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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/27/2007 6:07:08 PM | but when looking for a true soul mate you really need to do it doggy style
I might agree to that up tp a certain point.
But when it comes to the sniffing of each others butts part....I'm gone. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:20:38 PM | Finding a soul mate is not something that you are going to manufacture up. Chemistry can not be made. I think that it is an instant click between to like minded people. We are all looking for that perfect person but until they come your way enjoy the journey and smell the roses along the path. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:12:29 AM | I THINK DATING IS ABOUT POSING YOU KNOW THAT POSING THE KIND OF STUFF WE SEE ON TV. IT IS THE A DIFERETN WORLD. I GO TO CLUBS RESTAURANTS SINGLES EVENTS STARBUCKS AND OTHE RPLACES BUT THE GUYS WHO GET TO MET A GREAT GAL ARE POSERS.
YES I KNOW THEY SAY JUST WHAT YOU WAN TOT HEAR. THEY TELL YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO KNOW BUT THE TRUTH IS THEY HAVE NO FUTURE AND OFFE RNO FUTURE
I STAND FOR THE NICE GUYS THE GUYS WHO ARE POLITE WELL READ AND WE ARE ALL A LITTLE DIFFERENT WE RUN COS WORK FOR BOSSES WHO MAKE SLAVES OUT OF US AND OTHER THINGS
I STAND FOR THESE GUYS GIVE US A CHANCE MAYBE GOD SENT US TO YOU IN A DIFFERENT PACKAGE AND WITH DIFFERENT IDEAS. THE IDEA OF A FIT LOVING GUY WITH 6 PACK ABS AND CHISLED BODIES
I INVITE YOU TO COME LOOK AT OUR SOUL
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 130 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:23:52 AM |
^^^ Yeah, that's too bad... but when looking for a true soul mate you really need to do it doggy style.
I was wondering why I sometimes felt the urge to go up to women I barely know and try to hump their legs. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:24:20 AM | I'm all for nice guys... though I don't see why you either need to be nice or fit. Is it not nice to want to be fit? Not sure about the posing thing at all. If you're referring to some men that tend to be more aggressively assertive, well, that's life. The ones that put forth effort do seem to get what they want. And if you don't, I would ask why.
Give us a chance... sounds weak and unappealing. I would try for a different stance IMO.
and definately get rid of the all caps. It is not polite and not easy to read. Both of which you seem to stand for. | |
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CTR916
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Joined: 11/27/2006
Msg: 132 | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:51:32 AM | Because online dating doesnt work...you need to get out and meet real people. Take a dance class, church singles group, adult school classes, bowling league...real life, real people, real friends.
I agree with Sugarbandit on this. 
Online dating is one AVENUE to meet people. | |
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Elija
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Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 134 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:59:58 AM | | I can tell you exactly why... Most of the responses thus far have no clue, but its simple, and true. The reason MOST people do not find their soul mates is because most people place guidlines, or pre-concieved ideas in thier minds as to what they want. They walk on by, ignore, and refuse to get to know someone who does not fit within their criteria of whats acceptable in who they want. If you have decided that you won't date or be with someone who is over weight, yet the one person in this world who would click with your heart on every level happened to be over weight, you would never meet or get to know them because your confinced you cant be with someone over weight... so you miss out on your true soul mate, the one who would truely make you happiest. This applies to every scenario... We decide we wont date/meet because of skin color, so if your white, and you wont date someone who is black, yet that one person whos heart fits yours perfectly happens to have black skin... again, you walk on by and never see or find that soul mate... We wont date someone who is tall, short, too thin, too fat, too young, too old, wrong skin color, wrong religeon, wrong hair color, style, wrong kind of job etc... all of this criteria we choose for ourselves limits are meeting certain people... all of this is outward, and has nothing to do with heart and soul. Let go of and erase all of your outward requirements, open your heart, and you can find your soul mate... but remember also they have to be open with their own hearts as well... Trust me, its better to be with someone whom you thought outwardly perhaps they are older than you thought you wanted to be with, yet they make your heart shine with happiness, they make your life complete and together you two are as one, sharing life as its nment to be shared... Your soul mate is out their, open your heart, your eyes, and look... you probably have already met them, seen them, just passed them by because of whatever limits you placed on what you really wanted... forget the outward, look for a heart connection... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 9:22:46 AM | ^^^what you are talking about is having preferences?
