| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/10/2007 9:36:58 PM |
If we knew why it was so hard, we'd probably have solved the problem by now
But would we be happy with the solution? Besides, if we only have a sole soul mate, does that mean we're threaded when we lose that sole soul mate? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/10/2007 9:53:15 PM | I feel as if some of you wonderful POFer's are mocking me.
I want to know why it is so hard to find the person who loves me above anything else (besides his children), who would walk across hot coals for me, who would cut off his own arm to save my life if necessary, who would do anything at all for me, who would want to die if I died. Thats what I want I'm looking for.
Oh crap... who am I kidding this guy only lives in fairy tales. I've been reading to many sappy love stories. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:35:05 PM | | Its not that hard.. watch this video/documentary called "the secret" .. It has some great insights on how to find one.. All that two normal people have to do is to be in committed relationship and spend lot of time doing things of common interest together.. time is the essence!! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:40:55 PM |
All that two normal people have to do
Yeah, but what about all of us that aren't normal? Does it have anything for us or are we forever left out in the cold?
time is the essence
Is that what Emeril is putting on all that food? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 9:44:29 PM |
I want to know why it is so hard to find the person who loves me above anything else (besides his children), who would walk across hot coals for me, who would cut off his own arm to save my life if necessary, who would do anything at all for me, who would want to die if I died. Thats what I want I'm looking for
I think one of the reasons it can be hard is that some people who have been around and lived a little, at some point in their life did walk across hot coals for someone and all they ended up getting was burned.
And for some of those folks, I think that possibility of getting burned again is what keeps them off the coals | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:30:26 PM |
And for some of those folks, I think that possibility of getting burned again is what keeps them off the coals
I would think that at some point a person would be willing to take that chance again... I know I'm ready... it's just finding someone who is willing to take that chance with me | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:37:47 PM | | I agree. At some point a person should take that chance again and most folks do. You can never gain if you don't risk. But I think that different people require different amounts of time and when the time is right, they know. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:50:26 PM | It's because deep inside you really want to be single
with a partner who will be there until you make up your mind.
R U ready
Make up your mind.
Be the person you want to attrack,
Call me or a Professional for consultation later,
Pay us well it will be worth the money.
But only if your serious.
And don't forget to smile | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/12/2007 11:06:22 PM | | I agree with you Top Secret Paddy O Guy... It's funny I think I'm finally at the point in my life when it's time to take that risk, I just have to find the man to take that risk with. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:34:08 AM | Replying to:
Posted By: Guardian_Of_Gaea on 1/4/2007 5 29 PM
Subject: Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
If soulmates don't exist, then why all the talk about them?
Why do we identify with the concept so much when we watch romantic movies?
My response:
There is no such thing as a soulmate. The idea of a soulmate arises from the belief that you are not a complete person until you find your missing other half. This is pure BS. And an incomplete person will not be a good partner anyway. You have to be complete and whole and fulfilled in yourself before you can offer yourself to another person who is also complete and whole and fulfilled. Then your relationship will be based on desire and free choice, not on need and desperation and inadequacy.
Here's what Matthew Arnold says in his poem "Self-Dependence":
Resolve to be thyself, and know
That he who finds himself,
Loses his misery. | |
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Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 63 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:56:04 PM | "I want to know why it is so hard to find the person who loves me above anything else (besides his children), who would walk across hot coals for me, who would cut off his own arm to save my life if necessary, who would do anything at all for me, who would want to die if I died. Thats what I want"
-grneyedqt4u
grneyedqt4u, I think that the things that we want have to be the same things that we put out. You should want to walk across hot coals for him, cut off your own arm to save his life if necessary, be willing to do anything at all for him and also want to die if he died.
