| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:42:42 AM |
Is there a consensus on what criteria defines or classifies a soul mate?
Davlin4... there have been some comments on this thread that have summed it all up.
Here's the answer...
I believe that a day will come when I'm with a woman and I realize that I'd give my last breath if it would mean she could live to take one more breath of her own.. when I don't have a ounce of hesitation to do anything and everything she asks of me... when I put her first always..when can let her win a fight just to get to the making up part...when I realize that this is the only woman ill ever make love to again and I'm extatic about it everyday I wake up and everynight I lay down and hold her... when that day comes, I found my "soulmate"
In my opinion finding a soulmate is finding yourself in your beloved's heartbeat and knowing it's beating for you. finding your soulmate is curling up inside your beloved's thoughts and fulfilling each wonderful feeling. finding your soulmate is melting your exisitence in your beloved's being and knowing she/he will take care of it.
to find the person who loves me above anything else (besides his children), who would walk across hot coals for me, who would cut off his own arm to save my life if necessary, who would do anything at all for me, who would want to die if I died.
I'm looking for someone I can give a 150 percent to, and that will want to give to me 150 percent.
These responses right here are what I believe would be our "soulmate". | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 1:42:08 PM | | ......Sometimes it is hard to take that risk again... BUT WORTH IT....I met someone here on PoF back in November last year....spent EVERY WEEKEND with him and his kids playing house through New Years Day....turned out he started seeing someone "new" behind my back sometime in December. But he kept the game going to get through the Holidays. So I was used "BIG TIME" and hurt. But if I hadn't gotten back up on the proverbial horse again right away I wouldn't have found Blake. And every one knows...it comes when you least expect it. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 2:09:22 PM | True soulmates do exist but also come each with a destiny. If our soulmate does not re appear to find us and we do not grab on to him or her, then a destiny is always our best choice who wants to live alone. I know this is true. I have been found by my wonderful soumate we are identical from the inside we think exactly alike. We laugh and cry and love and hate alike we look alike we want the same things and we fear the same things we are identical souls. However he is married to his destiny. I live mine alone. I am sure our souls will meet again and we will never let each other behind or let go of each other as we did in this lifetime. we were so identical we ran from each other like looking into a strange mirror! We each were beasts and beautys!! It is absolutly wonderful meeting your soumate.
Who do you live with ? your destiny or your soulmate? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 2:32:03 PM | OP:: i dont think theres one definitive answer for this question. Some say online dating doesnt work, yet they are on here anyway. And we all know that before the internet... this was already a valid question. I myself have notices( and i cant say ive never been guilty of this) Alot of people have ridiculous so called "standards", and expectations. Many of us have met someone wed be lucky as hell to have, but didnt want them because of some extremely retarded reason, usually something superficial. And then when someone tries to warn us or let us know we are making a mistake, we bash them for "BASHING" our so called preferences.
Also, alot of people tend to jump into a serious relationship too fast. Even though we all know this is relationship-suicide, we tend to do it anyway. Also,****ness, in both sexes, is a key factor. How many people have had someone that really wanted them, but we strung them along as "FRIENDS". We all know this word is usually BS. Then when we find someone "hotter" "richer" "the right amount of tattoos, or something ridiculous, suddenly the people that treated us right, we wont talk to them, return their calls, or anything. And then when they want to know why, or confront us about it, we try to make them look bad by calling them "possessive", a "stalker" or something stupid like that?
In my opinion, these are just a few reasons, we think its HARD to find someone. i think if we all came off our high horse, and gave decent people a chance, it may just be easier. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 3:46:51 PM |
we think its HARD to find someone. i think if we all came off our high horse, and gave decent people a chance, it may just be easier.
You're absolutely right about this... most people don't realize it until it's too late though. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 4:03:29 PM | most people don't realize it until it's too late though.
OMG! I'm too late! Now what'll I do? Is there a cure for too late or am I doomed to be too late for the rest of my life? And did Dante have a ring for people that are too late? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 4:51:22 PM | I am convinced that my soul mate is 1500 miles or more away from me. Its so hard to find her or have a date!! LOL
In the meantime, I'll make the one I am with, feel special... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 5:58:17 PM | | Eeek there is no cure for being too late... you are doomed my friend! Maybe dante will create a ring just for those of you who are too late. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:45:33 PM |
Eeek there is no cure for being too late... you are doomed my friend!
Fortunately I've known of my doom for a couple of decades now and I've become used to it.