Being overweight is a lifestyle. Smoking is a lifestyle. Drinking is a lifestyle. Religion is a lifestyle.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a lifestyle that is compatible with yours.
Age and height and color are not a choice made my an individual. But it does not bother me if I am too old, too young or too white for anyone. By all means... have your preference.
I don't get this bothering anyone.
I wonder how many overweight women who are 60plus you have contacted? vs. maybe fit and under 45?
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 9:37:55 AM | | I think that finding a soul mate has more to do with preparing ourselves for finding someone. When our soul is ready, we will be ready for that special mate. | |
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Elija
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Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 137 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 10:05:47 AM | Lifestyles are choices, lessons we learn. It's ok as you said to have a lifestyle, but if we choose a lifestyle, we must then be willing to recieve the good and bad that each lifestyle brings with it. But my point is that 2 people can have differing lifestyles, and yet still be soul mates. As long as they allow each other the freedom to pursue their own choices, and they support and encourage each other in those choices. We change our lifestyles with what we learn and experience, adapting as most living things do to the things around us... The wanting of a lifestyle in someone is your choice, but it will limit your selection, and your soul mate could be in one of the groups you have chosen not to accept. I have dated/talked to, met, been with many over weight, older than me women.... So ha ha... LOL
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Elija
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Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 138 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 10:45:36 AM | pete73052, I think ur also right. That makes a lot of sense as well.
Shoot, but that means I have to keep workin on myself... man... and I thought it was the ladies who needed to work on themselves and I was all done and perfect... LOL
Just playin ladies.... we all need to work on ourselves... just some more than others, and in my case, looks like a never ending story... but we try, we learn and do our best, so could ask for anything more than our best? Not even the Lord wants more from us than simply our best... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 10:46:57 AM | i pretty much agree with everything you've said Janet. I don't know why so many people are saying that I have to choose between a nice guy that I'm not attracted to and a guy I'm physically attracted to who is a jerk. This shouldn't be the case. Why does everyone assume that we all have to settle? I've met guys who were nice and attractive to me... it didn't work out in the long term but nothing happened with them that would make me bitter about fit guys. Is it so wrong that I want someone who takes care of himself physically like I do? It doesn't mean I'm shallow... it means I want someone to swim with and to go to the gym with... and who won't complain those times when I try to cook healthy.
Also, all this talk about posers confuses me. I don't want a guy who tells me everything I want to hear in that he lies... but when you first meet a person you shouldn't be BRUTALLY honest and therefore rude or abrasive. First meeting people is complicated and delicate... but I can tell when a guy is trying to bullshit me and I don't fall for it. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:01:21 AM |
The wanting of a lifestyle in someone is your choice, but it will limit your selection
I'm really ok with that... I do not feel that I (or anyone) must be EOE when it comes to our personal relationships. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:06:06 AM | | I think that the reason it's so hard to find our "Soul Mate" is for a couple reasons. 1: Online, people tend to become someone or something they are not, living an alternative life so to speak. My thought is be real, be honest and be open to more then just a hot picture! 2. Real life, I think people today almost always have an 'agenda' that only includes what they can get out of a relationship or friendship (unfortunately). I recently talked to a good friend of mine who is 27 and his wife to be is 24. He admitted they both had an 'agenda' going into their relationship, but I then reminded him that while that was true, that their agenda's did not just include what they could personally get out of their relationship, it also included what they would give into it and to the other. I find that part is the most lacking these days. The prevailing attitude I have found (and it's not just in relationships only) is "What's in it for ME" and not "what's in it for US". If we simply remember that a relationship takes 2 people to make it work and make it worthwhile, and if we remember that if we both put the other first, we'll get even more in return for ourselves, one might just find their "Soul Mate". Now with all that said, LOL.... I am still looking for mine, so what do I know! LOLOL~~~ | |
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Elija