Most people who call themselves looking for a soulmate rarely include themselves on the giving end. I'm not saying that this is you. I'm just saying that for people, in general, who want fantastic love and a fantastic relationship, you have to give out what you're asking for in order to achieve that goal. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/13/2007 3:33:55 PM | | Kee if I truly loved him I would be willing to do those things, and if he truly loved me he would be willing to do those things for me. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/13/2007 6:25:47 PM | There is no such thing as a soulmate. The idea of a soulmate arises from the belief that you are not a complete person until you find your missing other half. This is pure BS. And an incomplete person will not be a good partner anyway. You have to be complete and whole and fulfilled in yourself before you can offer yourself to another person who is also complete and whole and fulfilled. Then your relationship will be based on desire and free choice, not on need and desperation and inadequacy
You've dipped into the saucerful of secrets, and found one of the truths of life and love.
I've always contended that the only living soul that can provide happiness for me is....me
Others may enter my life and enhance my happinerss but they can in no way provide it. I have sole responsibility and "own-ness" for that.
If I cannot be happy with myself, there is no possible way I can be happy with anyone else regardless of how spectacular they may. And in no way can I enhance anyone elses happiness.
When it comes to relationships, One-Half and One Half does not equal One
One + One truly equals One | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/13/2007 8:22:17 PM | I am a complete person with or without a man in my life... I've known and believed this for a long time. I want a "soulmate" not to complete me, to walk with me through my life.
I want him to be a part of my soul, just like I would hope to be his. To know me inside, outside, upside down and backwards, almost to know me more than I know myself.
I'm not looking for someone that I can give 50 percent to... I'm looking for someone I can give a 150 percent to, and that will want to give to me 150 percent.
And for those of you who are cynical and don't think there are men or women out there like that... I totally disagree with you. I have friends who have been married 20 and 30 years and are still so in love with their spouse you can see it in their eyes.
That's what I want.
So mock me if you will, I don't really care. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:14:41 PM | I don't think anyone is mocking anyone.
The concept, ideas and ideals of love are as varied as the people who hold those concepts, ideas and ideals.
When I speak of mine, they are coming from me and not meant to mock, but merely to express myself and what I believe to be real and true.
Because at the end of the day what I believe to be real and true is all I really have that belongs to me and nobody else | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/14/2007 11:27:47 AM | Replying to:
Posted By: paddy o furniture on 1/13/2007 9 41 PM
Subject: Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?.
The concept, ideas and ideals of love are as varied as the people who hold those concepts, ideas and ideals.
Response:
Seems to me the person who really knows what love is doesn't think of it something you get. The true lover thinks of love as something you give. When you are a giver of love you will live a fulfilled and happy life whether or not you ever encounter another giver and you will stop worrying about it. And if you do meet another giver, not just a taker, of love, then together you can take off and fly into orbit around the stars. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/14/2007 3:07:35 PM | | "When you are a giver of love you will live a fulfilled and happy life whether or not you ever encounter another giver and you will stop worrying about it. And if you do meet another giver, not just a taker, of love, then together you can take off and fly into orbit around the stars" that is quite a poetic statement. My belief however, finding a soulmate is difficult because no one of us know the exact meaning of soulmate. "soulmate" is a complex word that has endless meanings and definitions. In my opinion finding a soulmate is finding yourself in your beloved's heartbeat and knowing it's beating for you. finding your soulmate is curling up inside your beloved's thoughts and fulfilling each wonderful feeling. finding your soulmate is melting your exisitence in your beloved's being and knowing she/he will take care of it. to find a soulmate is to already have established trust and most importantly the endless magic of loving without restraints. | |
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j be
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 71 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/14/2007 3:48:37 PM | | I don't think I have just one soulmate out there.... I believe that a day will come when I'm with a woman and I realize that I'd give my last breath if it would mean she could live to take one more breath of her own.. when I don't have a ounce of hesitation to do anything and everything she asks of me... when I put her first always..when can let her win a fight just to get to the making up part...when I realize that this is the only woman ill ever make love to again and I'm extatic about it everyday I wake up and everynight I lay down and hold her... when that day comes, I found my "soulmate".........the question is is she on pof? maybe...maybe not.... | |
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j be
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 73 | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/17/2007 11:59:45 PM | Well, one major reason its so hard is because it doesn't seem to be a drop-down option while searching here...
Maybe "Soul Encounter" ? | |
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