Maybe dante will create a ring just for those of you who are too late
I think that ring will be coming from Sauron. My personality is quite fitting for a Nazgul. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 12:24:38 AM | Maybe the expectations of the opposite sex is something we as humans need to redefine...
Maybe its not who we are looking for as much as the "PERFECT" person and in all actuality does the "PERFECT" one exist?
Maybe only in our mind....or maybe we try to find someone and change them....
I believe out there in the world there is a special someone for everyone but sometimes we over look them because they are not what we preceive to be "PERFECT"
And maybe if we stopped looking so hard for our soul mate they will appear right before our eyes...
Just a thought...
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 10:21:47 AM | | I'm not perfect, you're not perfect the question is are we perfect for each other. When you find the answer to this, you will find you soul mate. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 11:51:06 AM |
How many people have had someone that really wanted them, but we strung them along as "FRIENDS". We all know this word is usually BS. Then when we find someone "hotter" "richer" "the right amount of tattoos, or something ridiculous, suddenly the people that treated us right, we wont talk to them, return their calls, or anything. And then when they want to know why, or confront us about it, we try to make them look bad by calling them "possessive", a "stalker" or something stupid like that?
Engine51... hopefully when we do this, we learn from our mistakes and if the opportunity comes along again... we do the right thing... unfortunately most of the time people don't learn from their mistakes... and occasionally it was wrong time for both people at that moment and a better time will come along in the future.
Make sense? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 12:02:31 PM | | It's very simple. Most people have unrealistic expectations, they want the absolute best in every department, and, at every level. Althgouh some couples seem to have been born for each other they are the exception, and the idea of a soul mate is a mith. Unfortunately some of us still believe in Santa Klaus when it comes to relationships; what we fail to understand is that making a daily emotional and intelligent choice along with some compromises is what works best. So give people more than one chance, get to know them, you may discover some mutual interesting things. Remember, YOU CAN make them the one for you. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 2:26:30 PM | | I think that most of us have high expectations that are not inline with reality. The woman that I actually want does not exist, and I do not want to look in the mirror and tell myself to lower my standards. I also think that we are not willing to put a lot of effort into developing a relationship, with the divorce rate so high, there are way too many failed marriges. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 3:03:50 PM | because people are too selfish and have very high expectations of the other person.
they want to receive what they are not willing to give.
they want the other person to accomodate their life to their schedule
and are not willing to compromise | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/19/2007 6:21:18 PM | I know what I want... I want someone to love me for who I am... it's actually pretty simple.
He has to be willing to make as many sacrafices with his schedule as I am willing to with mine.
There has to be compromise on both sides. I 'd like to think positively and say he's out there looking for me... but my cynical side says he doesn't exist.
Once fairy tale man is in love with me, he'll be willing to walk across hot coals, gnaw off his own arm if necessary... take his last breath so I can have one more... yada yada yada.
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| Why is it so hard to lose our soul mate?
Posted: 1/25/2007 9:41:04 PM | | So what happens when you find your "soul mate" and you think everything is all that you ever wanted. Then your "soul mate" decided that you aren't the one and drops you for someone else? | |
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| Why is it so hard to lose our soul mate?
Posted: 1/25/2007 9:59:25 PM | I honestly believe there is no such thing as a "soul mate". Relationships are nothing more than sharing, supporting and compromise. We all have had relationships that we believed have found the one. In that one, didn't we all comprimise when we had to? What about supporting one another? Eventually, this caring sharing supporting turns into a different sort of love, a trust. Someone you know will always be there when you need them.
It is with this in mind, that when the trust is violated, and the relationship goes sour, we then perceive that this was not our soulmate anyway.
In all, a relationship is something that needs constant work. The physical goes away. Then what? | |
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| Why is it so hard to lose our soul mate?
Posted: 1/25/2007 10:00:09 PM |
then sit back and watch her piss and moan when it comes back to her
Gee, that's a nice theory. Too bad reality didn't concur with it. The real problem was wasting so much of my life on my "soul mate" that nothing much seems to be left. | |
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| Why is it so hard to lose our soul mate?
Posted: 1/25/2007 10:03:11 PM | <"quote"> So what happens when you find your "soul mate" and you think everything is all that you ever wanted. Then your "soul mate" decided that you aren't the one and drops you for someone else?<\"quote">
It is this very attitude, Eeek, that keeps many people from being able to find love.
They are already contemplating the demise of something they have not yet found. | |
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