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Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 144 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:11:40 AM | | Its just that physical attraction is nice, but it is not enough to last a lifetime by itself. Wanting that is not shallow... Wanting the soul mate to share your likes, lifestyle is also not a bad thing to want, and when you meat that soul mate... they are the most attractive, cutest, handsomest, prettiest ect thing to YOU in every way... even if to others they are ugly etc... to YOU they are not... thus the saying, love is blind... thank goodness for that. We all change outwardly... My point is that we can't block out anyone based on physical wants, otherwise we limit our choices, and many that might be outside our preferances, initially, we could find that once inside and knowing their hearts, the true person, that they actually are what we wanted all along... Personally, I want someone very attractive, young enough to be open, to explore, to have energy, to want to still have fun in this life of ours... someone sexy, free, open, honest, and I dont care what she does for a living, or what color her skin is, or what hair color, or what her age physically is... I want her to enjoy the things I enjoy, but then I am open to the fact that perhaps the things she enjoys I could also find fun if I tried them... who knows till you try it... Boy I talk a lot... sorry all... LOL Its just I feel passionate about removing the walls that keep us apart that are basically physical, and we all change in that area like it or not... wish I still looked like I did at 18... but oh well... thats life... LOL | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:16:58 AM | whoa... of course desires will limit your selection. Isn't that how it's supposed to be? Aren't you supposed to figure out what you what in a woman... and I figure out what I want in a man... and when those things mesh that's when you really know it works.
I'd never get along with someone who didn't have at least a similar lifestyle to me and i don't see how anyone else would. What happens when I want to go out and he's glued to the couch 24/7... or the opposite... what happens when I've exhausted myself at school and he wants to go barhopping every night? That's what dating is about in my opinion... finding people who have similar mindsets to you... and that leads to similar lifestyle choices. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:26:58 AM | She's right... there has to be a balance between head and heart. While someone might make your heart go aflutter, if they have nothing in common with you, regarding lifestyle... chances are it will not work out. I personally do not want a kitchen full of junk food, or watch someone drink themselves into a stupor, or need to purchase viagra because he does not work out... call me shallow.
I also prefer tall men over short. I know myself from experience how I feel the most comfortable, and doing anything less is not fair to anyone really. Understanding our own limitations is key to accepting others.
And those that differ in lifestyles but are still interesting to me are "friends". | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:39:31 AM | personally do not want a kitchen full of junk food, or watch someone drink themselves into a stupor, or need to purchase viagra because he does not work out... call me shallow
They have to take Viagra. It reverses the effects of the steroids.
If you don't believe me, just ask Arnold & Maria | |
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Elija
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Joined: 12/24/2006
Msg: 149 | |
| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:39:35 AM | | Yes, we are supposed to figure those things out and hopefully find the one who matches those things... as long as those things are what we really want from our hearts... does he sit glued to the couch 24/7 because he is lazy in his heart, or because he is bored, and has no one or nothing better to do? Perhaps in his heart he would love to be with someone who would give him other options... really, going out is fun, if you have someone to share it with... Not so much fun if done alone. If your tired from school, and he wants to go barhopping, something again seems wrong in his heart and the relationship... personally, if my mate came in tired, and I was not, then I would find joy in getting her comfortable, helping her to relax, making her day better, rubbing her shoulders, whatever to help her... so if he wants the bar scene instead, he sounds like someone who is selfish and self motivated, a condition of his heart, not his lifestyle... see what I mean?... Things are not always what they seem from the outside... Dating is about finding those with simular mindsets... your right again on that, but my comments mean to be open, and willing to explore other mindsets... perhaps there are lifestyles we would love if we tried them... its not always about what we want initially, as life can help us find and change... life is about change... This is my point... be open to anything, and change will come... choose those things you try that feel good to you... drop the things that dont really make you feel great... and we develope and grow and this process never ends on this earth... I know I can learn new things from anyone, from you... from EVERYONE here... as can we all... I hope you all see what I mean... Im not right and your wrong... and visa versa, we all have things to share and to learn... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find our soul mate?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:48:55 AM | It can happen here or out in the real world...
Any of those that complain that one needs to get offline and seek elsewhere, should take their own advice :)
fret not, it'll happen eventually...I found mine...but he passed away unexpectedly...
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