving. nor was it about karaoke. it was about dancing on poles, women kissing and making out with each other, you feeling boobs. you and g/f looking for a single gal for a threesome. thongs and black gloves. going home and getting lucky and how your g/f is still smiling. then you asked for our opinions. so what's the problem?
but ya, i guess you're right. it never mentioned or was about SEX. give me a friggin break. you're showing a remarkable level of maturity to question the responses you certainly expected to receive.
where do i vote to get rid of this dribble? | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/3/2007 10:25:58 PM | | I think swinging is bad and wrong and gross and icky. Unless it's the playground type of swinging as previously mentioned then it's fun :D | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/3/2007 10:52:07 PM | Lemme get my brain twisted around this evening in question.
a) you both decided you would like to go to a swingers club to meet other swingers?
I hope i'm right here.
b) Prior to a) your partner and you decided that you would like to possibly engage in sex together with other ppl. You have decided that your trust levels are high, you both have the same Ideals on boundries as a couple.
You or your partner want to have some same sex action...possible mfm or fmf and have agreed to enter a "swinging" environment.
c) you both accomplished your goals for the evening which was to find out what other "swingers" were like and if you liked the atmosphere. You both found a comfort zone.
d) your final goal for each other was to be turned on by watching "other" ppl find your partner attractive enough to want to get involved with them or you both.
e) final goal of the night..........you went home with only each other after an enjoyable night and had fantastic sex with each other............and she is still smiling 3 days later.
Does this sound like a bad idea??? Well, no! Since you both had the mindset and your own guidelines set out and you both decided to outside of your normal realm and you had a great time and accomplished your goals........nope doesn't sound like a bad idea.............
However, if you are a more traditional couple and either have any jealousy issues a " poly type" lifestyle could cause some waves and therefore could possible end your experimentation in a not so great way.........meh that's life.....living how you Both want. Both have to be as equally willing and acceptable to accomplish a less traditional marriage. However Mae B has been in here so I would trust her opinion way more than mine.
As for sex / love. Love involves an emotional connection ........sex involes a desire that can strengthen the emotional connection. That being said ......If I'm understanding correctly the first time you have sex with a new person you are completely "in love" with them????
We have probably all had sex with someone at some point and were not in love with them at that moment, so it was just sex or f*cking. Intimacy & Love does involve emotional aspects & attachment feelings, acceptance of who we are.........
but I question why can we as humans not share that intimacy or Love with more than one if we so both choose to go beyond our boarders with that "one intimate person" in our lifes? Is a Polyamourous relationship not possible? Many ppl live a happy life within a polyamourous relationship & stay together more years than the average traditional marriage.
Definatley Ontario was the wrong thread for this forum.........ask a mod to move it to Sex n Dating. | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 2:55:36 AM | | swinging?personally i love tire swings!oh this is about the other type of swinging.well for me one woman is enough for me.i wouldn't do for all the tea in China.it is very bad idea. | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 3:00:31 AM |
If only I could turn you to the dark side...we have cookies
Mmmmmmmm  Just imagining Mae's "cookies"  | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 5:47:22 AM | Good answer HK!
I would guess that over 90% of us have had sex with someone we didn't love - possibly even before the divorce. I figure if it works for them - AS A COUPLE - then why not? If they BOTH agree to all of it, with definite boundaries established, as HK said, then where is the harm? It is not for me, no, but that doesn't mean I am going to criticize another's choice to do so..... and if it is a mistake, they will find out....it is their choice (or mistake) to make.
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 5:59:58 AM | It was obvious from the OP that the two of them had a great time and there have been no ill effects to the relationship since the party. I have 2 or 3 friends who are in relationships where they engage in swinging. They say it's liberating and fun and adds to their sex life. They have been to some of these clubs and enjoy the adult goings on. I've been to private swinger parties in the past, with past girlfriends, and though it was very titilating to watch and see all the goings on, it was not my thing.
So if you enjoyed it and it didn't take from your relationship with your significant other, and you are still curious then keep enjoying your lifestyle in spite of what some of those who have responded to this thread think. | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 6:47:29 AM |
swinging lowers sex to a sport which eliminates the passion and intimacy out of the exchange between two married people therefore there is not much left of the marriage.
Very well said NorthernMiss!!!! Hey each to their own..Not for me...I honestly think it is a shallow lifestyle.....I would think most couples prefer a deep more passionate, caring and intimate commitment ....ummmmm...And I really don't share well. | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 10:21:04 AM | | Fantasys, you asked in general, to everyone that read your post, if it was a bad idea. What for? To take your girlfriend to a swing bar on New Years Eve? Or to take a date to a swing bar? To quote you in a subsequent post "1 little post talking about a great night out and 20 posts telling my I'm wrong ... " Now you give attitude. P l e e e a s s e If you didn't want others opinions, you shouldn't have asked. As for my opinion, if you want to know if it was a good idea to take YOUR girlfriend?? If that's what you're both into, for both of you it was obviously a good idea. You don't need others to tell you that!! However if you're asking if we were interested in going on a date to a swing club, we're entitled to our response. For me, its not something I'm into. And if its essential or even important to a long term relationship with someone, count me out. | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 10:21:09 AM | | Again it is a choice of "to each their own"! Pearl was right when she said at some point, I would think the majority of us have had sex with someone that we did not love. I know a lot of you folk say that you could not be involved in a situation like that, and that is fine! Just for a sec? Take a look at the people who attend functions with the main thought of "getting some". They get it and move on, leaving the other party hurt.Why is that? Because the person wanting sex was not up front and honest! I think in this type of scenario, all the parties are up front about exactly what it is they want from the other. I DO believe that if a couple participates, it would take a very great amount of trust and communication to outline the boundaries. Would it be something for me? I doubt that very much. Right or wrong, tis not for the general populous to decide. I think it is a personal issue... | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 10:57:33 AM |
swinging lowers sex to a sport
LOWERS!?!?!?!
Holy crapola! If I had known it was a sport (which counts as exercise) I could cut my treadmill time at the Y in HALF!!!! | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 11:48:14 AM | I don't have an opinion on swinging anymore, I used to, but I lost it... | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 12:00:13 PM | | heheheehe lots of views , and even more viewers ! lol Personally , Im not socially maladjusted enough to be comfortable with the concept . | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 12:17:55 PM | Wow for being in the wrong thread it got alot of attention
stay tuned for my new thread "thoughts on S & M clubs"
any suggestions on where I should put it?
(be nice) | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 1:32:35 PM |
swinging lowers sex to a sport
If sex is a sport and the people who play sports are athletes, then everybody who has sex is an athlete and we can all change our body type descriptions to "Athletic" | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 1:43:44 PM | Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Fantasy's that one is soooo easy I will let everyone else answer the question for you hahahahahahahahahahaha.
Where should I put this thread ... oh dear gawd I wanna but I won't. For the sake of common decency I won't.
lmao T-Gurl? Sumo Wrestlers are athletically shaped????
Oh you folks kill me sometimes. Y'all holier than though posters of POF. The guy made a sincere, albeit more like gloating, post and some of us had to just rip the guy for his morals. Not everyone has the same morals as the Christian or Catholic Churches tell us we should have.
Fantasy, you go on keeping on. If it's cool with you and your S/O then good on ya and keep having fun!!! | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 2:08:20 PM | | Guess that means the usual term to inform someone that you're not into that sort of "extra-sexual activity" remains the same...."Sorry, but I don't SWING that way." | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 2:52:58 PM | ^^^^ too cute Jet!
if sex were a sport...... I would be sure to look like Catwoman everyday! ROAR! Than again I wake up , look like Linda Evangelista than I dunno I get ready and the second before I see my first person everyday I look like this............dammit!
Your topics are certainly meant for SnD threads.......I'm shocked this one is still here myself.
fa la la la S&M topics to arrive shortly in SnD threads.......stay tuned! | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 3:32:40 PM | wow .. now here's some entertainment on a thursday evening ... some of the responses on both sides of the fence ... holy ppl ... ever hear of to each their own? ... agree to disagree? ... ok now every one group hug *starts singing campfire songs* ...
ok ... my opinon on the orginal OP which i believe was asking simply was it a good idea ... obviously for you and your gf yes ... if you both enjoyed yourselves and both enjoy the life style then go for it ... however to make it out like the best thing since sliced bread does take it a bit far ... i mean i'm glad you guys had a good time and all and hope you continue to .. but just as it is the ticket for your relationship .. its not for everyone .. me .. i have no issue with it at all .... but you're also not going to see me starting a thread about an experience noting right at the start you were expecting flack about it and then when you get the flack get all poopy pants LMAO ... best advice dude ... let this thread die ...
GFTS  | |
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| Thoughts on Swinging
Posted: 1/4/2007 4:53:52 PM |
PS your all divorced how's your way working out?
WHO "all" is divorced???
not everyone here has been married - and i'm not some 20-year-old.
Oh you folks kill me sometimes. Y'all holier than though posters of POF. The guy made a sincere, albeit more like gloating, post and some of us had to just rip the guy for his morals.
give it up, dante.
he ASKED if it was a good idea!
if he wasn't interested in the answers, he shouldn't have asked.
telling him you don't think it's a good idea isn't "ripping" someone for his "morals". | |
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